Consider This: Reflections for Finding Peace

by Nedra Glover Tawwab

Inspiring advice for navigating life’s ups and downs, and finding ways to grow every day—from the New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace and Drama Free

Life comes at us fast, with new challenges to navigate at every turn. Millions of fans have embraced the fresh insights of bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab, a popular therapist who brings both expertise and a fresh perspective to the everyday struggles we all navigate in our relationships and within ourselves.

In this inspiring book of daily insights, Nedra delivers food for thought, friendly reminders, and perspective shifts to help us stay true to who we are and what matters most.Topics include setting boundaries, rising above drama, expressing ourselves with clarity and integrity, and finding peace and joy every chance we can get.

This empowering and embraceable book will help us stay the course— and grow more fully into ourselves every day.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Mental Health, Audiobook, Health, Personal Development

382 pages, Kindle Edition

Published October 15, 2024

About the author

Therapist, NYT Bestselling Author, and Relationship Expert.

Reviews

[Lorie · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really appreciate this author and the way she writes. This book is packed with poignant gems some may apply in the past , present or future depending on how your psyche rolls.

[Laura K · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a mental health therapist, I recommend your books to many clients. The way you say things is direct, digestible and supportive. This book has many nuggets of wisdom that can be applied to our relationship with ourselves and others.

[Rich · Rating 5 out of 5]

I always feel validated, uplifted, calm, and healthy whenever I read anything from Nedra Glover Tawwab. Her writing style across all her work is simple, clear, direct and practical, which makes her advice and wise nuggets easily digestible and actionable. She excels at breaking down complex emotional and relational issues which leads to empowerment, not overwhelm, for the reader. Her tone is compassionate and nonjudgmental and she uses a wide variety of real-life scenarios, making it easy for everyone to find something to relate to.

Consider This is another practical guide to navigating life and relationships and includes thoughtful prompts and reflections. It's best read slowly over time so as to allow yourself time to process your thoughts and reactions. I can see myself going back to this as a way to ease into the morning or when I'm feeling like I need a pick me up.

The bottom line: Add it to your TBR. Buy it for your friends. Keep it on your nightstand. Buy a second digital copy so you have access to it at all times. It's that valuable.

[Julie · Rating 5 out of 5]

When I say I finished this book what I really mean is I read it through it once. I continue to leaf through it on a regular basis. This book is never far away from me and has helped me reframe situations and lifted my mood on numerous occasions already. As I said in a recent post, I wish I could pull "an Oprah" and give a copy of this book to everyone I know. Highly recommend.

[Kat Holloway · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good points but felt like a disorganized stream of consciousness. Would’ve preferred it being sectioned into topics.

[Janie O · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is composed of, on each page, nuggets of wisdom to help you look inward while also encouraging you to questioning others' motives and set those boundaries! A wealth of knowledge that gives you much to ponder throughout your day.

From the New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace and Drama Free

"Inspiring advice for navigating life’s ups and downs, and finding ways to grow every day."

[January · Rating 5 out of 5]

Consider This: Reflections for Finding Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab
5h 4m narrated by the Author - Nedra Glover Tawwab, 413 pages

Genre: Self Help, Self-Actualization, Psychology, Nonfiction, Self Improvement, Family & Relationships

Features: Inspirational Nuggets, Grudge Versus Boundary, Emotional Neglect, Loving Yourself, Old Me Versus New Me, Healthy People Pleasing Versus Unhealthy People Pleasing, Nurturing Yourself, Follow Your Energy Instead of Matching the Energy of Others, Know When To Let Go, Label Your Feelings, Anxiety, Integrity, You Are Half of Any Relationship You're In, Stories You Tell, Forgive Yourself, 7 Ways To Respond to a Mean Comment

Rating as a movie: PG-13 for adult situations

Quotes: The difference between holding a grudge and holding a boundary is the following: Am I trying to teach someone a lesson, or am I keeping myself safe and comfortable in this relationship? Boundaries are not weapons, and they are not tools to control others.

Critical thinking is an essential life skill. Our mental health is diminished when we absentmindedly follow what we see without deep thought. If you see something on social media or the internet, or you hear a suggestion that doesn’t work for your situation, don’t apply it. Most advice is general, and everything mentioned won’t fit your individual needs.

Enabling is rooted in profound caring and trying to fix, as well as a feeling of powerlessness. Watching a loved one suffer can be unbearable, and doing something to save them from their despair feels like caring even when it’s self-depleting. It takes time to learn how to offer as much help as possible without depleting yourself. Once you recognize that you can’t possess power over others, you will move away from your role as a fixer. Care without becoming consumed by it.

You want to be considerate, but you can’t always consider others. You can want people to be happy, but you can’t promise your behaviors will make them happy. Healthy people-pleasing is what you are willing to do for a relationship without harming yourself or constantly sacrificing your own needs. Unhealthy people-pleasing is when you rarely say no, give when you can’t, and sacrifice to your detriment. Healthy people-pleasing won’t lead to resentment and can be positive for your relationships. Please others but know when you’re giving too much.

