As if Women Matter is a collection of thought provoking essays on feminism, which brings out the many forms of disgraceful facts that revolve around it. Gloria has done many extensive researches on the subject in a developing country like India and also in the developed countries. Her informed mind has shed light on human trafficking, violence and other social injustice that still prevails in the society and other outrageous subjects. The Third Way, her revolutionary essay on sex trafficking is published in this book for the first time. The essays are not just scholarly but are perfectly timed as feminism has been much debated in all societies today.
Gloria Marie Steinem (born March 25, 1934) is an American feminist, journalist, and social and political activist who became nationally recognized as a leader of, and media spokeswoman for, the women's liberation movement in the late 1960s and 1970s. A prominent writer and key counterculture era political figure, Steinem has founded many organizations and projects and has been the recipient of many awards and honors. She was a columnist for New York magazine and co-founded Ms. magazine. In 1969, she published an article, " After Black Power, Women's Liberation", which, along with her early support of abortion rights, catapulted her to national fame as a feminist leader.
In 2005, Steinem worked alongside Jane Fonda and Robin Morgan to co-found the Women's Media Center, an organization that works to amplify the voices of women in the media through advocacy, media and leadership training, and the creation of original content. Steinem currently serves on the board of the organization. She continues to involve herself in politics and media affairs as a commentator, writer, lecturer, and organizer, campaigning for candidates and reforms and publishing books and articles.
This is a must read for every man and woman in their 20s, because it connects the dots between inequality, caste, political conservatism to gender oppression. Steinem's years in India and her understanding of the Indian situation is insightful.
Everyone should read some feminist literature, and Steinem is definitely a good place to start in my opinion. Easy to read and thought-provoking, her essays are generally still relevant in today's America and certainly in other parts of the world. And those essays that may seem outdated provide some historical background for "women who have no history," as Rosalind Miles so aptly puts it in her book, "Who Cooked The Last Supper." This book has encouraged me to further pursue self-education in the fields of feminism and women's history.
I don't think it will radically alter your point of view. I don't think it aims to either. What it will do and strives to, is nudge you towards that side of society, history, language, politics and economy wherein inequality exists between genders. You might not agree with her completely always, you might dissent but you cannot dismiss without a deep thought the book's point of view. A must read for the current generation to understand the journey women have undertaken to reach where we are.
A COLLECTION OF SOME OF STEINEM’S MOST FAMOUS ESSAYS
Gloria Marie Steinem (born 1934) is an American feminist, journalist, and social and political activist who was a columnist for New York magazine and co-founded Ms. magazine. She also co-founded the Women's Media Center, and serves on its board. She was married for three years to David Bale, before his death.
Editor Ruchira Gupta is an Indian activist and journalist. She provides helpful introductions to all the essays in this collection (and very useful background about conditions for women in India, and for Steinem’s one-year fellowship in India after she graduated from college).
Steinem wrote in the Preface to this 2014 collection, “This book exists because my friend and colleague, Ruchira Gupta, thought that some of my writings over the years might be useful to the many women and men in India who are working for more empathy and equality---and far less violence---between women and men… in the years when I was writing the essays in this book studies of tribal societies were already proving that polarized gender roles were the best indicator of other forms of violence within that society, and also of the likelihood that it would use violence against outsiders… I understand now the theme of violence against females which runs through these essays like a red thread. Perhaps for the first time in human history, women are no longer half the human race. Because of femicide the world sex ratio is 100 women to 101.3 men.”
