Stop Lying to Yourself: 101 Hard Truths to Help You Change Your Life

by Simon Gilham

"What is the one thing that you are holding onto, that you know you need to let go of?"

No more excuses!

Wherever you are at in your life, if you do not feel like the happiest, most honest version of yourself, this book is for YOU. From relationships to friendships, and mental health to physical appearance, we all struggle; but we are not alone. And we can do something about it.

Simon Gilham has built a dedicated community of over 9 million people worldwide through his videos that tell you what you need to hear, even if it’s not what you want to hear.

In Stop Lying to Yourself, for the first time, he brings all his most sought-after advice together with completely new quotes, prompts and practical self-help steps to create a straight-talking, inspirational handbook for us all.

Read in one sitting or dip in and out, this book might sometimes feel challenging, but it will always feel empowering, so that you can finally make the positive change you deserve, today.

'If it makes you happy, it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.'

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction

202 pages, Kindle Edition

Published August 22, 2024

About the author

Simon Gilham is a British author, social media influencer, and CEO, best known for his self-help book, Stop Lying to Yourself, and his substantial online presence on platforms like TikTok and Instagram. His book reached the Sunday Times bestseller list and has garnered international acclaim for its straightforward, motivational content. Gilham’s online community spans over nine million followers worldwide, where he shares empowering advice on personal growth and relationships.

Reviews

[bee! ʚɞ · Rating 1 out of 5]

As a chronically online girlypop, I was stunned to recognize huge chunks of this book from Twitter, TikTok, and Instagram. Not even a half-hearted paraphrase, just straight-up word-for-word copy-paste energy. It’s WILD.

Can’t decide if I’m impressed or deeply concerned that this is what passes for a published self-help book these days. Again… WILDDD.

[Abigail Allen · Rating 4 out of 5]

The sort of book I would normally scoff at, but actually it was pretty useful

[Naomi · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5*

[Gwen (Draco’s Version) · Rating 1 out of 5]

put me in a rage - most of these ‘profound’ truths were tweets/memes I saw on Instagram when I was 13 🫡🫡 (or common sense?!)

[Sandra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Daqueles livros que não damos nada por eles, mas que quando abrimos… nos dizem tanto.
Conjunto de frases e textos que nos ajudam a tornarmo-nos a melhor versão de nós mesmos.
Gostei muito, principalmente pela sua simplicidade.

[Ier · Rating 4 out of 5]

This helped me

[Lucy S · Rating 2 out of 5]

Some helpful reminders, but I found myself thinking "these feel like needlessly dramatic Facebook or Instagram posts" and then I realised this written by an influencer and everything made sense.

[Chan · Rating 5 out of 5]

So good ❤️

Loved every page written, It will be a book I will re read. I brought on my Kindle will buy a hard copy as well.

[Eswar · Rating 4 out of 5]

A quick easy read that empowers you to value yourself based on your personal growth, rather than others’ opinion. Propels you to move out of comfort zone and challenge those who gaslight you, while being kind, patient and resilient.

[Terri · Rating 5 out of 5]

Absolutely loved "Stop Lying to Yourself" by Simon Gilham! The book offers a powerful and insightful look into self-deception and personal growth. Gilham's writing is both engaging and thought-provoking, providing practical advice that is easy to apply to everyday life. Highly recommend it for anyone looking to make meaningful changes and embrace a more honest and fulfilling life.

[Kt · Rating 5 out of 5]

Stars: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Genre: non-fiction - self improvement, self-care and mindfulness

Does the blurb reflect the plot: yes, perfectly

Sum it up: Gilham burst onto social media during COVID with his short but snappy words of wisdom with reels and posts alike that immediately attracted the masses. Telling us not want we want to hear, but rather what we need to hear, Stop Lying To Yourself is a compilation of one hundred and one of his most hard hitting truths. Whilst some of them can be a bitter pill to swallow, the hard truths and the poignant blurbs that accompany them; are all bang on and written in a way that is both reflective and empowering. I’m not usually into this style of book, but as a follower of Gilham, I couldn’t pass up an opportunity to get a copy and I’m very glad I did. It might be a small book in length, but it is mighty in the effect it will have you. A highly recommended read, I’d encourage anyone and everyone to get their hands on a copy.

