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Relationship Status: My survival guide to love, dating and heartbreak

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The world of dating has never been more complicated, from situationships to soft launches, red flags, beige flags and everything in between. Let’s face it, it’s a lot of fun, but it can also be confusing! I’ve recently re-entered my single girl era and want to take you along for the ride as I dive into the world of modern relationships and how to navigate them, sharing the awkward, the cute and the cringey moments that come with it. I’ve held nothing back, spilling my dating secrets, funny stories and top tips. You’ll also get to hear from some familiar faces serving the tea on their dating experiences.



Whether it’s getting the ick or being ghosted, holiday flings or becoming friends with benefits, I’ve been through it all and I’m here to help you with the lessons I’ve learned along the way. The main one being, whatever your status, the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. So get ready girlies, let’s do this!



Anastasia x

292 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 6, 2024

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Profile Image for Caitlin Thompson.
18 reviews
August 27, 2024
Please stop giving influencers book deals when there are genuinely talented people out there desperate to write a book. Having said that I did buy it, so.

Just like her and Saffron’s podcast, there isn’t enough life experience or knowledge I don’t feel to speak deeply and meaningfully on such topics. Very surface level analysis (if you can even call it that) of relationship caveats in the modern day. It feels like I am being spoon fed the most crude and basic things I already know but in a way that’s supposed to make me feel as though I’m learning something? Nothing scratches the surface or makes you actually think. A lot of the content is also rehashed from the podcast so it feels as though I’m consuming the same content over and over again… I can’t help but think what’s the point in writing this?

Having been in 5 long term relationships in my life I feel I would be better placed to speak on the topic, however I don’t have an influx of Instagram followers so instead we must listen to this drivel. Anyway as I said, I did buy it so I can’t complain too much. But yes don’t follow in my footsteps and save yourself the space on your book shelf for something better.
107 reviews
October 14, 2024
Listened to the audiobook out of morbid curiosity. Did I find this groundbreaking? No. Did I enjoy the gossip? Yes.
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126 reviews3 followers
June 12, 2024
i read this mainly as i used to watch Anastasia on YouTube constantly, and still currently watch some of her videos. i was interested on her take on love, predominantly romantic love, as she has always been private about her relationships and doesn’t post about them much online. although i found some aspects of this book to be a little repetitive (hence a star knocked off), overall i found the book interesting, easy to read, entertaining, reflective and insightful. it’s so readable as all the chapters are interesting and focus on different aspects of love, relationships, dating, sex, break-ups and so much more. i don’t typically rate non-fiction as it is someone’s personal account/advice, however this one was very well done in my opinion and therefore deserves a rating. i also loved the parts that were written as diary entries and advice from her friends. it was interesting to get multiple perspectives on the topics covered. i think the only reason a star was knocked off was due to some of the content not being relevant to me and also parts becoming repetitive. overall i thoroughly enjoyed this one and read it within a few days!
34 reviews
January 8, 2025
This was such an easy listen and gives interesting insights to dating in your 20’s. It was fun lighthearted and I really enjoyed it
Profile Image for Katie Phillips.
78 reviews1 follower
June 7, 2024
I zoomed through that in basically one sitting🤣
I’m leaning towards 3.5/3.75, it was such an easy read and I really enjoyed reading her view on relationships.

I related a lot to what was written in this book and I really enjoyed that. I also enjoyed the outlook that she gave on love, and finding love for yourself as I feel like that’s something I’ve tried to focus on doing.

Enjoyed this book more than I expected to :)
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55 reviews1 follower
August 5, 2024
It was fine, the author is only 23 so mostly dealt with very generic relationship stuff mixed into a retelling of her dating history. However, the narrative is so confusing and meandering that I would really like to speak to the editor because I'm not convinced this book was proofread beyond a spellcheck.
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40 reviews2 followers
August 10, 2024
I have followed Ana from the very beginning I'm so so proud of everything she has accomplished so far and love her so fkin much 💖💖
3 reviews
February 14, 2025
As a religious watcher of Ana’s YouTube, I thoroughly enjoyed the read! Done over a few days!
Profile Image for Mia Lenton.
30 reviews2 followers
March 19, 2025
To clarify I ready this book not as someone who was after dating advice but as someone who used to watch Anastasia on YouTube and still watch some of her videos now… I was interested in her stories about her dating life as she’s quite private about it online, and I really enjoyed it - found it an easy and entertaining read, and I also loved the parts written by her friends for different perspectives! I just did find it a bit repetitive and not all relevant to me… plus non-fiction just inane hence the rating
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Author 14 books563 followers
June 9, 2024
As both an author and lover of British YouTube ever since I first discovered Anna's channel when I was fourteen or so, this review has been a long time coming.

