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The Elephant in the ADHD Room
Boredom and boredom avoidance drive the behaviours of inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity - the diagnostic criteria of ADHD. This is the first ADHD resource to thoroughly explore the connection between the two. This book is full of innovative approaches that will help patients, students and clients beat boredom and engage with tasks and goals they want or need to achieve. These are presented with strategies specifically designed for children, age by age, and principles that can be applied to adult life. They can then be incorporated into schoolwork, jobs, relationships and everyday life. This practical resource will provide professionals who diagnose, treat, coach, and teach those with ADHD or those who suffer from frequent or pervasive boredom, with the tools to alleviate the discomfort of boredom in order to improve both concentration and mood.
240 pages, Paperback
First published June 21, 2014
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May 26, 2014
I am neither a psychologist nor a psychiatrist, but I have seen the effect a diagnosis of attention deficit hyperactive disorder (ADHD) can have on a child; chances are, you and I are in the same boat. My experience has been overall negative; the diagnosed children have, for the most part, been labelled as unable to function unless on medication. When potential non biological contributing factors were suggested, such as a diet high in sugar or a lack of discipline, they were swept aside. Many of these children, who, as you might have guessed, were and still are my friends, grew up without the necessary skills to discipline themselves and have been paying the price since then.
This seems to be a typically North American reality. In Why French Kids Don’t Have ADHD, pediatric therapist Marilyn Wedge discussed how in the United States, at least 9% of school-aged children have been diagnosed with ADHD and are taking pharmaceutical medications, while the percentage of kids diagnosed and medicated for ADHD is less than 0.5% in France. This is directly related to the fact that ADHD is considered a biological-neurological disorder in the United States while in France, it is viewed as a medical condition that has psychosocial and situational causes. Instead of treating behavioral problems with drugs, French doctors prefer to look for the underlying social issue that cause the child distress, which they treat with psychotherapy or family counseling. She concludes that it makes perfect sense “that French children don’t need medications to control their behavior because they learn self-control early in their lives. The children grow up in families in which the rules are well-understood, and a clear family hierarchy is firmly in place. In French families, as Druckerman describes them, parents are firmly in charge of their kids—instead of the American family style, in which the situation is all too often vice versa.”
ADHD is a disorder that affects children and adolescents, and can sometimes continue into adulthood. For reasons we have yet to understand, three times more boys than girls are diagnosed with it. The behaviors exhibited include acting without thinking, hyperactivity, and trouble focusing. The behaviors exhibited interfere with a child’s ability to function; adults may have difficulty managing time, lack organizational skills, cannot meet goals, and, consequently, have difficulty holding a job, sustaining relationships, have low self-esteem, and are more prone to addictions. Even if they understand what is expected, they have trouble following through as they cannot sit still, pay attention, concentrate, or attend to details. They are easily bored or frustrated with tasks.
This is what author Letitia Sweitzer focuses on in her book The Elephant in the ADHD Room: Beating Boredom as the Secret to Managing ADHD. She explores the relationship between boredom and the diagnostic criteria of ADHD, inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity. In light of this relationship, she presents age-appropriate strategies to help those with ADHD beat boredom so that they can instead engage with tasks to achieve their goals. One of the unexpected benefits of this book is that many of the strategies can be applied by someone who does not have ADHD, but would like to simply increase their ability, in a world filled with distractions, to spend more time focused on specific tasks.
Books such as this one not only give extra tools to those working with, living with, or suffering from ADHD; they also help enrich the conversation surrounding this disorder. This is all the more important because treatment is never simple. Medical research seems to be increasingly indicating that there just might be as many treatment options as there are patients, which implies that just because the French have such a high treatment success rate, it does mean that none have underlying biological-neurological factors.
As the pace at which the world advances continues increasing, there are more and more things competing for a piece of our attention. Combined with the fact that we are being encouraged to become passive recipients of entertainment, those suffering from ADHD do not seem to be the only ones who become easily bored and do not have the ability to focus on tasks. Perhaps this is related to the fact that these days, the most pervasive forms of media are mindless. This has consequences in many, if not all areas of our lives. Something as simple as cooking has become a chore that comes between us and the pleasure of eating. We are encouraged to bypass the cooking process and immediately go to the eating part, rather than to create and enjoy the fruits of our labours.
If you feel like you can’t focus on your life’s goals and that you are not achieving anything, you might want to pick up this book and apply some of the insights in contains to your own life.
This seems to be a typically North American reality. In Why French Kids Don’t Have ADHD, pediatric therapist Marilyn Wedge discussed how in the United States, at least 9% of school-aged children have been diagnosed with ADHD and are taking pharmaceutical medications, while the percentage of kids diagnosed and medicated for ADHD is less than 0.5% in France. This is directly related to the fact that ADHD is considered a biological-neurological disorder in the United States while in France, it is viewed as a medical condition that has psychosocial and situational causes. Instead of treating behavioral problems with drugs, French doctors prefer to look for the underlying social issue that cause the child distress, which they treat with psychotherapy or family counseling. She concludes that it makes perfect sense “that French children don’t need medications to control their behavior because they learn self-control early in their lives. The children grow up in families in which the rules are well-understood, and a clear family hierarchy is firmly in place. In French families, as Druckerman describes them, parents are firmly in charge of their kids—instead of the American family style, in which the situation is all too often vice versa.”