Who should read it: those who follow Gilham on social media; those who are looking for self improvement, self help and/or self care; and anyone generally who needs to be told that it’s ok to cut off the things that don’t make you happy in all or any of the facets in your life.

Stop Lying To Yourself is my fifteenth read in #ktbookbingo. Category ‘A book that taught you something’. To play along with my book bingo and to see what else I’m reading, go to #ktbookbingo or @peggyanne_readsandruns on Instagram.

[Milene Metelo · Rating 4 out of 5]

Deixe-se de Tretas é daqueles livros que nos obrigam a parar, respirar fundo e encarar algumas verdades que normalmente preferimos empurrar para debaixo do tapete. O autor apresenta 101 reflexões curtas, diretas e sem rodeios, que funcionam quase como pequenos choques de realidade uns mais suaves, outros que acertam mesmo onde dói.

O que mais gostei foi a honestidade crua. Nada de floreados, nada de espiritualidade vaga, nada de “pensa positivo que tudo se resolve”. É um livro que te fala como um amigo brutalmente sincero: às vezes incomoda, às vezes inspira, às vezes é mesmo aquilo que precisas de ouvir naquele dia.

Algumas “verdades” parecem simples demais, outras são fortes e dão mesmo para refletir durante horas. É um livro fácil de ler mas difícil de engolir no bom sentido. Não é uma obra para mudar a vida de repente, mas pode ser um excelente ponto de partida para te olhares com mais clareza e menos desculpas.

Lê-se bem, sublinha-se muito e, acima de tudo, dá aquela sensação de que a mudança começa quando paramos de fugir de nós próprios.

Foi uma leitura que me fez abrandar e pensar. Sai com peso e leveza ao mesmo tempo peso das verdades difíceis, leveza de perceber que posso sempre melhorar. Vou voltar a algumas das páginas quando precisar de um empurrão.

[Jana P. · Rating 4 out of 5]

Simona Gilhama sleduju na Instagramu už nějakou dobu a jeho obsah, kterému se na svém účtu věnuje, je mi velice blízký. Tak nebylo divu, že jsem si tuhle knihu pořídila, když jsem se o její existenci dozvěděla.
Kniha obsahuje 101 pravd, které Simon už svým sledujícím předal na Instagramu, a většinu z nich tu ještě doplňuje o 1stránkový dodatek, takový širší komentář. Někdo by mohl namítnout, že tisknout tuhle knihu je škoda papíru, když si to člověk může poslechnout zadarmo na internetu. Chápu tento postoj, ale popravdě - já výtisk této knihy ocenila. Pravda, ne všechny texty ke mně promlouvají na 100%, ale většina z nich ano a já ocenila to, že si k tomu mohu připsat vlastní myšlenky, vlastní postřehy, svá zamyšlení a nápady a udělat si z toho svůj ucelenější "balíček" pravd, které mi jsou nějak blízké. A taky to mohu mít kdykoliv po ruce bez toho, že bych musela složitě hledat, kde který "post" najdu, jak to může někdy být na internetu.
Já jsem za tuto knihu ráda. Nevím, jestli někdy vyjde česky, ale anglický originál je velmi snadno dostupný a srozumitelný. Takže já jsem takto spokojená.

[Rwby Tucker · Rating 1 out of 5]

A lot of people seem to have enjoyed this book and found it useful... which is great for them. Maybe if you're just starting to look into self-improvement and reflection this could be a good stepping stone.

For me, it felt like a list of tumblr or instagram quotes with a young teenager reflecting on them. I was genuinely quite confused due to the rave reviews and price of this book (£7.99 for the e-book!!). I got to truth 5 before I realised nothing was going to change and this was the premise for the whole thing.

If you want to buy for a kid or you aren't very interested in reading, I would maybe give it a go... But as an adult looking for a self-help/improvement book, I wouldn't bother.

