10 Things I Hate About My Husband: How God healed my heart, restored my marriage & set me free

by Shayla Huber, Stephanie Miller (editor), Chelsia McCoy (editor)

Did you marry the love of your life, yet haven’t quite found your happily ever after?
Have you been struggling with anger, resentment or bitterness towards your husband yet you can’t put a finger on WHY?
In her book, 10 Things I Hate About My Husband, Shayla reveals many of the things she resented about her husband had more to do with herself than her husband. From money and communication struggles to feeling like a single mom with no help, her book paints the story of how one woman’s quest to better her marriage turned into a full-blown heart-healing experience with her Heavenly Father. God intended marriage to be a beautiful picture of His love for us, and that is exactly what you will find in these pages!

Genres: Marriage

201 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 25, 2024

Reviews

[Brittany Perez · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book popped up on my tiktok feed and the message was something that resonated with me so I bought it. At first I was really vibing with everything and then I get to this part of the book where she says God’s purpose is to bring you a rich and satisfying life. I kept pushing on hoping that was just a misunderstanding but that mindset continues on.
I’m sorry but God’s purpose is not to serve me in any way. He does give me a rich and satisfying life but only because He is good and merciful. Not because He has to.
There are some good elements to the book but personally I couldn’t get past the underlying theology here.

[Trisha Airington · Rating 3 out of 5]

I appreciated the message of this book and overall it was good for me and had a bunch of good reminders. What I didn’t appreciate was the blatant marketing of the author’s direct sales business while trying to help women with their marriages through God. I felt like that piece was a bit tacky at best. Other than that, the overall message was good, and I’m not mad I read it.

[Alyssa Lit · Rating 1 out of 5]

Update: I’ve just gone and found her Tik Tok account. She links ANOTHER mlm called Amare selling some Happy Juice weight loss garbage. I won’t be supporting an author who touts Jesus and Scripture while also intentionally participating in scams that are insanely harmful to women and their families. Officially DNFing this one.


I am not yet finished but undecided if I want to go on. “Network marketing” “my business” “wanted to help others by being on my team” “won the free car” “leadership conventions”.

Girl, you were (are? I haven’t gotten far enough yet) in MLMs. Actively scamming other people for money is never condoned by the Lord and I have a lot of apprehension about reading a book full of scripture from a woman who seems so comfortable to perpetuate this vile form of financial abuse. I’m only 48 pages in and she’s mentioned her “network marketing business” at least 300x already. Yuck. I am going to try to read some more and see if there are any decent tidbits to pick out but so far this just needs to be called ‘How an MLM Ruined My Marriage.’

Looking like prime DNF territory.

[Alyson · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book offers great insight into honoring and serving your husband by strengthening your relationship with God first. I wish it provided more depth, but overall, it was still a solid read.

[Jessi · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’m really glad I read this. I felt seen and heard by many things she described and her words motivated me to shift some of my thoughts in a Godly direction.

[Amy Hudak · Rating 2 out of 5]

I couldn’t finish this book. I really wish it wasn’t almost every page that her mlm business would be brought up. Nothing against those that do it- but this took a total turn for me. Not at all what I expected. 😞

[Amber · Rating 2 out of 5]

Don't. do. it.

My only consolation is that I got this book for free on Kindle, so I didn't actually lose any money on this monstrosity. It's a shame. I saw her talking about this book on tiktok, and it had me quite intrigued, and I was actually very excited to read this book. I've never been so disappointed.

This book is the first book in ages that landed in my DNF pile. I survived 3-4 chapters, and then I just couldn't anymore. Within those few chapters, this woman is already on her 3rd or 4th MLM scheme. every chapter presents a different struggle she faced in her marriage, and in every chapter, she solved that problem by joining a new MLM company. need more money? this company helped me make LOADS. need more energy to clean up after my husband? this company fixed all my mental and physical exhaustion, so now I can joyfully pick up his dirty socks.

