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Safe Church: How to Guard Against Sexism and Abuse in Christian Communities
If the past few years have taught us anything, it's that by and large the church has failed women. From sexual abuse scandals involving high-profile pastors, to decades-long systemic cover-ups of sexual harassment and mistreatment, to harmful theology that has driven women to leave the church and find community elsewhere, it's clear that something is broken. If we want to fix it, it's time we start listening.Drawing on new, firsthand research and in-depth interviews, Safe Church allows women to voice the pain they have suffered at the hands of insecure leaders who were often unaware of how their words, actions, and attitudes were harming their sisters in Christ. With practical advice on how to create more equity and less sexism and abuse in the church, this honest look at how misogyny masquerades as biblical truth is a vital resource for pastors, church leaders, and anyone who wants to make a meaningful difference in their own Christian community.
192 pages, Paperback
Published January 21, 2025
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Andrew J. Bauman
9 books34 followersCo-Founder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC), Andrew J. Bauman is a licensed mental health counselor with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology. He spent 10 years studying under Dr. Dan Allender. Andrew is the author of Floating Away, Stumbling Toward Wholeness, The Psychology of Porn, and (with Christy) A Brave Lament.
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October 17, 2025
From my endorsement:
In Safe Church, Dr. Andrew Bauman serves as both a champion of women and a wise and challenging leader to men. Weaving together theology, his own research, and the voices of women who worked in ministry positions, Bauman exposes the epidemic of abuse in the church. With humility and conviction, he challenges the sexist teachings and practices in the church and then offers suggestions for personal healing and solutions for a more trauma-informed spiritual community for both men and women.
In Safe Church, Dr. Andrew Bauman serves as both a champion of women and a wise and challenging leader to men. Weaving together theology, his own research, and the voices of women who worked in ministry positions, Bauman exposes the epidemic of abuse in the church. With humility and conviction, he challenges the sexist teachings and practices in the church and then offers suggestions for personal healing and solutions for a more trauma-informed spiritual community for both men and women.
March 18, 2025
Every day, it seems, we hear another story of sexual misconduct or abuse taking place in a religious setting. Often the stories involve pastors/priests or some other staff member. The moral of the story seems to be that churches are not safe, especially if you are a woman. So, how might churches change this storyline? For some faith communities that likely will involve changing the way women are perceived. It likely also involves boundary training and safe-church policies. It's not just one thing, of course, because situations differ, as do solutions. But ultimately, we need to be aware of the problems if we're going to find solutions.
Andrew Bauman has written a helpful book titled "Safe Church." The subtitle explains what that involves --- "How to Guard Against Sexism and Abuse in Christian Communities." Bauman is a therapist and director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma, in the Seattle area. He is also a former pastor. He writes from an evangelical perspective to a largely evangelical community, but what he writes here translates to other communities including Mainline Churches, most of which require boundary training and assume the full equality of women in the church, including in leadership roles.
The problem he names in the book here is that the church has failed women, as seen in the sexual abuse scandals involving high-profile clergy and ministry leaders, as well as news of cover-ups of sexual harassment and abuse, as seen in the SBC. He writes as someone who held "complementarity" views of women, such that they should submit to male leaders, including their husbands, as well as limiting their roles in the life of the church. While he acknowledges that women need to tell their stories, he also believes that men need to be allies, especially in settings where women's voices have been muted.
The book is composed of eleven chapters. He begins in Chapter 1 with an overview of the problem of sexism and abuse within Protestant churches. While women have suffered the greatest impact of this abuse, men have also been hurt by it. In Chapter 2, he calls for church leaders and others in the church to listen to the voices of women as they tell their stories of their experiences with sexism and abuse in the church. He notes that the prevalence of sexual harassment, sexist joking, and patriarchy is so prevalent in the church that it not only limits women's opportunities for ministry but leads women to leave the church entirely.