[Rita Soman · Rating 4 out of 5]

great information but lacking tools to apply that knowledge

I could related with a lot of what you wrote in the book, but I believe this only evokes awareness. There needs to be a mention of some ways to overcome the root cause of such issues. Outer changes unfortunately bring only short term results.

I am a Life Coach and I use a variety of psycho-sensory processes to heal the past trauma and use energy psychology methods to reprogram the subconscious mind. People can related with your knowledge and are getting ready to heal!!

[Ella George · Rating 5 out of 5]

Absolutely transformative! Stop Lying to Yourself by Simon Gilham is a powerful guide that cuts through the noise and helps you confront your inner truths. With practical advice and straight-talking wisdom, Simon empowers readers to break free from self-deception and embrace a more authentic life. The relatable anecdotes and actionable steps make it easy to apply the concepts to your own journey. This book is a must-read for anyone looking to elevate their mindset and achieve personal growth. Highly recommend!

[Chloe Rebecca · Rating 3 out of 5]

I thought this would be the perfect book to start the New Year with…it wasn’t quite as inspirational as I expected and hoped. Some of the quotes were good and really hit home but others seemed a little bit obvious and didn’t really make me think in the way that I wanted them too. Also, it was very geared towards romantic relationships which isn’t made explicitly clear anywhere on the cover/synopsis, and I had hoped it would be a bit more generic.

Overall, a nice quick, motivational read with the key messages of standing up for yourself, not taking any 💩 and being your own champion. Good messages but quite repetitive!

[Joanne Nock · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a good book that you can easily dip in and out of. However, I think the advice and explanations could have been a little longer. It felt like a collection of memes, most of which have been circulating online for ages on the author's own socials. The book simply collated them without any more detailed content.

[Ashok Krishna · Rating 3 out of 5]

Well, the book by itself is a good effort but there is nothing original about it. The author has collected various self-help and mental health quotes from across social media and has added his own interpretation and explanation with it. Makes for nice reading but nothing so unique or original.

[Jovita · Rating 5 out of 5]

You may have read most of the things in this book on Instagram but it’s no harm to read them again at one place with a little synopsis/ summarisation of it to help you understand what they truly mean.

[Nicola · Rating 3 out of 5]

I really liked this, short punchy and things that make you raise your eyebrows in acknowledgement.

What a great book, thanks Netgalley & the publishers for giving me an ARC.

The self help book I didn't know I needed but am glad that I read.

[Siddhartha Jain · Rating 4 out of 5]

Its like a series of tweets though not related to one another. Each page is a nugget - to introspect, reflect. Can be read from any page. Good to have it lying around and just open to any page and read a few... always helpful!

[Annlin_the_archaeologist · Rating 2 out of 5]

Its a lot of sticky note self help. Direct & straight forward, like when o would attend detention in my old high school. i ger it but... it didnt shake me. i needed abit more traumatic truths. it was abit too gentle for me. abit too sombre too.

"read it & weep"

[Rendy Bambang Junior · Rating 3 out of 5]

Awalnya expect bukunya pemaparan gitu, agak kaget isinya quotes aja, setiap halaman isinya quotes dan sedikit penjelasan. Beberapa quotesnya profound, beberapa meh I disagree. All in all balanced dan oke lah. But not worth the price to be frank...

[The Blaxpat · Rating 3 out of 5]

Easy to read from cover to cover. Sparks reflection.

[David · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fabulous little book. I was a bit taken aback by how small it was for the price however there are some valuable lessons. I’m basing entries in my journal round some of the most pertinent ones to me

[Aiden · Rating 3 out of 5]

truthfully, I'm surprised at how many of these quotes I like, and some are even profound. a lot of the quotes about relationships fall flat for me since I'm poly, but some of them resonate deeply.

[Julie Morgan · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some great thought provoking pages

[Ayush · Rating 2 out of 5]

Whatever I expected, this book wasn't it. It's more like 101 notes. Not what I expected. Sad.

[Mauro Montenegro · Rating 5 out of 5]

Verdades cruas, sem rodeios, diretas ao ponto. Base sólida para reflexão.