Surviving Infidelity: How Our Marriage Is Actually BETTER - After My Husband's Affair

by Sherry Johnson

Are you dealing with the shock and hurt of your spouse’s infidelity?Are you still hoping that your marriage can be saved?Well, I’ve been there and done that, and now that a number of years has passed since I’ve been in your shoes, I’m here to give you the benefit of my hindsight.Dealing with infidelity can be one of the hardest things a couple will ever have to face, if that couple is unlucky enough to have infidelity rear its ugly head in their relationship. Deciding to stick together or throw in the towel isn’t always a decision that is made together; rather, it is usually made by the person who has been hurt.The pain of that trauma in my own marriage will always be just under the surface for me. However, enough time has passed now where the emotions are much more under control. I now am much more capable of reflecting on the wisdom and strength that I gained from the experience. As pissed off as I was at my husband, and as close as I came to leaving him, my love for him was always still there. We were the ultimate best friends at the beginning and for many years. But our marriage was deteriorating significantly even before his affair. In all honesty, my love for him may not have been enough for me to stay if a few other factors in my life had been different (I will tell you about those, as you may well be in the same boat!).I am now at the point where I am glad about my decision to stay. Things between my husband and me, you may be surprised, are now GREAT. But we had to work on it, and I STILL am working on it (like trying to get to 100% trust again). At the same time, I realized that my personal situation had to change. I’ll tell you what this, and why changing it made all the difference for me. It empowered me to make any decision, should my husband prove to be untrustworthy again.Don’t get me wrong, I love having my husband back, but I also love having the security and wisdom that I’m now prepared for ANYTHING. It’s also wisdom that I can pass on to my daughters, should they ever need it (though they currently know nothing about their father’s infidelity).So come with me now, and find out how I finally got to be in such a good place, after being in such a bad one. I really think I can help you, or at the very least, understand where you are coming from.Good Luck, and God Bless.

38 pages, Kindle Edition

First published July 19, 2013