Chapter 3 takes us on a journey through "The Historical Experience of Women" in the church, beginning with ancient Greek views of women (women were seen as deformed men) to the present restrictions, offering insight also into moments of empowerment. History is important to this story, but so is "Jesus's Relationship with Women," (Chapter 4). It is unfortunate that too often the church ignores Jesus, especially when it comes to his relationships with women, which were always empowering. Thus, here is a call for engagement with Jesus' life and teachings. While Jesus offers an example for the church as it examines the way it treats women, there are "Problematic Biblical Texts" (Chapter 5) that need to be examined and reinterpreted. He reminds the reader that context matters when reading passages like 1 Corinthians 14 and 1 Timothy 2, both of which are used to stifle women's voices. There is also the problem of erasing the voices of women from the Bible. Thus, again the need to engage in deep study of Scripture, which he believes (as do I) to a different vision for women in today's church. But, it's not only reinterpreting Scripture that needs to take place. There is a need to examine "Problematic Theologies and Teachings" (Chapter 6) that continue to exist and stifle women's opportunities as well as possibly lead to harassment and abuse. He writes that "Close examination of several of these reveals that they deserve to be exposed for what they are: at best, suggestions that uphold patriarchal, cultural strongholds that are not God-pleasing, and at worst, toxic and harmful teachings that have truly hurt women, unfairly demonized them, and subjugated half of the population. These theologies also led to the traumatization and abuse of countless women." (pp. 96-97).
Having examined the historical, biblical, and theological foundations of how the church has often understood women, which in turn has led to placing limits on them when it comes to roles in church and society, and more perniciously to harassment and abuse, he turns to the more practical and contemporary realities. Thus, in Chapter 7, he writes of "Understanding Trauma and Abuse. He offers stories of people who have experienced trauma and abuse, pointing out that our bodies are not meant to experience abuse, and that abuse can lead to long-lasting physical impact. Thus, he writes that if churches are to move toward becoming safe churches, leaders need to be equipped to respond appropriately. After broaching this need in Chapter 7, he moves on in Chapter 8 to "The Church's Present-Day Engagement with Women." Here he speaks of his own research and studies that have revealed the prevalence of abuse and harassment within the churches, leading to guidance on how to address the causes of abuse and providing healing for the abused, which will involve treating women as equals to men.
In Chapter 9, Bauman directs his attention to men in particular, addressing the underlying issues that can lead to abuse and harassment. He acknowledges that one of the major issues here is that most leadership positions in the church and society have been held by men. This can breed behaviors that lead to abuse, including addiction to pornography, which can lead to the objectification of women, which in turn leads to abusive behavior. From there he speaks of the possibility of "Healing for All," a process that can include writing one's story and engaging in grief work. He also addresses the need for male pastors and leaders to experience healing, in that if they are not healthy emotionally, then the church will not be safe for women.
Finally, in Chapter 11, he offers "Steps toward Creating a Safe Church." He starts with advice to women, such that they can change the church as members. They can do this by starting a conversation in the church, using trusted, up-to-date resources for study, finding one's people, and holding on to one's power. I find it interesting that while he speaks to women as church members, offering paths to empowerment, when he turns to men he speaks of "Changing Your Church as a Leader." While Bauman speaks throughout the book about the empowerment of women, including claiming their equality with men, when it comes to pastoral leadership, he seems (in my reading) to assume that pastors and leaders will be men. Context is important and this book is directed to communities that remain ensconced in male patterns of leadership. This is not as true of Mainline Protestant Churches (my denomination is led by a woman, who succeeded a woman as General Minister and President). Other suggestions include requiring regular abuse-prevention training, running criminal background checks, awareness training of policies and procedures for reporting incidents, and increasing diversity in leadership positions.
Bauman offers a helpful overview and introduction to the problem of sexual abuse and harassment that continues to plague the churches, including those that are more open to women in positions of leadership. However, we see more problems emerging from communities that limit women's voices. Thus, Bauman's messaging addresses those communities. I only wish he had been more explicit in discussing women serving in pastoral leadership roles. I hope that this book will help congregations become safer for women and children as well. There are pernicious theologies and interpretations of Scripture that continually lead to abuse and that has to stop.