Wow. First off, I want to clarify that the five stars I've given it are kind of based on nothing in particular, other than pure entertainment - I didn't feel as though the book was intended for me, and therefore didn't gain anything from it other than wild gossip (and I mean wild). I mainly have an issue with how the book was marketed, which I set out in the latter half of this review. I found it engaging, well thought-out, and enjoyed my time spent reading immensely, which to me is all I look for in a piece of non-fiction or memoir writing.

Before I get into the bulk of the review, one thing I really appreciated (and was semi-evident from the writing style) is that this book was entirely self-written, which usually isn't the case when it comes to big-name YouTubers. I was pleasantly surprised by this, especially when the book was first announced, and I really hope that Anna is able to hone her craft and produce more books in the future; as a figure a lot of young girls, little me included, look up to, I think she has the power and skill to put some really impactful non-fiction into the world.

I have so much to say about this book. I think it's fair to start with the wildest of wild stories, and her friends-with-benefits situation with Byron, because little me would have died to hear this news. I have such distinct memories of sitting in my old bed at home watching a say-it-or-shot-it (I think) video in which Anna admitted to kissing Byron, and although everyone thought they were secretly together (or just sleeping together), the confirmation was still a bit of a shock!

It's undoubtable that including something none of her fans have heard before, especially in this much detail, was definitely necessary in marketing and selling copies of the book, but I didn't think it would be this particular story we got to read about. I don't blame her for including this in the book for the sake of making sales, but part of me wonders why the truth has been concealed, and not even mentioned on the pod, if both parties were perfectly happy about it being discussed in detail in Anna's debut novel... and whether either will come to regret it.

The major issues (and, to be fair, I mean major major issues) I had with this book come mostly down to its marketing, and the publishers behind its creation. There's been a lack of clarity from the beginning about who exactly the book is aimed at, and I think we could have solved this issue by making the tagline:

This is dating in your twenties, and how the f*ck to get around it.

Because realistically, that's what the book is. I don't think those in their teenage years, or in their thirties or forties, would benefit from reading this book. I'm twenty, and even I found that the "rules" of dating (the exclusive stage? pardon?) and terminology used felt slightly chronically online. A younger audience might not relate to the sleeping around, extensive bar or pub dates, or other more mature forms of dating; at the same time, I think most adults looking to settle down would find the book juvenile.

In the same vein, I found the list of bar recommendations in Manchester totally unhelpful to me, and I'm sure so would many other readers, both her younger fans and those who... well, don't live in Manchester. I could definitely see those in Anna's immediate circle or people like her, also living in bigger cities, would find the book more helpful, but I think her publishers and editors could have done a lot more to make the book... well, a universally useful tool for navigating dating in the modern world, if that was indeed its aim.

My major issue (as someone who writes exclusively for young adults and children) with the book and its marketing is the utter neglect in making sure that younger fans, like some of the girls pictured at her book signings, and those younger than fourteen or fifteen who might be reading the book and think that it is in any way meant for them, or a healthy portrayal of how relationships in your teenage years should look. I can't find any age rating on the Amazon page or physical hardcover copy, and wish the publishers had emphasised that it is very much meant for adults in its language, sexual nature and mature perspective on sex and dating in general.

Where this becomes a problem is when younger fans get hold of the book, without the insight and perspective to understand that the book is not meant for them... that when you're young and vulnerable, it isn't safe, or healthy, to sleep around or go on blind dates, or lie about your age to join dating apps, or use Instagram to find a boyfriend. There was a lack of acknowledgement of the things you'd usually find in a young adult book, such as how to practice safe sex, stay safe online and when meeting strangers, and date, more generally, as a teenager.

This, of course, is because the book is aimed at those entering their twenties, but the disregard for this fact made me feel majorly confused, and worried about the type of audience the book will mostly receive... that being younger girls who look up to Anna, and see her as a positive role model.

In the future, I'd love to see Anna acknowledge this part of her audience instead of trying to cater to those her age, and perhaps write a book aimed at teens. For an influencer of her size and with a very loyal audience, it would be so powerful if she could write about the pressures of social media, about female body image and insecurity, and finding love in yourself. This could be so helpful to a range of readers, not just younger fans, while being suitable for all.

I'm excited to see if Anna does produce more books, whether she, or her publishers, will keep in mind a clear target audience, instead of being fully willing to make money from a wide range of fans who realistically did not, and should not, benefit from reading this book. It's difficult, with "influencer" book deals that aren't explicitly memoirs, to figure out who the book is going to be bought by: an army of fans, or those in their twenties who may not have heard of Anna but desperately need relationship advice.

Realistically, I'm sure the publishers were fully aware that those buying the book would mainly be Anna's fans, which is why I think it will struggle to find a place in the market long-term.