Gupta explains in her ‘Why This Book’ chapter, “When I began contesting the AIDS control programme of the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation, which was designed to protect male buyers from disease rather than protecting prostituted women and girls from male buyers, Steinem became my more powerful ally. Not only was she one of the few who were willing to stand up to such big money, but she also understood that the programme… ignored the interests of that poorest and weakest girl… by editing this book, I hope to share Gloria’s courage and hope with so many sisters across India where the movement is really moving!” (Pg. xviii-xix)
In a 1994 essay, Steinem recalls, “some of the most privileged … rich young women… were self-deprecating, lost and fearful of losing their looks or their husbands… they seemed uncertain that they could be independent… By the mid-1980s, I had come to a conclusion I wasn’t sure I should state out loud: There are many ways in which class doesn’t work for women and some in which it is actually reversed.” (Pg. 24)
In her 1979 essay ‘The Importance of Work,’ Steinem notes, “Job interviewers and even our own families may still ask salaried women the big ‘Why?’ If we have small children at home or are in a job regarded as ‘men’s work,’ the incidence of such questions increases. Condescending or accusatory versions of ‘What’s a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?’ have not disappeared from the office or the factory.” (Pg. 40) She adds, “Perhaps modern feminists have been guilty of a kind of reverse snobbism that keeps us from reaching out to the wives and daughters of wealthy men; yet it was a few such women who refused the restrictions of class and financed the suffragist wave of revolution.” (Pg 43-44)
In a 1980 essay, she states, “Middle-class women are beginning to cultivate fitness and strength… All women need strength---health, muscles, endurance---if we are to literally change the world.” (Pg. 50)
In her 1992 essay on self-esteem, she asserts, “I had internalized society’s unserious estimate of all that was female---including myself. This was low self-esteem, not logic. Should a black woman demonstrate for the right to eat at … lunch counters in the South… quietly leave when refused service at an expensive New York restaurant on account of her sex? Of course not… But I had been raised to consider any judgments based on sex alone less important than…. [those] based on race, class, or anything else alone.” (Pg. 71-72)
In her 1992 essay on Romance and Love, she suggests, “Romance itself serves a larger political purpose by offering at least a temporary reward for gender roles and threatening rebels with loneliness and rejection. It also minimizes the very anti-patriarchal and revolutionary possibility that women and men will realize each other’s shared humanity … Finally, it privatizes our hopes and distracts us from making societal changes… Perhaps the greatest testimony to the power of this ‘feminine/masculine’ romantic paradigm is that even same-sex couples are not immune to it.” (Pg. 101)
In her 1977 essay on ‘Erotica Versus Pornography,’ she points out that the word ‘pornography’ [from the Greek root ‘porne’] “implies an imbalance of power… There is even role-reversal pornography, with a woman whipping or punishing a man, though it’s significant that this genre seems to be created by men for their own pleasure, not by or for women, and allows men to pretend to be victims---but without real danger.” (Pg. 129) She adds, “If Nazi propaganda that justified the torture and killing of Jews were the theme of half of our most popular movies and magazines, would we not be outraged? If Ku Klux Klan propaganda … were the subject of much-praised ‘classic’ novels, would we not protest? We know that such … propaganda … justifies the racist acts of pogroms and lynchings.” (Pg. 132)
In her famous 1963 essay, ‘I Was a Playboy Bunny,’ she reports, “I was fitted for false eyelashes… I paid… $8.13 for the eyelashes and a cake of rouge, even after the 25% Bunny discount. I had refused to invest in darker lipstick even though ‘girls get fired for looking pale.’ … I have measured the lashes; they are ¾ of a inch long at their shortest point… Bunnies must always appear gay and cheerful… there are … instructions for specific jobs. Door Bunnies greet customers… Camera Bunnies must operate Polaroids… Cigarette Bunnies explain why a pack of cigarettes can’t be bought without a Playboy lighter… Table Bunnies memorize thirteen pages of drinks. There’s more to Bunnyhood than stuffing bosoms.” (Pg. 165, 167)
In a 1995 essay, she argues, “reproductive freedom is simply a way of stating what feminism has been advancing for thousands of years. Witches and gypsies were freedom fighters for women because they taught contraception and abortion. It was mainly this knowledge that made them anathema to the patriarchs of the past. In the … 19th and 20th centuries, advocating ‘birth control’… even for married women, was enough to jail many feminist crusaders.” (Pg. 199) She adds, “‘Women’s Lib’ or ‘Women’s Libber’ were trivializing terms that feminists argued against. (Would we say, ‘Algerian Lib’? ‘Black Libber’?) (Pg. 201) She also notes, “many more women are becoming the men they wanted to marry, but too few men are becoming the women they wanted to marry. That leaves most women with two jobs, one outside the home and one in it.” (Pg. 207)
In a 1978 essay, she asks, “what would happen if … magically, men could menstruate, and women could not? Clearly menstruation would become an enviable, boast-worthy, masculine event. Men would brag about how long and how much. Young boys would talk about it as the envied beginning of manhood… Sanitary supplies would be federally funded and free… Statistical surveys would show that men did better in sports … during their periods.” (Pg. 231)
This is a fine collection of some of Steinem’s most famous essays, that will be of great interest to feminists (both in India, and elsewhere).
Standout essays - The Masculinization of Wealth, The Politics of Food, In Praise of Women's Bodies Again, The Third Way, If Men Could Menstruate.
Selected quotes:
"Masculinity requires superiority to females, and since that is a lie, it can only be maintained by violence or the threat of violence."
"In truth, gender roles are elaborate cultural inventions of subject/object, active/passive, that rose up over centuries to allow male control of reproduction by controlling women's bodies and freedom."
"Whatever a 'superior' group has will be used to justify its superiority, and whatever an 'inferior' group has will be used to justify its plight. Black men were given poorly paid jobs because they were said to be 'stronger' than white men, while all women were relegated to poorly paid jobs because they were said to be 'weaker'."
This is my first read on feminism and I am glad I picked this book. Before I read any of Steinem's book, I had come across the school thought according to which Steinem borders more on the men-hating feminist. At first, I was a bit disappointed to see these essays written in 70's and 80's. I was like how relevant could they be? This book proved it otherwise as I read pages after pages..
Steinem has beautifully covered how important it is for women to work not just for financial needs but to tap one's inner potential and enjoy the process of being productive to the society.
