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Man Leads...: woman follows, Everyone wins.
As an expert and professional consultant of culture and language, Ro Élori Cutno conducted a 2 year long global study on the cultures of men and women, and the languages of love and sex. MAN LEADS brings global insight, practices, and wisdom to demonstrate clear examples of what a truly loving relationship and family really looks like. According to the 2 year long global study conducted by the title's author, the only way that a relationship is capable of true fulfillment, is when everyone involved agrees that 1 MAN LEADS...Even if woman gracefully and indirectly leads man with her femininity and nurturing touch and sex. This book will drastically change the way you view yourself in relationships. Gaining such a valuable collection of global wisdom will undoubtedly strengthen modern families, teach how to achieve the deep love we all need, sharpen the skills of a masculine man or a feminine woman, and bring much comfort to any person who enjoys embracing traditional roles when it comes to masculine RESPECT and feminine LOVE.
280 pages, Paperback
First published December 2, 2013
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January 1, 2017
Incredibly sexist, misogynistic, transphobic, homophobic, HOTEP GARBAGE.
May 22, 2016
Well, well well where do I start?! I only knew about this book when someone mentioned it on her FB page. I downloaded it (for free thank goodness) and got through it within a few hours. I was curious about her ‘study’ and thought I was in for a robust cross-sectional survey that would stand up to academic scrutiny but this is not it. She reckons she interviewed 1000 ‘healthiest men’ from across the globe aged 25 at least and who came from generations of solid marriages. Really? How did she certify this? Did this ‘survey’ actually happen? And why restrict your sample so? The book is also missing references that would have shown that she has actually read up on similar work that others have done.
The book does not reveal anything common sense would not tell you or what previous books on the matter have not done already. I feel the book is a good start because it is time women are taught to be wives and men husbands. This is what is missing in society and is leading to a huge breakdown. I super agree on the emasculation of men in modern society. HOWEVER, she overdoes it in so many ways and I actually laughed out loud at some sections:
1. Smile all day every day and never complain to your husband: my husband said if I did that he would have me sectioned lol. Marriage is like a friendship and all marriages thrive on communication and honesty. Pretending everything is rosy all the time is not going to help anyone. My husband wants me to be able to let him know anything that is bothering me so he can fix it! And what if it is the man who moans and whinges all the time? She does not propose a way around that.
2. Do not ignore your husband. Yes we know that and wives don’t like to be ignored either
3. Spend 40 hours a week with your husband. The maths does not even add up here. And how does that work when we are both working full time? Or even if HE is working full time? This is not realistic. And time spent with family, children, husband should QUALITY time and not based on some minimum target someone else has set.
4. Women should respect all men at all times. Errr no, people should respect people at all times. I am not putting a man on a pedestal just because he is a man. The only exceptions are my husband and father and that is biblical!
I think this book is for a small niche of housewives and will not apply to most women/men who have to battle with full time work, kids and other commitments. I doubt the author is able to follow all of her own advise all the time once the doors are closed!
Finally, I am part of her Facebook group and at times she comes across as ‘angry’ and arrogant, thinking women who work outside the home are less than her or that she is better because she makes ALL the husband’s meals even to work. She also seems to think a woman needs to be at the beck and call of all the men in her life. And I saw her once bragging about not ever being abused, cheated on (how does she know this FOR SURE?!), neglected or any man refusing to marry her. It just gave me the impression that those women who have been maltreated by a man it is their fault and it did not sit well with me at all and came across as smug and arrogant. But she is a divorcee so something did not go right for her once. She needs to watch the way she comes across on social media. I also follow Sherry Argov and she is more professional and humble online even to those who dont agree with her.
The book does not reveal anything common sense would not tell you or what previous books on the matter have not done already. I feel the book is a good start because it is time women are taught to be wives and men husbands. This is what is missing in society and is leading to a huge breakdown. I super agree on the emasculation of men in modern society. HOWEVER, she overdoes it in so many ways and I actually laughed out loud at some sections:
1. Smile all day every day and never complain to your husband: my husband said if I did that he would have me sectioned lol. Marriage is like a friendship and all marriages thrive on communication and honesty. Pretending everything is rosy all the time is not going to help anyone. My husband wants me to be able to let him know anything that is bothering me so he can fix it! And what if it is the man who moans and whinges all the time? She does not propose a way around that.
2. Do not ignore your husband. Yes we know that and wives don’t like to be ignored either
3. Spend 40 hours a week with your husband. The maths does not even add up here. And how does that work when we are both working full time? Or even if HE is working full time? This is not realistic. And time spent with family, children, husband should QUALITY time and not based on some minimum target someone else has set.
4. Women should respect all men at all times. Errr no, people should respect people at all times. I am not putting a man on a pedestal just because he is a man. The only exceptions are my husband and father and that is biblical!
