This book will help you process where you are on this continuum and giving you practical ways of loving your child as you prepare him to be a future parent. But watch out. You might discover that you need to raise yourself first!
As a FTM, i have enjoyed reading about what God expects of me as i raise my children. I have gotten the conviction on the scriptural basis for training and discipline of my own children. The book is quite an eye opener and Dr. Mukolwe challenges you to think not only the present but over the fact that you are also raising a future parent.
I recommend this book to those seeking to raise Godly children, who will fear the Lord and love others.
Ideas learned from this book: 1) Just as an architect, builder, financier and resident can all legitimately claim ownership of a building, so does God claim ownership of us. God designed us, formed/knitted us, paid for us and lives in us. This is true about us and our kids. 2) The graph of age on the x-axis and intensity of discipline on the y-axis with a bell curve and peak between 3 and 5 years of age was new. It makes sense though. Our window of opportunity for forming our children's character starts at 9 months and closes at around 11 years but peaks between 3 and 5. Squander this window and suffer the consequences in the teenage years! We have choices about when to marry, if/when to have kids and how many kids to have. But once the kids are born we have no choice about when to raise them. 3) There are 4 levels of discipline: training, disobedience, rebellion and repetition. These levels should correspond with the intensity of the correction method (i.e. Number of spanks). 4) One job as parents is to help teach our children how to hear/discern the Holy Spirit. They must be trained to identify the voice apart from all the noise but we can't properly train unless we ourselves are adept at listening/discerning.
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