The 100/0 Principle: The Secret of Great Relationships

by Al Ritter

Simply put, this new ebook can make your marriage better and greatly improve your relationships with family members, co-workers, your boss and even your friends. The 100/0 Principle...The Secret of Great Relationships, may be the most important book you'll ever read. The message is truly life-changing.

Genres: Audiobook, Self Help, Nonfiction, Relationships, Business

110 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2010

Reviews

[Tom Priddis · Rating 2 out of 5]

"give it all you got and expect nothing back"
- the end -

[Dunori · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.4; I dig the concept and I think I subconsciously carry it out regularly under another banner (or none). He probably could’ve went more in-depth about the subject though...yet I also think his target audience for it may be people who don’t often do leisure reading given the brevity of the book, it’s frequent XL font, and it’s very nice but unnecessary colorfulness. However, since I think the subject is a beneficial one I’d still recommend it to anyone who might prefer a book designed in such a way.

[Tâm Trần Thanh · Rating 5 out of 5]

Vừa đọc review xong là mua sách đọc liền. Đọc một vèo hết luôn quyển sách. Sách ngắn có 100 trang hà, dễ đọc, dễ hiểu. Có nhiều chương bị cuốn vào câu chuyện của tác giả.

Có mấy câu tâm đắc chép lại. Có nhiều đoạn thích mà không note trực tiếp được, phải chụp hình màn hình rồi highlight lại. Lần đầu tiên mua sách ở Amazon mà cái version kindle lại là bản y như scan, không tra được từ, lại lỗi layout nữa chứ.

Một khái niệm đi ngược với lẽ thường (counterintuitive manner), thực hành không phải dễ nhưng đúng là không mong đợi thì sẽ không thất vọng.

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"People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges" - JOSEPH F. NEWTON

"Life is an echo - what you send out comes back" - Chinese Proverb

"If we're not a little uncomfortable every day, we're not growing. All the good stuff is outside our comfort zone" - Jack Canfield

"Remember that no one can make you happy; happiness is a response that you choose" - the 100/0 principle

[Robert Christopher · Rating 1 out of 5]

Sorry. I got about ten pages in and I had to stop. It might pick up but the info is pretty basic.

[Adam]

This was a featured, recommended book on Hoopla a few weeks ago.
The concept of "give 100% in a [romantic/work/friendly] relationship and expect nothing in return" is interesting, but feels short-sighted. Luckily, this is a short read.

The idea is that by expecting nothing from others and accepting everyone for who they are, we become better partners, coworkers, etc. In turn, people are encouraged by example (but not guilt?) to also give their 100%. This givingness feels intuitive, but it's nice to see spelled out. People whom I think of as relationship role models exhibit these characteristics already; they are generous people who don't appear judgemental.

The author doesn't do a great job of explaining how this method doesn't turn one into a doormat, though, when interacting with an entitled or opportunistic person, aside from simply limiting said interactions.

Some books that offer philosophical advice pontificate about it and stretch a few pages into 300 for no good reason. This book is mercifully short and still makes room for anecdotes.

[Markham Anderson · Rating 1 out of 5]

If you want to learn about successful relationships, read Real Love, by Greg Baer. Don't read this.

You have to already know what the author wants to say in order to find truth in what he does say. Or you have take the onus of considering the topics which the author introduces and then arrive at your own truths without the help of the author.

However, I agree with the book's injunction that the reader have zero personal expectations in a relationship. (That applies only to personal expectations, of course; in an employer-employee relationship, you'd better have some non-personal expectations.)

[Rahaf · Rating 5 out of 5]

من الكتب الممتعه يلي قريتها ويلي شدة انتباهي لحاجات مهمه بالمرا يلي هي في فرق بين الاستماع والانصات الكتاب حلو وبسيط ينفع للاشخاص يلي مبتدئين في الموضوع او مو حابين يتعمقوا كتير و هذا تلخيص بسيط جمعت فيه العبارات يلي شدة انتباهي لها وحاولت اربطها في بعض
-"العلاقات التي يكونها الإنسان ضرورية لنجاحه ومن اكتر لطرقق فعالية لإقامة العلاقات مع الأخرين هي ان تتولى المسئولية التامة ولا تتوقع الحصول على شي و ان تحدد ما يمكنك القيام به لانجاح العلاقة وان تظهر الاحترام والعطف للشخص الاخر ولا تدع اي شي يقوله او يفعله الاخر يؤثر عليك و إذا اردت ان تغير من شخص فعليك ان تغير من نفسك فالمبدأ يتعلق بالقلب فإذا غرسنا حب الاخرين و خدمتهم في جوانب حياتنا سوف نصبح فعالين
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[Victoria (TheMennomilistReads) · Rating 2 out of 5]

I read this book to look deeper into the principle. I had heard of it before, but I know someone who has implemented it into their life and I have had some issues with the concept but also have seen positives. I read this to go deeper into it. The concept is that you give devoted attention to someone who needs it when forming a relationship. You learn to listen to them and ask them the questions in order to show attentiveness without expecting anything out of it. You don't expect anyone to really reach out to seeing about your own life and being there for you, but more that you will be there for them 100% when they are in need. Eventually this relationship can become 100/100, if possible. While this is good in concept, I don't think it is helpful at all times, and sometimes it seems as if a person may be a project instead of someone who is actually cared about. You have to "act" fascinated by a person, and sometimes you may be, but if you aren't really but have given that attention to a person, it is as if you really have been a little fake at times, and that bothers me. The ideaa is that in the end, people will find you trustworthy, useful, and as someone worthy of their time that they have nothing but high regards to you, so in a way, it turns out to be selfish, but you are never selfish in the way you treat that person at all. I do think that we should not expect anything in return for caring for another and that we are there to support others, so I liked that. This book was short. It was very fast. It was okay. I think it could have had more to it.

