What About Me?: Get Out of Your Own Way and Discover the Power of an Unselfish Life

by Joyce Meyer

Experience the true satisfaction and power of living unselfishly with #1 New York Times bestselling author and renowned Bible teacher Joyce Meyer.

As we go about our daily lives, there is a little voice in our minds that’s always asking, “What about me?” Maybe your voice says, “When is it my turn to be noticed at work?” or “When will someone in this family do something for me?” That voice may be whispering to you about your finances, your job, or your friends, but it is always encouraging you to think about something you don’t have. And sadly, social media and culture in general lead us to focus on this world’s concept of happiness and success—but does it work?

Could you be sabotaging your own joy, your purpose, your success? What could you do to get out of your own way? And most importantly, what is God’s definition of success? The Bible tells us over and over that the true source of meaning and happiness is a life focused on God and on serving others. Instead of asking when it will be our turn to get a raise, be recognized, or finally make it big, it’s time to discover the source of true and lasting of happiness and satisfaction.

By walking in this path, we will have more joy and a closer relationship with God than we could ever imagine!

A study guide, as well as a Spanish edition,¿Y qué hay de mí?, are also available for purchase.

Genres: Christian, Nonfiction, Christian Living, Self Help, Faith, Book Club, Spirituality

288 pages, Hardcover

Published September 10, 2024

About the author

Joyce Meyer is a New York Times bestselling author and one of the world's leading Bible teachers. Through Joyce Meyer Ministries, she teaches practically and candidly, openly sharing her experiences and helping millions of people to apply biblical principles to their situations and ultimately find hope and restoration through Jesus Christ. Her book Battlefield of the Mind has been a perennial bestseller, teaching people how to win the war in their minds and “think about what they think about.”

Joyce’s Enjoying Everyday Life program is broadcast to millions worldwide in 114 languages. She has also authored over 150 books, which have been translated into over 170 combined languages, including Battlefield of the Mind, which has sold over 7 million copies across the globe. We’ve also distributed over 43.5 million books around the world.

A survivor of childhood sexual abuse, Joyce discovered how to overcome the emotional pain of her troubled past and experience true joy, hope, and healing by applying God’s Word to her life. Her passion is to help others do the same. For more than 40 years, Joyce has held conferences across the United States and around the world, teaching God’s Word and sharing the message of Christ with millions. Joyce also encourages millions each day through social media and online efforts and resources at joycemeyer.org

Joyce’s passion to help people who are hurting is the foundation of Hand of Hope, the missions arm of Joyce Meyer Ministries. Each year, Hand of Hope provides millions of meals for the hungry and malnourished, installs freshwater wells in poor and remote areas, provides critical relief after natural disasters, and offers free medical and dental care to thousands through their hospitals and clinics worldwide. Through their Project GRL initiative, they rescue women and children from human trafficking, provide safe places where they can receive an education and nutritious meals, and seek to let all girls everywhere know they are loved and valued by God.

In 2023, Joyce founded Hope Mountain Ranch, an 800-acre refuge in Mount Pleasant, Utah. Inspired by her own personal journey, Hope Mountain Ranch is a place where people can experience the transformative power of God and find hope and healing. It also serves as the hub for Joyce Meyer Ministries’ outreaches across the United States.

Reviews

[Sunshine Rodgers · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have read several books written by Joyce Meyer, so I was anxious to read "What About Me? : Get Out of Your Own Way and Discover the Power of an Unselfish Life."

"Some people dream of success, but others wake up and work hard at it" (pg. 155).

This book is filled with Bible verses, inspirational quotes, excerpts/references to other Christian books and pages of personal stories and testimonies. The author challenges us to consider the lies that we believe... that feelings don't always tell us the truth, and there is an entire section devoted to hearing from God.

"We need to understand that there is a difference between what we want, what we think, what we feel, and God's will" (pg. xi).

Part One is: Learning to Love.
Part Two: Getting Out of Your Own Way
Part Three: Becoming an Obedient Follower of Jesus
Part Four: The Unexpected Path to Joy
Part Five: "It's Really Not About Me"

"We need to remember that our happiness is our responsibility, not anyone else's" (pg. 18).

Each Chapter begins with a Bible verse.

"Live to give, not to get, and you will be a happy person" (pg. 168).

In Chapter Two, Joyce shares the reasons people become self-focused. In Chapter Three, she lists Bible verses that can strengthen us in our war against the flesh. In Chapter Four, there are twelve ways of thinking that will be beneficial to us. In Chapter Seven, Joyce points out several differences between the Spirit and the flesh. In Chapter Thirteen, the author shares situations where we can prefer others above ourselves. In Chapter Twenty-One, the author lists three specific ways to express love to others.

"God will work with us and use us for His glory" (pg. 137).

5 Stars! I highly recommend this book!

[Marie-Ange Janvier · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was what I needed at this time. Sometimes we are so focused on our problems that we forget about other people. The world is full of problems that if you look beyond yourself you can make the world better for others. In the end by focusing on others brings some joy to you. I needed that reminder. Life gets tough but it gets easier if you focus on other people than yourself. It’s a Biblical principle that we often forget about. To wash the feet of the disciples. I know as a Mother it’s easy to forget about yourself as you are caring for another individual. You get lost in that unconditional vulnerability of a being. It shows up without any restrictions this aspect. I think it’s God given. In caring about others we ultimately care about ourselves as we love others through the lens of God.

[Ann Micheletti · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent Book. Probably my 5th or 6th now by Joyce Myers

[David · Rating 5 out of 5]

5/5 Self improvement through self analysis and scripture. Excellent!