Andrew Bauman has written a helpful book titled "Safe Church." The subtitle explains what that involves --- "How to Guard Against Sexism and Abuse in Christian Communities." Bauman is a therapist and director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma, in the Seattle area. He is also a former pastor. He writes from an evangelical perspective to a largely evangelical community, but what he writes here translates to other communities including Mainline Churches, most of which require boundary training and assume the full equality of women in the church, including in leadership roles.
The problem he names in the book here is that the church has failed women, as seen in the sexual abuse scandals involving high-profile clergy and ministry leaders, as well as news of cover-ups of sexual harassment and abuse, as seen in the SBC. He writes as someone who held "complementarity" views of women, such that they should submit to male leaders, including their husbands, as well as limiting their roles in the life of the church. While he acknowledges that women need to tell their stories, he also believes that men need to be allies, especially in settings where women's voices have been muted.
The book is composed of eleven chapters. He begins in Chapter 1 with an overview of the problem of sexism and abuse within Protestant churches. While women have suffered the greatest impact of this abuse, men have also been hurt by it. In Chapter 2, he calls for church leaders and others in the church to listen to the voices of women as they tell their stories of their experiences with sexism and abuse in the church. He notes that the prevalence of sexual harassment, sexist joking, and patriarchy is so prevalent in the church that it not only limits women's opportunities for ministry but leads women to leave the church entirely.
Chapter 3 takes us on a journey through "The Historical Experience of Women" in the church, beginning with ancient Greek views of women (women were seen as deformed men) to the present restrictions, offering insight also into moments of empowerment. History is important to this story, but so is "Jesus's Relationship with Women," (Chapter 4). It is unfortunate that too often the church ignores Jesus, especially when it comes to his relationships with women, which were always empowering. Thus, here is a call for engagement with Jesus' life and teachings. While Jesus offers an example for the church as it examines the way it treats women, there are "Problematic Biblical Texts" (Chapter 5) that need to be examined and reinterpreted. He reminds the reader that context matters when reading passages like 1 Corinthians 14 and 1 Timothy 2, both of which are used to stifle women's voices. There is also the problem of erasing the voices of women from the Bible. Thus, again the need to engage in deep study of Scripture, which he believes (as do I) to a different vision for women in today's church. But, it's not only reinterpreting Scripture that needs to take place. There is a need to examine "Problematic Theologies and Teachings" (Chapter 6) that continue to exist and stifle women's opportunities as well as possibly lead to harassment and abuse. He writes that "Close examination of several of these reveals that they deserve to be exposed for what they are: at best, suggestions that uphold patriarchal, cultural strongholds that are not God-pleasing, and at worst, toxic and harmful teachings that have truly hurt women, unfairly demonized them, and subjugated half of the population. These theologies also led to the traumatization and abuse of countless women." (pp. 96-97).
Having examined the historical, biblical, and theological foundations of how the church has often understood women, which in turn has led to placing limits on them when it comes to roles in church and society, and more perniciously to harassment and abuse, he turns to the more practical and contemporary realities. Thus, in Chapter 7, he writes of "Understanding Trauma and Abuse. He offers stories of people who have experienced trauma and abuse, pointing out that our bodies are not meant to experience abuse, and that abuse can lead to long-lasting physical impact. Thus, he writes that if churches are to move toward becoming safe churches, leaders need to be equipped to respond appropriately. After broaching this need in Chapter 7, he moves on in Chapter 8 to "The Church's Present-Day Engagement with Women." Here he speaks of his own research and studies that have revealed the prevalence of abuse and harassment within the churches, leading to guidance on how to address the causes of abuse and providing healing for the abused, which will involve treating women as equals to men.
In Chapter 9, Bauman directs his attention to men in particular, addressing the underlying issues that can lead to abuse and harassment. He acknowledges that one of the major issues here is that most leadership positions in the church and society have been held by men. This can breed behaviors that lead to abuse, including addiction to pornography, which can lead to the objectification of women, which in turn leads to abusive behavior. From there he speaks of the possibility of "Healing for All," a process that can include writing one's story and engaging in grief work. He also addresses the need for male pastors and leaders to experience healing, in that if they are not healthy emotionally, then the church will not be safe for women.