All the same, I really enjoyed the book, and I don't think there's anything wrong with Anna, as an influencer, being given a major book deal. As a self-published author, I don't feel as though she's taken anything away from me in terms of opportunities, etc. Anna wrote the book entirely herself, and will hopefully bring a new host of fans into the reading space with its publication. I'm very excited to see what she brings out next.
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12 reviews
June 11, 2024
Skipped through some of it, felt quite repetitive and wasn't too engaging as far as biographical books go. Its was very jumpy, I found the "I'll get to that later in the book" quite confusing after the first few times and was skipping forwards and backwards to know what she was talking about. I did however like the casual tone of the writing, it was like having a friendly catch up. I just wish it was structured better and gave me a bit more
Profile Image for Amy Fraser.
12 reviews
January 4, 2025
This book is fine, most of the chapters are enjoyable and really easy to read but some of the dating stories seem so fabricated. I guess the book is pitched as an authentic experience of navigating modern dating but I just didn’t get that vibe at parts

What brought this from a 2.5/3 to a 2 star review is the fact that borderline abusive behaviours are pitched as “red flags” which seemed off and how this validates ick culture- taking it from a joke to something that seems to be tangible
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21 reviews6 followers
September 29, 2024
I enjoyed the first half. It’s an easy ready and I really enjoy Ana’s videos and used to listen to the podca a lot, so this just seemed like an extension at first. I thought Saffron’s and Byron’s takes were a nice touch.

However, halfway through this book it just gets repetitive. This might be because she has limited experiences in relationships and dating, which makes sense because she is in her early twenties. But any analysis or “deep dive” of those situations just feels like a surface level thought without questioning any of her own behaviours, societal norms or things that go past what you’ve seen on social media countless times. This is by no means bad for a video or a podcast but seems a bit like the book is lacking substance in some parts, which is also backed by the constant definition of terms and overall repetition. I might have been wrong for expecting more than this.

I’m sure this book is a great guide for someone who is just starting their dating life (if you can look over the fact that basically every tip includes “getting drunk” or “going to a bar, because you can have a great date sober!!!!) but for anyone above the age of 21….maybe just stream the audiobook for free somewhere.
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29 reviews
July 11, 2024
I was pleasantly surprised how much I enjoyed this book. Having followed Anastasia online for a few years, I wasn’t sure what to expect from a book about relationships - particularly since she keeps her love life online so quiet. I really enjoyed how this book was about loving yourself and how that should be everybody’s first priority. She dove into the challenges she has had to face, both in herself and through the wrong doings of others. This book felt very raw, which must have been difficult to write at some points. Anna did a fantastic job at writing witty lines and then going to a more serious outlook, I felt like this was done very well.

I enjoyed her writing style, it was easy to read and felt like Anastasia talking. The insights from her friends were a lovely touch as well.

Overall, a fantastic book which must have taken a lot of courage to be so vulnerable with her audience as well as herself.
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101 reviews
August 17, 2024
1.5 stars

I read this out of sheer intrigue because I watch Ana on YouTube.

I don't really think that she has enough relationship experience to have written a book like this - it seems like a random choice for her, though it is also on brand with her podcast. I think this book really depicts how young she is and shows how the majority of her experience is outside of romantic relationships. This is absolutely fine but I don't think she is best placed to advise on long term relationships or committed partners.

As someone who IS in a healthy romantic relationship and is pretty good at not getting involved with people who are considered 'red flags' or 'toxic', I would say that there wasn't really any take home advice or messages from this book. It felt like generic, repetitive and obvious advice but perhaps this is more appropriate for a younger audience.

However, I did enjoy Ana regaling some of her funny situationship stories and it was an easy read.
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70 reviews1 follower
April 5, 2025
As a subscriber of Ana’s youtube videos for the last 9 or so years, I wanted to read this out of curiosity, rather than actually using it as a self help book or “dating advice”.

I LOVED the gossip within the book itself, finding out about flings and dates Ana and her friends have been on, however I don’t think this book as it is supposed to be about dating and relationship advice is 100% accurate coming from someone who has only had failed relationships and never actually been in a relationship more than 1 year.

I also found the book just not relatable, a lot of the conversations that could’ve been really thought-provoking stayed super surface level. If you’re a fan of Ana, you may have listened to her podcasts: Sex, Lies & Dm Slides or Entirely Accurate. I felt a lot of the content in this book was repetitive to what has been mentioned on the pod, but still entertained me, hence the 3 stars.
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42 reviews
June 11, 2024
I’d give this a 3 stars - this book was something out of my comfort zone as I don’t normally read non-fiction but it has been written by someone that I have followed on socials for many years and kept up with her content. Considering the situation I am in, a book on loving yourself and relationships would be perfect, right? Some parts of this book was pretty difficult to get through - not with it being boring but seeing what the situationship I had for the past 1 and a half years was and how in comparison to what I could have had seemed small and insignificant. One thing this book gave me the clarity that the decision I made with my situationship was the right decision and that journey towards self love and healing is so important before entering a new situation (oops). This may be a book that I come back from time to time to find some clarity or advice when in time of need.
32 reviews
July 16, 2024
I have watched Anastasia on YouTube for several years and loved her videos, it's like being on facetime to a friend. SO, when her podcast with Saffron came out, I was ecstatic - now that's a ritual for me too.

