لحظه‌های واقعی

by Barbara De Angelis, لیلا آزادی

عنوان دیگر: «لحظه های ناب و حقیقی» ؛

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Spirituality, Personal Development, Inspirational

336 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1994

About the author

Barbara De Angelis Ph.D. is one of the most influential teachers of our time in the field of relationships and personal growth. For the past twenty-five years, she has reached tens of millions of people throughout the world with her positive messages about love, happiness and the search for meaning in our lives. As a best-selling author, popular television personality and sought after motivational speaker, Barbara has been a pioneer in the field of personal transformation as one of the first people to popularize the idea of self-help in the 1980's, and as one of the first nationally recognized female motivational teachers on television.

Reviews

[Grocelyn]

steve jobs says : “Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

the same as what BARBARA De ANGELES wants to say , dont let other people , limit urself , dont let people will rule you .. , we have to be happy , we deserve to be happy ! of course .. do what u want as long as you r happy .. the true happiness not only the material thing and thats the big challenge to seek it ..

the true happiness is ther beside you , the friends u used to share a problem with , the family you have and ur partner that always beside you .. Life is to short , ejoy it while ur breathing .. start ur day , discovering the true happiness that can make u felled happy ..

lastly , make every moments of ur life memorable and valuable !

[Dan]

I would scratch the "Discover the Secret for True Happiness" part of the title. We've all probably read enough self help books to know better. Invariably they tend to say similar things packaged in different ways. But Barbara De Angelis shares compelling personal experiences and how she handled/handles them without over simplification or waxing too methodical.

[Kathy]

This is the first DeAngelis book that I read YEARS ago, and I loved it! It helps you slow down and enjoy what's in front of you instead of agonizing about the past or worrying about the future! I've read many of her other titles.

[Elmira Hamidi]

This book helped me a lot to discover the real moments in my life. I strongly recommend it to all. It is one of the most influential books I have ever read:)

[Scout Collins]

4.5 stars
This was my "subway" book that my mom actually owns, so it took me a long time to read (considering I mostly read it on the subway)!

This book was well-written, engaging, the right length, and enjoyable. The author's style is good and even people who don't love self-help books would probably like it too.

One thing I really liked about this book were the anecdotes. The author's personal stories were touching, easily relatable, and really added to the book.

Good things
Car salesman story, page 68. The author was frustrated about being late because of the 'moron' car salesman, but when she decided to stop being judgmental and try to understand, it put things in perspective.

How I Met My Mirror in the Sky story, page 79. Author's experience with a young girl on a plane made her think and taught her a lot. Again, the story was touching and relatable.

Giving birth to yourself: Questions to Ask
Who am I?
Am I living as the person I want to be?
What have I really been doing with my life?
Am I happy?
What brings me joy?
What do I need to let go of to be free?
"Asking and answering them requires great emotional courage. It means seeing parts of yourself you've been ignoring, facing truths about your life you've been evading, confronting dreams you've been avoiding." (De Angelis, 92).

"If I... work two extra hours and get overtime pay, that's a benefit I can put in my pocket-that's meaningful. But if I spend those same two hours talking with my wife, or walking by myself, where's the benefit? I can't measure it, and so it doesn't appear to hold as much meaning and value as working overtime did." (199).

"Women like asking questions. Men like having answers." (200).

"You cannot kill your ability to feel terror, shame, and grief without killing your ability to feel joy, love, and compassion." (203)

"To conquer a wound, you must heal it, and to heal it, you must feel it." (204).
- It's important for men to cry (obvious, but good that it was talked about in the book)

"When you give your children material things as replacements for love, you teach them that it is objects, not love, which will bring them happiness." (216).

- Silence and connecting with yourself are important.

Bad things
Book is a little outdated - written in 1994. The way the author looks at the roles of men and women is still somewhat true today, but not fully. (It's written with the attitude of someone older).

Some religious references to 'God'/the Bible were annoying. In this book it wasn't too incessant so I was able to get over it for the most part.

Things
Your job is what you do to make money, your Work is what you do to "survive emotionally and support your spirit" (118). Your Work is your Purpose.

Recommendation
It is a book worth reading and rereading! Would recommend to all interested in self-help, self-betterment, parenting, romantic relationships, etc.

[Claudette]

(Audiobook) This is an old book but a good one as it's still relevant to our time today in the 21st Century. Take note of the 'current moment' and appreciate the moment. Find gratitude in the present moment and don't take it for granted. Make time with a loved one or yourself a moment (an experience).

[Suzanne]

I bought this book on Amazon in November 2023.
It contains 15 chapters and 272 pages.
The book was written in 1994.
The sentences are well-written as the author holds a PhD.
However, the content is very repetitive, and the author talks about herself in most of the chapters.
The book did not introduce any new self-help concepts.

[JinyanC]

I read this book by Chinese so I don’t sure how the same content. The book is talk about herself- job, life, family. The main meaning I can get that real moment, don’t think many things future, if you think you can’t be better at the moment. Just enjoy life at the moment.

[Tesfa]

I read this back when i was in college. There were times when i was really bored and seeking some relief from titles. Just then i found this book and just after 15 pages it got me rethink. She'd tell you straight up to your face.

[Sonya]

The book that change my life forever. Highlighted and read so many times. Takes one of the simplest concepts and brings it into every aspect of life.

[Nasim]

هنر در لحظه زندگی کردن

[Tiffany Burns]

Note to myself that this was via audiobook.

[Richard]

This is a book about the real moments that make life mater, and how to have more of them. It is about experiencing fulfillment and meaning in your life now, not when you have more money, or find the right partner, or achieve your perfect weight, but in this and every moment. Barbara DeAngelis explains that we experience happiness not because of what we get, but because of how we live each moment.
The latter how-to chapters are better than the early chapters where she describes the problems we have. I’ve gleaned several good quotes from her book. If I should want to read it again it is in the 158 section of our library. This book helped me to enjoy life and people and gave me the desire to continue to strive to enjoy “the moment.”

[Betty]

I read the first chapter and learned that each MOMENT is important and we need to learn to live in the present and enjoy each day.....not looking forward to some EVENT to make us happy! I skimmed most of the rest of the book, but love the idea of grasping happiness in the little things.

[Carole Z]

reading this now! Learning a lot about living in the moment!

[Ernst]

Stimulating, thought provoking, orientative

[Mary Ellen]

This is an oldie but a goodie! Do yourself a favor and read this book!

[Erica Chang]

After reading this book I no longer watch the news and I love it!

[Tina]

I enjoyed this book.

[Shaoola]

A good read with good lessons in it

[Jakub Kolčář]

I did really like this book and the style of Barbara De Angelis

[Elizabeth]

Not bad.

[Cws]

158

[Spirit Fionna]

a must buy for my library... she is one of my favorite non fiction author of alltime

[Bryon Brandt]

This book was a touching gift from a coworker.

So it provided a Real Moment, before I'd even started reading it.