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No Asians Please
Gay White men in North America have written the words ‘No Asians Please’ on their dating profiles online. Why do Gay White men feel this way? Moreover, how can Gay Asian men cope with this constant rejection? This book explores how Asian men are perceived and marginalized in an isolated gay population. It is an eye-opener for Gay men of all races, as many homogenized gay communities have become exclusive rather than inclusive. When it comes to sex and gay men, there is no such thing as equality.
57 pages, Kindle Edition
First published September 9, 2013
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Bathhouse Blues
11 booksBathhouse Blues has been the author of his self-entitled blog since 2001. It is still the only blog on the web to discuss what goes on at the gay baths. His bathhouse writings have been referenced in a broad range of books and periodicals worldwide, from the Huffington Post to Unzipped Magazine.
He is also a contributor to the website GayDemon.com and runs a second bathhouse site BathhouseBlog.com
He is also a contributor to the website GayDemon.com and runs a second bathhouse site BathhouseBlog.com
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April 1, 2016
The author uses crude racial and gay sexual stereotypes to portray stereotypes he disapproves of. There is truth in what he says about how GWMs show little interest in GAMs: Even a broken clock is right twice a day.
Maybe it's a bathhouse thing. That's another stereotype. Gay men, of whatever race, are not sexual clones. There are a lot of gay men who are into bathhouses or glory holes. There are a lot of gay men who aren't. That's not a judgement. It's just a description of fact. What he described may well be true in BH culture. I don't have the experience to evaluate.
But then he goes on to trash GAM/GWM pairings describing them in ageist or fetishistic terms. So if GWM avoid GAM it's flat out discrimination. If they do like them the author goes all Freudian, just like straights did to gays.
As it happens I'm a GWM. Since my 20s all my bf have been Gay Asian Men. The convoluted thinking used to trash my personal hard-wiring is bizarre.
People like who they like sexually. It's hard-wired. Pretending a dis/like of Asians as a sexual type is discrimination is attributing biology to preference. Geez we get enough of that old line 'being gay is a choice' from straights. Gaydom doesn't need this kind of fratricide.
This guy has a major chip on his shoulder.
Maybe it's a bathhouse thing. That's another stereotype. Gay men, of whatever race, are not sexual clones. There are a lot of gay men who are into bathhouses or glory holes. There are a lot of gay men who aren't. That's not a judgement. It's just a description of fact. What he described may well be true in BH culture. I don't have the experience to evaluate.
But then he goes on to trash GAM/GWM pairings describing them in ageist or fetishistic terms. So if GWM avoid GAM it's flat out discrimination. If they do like them the author goes all Freudian, just like straights did to gays.
As it happens I'm a GWM. Since my 20s all my bf have been Gay Asian Men. The convoluted thinking used to trash my personal hard-wiring is bizarre.
People like who they like sexually. It's hard-wired. Pretending a dis/like of Asians as a sexual type is discrimination is attributing biology to preference. Geez we get enough of that old line 'being gay is a choice' from straights. Gaydom doesn't need this kind of fratricide.
This guy has a major chip on his shoulder.
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