[Glenda · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is probably on of the best books I’ve read so far this year. This book is transformational.

[Jessica Amin · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book has truly changed my way of thinking in so many ways. I have gone about life, like most people, thinking the 'right' thing is the selfish thing and finding the answers to all my 'what about me' questions. What about my happiness? What about what I want? What about how I feel? When truth of the matter is, as Joyce Meyer lays out in this book, we are never the main character - Jesus is. God is. The Holy Spirit is. His will for our lives to give thanks in all circumstances and His two greatest commandments to love Him with all our hearts, strength and mind and to love our neighbor as ourselves are the main purposes of life. When looking at life from a lens of lack and forever search of self-fulfillment, of course you will always find reasons to be unhappy. But this book taught me that greater joy is found in seeking first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, loving others, and trusting Him to provide our needs is the way to go. His plans are going to be far greater for us than the things we think will be solutions to our 'what about me' questions. This book is stellar rather you are a 'baby Christian' new in your walk in Christ or are further along in your relationship with Him. I highly, highly recommend!

[Raquel Trevino · Rating 5 out of 5]

reading this book by joyce meyers definitely changed my perspective on what i thought , "dying to self" really meant. i would definitely recommend this book to anyone struggling with selfishness , as i also always had questions that were mainly self centered based.
i'm glad i got to see unselfishness through a different lense. 💕

can't wait for my next joyce meyer read !!

[Heather · Rating 1 out of 5]

DNF. Got through 10% and it was not resonating with me.

[Linda O'Dell · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book

[Simone · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a great Read

[Wanda Geddings · Rating 5 out of 5]

Joyce does it again. I had a hard time putting it down. I feel like all of her books are very well worded and written in a way that is easy for me to understand.

[Nellie Gramajo · Rating 5 out of 5]

if you’re trying to grow a strong relationship with God or learn how to forgive and love better this book is for you! learn so much in this book & about myself. i totally recommend!

[Jillian · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a fantastic book that really allowed me to take a hard look at my life and see ways I can better improve and ask God for help to be better and more unselfish to those around me. It's not about casting away everything you love and living a lowly servant life - it's about being prepared for whatever God asks of you, and that will mean sacrifice at some point. And it definitely means being a servant. But remembering who you serve is the best part of all of it - a God who loves you and will bless you.

I have definitely struggled with selfishness my whole life, and I was encouraged to see how to better stand up against those tendencies and surrender to the One who loves me, trusting He will guide me to do what is right and take care of those around me with a full heart.

And it's not about perfection, because I know there will be times that I fail, but it's about trusting God with the process.

[Kaitlyn · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a very inspiring and eye opening read. It really showed me where I was selfish. Along with how hypercritical I can be to God, myself, and others. I highly recommend this book of you really want to face and understand how we are selfish, and how our selfishness can be a hinderance to our personal growth. Along with our relationship with Christ our Lord and Savior!!

[Aimee Van Alstyne · Rating 5 out of 5]

Finally, a book that talks about what it really looks like to be a Christ follower and how God transforms us but by it and our responsibility in the process. That this life is a process, we are not alone and we don’t have to have it all figured out. Evidence that during this process, that we can have joy, laughter, and prosperity as we “get out of our own way”.

[Nancy Hooper · Rating 5 out of 5]

Truly Loved it

Very Helpful in me seeing God's way of doing Life is better. My favorite book is Healing the Soul of a Woman but this was Awesome and helpful too. So was Battlefield of the Mind. Do recommend to get this book so worth it.

[Lori Mohler · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’ve read many of Joyce Meyer’s books, and they’re always impactful. I picked up What About Me? at just the right moment. It’s a powerful reminder to live with a selfless heart—and in doing so, to honor God.

[readcleancatmomtanya · Rating 5 out of 5]

A very good read! Highly recommend!!

[Tiffany · Rating 5 out of 5]

She always has such good messages. After reading her books I feel good and use it through my days to get closer to God.

[Bethany · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is very insightful and I loved the scriptures in this one. The way Joyce Meyer incorporates her personal life stories into her novels is amazing.

[Rachel Spang · Rating 2 out of 5]

I usually liver her books, but this one didn't do it for me.

[Kirsten Barrick · Rating 5 out of 5]

such a good read I really enjoy her books 📚 😊

[Ellie · Rating 2 out of 5]

Lovely thoughts and ideas but didn’t focus too much on selflessness which is what I thought the book would be about

[Celeste Leigh · Rating 5 out of 5]

I just loved every page of this book! I will re read it in a few months and make notations! #nonfiction

[Jannette Velazquez · Rating 5 out of 5]

Me gustó mucho, tardé mucho en terminarlo, porque en medio de esta lectura perdí a mi papá 😢 y entré en bloqueo no tenía nada de ánimo para la lectura. Luego de mes y medio volví a retomarlo para completarlo y lo amé 💕

[Nathan (SEEK GOD ALWAYS AND MAKE TIME FOR HIM) GOD LOVES YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a great book especially to read a second time and I learned so much from reading it and was reminded so much I forgot! 😊 I recommend it to anyone who wants to learn how to die to self

[L.C. Tang · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was a fast and easy read, organized into 5 chapters and twenty-two chapters. I enjoy reading all of Joyce Meyers' publications, as I always learn something new.

[Bianca Byrne · Rating 4 out of 5]

Feels like a warm conversation with an experienced godly woman. She gives her perspective, and there's something worth taking away from how to live a less selfish life without neglecting yourself.