Finally, in Chapter 11, he offers "Steps toward Creating a Safe Church." He starts with advice to women, such that they can change the church as members. They can do this by starting a conversation in the church, using trusted, up-to-date resources for study, finding one's people, and holding on to one's power. I find it interesting that while he speaks to women as church members, offering paths to empowerment, when he turns to men he speaks of "Changing Your Church as a Leader." While Bauman speaks throughout the book about the empowerment of women, including claiming their equality with men, when it comes to pastoral leadership, he seems (in my reading) to assume that pastors and leaders will be men. Context is important and this book is directed to communities that remain ensconced in male patterns of leadership. This is not as true of Mainline Protestant Churches (my denomination is led by a woman, who succeeded a woman as General Minister and President). Other suggestions include requiring regular abuse-prevention training, running criminal background checks, awareness training of policies and procedures for reporting incidents, and increasing diversity in leadership positions.
Bauman offers a helpful overview and introduction to the problem of sexual abuse and harassment that continues to plague the churches, including those that are more open to women in positions of leadership. However, we see more problems emerging from communities that limit women's voices. Thus, Bauman's messaging addresses those communities. I only wish he had been more explicit in discussing women serving in pastoral leadership roles. I hope that this book will help congregations become safer for women and children as well. There are pernicious theologies and interpretations of Scripture that continually lead to abuse and that has to stop.
January 15, 2025
If you are a woman who has ever faced sexism or gender focused abuse in the church or has been spiritually abused inside or outside of the che church, you need this book.
If you are a pastor and would like to work on making your church a safe, healthy, place instead of the gender biased place it often is, you need this book.
I am so glad this book exists.
If you are a pastor and would like to work on making your church a safe, healthy, place instead of the gender biased place it often is, you need this book.
I am so glad this book exists.
April 29, 2025
All church staff and regular church members should read this book. Where are our blind spots? No church is immune to sexism and abuse - it is important to be aware of such issues and misuse of scripture and grace. May we all be vigilant.
February 22, 2025
Really solid, impactful overview of this topic. Not necessarily earthshattering in terms of what it covers, but I appreciated the author's approach to the subject matter as a man, i.e., centering abused women's voices and encouraging male leadership to listen. The victim accounts he collected and shared hit hard, not least because they're a sampling of something horrifyingly common.
As far as aspects of the material that were new to me, I found his reframing of several biblical passages that are frequently used to shame or denigrate women to be super enlightening. (I particularly struggled with the chapter heading "Problematic Biblical Passages" since it sounded like he was saying the Bible itself was the problem—when his actual point was that faulty interpretations are the problem, and the Bible affirms the value and voices of women.) I wouldn't personally agree with some of his hermeneutics, but still found much of the theological reconstruction in the book helpful and encouraging.
Honestly my biggest takeaway from this book is that it's really, really good to see a Christian man speaking up about this. The contents of Safe Church aren't revolutionary, but the fact that it exists kind of feels like it is. And I'm thankful it does.
CWs for mostly non-graphic discussions of abuse (sexual, emotional, physical, spiritual)
As far as aspects of the material that were new to me, I found his reframing of several biblical passages that are frequently used to shame or denigrate women to be super enlightening. (I particularly struggled with the chapter heading "Problematic Biblical Passages" since it sounded like he was saying the Bible itself was the problem—when his actual point was that faulty interpretations are the problem, and the Bible affirms the value and voices of women.) I wouldn't personally agree with some of his hermeneutics, but still found much of the theological reconstruction in the book helpful and encouraging.
Honestly my biggest takeaway from this book is that it's really, really good to see a Christian man speaking up about this. The contents of Safe Church aren't revolutionary, but the fact that it exists kind of feels like it is. And I'm thankful it does.