[Cassie · Rating 3 out of 5]

A solid 3 stars. The author explains the principle quickly, and shares many stories from his long career in leadership & corporate coaching to show how it works. Actions PLUS Relationships = Results. This principle focuses on the relationships, since many automatically think about how to change actions. You give 100% to a relationship, expecting nothing (0%) in return. It claims to be a 30min read - I think I read it in about 50min?

I think in general it can be a helpful idea - but it was very shallow, and fell flat for me. It seemed to lack the understanding of the depth and nuance in real relationships and healthy conflict resolution, or ignore it. And, as a Christian, it really fell flat in light of the gospel. This book seems to be all about the great effort and straining you should do to improve relationships - but the reality is, I know that I don't have that strength in me. Relying on the Holy Spirit at work in me, yes, I think I could apply this more. But the encouragement to do it yourself & work hard just felt hollow.

Some good quotes, and helpful reflection questions at the end of chapters - but I don't think I will be recommending this to anyone.

[AMY · Rating 3 out of 5]

107 pages; This is a professional book for educators and others. It is about taking responsibility in a relationship, whether professional or personal, and not expecting anything in return. It was positive and to the point. I did not fully agree with this principle. It reminded me of the Giving Tree...give and give and turn into stump while you are at it. Sacrifice can only go so far until it is truly non-productive and somewhat detrimental to one's mental health and self-worth. I am not really recommending it...make your own mind up if you have extra time to read it.

[Jennifer · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good insight on improving your relationships with everyone around you. However, I don't necessarily agree that giving 100% of yourself in every relationship will work, and it can be extremely exhausting if you give and give and don't always get much in return. My opinion is that you need to pick and choose those relationships to give 100%, not every relationship is worthy of 100% of your energy (bad marriages, toxic work relationships, etc.).

[Keith McShan · Rating 3 out of 5]

*Audio book Review*

This was a quick listen, the book was an hour and twenty minutes. In it's simplest form this book makes these points: 1) have unconditional relationships, 2) give your best 100% in relationships and expect nothing in return. If you do these things you will attract others who may give you their 100% effort as well.

[Adam · Rating 3 out of 5]

Really short read. Take it as supplemental material to his actual consulting presentations (which I haven’t seen). No context, hardly even an explanation of what the 100/0 principle is. But, quite a bit of application in a variety of forms. This is good paired with Bonds That Make Us Free (but I prefer that over 100/0).

[Carolina Colleene · Rating 2 out of 5]

Language: G (0 swears, 0 "f"); Mature Content: G; Violence: G
I felt like half of every chapter said the same thing. It would start to introduce a new idea, application, or experience, but the conclusion was the same. The repetition of vague principles got annoying quickly, especially when all Ritter talked about was the what and why of the 100/0 principle and completely skipped over the how.

[Stephanie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Note for self: Worth a re-listen and purchasing the little book. 10 Nov 2021 listened to on Hoopla. 1hour 20min listen w very good modivating words about loving others well no matter hmtheir character.... providing the other the opportunity to rise to that level📶But remember if they are abusive or leiing giving thay person a healthy boundry of distance is best.

[Eric Mann · Rating 3 out of 5]

Quick, easy read. Very repetitive at times. Love the concept of the book. Had good questions and examples of common situations and good advice on how to strengthen every relationship in your life. Tend to agree that it could’ve been way more flushed out and dive in to more sections. But for what it is I enjoyed it.

[brian d rogers · Rating 4 out of 5]

A solid book. it's a theory book, so the best thing to do is follow the principle and get the practical application applied. This book took me a while to finish, when I started it again, I read all the way thru in two sittings. look forward to really making it work!

[Joe Cundiff · Rating 5 out of 5]

On the surface, the concept of 100/0 seems counter-intuitive, but keep reading. This book is as brilliantly crafted as the 100/0 Principle. A different angle on the power of empathy, and empathy for oneself. Recommended for all!

[A. Reader · Rating 3 out of 5]

A good, simple message. Short and to the point.

[Cady Ali · Rating 1 out of 5]

كان من الممكن اختصاره بمقالة تشرح القاعدة البسيطة ١٠٠/٠

[Douglas Green · Rating 5 out of 5]

Short book, definitely work the read or listen. Will probably listen to it again in the future.

[Bill · Rating 1 out of 5]

give all expect nothing

[Kim · Rating 2 out of 5]

Nothing new

[Anjie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Hmmph. Not bad advice, but not new either.

[Momen Meshref · Rating 1 out of 5]

كانه مقرتش حاجة .. خساره الوقت فيه
+ مستفدتش اي حاجة

[Joy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love, love and love this book! Absolutely honest sharing and great insights! Would be a good read if you are looking for self-development 👌🏻💯 on a side note, I can’t wait to read it all over again!

[Jonathan Samonte · Rating 2 out of 5]

The point was ok, the book consists mostly of anecdotes that are strung together in a barely logical manner but that aside the main point wasn’t awful.

[Tracy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Tough tough tough... gonna have listen to this one several times

[Joshua · Rating 5 out of 5]

Simple but powerful. An important reminder to us all. Applying the principles in this book is certainly harder than reading about them.

[Duke DeLaet · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is literally the philosophical answer I was looking for. In the beginning of the book, the author threatened to change my life. Holy crap Al Ritter... you did.