When we're particular about how we organize our home we say we're OCD, when we're actually just organized. When someone ignores us or is inconsiderate of our feelings we call them a narcissist. We turn them into a bad person when the truth is more likely much more complex. OCD is not about being organized. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is when you have compulsive thoughts or behaviors that are seen as unreasonable. For example, when you have OCD you don't organize, you feel anxious or depressed, you have some sort of repetitive behaviors that you must do; it goes far beyond a desire to keep a clean home. When we come across new information we tend to view it from a simplistic lens. Be mindful when applying a term.

Songs for the soundtrack: "Imagine" by John Lennon

Books and Authors mentioned: Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear, The Set Boundaries Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab

My rating: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🤔💭

My thoughts: This is certainly a book to revisit throughout the years. It has a tidbit format and that works better than the usual topics format most non-fiction books use.

Recommend to others: Yes. I'm going to give this to someone for Christmas.

[Cori · Rating 3 out of 5]

Great reflections. I found myself saying "mhmmm" a bunch and nodding along with the audiobook. Though if you ask me for a takeaway, it's hard to pinpoint the book's focus. Tawwab intentionally shifts topics every few paragraphs/minutes, but I found this jarring. This book would be best suited as a daily devotional rather than a whole-book read. I love some of her points about communication and relationships especially, but the jumbled organization made this audiobook hard to listen to. I think this may be better as a paper book that I could annotate and come back to little-by-little.

[Jamie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Nedras take on mental health is extremely unique, thought provoking and unconventional, yet eye opening and fulfilling. A lot of times it’s perspective that keeps us from pivoting. This book gives a voice to new ideas that boldly go against popular culture stereotypes that limit the improvement of mental health. Awesome insights and perspectives once again Nedra! 😊

[Sharon · Rating 2 out of 5]

I wish the book were organized into sections by topic or emotion. I didn’t realize it was a collection of social media posts. I expected it to be more like Set Boundaries, Find Peace.

[Hestia Istiviani · Rating 5 out of 5]

What can I say? Nedra Glover Tawwab did it again with her latest book.

Unlike her two previous books, in Consider This she presented bite-size suggestions with some notes that could be developed as journaling prompt.

In my own perspective, Consider This has the same vibes as Haemin Sunim’s books but I like Nedra’s better since she has psychology background rather than Haemin Sunim (I am so sorry).

[᠂ ⚘ Sara Danee ⚘᠂ · Rating 5 out of 5]

A beautiful reminder to slow down and stay true to your own feelings and boundaries—regardless of what outside influences may portray as “right.”

So often, people become victims of their circumstances because they avoid looking inward and instead place blame outward.

There are so many powerful takeaways in this book. I truly enjoy everything I read by Nedra—she challenges you to pause, sit with your discomfort, and reflect. Her work always brings me back to myself.

[Carrie Shepeard · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the second book I have read by Nedra and it did not disappoint. Full of insight, empathy and tips for leading a peaceful life, this book is like a big, warm hug. I love her dedication to helping others heal, grow and stay true to themselves.

[Felicity M · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love Nedra's instagram, and this is just like an extended version of that, on paper !!
I love that I could pick it up and read a page or two, or more and in any order.
Lots of great thoughts to ponder, this would be a wonderful gift too.

[Spectacular · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great short and impact book

[Shannon Stoddard · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love each and every one of Nedra's books! The nuggets of wisdom she shares always resonate with me in ways that I really need! This will remain a coffee table book for me to pick up and glance at when I know I need it! 🩷

[Jean · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very timely, much needed bite-sized reminders for daily life!

[Hannah Rose · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love everything that Nedra writes. I’m currently in a 6 week live training with her so I’m fangirling!!! 10/10

[Mithra Rajah · Rating 4 out of 5]

Nice book of little notes to prompt self reflection. This book encourages more compassion, better boundaries and awareness.

[Sara Troupe · Rating 4 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book. I listened to it but I think it might be better to read a physical copy. I would like to buy the physical copy and then use it for journal prompts. While listening, it was nice to reflect on some of the topics Nedra brings up, but she quickly moves on to the next topic so if you choose to listen you will likely want to be prepared to pause it often.

[Elisabeth C · Rating 3 out of 5]

I am a fan of the author and have thoroughly enjoyed her other work. This book gives bite sized nuggets, but really is extraneous thoughts from her other books. If you follow her on social media, you probably have read most of the things mentioned in the book. I’m a little disappointed , by know that the book will still resonate with many people.

[Riya · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wish I could memorize and embed every page of this book in my brain! This book is perfect in ever way

[Courtney · Rating 3 out of 5]

As always - great info. No deep dives here which is what I prefer. I wish I could tear out certain pieces and hand them out to people. 🤣

[Jackie Lee · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 - Good words of advice but like another reviewer said the audiobook reads like a stream of consciousness. It’s hard to determine what differs between each chapter.

