Kisses for Daddy

by Frances Watts, David Legge

When a grumbly Baby Bear refuses to give his father a goodnight kiss, their bedtime routine is transformed into a delightful game, as Daddy imagines all the different sorts of kisses that other animal babies give their dads: "'Now what about a big bear kiss for me?' said Dad. 'No!' said Baby Bear. 'No kiss for Daddy.' 'Oh dear,' said Daddy, carrying Baby Bear up the stairs. 'How about a koala kiss instead? Baby koalas give their daddies cuddly, clingy kisses, like this . . .'" This warm, affectionate story is perfect for children and their daddies to share!

Genres: Picture Books, Childrens, Fiction, Storytime, Animals, Family

24 pages, Hardcover

First published May 1, 2005

About the author

Frances Watts was born in Switzerland and grew up in Australia. She has published 20 books for children, including picture books and books for younger readers, including Goodnight Mice!, the winner of the 2012 Prime Minister’s Award for Children’s Fiction, and 2008 Children’s Book Council of Australia award-winner Parsley Rabbit’s Book about Books. Her latest book, The Raven’s Wing, is her first novel for young adults. Frances lives in Sydney and divides her time between writing and editing.

Reviews

[سیده فاطمه مطهری · Rating 3 out of 5]

از کتاب‌هایی که بیشتر به درد والدین میخوره تا خود بچه‌ها😅

[Tayebe Ej · Rating 1 out of 5]

بوسه‌هایی برای بابا؛ "نه، یعنی نه"

اولین بار توی یک کارگاه بلندخوانی با کتاب بوسه‌هایی برای بابا آشنا شدم. جزئیات تصویرگری کتاب واقعا شگفت‌انگیز بودن و این اولین چیزی بود که مدرس کارگاه توجهمون رو بهش جلب کرد. بعدها بارها و بارها در پیج‌های مختلفی که دنبال می‌کردم به عنوان یکی از کتابهای خیلی خوب برای کودک معرفی می‌شد؛ کتابی مناسب روز پدر، کتابی مناسب روتین خواب و ... اما متنی که امروز می‌خوام بنویسم درباره‌ی اینه که چرا این کتاب برای کودک مناسب نیست!

داستان خط سیر ساده‌ای داره، بچه خرس نمیخواد بخوابه و نمیخواد به بابا بوس شب‌بخیر بده، بابا در تمام مراحل آماده کردن بچه خرس (حمام، مسواک و ...)، در فضای شادی و شوخی از بچه خرس میپرسه که میخواد به باباش بوس بده و هر بار بچه خرس میگه نه! اما بابا هربار بچه خرس رو میبوسه

همینجا یه لحظه متوقف بشیم. چی میبینید؟ پدری که حریم بدن بچه‌اش رو رعایت نمیکنه و علاوه بر اون اصلا به حرف بچه‌اش کاری نداره، "نه" برای باباخرسه یعنی بله.
در دو صفحه‌ی انتهایی داستان، بابا، بعد از تمام نه شنیدن ها و اهمیت ندادن ها، بعد از آخرین نه شنیدن آهی میکشه و با ناراحتی داره از اتاق میره بیرون که یکدفعه بچه خرس صداش میزنه و یه بوس و بغل خرسی بهش میده. و از نگاه من این بوس و بغل چطور به دست اومد؟ با احساس گناه دادن به بچه خرس.

قطعا دوستان روانشناس بهتر میتونن درباره ی این کتاب نظر بدن اما با همین اندک اطلاعات من در زمینه روانشناسی و تربیت جنسی، کتاب بوسه‌هایی برای بابا کتاب مناسبی برای کودک نیست.

پ.ن: من این کتاب رو با پسرم زیاد خوندم. قبل از اینکه تمام این خطاها به چشمم بیاد. الان چطور میخونیمش؟ درباره‌ی این صحبت میکنیم که کار باباخرسی درست بود یا نه. و وقتهایی که من به اشتباه به نه‌هایی که میگه توجه نمیکنم (مثل وقتی میگه سیره و غذا نمیخواد) بهم میگه شدی مثل بابای بوسه‌هایی برای بابا. خلاصه اینکه اگر شما هم مثل من این کتاب رو زیاد برای بچه‌تون خوندید هنوز میتونین تهدید رو تبدیل کنین به فرصت ;)

[Jarvis Pam · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book is disturbing. I can see how this book may have been intended to demonstrate that fathers can be affectionate and loving. BUT this book crosses so many boundaries. To cut it short I feel this book showcases grooming behaviours. It does not demonstrate healthy boundaries or consensual touch. The entire book is based on a baby bear not wanting to be kissed and the father kissing the baby bear despite this. It has statements like “what a shame” and “what a pity” when baby bear rejects the fathers request for kisses which I find appalling and manipulative. To me the illustrations of baby bear were also showcasing a baby bear that looked fearful and scared at times when being kissed unwilling by his father. The illustration of the “bat kiss” made me feel sick. If I could, I wouldn’t even give this book a 1 star and honestly feel this book should be taken off the market. I feel that collectively we should be doing more to promote an awareness of grooming behaviours and safety for children and I’m disappointed that the publishers have not considered the potentially dangerous underlying messages in this children’s book.