I think this book is for a small niche of housewives and will not apply to most women/men who have to battle with full time work, kids and other commitments. I doubt the author is able to follow all of her own advise all the time once the doors are closed!
Finally, I am part of her Facebook group and at times she comes across as ‘angry’ and arrogant, thinking women who work outside the home are less than her or that she is better because she makes ALL the husband’s meals even to work. She also seems to think a woman needs to be at the beck and call of all the men in her life. And I saw her once bragging about not ever being abused, cheated on (how does she know this FOR SURE?!), neglected or any man refusing to marry her. It just gave me the impression that those women who have been maltreated by a man it is their fault and it did not sit well with me at all and came across as smug and arrogant. But she is a divorcee so something did not go right for her once. She needs to watch the way she comes across on social media. I also follow Sherry Argov and she is more professional and humble online even to those who dont agree with her.
August 9, 2018
Astounded that anyone found anything of any real value in this book which is essentially dedicated to a set of lists and unimaginative 'advice' which is both juvenile and misogynistic. It actually demeans both men and women based in the calibre of the content. The author has no credible grounds to write an advisory periodical based on their own dysfunctional relationship status and an unhealthy interest in nominating 'followers' to pay for 'wife schools' among other dubious behaviour. Presumably the good reviews have been written by them as a means of incentivising consumers to part with their money. The desperation to find love shouldn't be reduced to purchasing ridiculously poor self books that are purely designed to profiteer the author. You've been warned.
January 27, 2016
Enlightening! This is a bold work that proclaims truth in an easy to read way. Cut and dry, and to the point. How liberating to read about things one feels and didn't know how to express. A great read!
June 10, 2014
Very well written and to the point. Mrs. Cutno addresses several common but hidden truths that directly impact male/female relationships. I enjoyed her candid topics and learned quite a bit.
November 17, 2017
Transformational Information
I agree with the principles as outlined in this book. If both parties can follow the prescribed behavior, it would revolutionize marriages and families. There is so much imbalance in gender roles it’s no wonder the divorce rate is so high, children are uncontrollable, and very few people are happy.
I look forward to enrolling in the Wife Class.
I agree with the principles as outlined in this book. If both parties can follow the prescribed behavior, it would revolutionize marriages and families. There is so much imbalance in gender roles it’s no wonder the divorce rate is so high, children are uncontrollable, and very few people are happy.
I look forward to enrolling in the Wife Class.
August 5, 2017
Let's go back to Father Knows Best.
In this modern day the role of men and women have become so convoluted that no one knows whether to lead, follow, or just get out of the way! Man Leads... does a tremendous job of sorting out those roles so as to bring happiness and harmony to family life. If you grew up watching the old shows like Father Knows Best you know how the lifestyle this book recommends really works. I've been so confused all my life and I'm thankful for the instruction this book gave me that I never got when I was growing up.
In this modern day the role of men and women have become so convoluted that no one knows whether to lead, follow, or just get out of the way! Man Leads... does a tremendous job of sorting out those roles so as to bring happiness and harmony to family life. If you grew up watching the old shows like Father Knows Best you know how the lifestyle this book recommends really works. I've been so confused all my life and I'm thankful for the instruction this book gave me that I never got when I was growing up.
August 5, 2024
The first time I read this book, I was 23/24 and in a specific phase in my life. I actually wouldn’t say that I’m in that phase anymore. However, I still hold onto all those values and morals that I learned and I still hold them close.
At 29, I found that I agree more with this book than I did 5 years ago. In my early twenties, I still rejected some of the ideas presented in this book, but now, I found that some of those rejections I hold heartedly agree with now! I’m actually surprised, because honestly (after reading the reviews), I thought that I would disagree with this book after having not read it in 5 years. But nope. I agree with it more.
This book isn’t for everyone, which is okay. A lot of these reviews have their own opinions about this book and Ro entirely. At 23/24, I will admit that I followed Ro religiously almost until she said some things that I totally disagreed with (as a Christian, I don’t play when it comes to disrespecting my Heavenly Father). But at 29, I don’t follow her anymore. I can celebrate whatever she got going on and read this book with an open mind. In a lot of areas in this book, she isn’t wrong and some stuff she described in this book I remembered my Grandmother doing.
For those with an open mind, I recommend this book.
At 29, I found that I agree more with this book than I did 5 years ago. In my early twenties, I still rejected some of the ideas presented in this book, but now, I found that some of those rejections I hold heartedly agree with now! I’m actually surprised, because honestly (after reading the reviews), I thought that I would disagree with this book after having not read it in 5 years. But nope. I agree with it more.
