Stop Walking on Eggshells for Partners: What to Do When Your Partner Has Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

by Randi Kreger, Bill Eddy

From the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells comes a lifeline for the romantic partners of those with BPD or narcissistic personality disorder. With this guide, you’ll learn to set boundaries, defuse arguments, and do what’s right for you.

Do you often feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to in your relationship? Does your partner exhibit intense, irrational, or violent rage? Are you often the victim of gaslighting or extreme blame? If your partner has borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), it’s important to remember that it is not your fault. Lured in by your partner’s initial charm, you might have initially ignored or outright denied the red flags; however, the constant stream of criticism, blame, and gaslighting has left you questioning your own reality. So, how can you begin to set boundaries and make self-preservation a priority?

BPD and NPD expert Randi Kreger provides targeted resources to help you build the confidence you need to navigate your relationship safely and effectively. Packed with in-depth information and proven-effective skills, this no-nonsense guide will help you evaluate your relationship, discover what you truly want and need, and gain the courage needed to make healthy decisions—and act on them. If you decide to stay with your partner, you’ll be equipped with tools to improve the relationship; if you determine you want to leave and start a new life, this book will light your path to freedom.

As much as it might feel like it, you are not stuck in your current relationship. There is a way forward, and no matter how you ultimately choose to proceed, you’ll be guided wisely and safely toward a satisfying relationship—and the better, more peaceful life you deserve.

Genres: Abuse

306 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 1, 2024

About the author

Randi Kreger is a best-selling author of books about borderline personality disorder. Her site also offers a number of specialized booklets and CDs for family members. The site is also a conduit to her online family support community "Welcome to Oz."

Reviews

[Emma Red · Rating 4 out of 5]

Okay so I completely agree with a a lot of the complaints about this book. It’s a pretty relentless critique of the unsavory behaviors that come with personality disorders, and doesn’t leave much room for empathy and consideration for the people actually suffering from these disorders, which are high risk and extremely difficult to live with. If you’re looking only to be validated and to demonize your partner, I suggest you put this book down and seek help, yourself. As with most self-help type nonfiction, it should be read with a grain of salt and disagreement. There are some overwhelmingly positive things about it, though, most notably the way it points out the inherently destructive flaws of its reader. I was shocked to find myself and my pattern of behaviors described perfectly, which led to understanding the ways my I might often cause pain to others, too. It was a generally good introduction to certain behaviors associated with personality disorders and why they might happen. It gave a lot of dos and don’t for conflict that can help not trigger your partner with emphasis on relationships, which are hard to handle for everyone involved. I think, if you possess any media literacy at all, this is a great book.

[Sraah · Rating 3 out of 5]

thanks netgalley for the arc

hmm. this was helpful in looking at myself more closely. i don’t know if my s/o is bpd or npd, but they are an alcoholic, and this was somewhat helpful with that also, because…. probably is npd. wish more people could find ways to think in more productive ways that minimize conflict.

[Angela Bailey · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the best books I've read with actual practical solutions for handling a BPD spouse.

No more nonsense books about letting them abuse you... Which thankfully this one wasn't.