[Anna · Rating 2 out of 5]

I did not like this book. The illustrations were beautiful, but I felt like they didn't go well with the text. I didn't like how daddy kept giving the baby bear kisses when the baby bear didn't want any kisses. The illustrations made it look like the baby bear was thrilled and enjoying all these kisses, but I felt like he wasn't enjoying it since he was growling and kept saying no.

[مجید اسطیری · Rating 3 out of 5]

خیلی جالب بود دیدن نظرات منفی روی این کتاب.
عموما مخاطب ها از این که بابا در حال تلاش برای همراهی فرزندش درکارهای قبل از خواب است راضی هستند و من هم همین طور. اما گویا خیلی ها از تلاش بابا برای بوسه گرفتن زورکی از فرزندش خوششان نمی آید و من هم.
اما چیزی که احتمالا کمتر مورد توجه قرار گرفته این است که بوسه میتواند یک معنای استعاری داشته باشد. استعاره ای از هر ابراز علاقه ای که پیوند پدر فرزندی را نشان بدهد. مایه تعجب است که مردم دنیا این قدر در بوسه جنبه جنسی را میبینند، آن هم در کتاب کودک. در زندگی روزمره ممکن است صدها بوسه بین فرزندان و والدین رد و بدل شود و معلوم است که با افزایش سن این شکل از ابراز محبت مدام کمتر میشود.
بنابراین من بیشتر مایلم کتاب را این طور بخوانم که "با بچه هایی که در برابر ابراز محبت مقاومت میکنند چطور تعامل کنیم."
نقد من بیشتر به پایان داستان است که به نظرم نوعی «گروگان گیری عاطفی» اتفاق می افتد. پدر همان طور که از جلب محبت فرزندش ناامید نشده (و این هم در بچه ها، هم در والدین حس خوبی ایجاد میکند) در پایان داستان هم نباید ناامید شود. اما اینجا پدر بالاخره شکست میخورد و بچه خرس در برابر این گروگان گیری تسلیم میشود و بالاخره پدرش را میبوسد.
به نظرم این خیلی بدتر است و بیشتر باید به عنوان یک رفتار غلط مورد توجه قرار بگیرد. بوسه را میتوان استعاره ای از هر نوع محبت دانست ولی این پذیرفتنی نیست.

پانوشت: این روتین قبل از خواب چه پوستی که از ما نکند. برای مسواک زدن دخترم انواع و اقسام تئاترها را بازی میکردیم و هر کدام بعد از یک مدت از کار می افتاد. پسرم مقاومتش در برابر این ترفندها بیشتر بود ولی مدت بیشتری میشد با این بازی ها گولش زد. به هر حال از این جنبه برای من کتاب الهام بخشی بود

[ellymate · Rating 5 out of 5]

Well I see there are a lot of negative thoughts about this book, regarding the text and images which may different in context.
Personally I liked it because it shows a routine involving the Dad and it has the similar steps we do with our daughter, minus the types of kisses and unwillingness of the bear.

The way the baby bear is drawn looks like he's actually enjoying the attention of his father with no other type of perverse intent that some people might see in the pictures. So yes, the drawings with the text don't really fit. I agree with the fact that we should respect the wishes of our kids and the text of this book doesn't show this, but otherwise it shows the affection and love bond that can be between a father and a kid.

In my case we discuss on the pictures more than the text and my kid is super happy with the beautiful images and story we tell her.

Finally, I think it all depends on how we view this story and how we present it to the kids.

[Franny Adams]

*Triggering*
Baby bear repeatedly tells Daddy bear "No!"

Daddy bear tries to persuade Baby bear by saying other baby animals kiss their Daddies by different actions.

The lines Daddy Bear gives are similar to what groomers use on their victims. From what I have read by many victims their perpetrators try to convince the victims to do something against their will by saying it is okay because "Others do the same thing."

This book is giving children the idea that consent doesn't matter and guilt tripping is okay. That saying No to something they are uncomfortable doing alright.

Not a cute father /child bonding story. What were the publishers thinking?

[Hannah · Rating 1 out of 5]

Look, the idea of daddy doing the bedtime routine is lovely. How this book reads is absolutely terrible for kids and understanding that "No" means "No". It reads as: Say no, and when someone pesters you enough and guilt trips you emotionally until you say Yes. Which is not a good message for young children at all. Would not reccomend this book.

[Danica Midlil · Rating 3 out of 5]

Where is the hidden tiger on the tiger page? Every other illustration has one, right?

