My aunt gave my mom this book; she enjoyed it and passed it along to me. I do like to read Christmas stories in season. At first I enjoyed it so much I thought I'd keep it and reread it some time. But then, eh ... no, I decided I'm okay parting with it for someone else to enjoy.
It started out engrossing enough, with the mayor of the town finding a baby in an outdoor nativity scene at a church. That part of the story stuck with me, partly because I know someone well who's had to work with abandoned children (wishing she could take them all home), and partly because I know another family who tried to adopt, but the birth mother changed her mind after a couple of days. And I was rocking babies myself earlier today, volunteering, to give some moms a break... sweet moments, sweet little soft cherubs ... but I am too tired to start over with infants.
The next part of the book would've been funny if I'd been a younger mom myself. As it was, it was more a matter of course. Yes, of course, the mayor would underestimate the job of caring for the baby. Yes, of course, she had no idea what she was getting into or what it takes to care for a baby. Yes, of course, she figured it out. Maybe it wasn't funny to me because I've lived that sort of scene too many times. I have spent a lot of time over the course of my life laughing at the absurdities of parenting.
I liked how Sara handled her prickly grandmother, with both kindness and the ability to just brush off the barbs without taking offense.
The story line with the Reverend Ben facing burnout began to interest me more than the baby story line. I felt sorry for the man, preaching to people who don't seem to change, trying to help people who won't take his advice. It reminded me of parenting a teen, actually. (And I shouldn't say that because I actually have some very good teens. But there are moments when they don't take the cautious way that I would over something.) We've all faced burnout before, at some time or another in our lives.
I did like Reverend Ben's advice to Emily: "If you really feel that way deep down inside, it's a hard thing to ignore. But sometimes it's hard to distinguish if those intimations are really from some greater source or from our own deepest longings, Emily." Amen. It's important - and difficult - to be able to discern the difference.
Bur Reverend Ben did say something that troubled me, though. "We can't ignore our inner voice, our intuitive feelings. Some people might say that's the way angels advise us." Angels? Speaking through our inner voice? Hmm. The Holy Spirit might speak internally to us that way, but if the angels do, they're not the angels of God, but fallen angels. Shudder. The angels that God sent in the Bible had clear, distinctive missions for the glory of God. But this statement of Ben's was not a main point in the book. Even the character Emily noted that it wasn't the way Reverend Ben normally spoke, but she didn't try to evaluate it, either.
If you want to know more about the Biblical view of angels, I'd recommend "Are Angels Real?" by Kathleen Bostrom, if you can get over the cutesy pictures. Every line of it is documented by a Bible verse in the back.
Or Reverend Ben's talking angels within him could have been mental illness.
At one point, it seemed like all three couples in this story had an inability to actually talk with each other and work through issues. Instead, they made dramatic, radical decisions without consulting with each other. Emily decided to foster and then adopt the baby, without regard to how her husband felt about it. Without even asking him or telling him until later. Reverend Ben decided to go on a sabbatical in another country for a whole year without telling his wife, and expected her to drop her job and just come along. Sara didn't tell Luke how she felt about his old flame, Christina, and how Sara needed Luke to set up some clear boundaries with her. Instead, Sara just blew up at them. In fact, all these situations involved the couples blowing up. I was a little concerned about Reverend Ben trying to counsel these people after treating his own wife that way. I wasn't sure he understood the dynamics of the give-and-take of a relationship in order to do so.
"If I'm going to lose Luke to that woman this way, I never really had him to begin with." Sara made this comment, and I'd already been thinking something similar. If he wanted to leave, then eventually he would leave, either with Christina or someone else who came along. If he wanted to leave, then he wasn't worth keeping. But it was still important to talk things through, because Sara missed seeing that this wasn't the case at all.
It bothered me some how the Reverend Ben's burnout issue was solved... SPOILER. A building burned down and his church helped the newly homeless. It just seemed like the Reverend Ben was so happy to see his congregation helping them that he wasn't very compassionate himself towards those who had suffered. I realize that the situation revealed how much of his teaching that his congregation had already absorbed in his unawares, but he seemed to be happier over that instead of distressed on behalf of those who were suffering. He even called it a miracle. What? A building burning down? Sounded more like faulty wiring or even arson, since it was a contested building. I wondered how those suffering would've felt if they'd heard him call it a miracle. It just didn't sit well with me, as if the characters who were helping were more important, somehow, than those being helped, and the unfortunate only existed as a plot devise to highlight the good deeds of the congregation.
Whenever I help and volunteer, I have to remember that although I might feel good for helping, that it's just a drop in the bucket as far as all that they are facing and suffering, that their perspective on my helping is different than my own. It doesn't solve everything. They are still suffering, even if they are touched that someone cares, and maybe some of the logistics go easier.
As much of modern Christian fiction goes, this book was not really specifically Christian. The characters could've believed anything and the plot still would've been the same. Apart from the angels talking to him, Reverend Ben didn't really say what he believed. Nothing about Jesus, so who knows?
Favorite quote:
"Why is everyone always trying to get me out of my house? I like my house. I'm comfortable here. Other people's houses are not nearly as nice."