Do You Love Me?: Learning to Love in a Way That Can Be Recognized and Felt

by Craig L Adams PH D

It is a fairly common phenomenon for one or both individuals in a dating or marital relationship to sometimes wonder whether they are truly loved by their partner, especially once they have evolved beyond the infatuation phase. This book provides a very simple and pragmatic process anyone can implement to determine the degree to which one is loved and it is an excellent teaching tool the listener can learn to implement to ensure their partner can recognize and feel the love the listener has for them.

The author places tremendous emphasis upon the identification of one's unique constellation or grouping of needs (physical, emotional, spiritual) and the unique clusters of needs possessed by one's love target. This is because our motivation to respond to our environment, our interpretation of what is occurring to us and around us, and our emotional response to those interpretations are all directly determined by our needs. Consequently, individuals in a relationship can experience difficulty understanding why their partners physically and emotionally respond so differently than themselves when they encounter similar situations..

This process of misunderstanding or not recognizing the uniquely different clusters of needs each person possesses frequently results in the mistaken effort of demonstrating one's love in the manner they actually wish to have love demonstrated to themselves, totally missing the desires of their partner. Simply put, we tend to love in the manner we wish to be loved rather than in a way that can be recognized and felt by our partners.

154 pages, Paperback

Published December 4, 2023

Reviews

[Cydney · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very informative, direct and easy to read.