Honestly I liked this book even more after I finished it, went back and read the introduction, and had a comprehensive thought about what this meant for the gay community in the 1950s when it was written. First I want to say how important I think it is for queer readers to read historical (?) gay works to delineate the lines between queer generations and movements, we are all one in the same and your struggle is mine.
Really the only other prominent work I have read with an age gap is call me by your name where the gap it 17 and 24. I will stand by the importance of the age gap in this work and I get very frustrated when people say its unnecessary or dismiss the meaning due to its wrongness. The gap is essential to understanding the depth of Elio's feelings and the mechanics of their relationship. In this book, the gap is 15 and 30s which is far bigger. The introduction explains it in a couple different ways that made me really understand the meaning behind this decision, not only for that time period but how it affects as a whole. "Told repeatedly that homoerotic love and expression were morally and socially wrong, they welcomed stories that featured the idea that young men, really almost children, could contain and express homosexual desires. Who better than the innocent child, or pre-adult, to metaphorically symbolize the naturalness and the ingenuousness of homosexual desire." This was also written post World War 2 where in real life and in a lot of media, age gap relationships were very prominent especially with men. "While some critics claim Finistere is the betrayal of innocence, they are referring to the emotional betrayals Matthew experiences from family, friends, and lovers, not his sexual relationship with Michael." I think it's really important to not impose our own/current society's values and morality to works from the past, it can dismiss an entire genre of important and thoughtful work. Also let's be real, every gay male I know has had a sexual encounter with an older man, grindr exists, this concept has not changed.
Now to the content of the book, I was actually so sick of Michel. Literally a grown ass man with the emotional and mental stability of like a 6 year old. Matthew pulled that entire relationship. I got so sick of reading this imbalance of maturity and what it was doing to the emotional state of a young boy. I wish there has been more plot with Matthew and Adrien, just bc I thought their friendship was really sweet but in hindsight, I understand that that relationship was just a stepping stone to get to Michel. Near they end they started bringing up how Matthew might not have been attracted to older men like Scott or Michel if not for the divorce and ostrazation from his father. As Matthew sees it, "the idea that his love for his father could mean a decrease in his love for Michel was incomprehensible. Further, that his love for Michel was something he should have given to his father did not make any sense at all." Matthew has such an interesting view of the world that every other character in the book points out at some point. I am not sure if that is just how he is or if his inexperience caused him to have this "unusual" view of love. "Because he did not know or recognize the possibility that love is in any sense mortal, that it can die or fade; because his love for Michel had made him come to life and not buried, whatever doubts Matthew had had about himself and the world around him had been erased." Michel talks a lot about how Matthew doesn't understand the consequences that would come from their relationship being discovered. I recently read something that explains that because of how the brain develops, teenagers may understand the concept of risk, but they don't "feel" the consequences unless they experience them. The risk is hollow without any substance which makes the risk almost null. Matthew experienced the consequences at the end when all of these feelings were happening to him and he was in a situation where he wasn't able to express them to anyone. The consequence of the relationship was emotional separation from his loved ones. The consequence when they found out was he was disowned and all of the emotions from this rushed in at once, since they didn't exist before, which tragically lead him to committing suicide immediately.
Francoise was literally the only sane character. Without her, these stupid men wouldn't know shit. She saw things in the blink of an eye which meant that she had to explain the plot in depth for the men around her which was frustrating. I love how unlike everyone around her, she took marriage as this serious commitment instead of it being a logical step once you were in love. She thought about how it would affect the people around her, especially Matthew who would be so close to it. My love for her especially cemented when she was trying to persuade Scott to not lash out to Matthew when figuring out he was gay. " 'And you wonder why I hesitate to marry you,' she said, her voice tired and bitter. 'You love Matthew, you say, but rather than try to understand what has happened to him, rather than make any effort to help him, you only make the gesture that will satisfy your conscience.' " Scott's strong reaction to being told Matthew was gay was honestly surprising, even to Francoise, because it was fucking obvious that Matthew was obsessed and crushing on him the whole time, stupid ass fr.
Paul was fucking gross and a freak, period. At the end I was really hopeful that Catherine would be understanding and supportive of Matthew's sexuality and it was a real bummer that she wasn't. I had hope that she was deeper than she seemed. :/
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-"How is it possible to be afraid of the person you love most in the world."