ADHD is a disorder that affects children and adolescents, and can sometimes continue into adulthood. For reasons we have yet to understand, three times more boys than girls are diagnosed with it. The behaviors exhibited include acting without thinking, hyperactivity, and trouble focusing. The behaviors exhibited interfere with a child’s ability to function; adults may have difficulty managing time, lack organizational skills, cannot meet goals, and, consequently, have difficulty holding a job, sustaining relationships, have low self-esteem, and are more prone to addictions. Even if they understand what is expected, they have trouble following through as they cannot sit still, pay attention, concentrate, or attend to details. They are easily bored or frustrated with tasks.
This is what author Letitia Sweitzer focuses on in her book The Elephant in the ADHD Room: Beating Boredom as the Secret to Managing ADHD. She explores the relationship between boredom and the diagnostic criteria of ADHD, inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity. In light of this relationship, she presents age-appropriate strategies to help those with ADHD beat boredom so that they can instead engage with tasks to achieve their goals. One of the unexpected benefits of this book is that many of the strategies can be applied by someone who does not have ADHD, but would like to simply increase their ability, in a world filled with distractions, to spend more time focused on specific tasks.
Books such as this one not only give extra tools to those working with, living with, or suffering from ADHD; they also help enrich the conversation surrounding this disorder. This is all the more important because treatment is never simple. Medical research seems to be increasingly indicating that there just might be as many treatment options as there are patients, which implies that just because the French have such a high treatment success rate, it does mean that none have underlying biological-neurological factors.
As the pace at which the world advances continues increasing, there are more and more things competing for a piece of our attention. Combined with the fact that we are being encouraged to become passive recipients of entertainment, those suffering from ADHD do not seem to be the only ones who become easily bored and do not have the ability to focus on tasks. Perhaps this is related to the fact that these days, the most pervasive forms of media are mindless. This has consequences in many, if not all areas of our lives. Something as simple as cooking has become a chore that comes between us and the pleasure of eating. We are encouraged to bypass the cooking process and immediately go to the eating part, rather than to create and enjoy the fruits of our labours.
If you feel like you can’t focus on your life’s goals and that you are not achieving anything, you might want to pick up this book and apply some of the insights in contains to your own life.
April 8, 2019
The premise of the book is pretty good. It's no world breaking thing, but it's something most people with ADHD know - most of our actions that make "no sense" are caused by being bored. While some tips are okay, like I said, it's not a very new thing for the majority of us. Maybe this is more useful for therapists and parents than ADHD people themselves. It did make me feel good and I felt like I could relate with the beginning of the book. The thing I can take away from the book is that I should search for my "elements of interest". The book itself provides some examples that were really useful for me, so I will give this book 4 stars.
November 17, 2020
This is a pretty straightforward book, and it is what the title describes. I tremendously appreciated it—both as a clinician, and as an adult living, sometimes rather precariously, with ADHD. It’s difficult to find resources that foreground the impact boredom has, in ADHD; much less that offer meaningful ideas about how to work with it. Helpful to me; helpful to my clients; highly recommended.
What it is not is a comprehensive manual in how to address every aspect of ADHD—it doesn’t aspire to be that. It’s right there in the title.
Does what it sets out to, and does it very well.
What it is not is a comprehensive manual in how to address every aspect of ADHD—it doesn’t aspire to be that. It’s right there in the title.
Does what it sets out to, and does it very well.
November 7, 2026
This is not a book for people with ADHD but a book about people with ADHD to be read by non ADHD people. Its main premise is that every issue ADHD people deal with can be drawn back to boredom, ironically written in the driest most boredom-inducing way. While the book has advice for improving and managing ADHD it is all from the perspective of a caregiver or parent, no tools to be used by the person with ADHD themselves. When discussing people with ADHD and patient testimonies the tone is often patronizing and pitiful. It was like reading a book about red-green colorblind people written entirely in red ink on green paper.
December 17, 2024
I have adhd and suspect my son does too. Unfortunately this book was not very helpful. It is based on the premise of finding 'elements of interest' to help you tackle boring tasks. Although an intriguing premise, I didn't find this very helpful or inspiring as I tend to do that anyway. The author's style of writing was rather wordy for me. I could see that this approach would work for some folks but it was too vague for me.
June 21, 2025
Excellent book
October 22, 2015
This book was COMPLETELY WORTHLESS. I didn't need to read about what boredom is or why it's a problem. I didn't need to read about what ADHD is or how it affects the brain. If you DO need to read about these things, there are a million other books that are better written.
I picked this up because I thought it would have practical strategies for dealing with or alleviating boredom. It does not. Well, ok, it does, but they are SERIOUSLY common sense. Add some stuff you like to the stuff with which you're bored. Reward yourself with something after struggling through a chunk of something you don't want to do.
Like, really, who needed this to be written down?
OK, if you just fell off a turnip truck and have never read anything about ADHD, never interacted with any humans with ADHD, never been bored (!), you might find this book interesting.
I picked this up because I thought it would have practical strategies for dealing with or alleviating boredom. It does not. Well, ok, it does, but they are SERIOUSLY common sense. Add some stuff you like to the stuff with which you're bored. Reward yourself with something after struggling through a chunk of something you don't want to do.
Like, really, who needed this to be written down?
OK, if you just fell off a turnip truck and have never read anything about ADHD, never interacted with any humans with ADHD, never been bored (!), you might find this book interesting.
June 25, 2015
Probably a good book, I'm the wrong audience for it.
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