This book isn’t for everyone, which is okay. A lot of these reviews have their own opinions about this book and Ro entirely. At 23/24, I will admit that I followed Ro religiously almost until she said some things that I totally disagreed with (as a Christian, I don’t play when it comes to disrespecting my Heavenly Father). But at 29, I don’t follow her anymore. I can celebrate whatever she got going on and read this book with an open mind. In a lot of areas in this book, she isn’t wrong and some stuff she described in this book I remembered my Grandmother doing.
For those with an open mind, I recommend this book.
September 26, 2020
An absolute joke of a book. The only real surprise is that a black woman could be both racist and misogynist. This twice divorced lunatic knows nothing of relationships, and only goes to show the dangers of self-publishing.
Avoid at all costs.
Avoid at all costs.
November 13, 2018
The best
This is a book I am going to use when I have my own family to buy us and I am going to make sure that my husband to be had this book too as well
Thanking the writers
This is a book I am going to use when I have my own family to buy us and I am going to make sure that my husband to be had this book too as well
Thanking the writers
April 28, 2019
I think it's a great look at the roles men and women play and it's very good at describing what exactly a healthy man looks like, because so many people grow up without an example of that and don't know what to look for. This book does not however go into the nuances of dating. There are a few things stated that I do not agree with for the simple fact that I do not believe any man you're dating should get the same treatment that you would give a husband. That level of submissiveness is earned through a demonstration of commitment. Otherwise this is a very quick read, with some very interesting insight
March 5, 2019
This book was ok, I agreed with 75% of ideas/suggestions in the book, but there were a few things that I laughed at or just thought was a bit much. It’s a quick read, and can be helpful for men who need to get it together and women who need an attitude adjustment. I would tell someone to read it to form their own opinion. It would probably be nice to discuss with your significant other or even your (girl)friends, but it’s not worth $28. Read on kindle unlimited if you can; or if you must... $10 on kindle is all right.
May 17, 2020
Lady L
This is a must read , I enjoyed every page of this book. I would recommend this book to anyone who loves their partner in life enough to give them the happiest relationship possible. I chose five stars because the author took a lot of time and research into this book and it helped me see things so much clearer with the role of women and men. I greatly appreciate your hard work and dedication to helping people know their role in a relationship.
This is a must read , I enjoyed every page of this book. I would recommend this book to anyone who loves their partner in life enough to give them the happiest relationship possible. I chose five stars because the author took a lot of time and research into this book and it helped me see things so much clearer with the role of women and men. I greatly appreciate your hard work and dedication to helping people know their role in a relationship.
May 6, 2021
This book is an amazing book for women to read to know how to properly treat men and for men on how to lead if you would like to have a husband and not die alone do what the book says it's backed by 2 years of worldwide research this book is facts
August 1, 2023
Very good
I am a single female in my 30ies raised in a Western country, and this book is very helpful in understanding what a happy husband needs (if I want to be the feminine wife). Looking forward to trying it out!
I am a single female in my 30ies raised in a Western country, and this book is very helpful in understanding what a happy husband needs (if I want to be the feminine wife). Looking forward to trying it out!
October 16, 2019
This book had a lot of good stuff in it but there were things that didn't make sense. I know because I asked my guy how does he feel about this or that.
November 2, 2019
Great insight!
I’ve learned so much about myself and men after reading this book. There is still hope for me becoming more feminine, and this book has the formula!
I’ve learned so much about myself and men after reading this book. There is still hope for me becoming more feminine, and this book has the formula!
August 20, 2020
Great book
Great book. I think we all can benefit from this book. I would recommend to anyone who is interested in learning.
Great book. I think we all can benefit from this book. I would recommend to anyone who is interested in learning.
November 16, 2020
Well written, just not aligned with my personal belief system.
April 22, 2021
There is no way this was written by someone with any experience in being black or female.
April 20, 2022
Healthy Family
Explains a healthy family! Very much what we need in the world today! It’s my goal to implement everything this year!
Explains a healthy family! Very much what we need in the world today! It’s my goal to implement everything this year!
February 1, 2017
Terrible book.
November 10, 2023
Amazing!
This book is invaluable to both men and women and I highly recommend that EVERYONE reads it. What a difference it would make not only in our lives, but in the lives of our children. This is what society is missing, and is suffering for it.
This book is invaluable to both men and women and I highly recommend that EVERYONE reads it. What a difference it would make not only in our lives, but in the lives of our children. This is what society is missing, and is suffering for it.
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February 24, 2018Why is it not available in SA? I have been meaning to get hold of it but no library has it and not even available in SAn iTune 😔😔 I need it. Please help
February 11, 2019
This is a great book and it helped my family very much! It saved my marriage. Don't make the same mistake as I almost did. Don't judge a book by it's cover, there's something beautiful on the inside! :)
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