I read the reviews on this book and on Amazon, she has amazing reviews but by now i suspect most of thoss reviews stem from other huns who probably didntceven read the book but just have her a stellar review to encourage ths hun cult. goodreads had more honest reviews about how insufferable the MLM pushing was. I was hoping it would be a tiny remark here and there that I could overlook. dont be deceived. this book is saturated with "MLM fixed all my problems," and you can't simply skip over those bits.

the ONLY reason I gave this book 2 stars instead of one is because if you could possibly scram away all ths propaganda and product pushing and cult mentality, the 2 or 3 sentences per page about the reality of her marriage and what God wants from us and our marriagscwere actually pretty good and relatable. this could very well have been a 5 star book for me if it stuck to the original premise. unfortunately huns can rarely function in reality without the constant mention of whatever their current company is and how this miracle product changed their lives and rescued their marriage. if she ever left the cult and came back to reality, this book could have some real potential.

until then....

dont read this book.

[Estelle Lancaster · Rating 3 out of 5]

I thought the message was great, very helpful for Christian marriage that is counter cultural. It teaches how to love from overflow of knowing Jesus and abiding in His love, knowing that your needs and everything your soul longs for is met through our perfect Savior, not expecting your husband to fill those broken parts. However, she mentioned her mlm a few too many times for me to want to read every word. So I skimmed through the chapters and began writing out my own list of what tends to make me irritable towards my husband to be able to work through with the help of my therapist. Knowing what makes me angry, and how that points to inner child wounds that Christ alone heals. So a very helpful book that points me to go more in depth, but I’m wasn’t fond of the many mentions of her mlm journey. As someone who went down that route for a time, I know the mlm journey was just a way that showed my anxiety around money. I thought that was where she was going, but after several mentions, I wasn’t too sure.

I do love her Tik Tok page, she does talk about biblical marriage that isn’t transactional, and how to release resentment and accusations and replace it truth and grace.

[Mackenzie · Rating 2 out of 5]

I’ll start by saying I did not grow up in a home that was devoted to god. I had grandparents that forced the message and parents who felt it only was needed to go to church for holidays. It’s very hard for me to believe in something I can’t physically see. I try to be open but it is harder for me.

I do like most of Shayla’s points in her book but I could have cared less about her MLM businesses. She could have touched on it but not went above and beyond what it was.

I also have a hard time with “serving my husband and the lord will help your husband love you”. I shouldn’t have to keep serving my husband with no change being made. It takes two and if one end isn’t putting in the work, where’s god?

The 5 love language part is huge and a great tip for others who don’t know about Gary Chapman’s book. And the money over everything chapter is also great because it is true. We just didn’t need an entire chapter basically on MLM’s.

Overall, 2/5. Wouldn’t buy this book. It was free on kindle.

[Tracy]

I felt as if Shayla was talking directly to me! I have experienced so much since getting married at 39 years old. I went from just me to having an instant family equipped with a husband, 2 boys, and a daughter that all moved in to my house. The first year was hard and we made it through and each year I kept thinking "okay, this is going to get easier." Instead, I keep finding myself so very frustrated! With aging parents (I was very late into my parents' life), keeping up with a farm I began before meeting my husband, and adding in an instant family, I finally thought it just wasn't worth it! Like, why in the world am I dealing with all this stress and doing everything their own mom should be doing and being completely drained! I started praying heavily and found a verse mapping journal. Not too long after, I found this book! If you are a Godly woman, yet struggling with marriage, I am telling you to please, PLEASE read this book! Yes, I am just starting to really work on myself but this book has given me the courage to not give up and know that God has me where He wants me!

[Kaitlin Avila · Rating 5 out of 5]

For this being her first book, I thought it was great! She is challenging cultural norms of how we feel entitled to our feelings and puts it up against the word of God. I appreciate her obedience to the Holy Spirit and being raw and unfiltered with her struggles. I watched her tik toks for a long time and had convinced myself not to buy it and after hanging out with a friend, she was talking about this book and let me borrow it! I’m so thankful she did! I also love the verse, prayer, and writing prompts at the end of each chapter.