[Elizabeth · Rating 5 out of 5]

A charming and wonderful story of parental care and love.

[Roni Laukkarinen · Rating 3 out of 5]

My 4-year-old son wants me to read this every night. Cute bedtime story for ages from toddlers to preschoolers.

[Kylie Moffat · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this book as a picture book for class. I thought that it was cute and like the daddy bear having fun with baby bear.

[Mobtakeran Publisher · Rating 3 out of 5]

به عنوان کتاب خواب و تو رده سنی خودش کتاب موفقیه

[Hugh · Rating 5 out of 5]

This bedtime book for little ones is so much fun. I’m confident I have read this at least 500 times LOL!!!

[Kylie Abecca · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is so adorable. Lovely pictures and a great bedtime story for the kids.

[Jessica · Rating 1 out of 5]

Cute concept for the right family, but not a good example of inviting children to make their own decisions about bodily autonomy and consent.

[Sandra Stiles · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book I want to add to my library at home for my grand-kids. Little bear doesn't want to put up his toys, kiss his parents, take a bath and go to bed. He reluctantly kisses his mother but refuses to kiss his father. Daddy bear sweeps him up and heads upstairs. he suggest maybe little bear would like a giraffe kiss, and holds him up high and kisses him. He then suggests several other animals and kisses him the way they would give a kiss. After his bath he tucks little bear into bed and little bear tells his father that he needs to give him a great big bear hug and a great big bear kiss. The story line and pictures were beautiful in this one.

[Cruth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Author/Illustrator: Frances Watts
Author/Illustrator: David Legge
First Published: 2005



A nice twist on the typical where Daddy Bear does the entire bedtime routine including bath, teeth and pyjamas. A sweet story with lovely images.

Age:
Read aloud - 2+
Read yourself - 6+

References:
Frances Watts website: www.franceswatts.com/

-CR-

[Teddi · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a cute book. I originally got it for my 3 year old daughter and husband to read together, but she and I have had great fun reading it together too. I put us both in the story and make baby bear a "she" and swap mama for daddy. We act out all of the different kinds of kisses (giraffe, tiger, koala, mouse, etc.) and I get tons of giggles and laughs out of my daughter. Her favorite is the koala kiss. She loves the book so much that she has started "reading" it on her own by following the illustrations.

[Denise · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think we've all known a child to behave as baby bear does in this book, he's an expert at emotional blackmail. Baby bear refuses to give Daddy hugs and kisses, he's cranky and needs to get ready for bed. Daddy is very clever and asks for different kinds of kisses, such as giraffe kisses, crocodile kisses etc. and baby bear refuses. Daddy and baby bear have their moment in the end though. This would work for storytime but would be better one-on-one.

[Robert · Rating 4 out of 5]

Sometimes children are impudent. Daddy bear handled that very well and accomplished the tasks that needed to be done. Baby bear was stubborn, but in the end showed the love for his father that he truly had.

It's nice to read this with little ones. A father melts when his children are affectionate.

[Amanda · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book is perfect for my husband and kids because they are always generous with their kisses for mommy and stingy with their daddy kisses. He usually has to blackmail them in one way or another. I agree that it is probably best one-on-one.

[Sarah · Rating 3 out of 5]

Cute bedtime book. Goes through all the hugs daddy bear could give baby bear before bed, like a monkey hug and tiger hug, describing each one; but baby bear just wants a bear hug and kiss. Great illustrations, and would be fun for a preschool storytime.

[Carol · Rating 5 out of 5]

Available in picture book and board book formats. A child (baby bear)is discontent with going to bed, daddy tries to cajole his youngster with various types of animal kisses. The power in the story comes from its sincere ending and the respect demonstrated for the child.

[Scott · Rating 4 out of 5]

Does anyone know where all the hidden animals are? I can see the giraffe shadow and umbrella, mouse bed post, crocodile soap container, bat towel etc etc

But I can't find the tiger, I'm thinking it may be hidden on the daddy bear somewhere???

My daughter loves having this read
to her.

[Renee · Rating 5 out of 5]

I bought this a couple of years ago for my husband for Father's Day. It was immediately a favourite and we have read it over and over (to the kids). The illustrations are beautifully detailed and the story simple and fun. A perfect bedtime story as it makes a game out of the bedtime routine.

[Marion · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book that encourages affection and is a sweet read for parent and child. I gave this book to my daycare father's for father's day and they were grateful for a special Dad and child book to read to their child.

[Tricia · Rating 4 out of 5]

great for daddy and me storytime. would appeal to both toddlers and preschoolers. great picture. storytelling collection?

[Lisa · Rating 3 out of 5]

Cute story, though I'm not a huge fan of the illustrations.

[Chantel · Rating 4 out of 5]

What a darling, beautifully illustrated book for daddies to read to their children before bedtime! I predict that it will start a new tradition of "daddy/animal" bedtime kisses.