This book made me so happy! The informal writing style was comforting, and each chapter led smoothly onto the next. I've seen some reviews mentioning their confusion when she referenced situations from past chapters, however this wasn't a problem for me, most likely because I have followed her closely on YouTube and now Spotify. This was a light-hearted read, and perfect if you're generally interested in understanding interpersonal relationships better.
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354 reviews37 followers
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August 10, 2024
A very easy read and I mainly picked it up because I watch Anastasia's YouTube channel. I enjoyed listening to her view on the topics but being in a long term relationship, didn't find any of it relevant to me but found it interesting to hear her dating stories. I do think she is only 23 and she speaks as if she has been dating her whole life so depending on what you're looking to get out of this book, it is more specific to teen/early 20s dating.

It was quite repetitive but an easy, positive reading experience with some interesting anecdotes. If your a fan of Anastasia I would pick it up.
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125 reviews
October 9, 2024
I have just started listening to audiobooks and thought this would be a good one to start with seen as I love watching Anastasia’s YouTube videos. It was so easy to listen to and I enjoyed her take on love and relationships.

I am only rating it 3 stars as a lot of it wasn’t relevant to me as I’m in a long term relationship and I feel the book is more directed to someone who is single and dating. I hadn’t realise this when I first purchased it however I still enjoyed listening to Ana’s experiences.

⭐️⭐️⭐️
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289 reviews8 followers
October 20, 2024
- I am not a non-fiction girlie, I tend to find them boring but I absolutely loved this. It didn't drag like I usually find non fiction does.
- It felt like I was just sat talking to a best friend.
- Even though I'm engaged and planning my wedding and this isn't the kind of book I 'needed' it was really enjoyable and definitely something 19 year old me could have done with.
- I've been a fan of Anna's for around 6ish years now and I was so so happy when she announced this book was coming and it did not disappoint!
Profile Image for Emily Whyte.
70 reviews
March 27, 2025
as an Anastasia Kingsnorth STAN🤠 had to give this a go. As a book it’s a no from me probably a 1 or 2 at a push, as a source of gossip it’s 5*🤭 it’s more of a ‘guide’ than anything else but I fear this is hard to do given how young she is and the lack of experience in the dating & relationship world. I get triggered over a lot of audiobooks because the narration is so jarring but seeing as I listen and watch her YouTube so much it just sounded familiar which I liked!
Ps. The acknowledgments are very sweet
Profile Image for Charley Costello.
6 reviews
December 15, 2024
I listened to the audiobook bc I got it for free with an audible deal, and I definitely wasn’t paying £20 for it.. which I’m glad about because it wasn’t great. I wanted to know the drama on her and Byron tbh and it was cringy as expected lol “am I right in thinking we’re taking condoms to Santorini”🤢
It was just badly written tbh but I do love ana and her videos so I’m sad to say I didn’t enjoy this very much :(
Profile Image for Caitlin Vernon.
8 reviews
January 19, 2025
I was very intrigued about this book as I’ve watched Ana on youtube for years and she has always been private with her relationships.

I listened to this which felt more personal and more like a gossip, however it was very repetitive and I’m not convinced she really has enough experience to have written a book about relationships🫣

It was interesting to find out some of her stories and get to know her a bit more🫶🏻
17 reviews
June 30, 2025
Will I read this again? Absolutely not. Do I regret reading it? No, it was an easy read and I'm a nosey gal. Wish she gave me more gossip TBH.
I do feel like a lot of this was very surface level stuff which didn't benefit me but, however, a younger fan of Anastasia may learn somethings (I'm talking, mid teens).
I have also never read an acknowledgements page that was 4 pages long and thanks pretty much all their friends? That was wild and it kinda made me cringe but each to their own.
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25 reviews8 followers
August 17, 2025
To be honest I didn’t expect much from the book when I initially purchased it. However as I was reading the chapters I could relate to most things Ana has mentioned when made me realize that many people face the same things I went through. I wish to see all the single ladies reach their accepting themselves stage in life and become ready to be partners or I should say great partners and great mothers ! Thank You Ana !
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155 reviews2 followers
July 10, 2024
Read this purely out of intrigue. It was absolute TRASH. I’m not convinced an editor was involved; there were several sentences throughout that did not make sense which really irked me. It was the most basic totally non-revolutionary book I have ever read. If you want to read something like this that will actually make you think rather try Dolly Alderton…
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