Steinem's brand of feminism doesn't seem to sex-negative but she is very much opposed to exploitation of women in prostitution and pornography. Her essay on Erotica vs Pornography delineates a picture very much relevant to India, the place where I belong. For every one women I know who chooses prostitution as a means for extra cash or full-time profession, there might be scores who can't change their employers or procession at will and face violence at the hands of their 'clients'.
In one of her essays Romance versus Love, she has explained how lack of self-esteem leads people into wrong relationships. So many women I see around me try so hard to stay back in relationships where they have little respect because they are simply hoping for a dream/fantasy to come true instead to being the person they would love to love and settling for a person whom they really love. And not those whose projection in future they would love! Getting into a relationship with an aim to change the other person is not worthwhile and IMO shows lack of integrity in character.
I loved how she says that treating either sex as unequal robs women and men of full humanity!
This book was certainly enlightening and I am looking forward to reading more books on feminism not just by Gloria Steinem, but by many other feminists in order to have a balanced view.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
I only read two essays in this book: "What is Self Esteem?" and "Romance vs Love" and they transformed my life. Steinem weaves together a critical examination of various scholarly and literary works to explain to the reader why romance is an obsessive pattern of seeking control over another person, stemming from gendered societal norms, self esteem issues, and our inability to fully find and love our true selves. She evokes character analysis from Jane Eyre and contrasts it with Wuthering Heights, and sprinkles the analysis with her own personal experiences with dating to make for an extremely humane and kind dive into the complicated nature of human self-perceptions and relationships.
This book, like I said, transformed the way I look at love, and it edged me closer to a framework to look at all my current relationships with. Going through a tough post breakup phase, it made me realise that what I felt for my partner was not love but an obsession with romance. And more importantly, her words have made me want to heal myself by finding what I am truly capable of loving. Some quotes from "Romance vs Love" which I cherished (I actually ended up highlighting more than half the essay because there is just endless wisdom and insight in there):
"But if romance has its source in an incompleteness of self, it's unlikely to turn into love: the neediness and low self-esteem of the lovers is the worst adversary of anything deeper and more lasting."
"Romance is an intense form of curiosity"
"To be together is for us to be at once as free as in solitude, as gay as in company."
"Perhaps that's what love is: the momentary or prolonged refusal to think of another person in terms of power."
What I like about this book is that each preceding each essay is a note by Ruchira Gupta- a literal hero(ine) who saves trafficked woman in India. She talks about each essay and how it relates to the Indian context which was very nice. She has even organized the essays in such a thoughtful manner, and her selection of the essays is extremely broad covering various types of issues- really making this book "The essential gloria steinman reader".
Gloria Steinman is an amazing writer. It shocked me so many times to see that her essays were written in the 1970s because a lot her ideas and essays are even more ahead than 2021. She makes you think with each and every essay, and there were so many times I was overwhelmed with emotion wanting to give this book 10 stars. I thought with the heavy topics I'd end up feeling stressed but that wasn't the case because she writes in a way that's thought provoking but doesn't scare the living daylights out of you. Also while reading her works you get the feeling that there are no borders between people it's so naturally and effortlessly inclusive.
This book has fundamentally changed the way I see the world. I thought I knew a lot, but it's a great reminder that it's always a good time to learn.
3.5. It is Gloria Steinem so there isn’t much I can say about the writing except that it is well-researched, brilliant and insightful. As far as the essays are concerned, whether it is the analysis of Emily Brontë and the debate between early critics and recent feminists about how she devised her characters (early critics say Heathcliff was a man Emily had known where as many feminists believe that because Emily was so isolated socially she hadn’t been accustomed by society to identify with gender and so she got inspired by her own nature and wrote both Heathcliff and Catherine in the book), an exposé of the Bunny routine, a cheeky essay on if men could menstruate, women trafficking or Gandhi and women, Steinem is exceptional in her undertaking.
However, the edition itself, in my opinion, could have been compiled in a better way. There was no context to most essays despite some introductory quotes by Ruchira Gupta and most of the pieces despite their profundity and relevance did not move me - mainly because they were placed so haphazardly within the book. I wish the editor of the book had spent more time assessing the order of the essays and their reproduction in the book.
I often find people with misconception about feminism, often encounter women struggling to understand what sort of rebel they need to be to make a positive change in this world for women. loved steinem's idea of listening to people, taking to the people before making any outrageous comment on any socio-economic system. loved her zeal, passion for feminism...the world needs more women like her.
This select compilation includes articles that show the evolution of the thoughts of Gloria Steinem for feminism through listening, understanding and responding to each particular situation. It should be read by all girls and women, young and old, for its historical interest and for guidance on how to continuing her trailblazing efforts to continue to advocate for change for women. I was glad to have chosen this as my first book on feminist writing. I had until now avoid any feminist reading because of their general firebrand and aggressive approach. This book has initiated for me a keen interest in women's issues and further reading. I will read and re-read this book.