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176 pages, Hardcover
First published January 28, 2025
The rise of "normality discourse'," [Julian B.] Carter writes, "drew on and extended several earlier conceptual vocabularies, especially those of civilization and evolution, in a way which made it possible to talk about whiteness indirectly, in terms of the affectionate, reproductive heterosexuality of 'normal' married couples." [..L]ove discourse was veiled white supremacist discourse[.]This title drew me in like a moth to a flame, or less dramatically an ant to a spilled pool of brown sugar. It's been some time since I interacted with Carson's writing on its own terms, but the engagement had been favorable enough, and there's little I like more than backtracking to discover that, yes, that figure of my past reading/learning/living was also queer. Regarding this book, it was wonderfully refreshing to take on subjects in a more accredited and bibliographied manner than afforded by my customary intake of Tumblr posts and Bluesky links, and I'll have to do a deep dive into the notes before returning this copy to fully fit out my flotilla for the 'where do I go from here', queer knowledge gathering wise. However, the argument itself was repetitive (down to certain key highly worded phrases being trotted far more often than was necessary), as well as sat uneasily in the broader queer community during others (the emphasis on love, for example, which I know was given fair titular warning but could have at least been presented more holistically alongside discussions of aromanticism/asexuality/amatonormativity). This made for reading that was most interesting when it was defining everything that queer love was not, but when it came to pushing the conclusion home (that queer love was going to save us all), I was at most halfway convinced.
When we feel despair at economic precarity or violence or unhappy work lives, we turn to intimate life rather than to politics.Still, this is a gloriously signaling title to find on the shelves of a local public library, and it's short enough that I would hope it draws in some folks who are more on the environmental presentation side than the queer rights one (we have a lot of those where I'm at, and the intersection of such interests with wealth/clout happens more often than one might think). For a number among those souls may discover a way to move forward in these fraught times that they may have blocked themselves off from, subconsciously or otherwise, in the past few years or decades ago in childhood, from fear or just plain lack of knowledge. Me, the main thing I got from this book was the path towards promising reads, whether it's a proper Carson biography/collection of extant letters or texts such as When Did Indians Become Straight? and The Heart of Whiteness that Maxwell referenced and I added. And much as I quibbled about this text, it's nice to get something that has legitimate reason to be happy, rather than a transphobic rag trying to argue for the renaissance of going back in the closet.
I sympathize with this critique of how the intimate realm functions in contemporary life, but I think it is really an account of how heteronormative intimacy works in contemporary life.
Rather than storytelling (the practice that Hannah Arendt is necessary for politics), [Dorothy] Freeman practiced a kind of queer indexing: she could not tell the whole story, but she named the key terms in her experience. Even if she could not elucidate the meaning of these terms, she left them as guideposts for later readers to follow—both backwards into the meaning of her experience and forwards into a future still being written.