[Bookworm · Rating 3 out of 5]

I had read other books by the author and was excited to see this, too. The title interested me: how else could we reflect and have better introspection about life's troubles and trials, how to set boundaries, remembering the important things, how to handle drama, etc.

In a series of essays and short writings, the author gives us nuggets of wisdom and self-reflections. Some are only a paragraph long, some are a few pages. There is not much context nor Tawwab inserting herself, but rather it is for the reader to read and reflect as necessary.

That is pretty much it. I will admit that it was disappointing: a lot of this you could probably glean from social media posts or other books by other authors, etc. While some are nice, it was also not really something that worked for me. It could be that I was not in the right frame of mind but overall I will admit it felt like a waste of time.

For the right person, though, this might be a great book to have on your shelf to pull out if you need some inspiration. This is probably skippable for many if you follow similar social media accounts or have other similar inspirational books.

Borrowed from the library and that was best for me.

[Agung Wicaksono · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is exactly what its title promises: a grounding, compassionate guide for finding calm and clarity in the midst of life’s constant noise. Nedra Glover Tawwab has a gift for making big ideas feel approachable and practical. Her words never overwhelm; instead, they gently nudge you toward healthier choices, better boundaries, and a deeper sense of self.

What I love most is her style: simple, clear, and direct, yet never cold or clinical. Tawwab’s tone is warm and nonjudgmental, making her reflections feel like wise advice from a trusted friend. She uses everyday examples that make the lessons highly relatable, and each entry serves as both a reminder and an invitation to pause, reflect, and re-center.

This isn’t the type of book you rush through; it’s best taken in small doses. I’ve found it works beautifully as a morning ritual or as a reset on days when I need encouragement. With topics ranging from boundary-setting to rising above drama, every page offers a moment of validation and calm.

It’s the kind of book you’ll keep nearby, ready to return to whenever you need a reminder to breathe, reflect, and choose peace.

[Charmin · Rating 4 out of 5]

HIGHLIGHTS:
1. INTEGRITY:
- When nobody’s watching, I still choose to do X.
- Let people live in the lives they constructed (vs trying to get them to live differently).

2. FREEDOM:
- When you are unclear, you give others the liberty to make decisions for themselves that may not be good for you.

3. SELF:
- Self-knowledge reveals what you enjoy.
- Renew your self-commitments.
- Everyone wants the freedom to make their own life choices.
- Unlearn unhelpful habits.

4. COMMUNICATING:
- Communicating aggressively in relationships is not kind.
- Peace is accepting that you can’t change what happened.
- Not acknowledging your faults will harm your relationship.

5. ADVICE:
- Everyone’s advice is not equally valuable.
- Don’t give advice that nobody asked for.

6. BOUNDARIES:
- Losing people who liked you better when you didn’t have boundaries.
- There is no hierarchy of suffering.
- Speak up to not be passive aggressive.
- Prevent irritation where you can.
- Your perspective is rarely the only one.
- Response: “it isn’t for me”

7. “What do you portray to others that is inaccurate?”

8. You cannot retain the weight of someone else’s suffering.

[Donna · Rating 4 out of 5]

Loved this book! This book brings to light that even though you deep down already know this stuff, reading it in print helps to define or adds validity to your thoughts and feelings. For instance: "Energy and time are lost trying to save people from issues they continuously create. It's more peaceful to allow people to sit in the lives they construct than to try to get them to live differently.

Some people will make poor choices and never learn their lesson. It's hard to watch people suffer, but sometimes you can't do anything about it."

Wow! Yes, so true! I really related with many of her insights from the Instagram stories she shared.

[Rightman · Rating 1 out of 5]

English below:

Δεν μπορώ να πω ότι το συγκαταλέγω στα αγαπημένα μου βιβλία προς έμπνευση. Απεναντίας, δείχνει να είναι απλοϊκά γραμμένο δίνοντας μονίμως συμβουλές κανε εκείνο και το άλλο. Δεν αφήνει τον αναγνώστη να ακολουθήσει τις δικές του ατραπούς, καλλιεργώντάς την κρίση του. Εν τέλει το άφησα από τις πρώτες κιόλας σελίδες.

I wouldn't say that I consider it one of my favorite books for inspiration. On the contrary, it seems to be simply written, constantly giving advice like "do this" and "do that." It doesn't allow the reader to follow his or her own path, nurturing judgment. Ultimately, I abandoned it from the very first pages.

[Hilary · Rating 5 out of 5]

“Consider This” by Nedra Glover Tawwab is a timeless gem filled with small, digestible doses of wisdom that resonate deeply. Each page offers insight and guidance on boundaries, relationships, and self-awareness, making it a book I will most definitely revisit regularly. Tawwab’s ability to distill complex topics into simple, actionable advice is both comforting and empowering. This is a book I’ll keep forever, as its lessons feel like they can contribute to my constant growth and reflection. For the aforementioned reasons, I gave this book a well-deserved 5 stars.