[Hannelie · Rating 2 out of 5]

I just couldn't finish it. Read the first few chapters and skimmed through the rest. If you have read an in-depth book about marriage or received proper pre-marital or marriage counselling, nothing in this book should be new to you. I didn't see any blatant untruths, and it seems like most of the advice is sound. It is written very colloquially to a specific audience, but it just didn't feel relatable to me. I don't think that I am the target audience.

[Carleigh · Rating 5 out of 5]

A Must read book for every wife

Shayla is real and vulnerable throughout the book sharing her struggles of having an orphan spirit and how God healed it.

The book is full of wisdom and biblical principles that you will want to highlight and return to.

It helped me realize that I was putting responsibilities on my husband that only God would fill.

I love the part at the end where she wrote a letter to her husband as it empowered me to do the same.

[Jamie · Rating 5 out of 5]

This entire book spoke to me. One thing I wished as I was reading, is that I wished I would’ve found this book sooner or it was written many years ago. I believe every wife should read this. The title is not what you think. It’s the subtitle that’s important. So men if you’re reading this, buy this book for your wife. Women read it. You will thank me and Shayla later.

[Megan · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Perfect Guide

It was like I was being directly spoken to by God through Shayla and her book. I'm forever grateful for this. In this time of my healing, I'll read this way more than once, and probably every year for my lifetime. 2000 stars out of 5. God bless you Shayla, and your husband and family. Thank you for this, truly.

[Shavonnah Buskey · Rating 5 out of 5]

I enjoyed the writing and how many scriptures the author used in the book. I took something from each chapter and plan on using this book as something I will come back to throughout my marriage. I loved the authors honesty about her experiences and lessons she learned. I was able to relate to a lot of stories.

[Taylor Clark · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was the book my heart never knew it needed. I kept seeing it everywhere on TikTok and thought “it can’t really be that helpful”

WRONG! I was barely 2 chapters in and already rethinking allloootttttttt in my marriage and looking at me more than blaming my husband. Which as women we know we love to do. Seriously this book is amazing, and not your normal “self help” book.

[Cara Ungerecht · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read!

If you value your marriage and have a love for God this is a must read!!! I have recommended it to so many friends already and plan to continue to do so!!! I hope they all read it and get as much from it as I did!

[Ginna Prutzman · Rating 3 out of 5]

Overall I appreciated the message of this book and felt like it hit home for the girls who feel like they may be leading their household right now, but she def could have gone without sprinkling in all her pyramid scheme drama 😂

[Keshia Burchette · Rating 3 out of 5]

We've all been there, having not so great feelings towards our husband. Shayla was very candid about her relationship with her husband and with Christ.

[Nicole Van Beek · Rating 5 out of 5]

This gives so much insight how to love your spouse through the hard stuff.

[Allie Perez · Rating 5 out of 5]

So well written. I truly enjoyed this! It gives great insight to day-to-day struggles with your spouse. God-inspired truths!

[Carissa Southworth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow. Just wow. This book absolutely tore open my heart. It made me take a good hard look at my life and my marriage and completely reshaped my thinking.

[roxann · Rating 5 out of 5]

loved it 😇

I truly liked how this book not only has her life experiences but she matches it to Bible verses that have reminded me or have and are helping me with parts I needed to heal. I see myself different but I pray to also see it in my spouse as I’m Changing my bad habits ❤️ thank you Shayla

[Gina Ritter · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such a great book for newly weds or even older women struggling in their relationships. Christian-based book that teaches women how to love their husbands the way God intended

[amber · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book

So many amazing points. I have tons of notes taken from this book. I’m finding a new love for my husband again!

[Kaley · Rating 3 out of 5]

I really appreciated the thought reframing this book demonstrated!

[Lacy Nicole Ours · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read for every wife!

[Kelly (Chumbley) Carpenter · Rating 5 out of 5]

Don’t let the title fool you. This was an excellent book about God and marriage and learning to love better without projecting onto your spouse. Highly recommend.

[Kristy Gant · Rating 5 out of 5]

Truly opened my eyes and changed my perspective.
I think every married woman should take the time to read.