CWs for mostly non-graphic discussions of abuse (sexual, emotional, physical, spiritual)
January 21, 2025
Safe Church is an important resource for anyone who wants to understand the troubling yet common experiences of women in church and ministry contexts. In this book, Bauman thoughtfully examines and reconsiders the historical, biblical, and theological bases that contributed to the ways women have been minimized and silenced in the church, highlighting how patriarchy has deeply and unnecessarily shaped the beliefs and practices of the church. Throughout the book, Bauman shares firsthand accounts gleaned from his own research with women who have been slighted, harmed, and abused in religious contexts. He also shares his own journey from believing in the necessity of male headship to valuing and accepting women as equal partners in ministry. In addition, he unpacks some of the dynamics of abuse in ministry contexts and offers trauma-informed considerations for church leaders who want to welcome women’s stories and appropriately handle accusations of abuse. Safe Church is a valuable resource that will support church leaders who desire to make churches safer organizations that value the dignity and gifts of all.
January 21, 2025
Thank you, Dr. Bauman, for loving the Church enough to write this book! It’s easy enough to see the adverse effects of sexism in other contexts, but often as Christians we are not looking under the hoods of our own hearts and our own faith communities. If you don’t think sexism is a problem in your church, I urge you to read this book with an open heart. Read it curiously, not defensively…and see what God’s Spirit unearths. Jesus breaks the power of sin in our lives, releasing us from its curse. As His followers, we are called to live into a new creation, into a kingdom where we are made one in Christ. In Him, we have a chance to right these wrongs and to be a shining light to a dark and divided world. As this book reminds us, we have the opportunity to reflect the image of God with a fullness that has been stifled and lopsided for too long. It’s time to take a long look at our blind spots and set aside these damaging beliefs and behaviours.
January 22, 2025
This book has painted a beautiful picture with practical wisdom of the church my heart has longed to be a part of for many years. I have hope for safe faith community again after many years of searching. I have survived much spiritual abuse from the incredibly unsafe theologies, practices, and ways of relating this book exposes. When I sought help from what I now see was a very abusive marriage from my faith community I was repeatedly further harmed and God further skewed. My faith was almost wrecked but thanks to resources like this and the powerful work of the Holy Spirit in my life-my faith is the most vibrant, deep, and whole it’s ever been.
February 18, 2025
This is a great introductory read on the issue of abuse and hatred of women in Christian circles, particularly evangelicalism.
What I found most helpful:
✓ As an Orthodox Christian who grew up in Evangelicalism, and who has experienced many of the harms Bauman addresses, I really appreciated this book. There are many ideas that can be applied in Orthodox parishes to build safer and more equitable communities.
✔️ Chapters 3-6 detailing the historical experience of women in the church and ancient society, as well as frequently misused biblical texts and theologies. An excellent primer for those new to these topics.
✔️ Chapter 7 on the basics of trauma and abuse, particularly in domestic contexts and the ways domestic abuse is enabled in Christian circles. Written for lay audiences, not practitioners, Bauman excels at unpacking the complex and interwoven strands of domestic partner violence, religious abuse, and theological misogyny for those trying to understand, esp women victims and clergy members.
✔️ In many ways this book serves as a silence-breaker and first line of defense. It's a good introductory resource for clergy and those in ministry, and really anyone who has been negatively affected by hatred of women in evangelical contexts. But...
What could have been stronger:
✔️ Bauman seems to be writing for audiences already fairly convinced that harsh complementarianism, misogyny, and hatred of women are wrong. Sadly I think hatred of women is on the rise and becoming more socially accepted, including in the church. Bauman's book is unlikely to be persuasive to men (and women) who identify with principles of the manosphere and so-called red pill masculinity.
✓ I wish he'd included more sources from the early church/patristic views of women than just St Augustine.
✓ This book does not hold enough space for Christian denominations and traditions who do not ordain women. It equates lack of women clergy with sexism. While this can definitely be the case, there are also other reasons--christological, theological, mariological--some traditions do not ordain women that in some cases affirm women's worth.
What I found most helpful:
✓ As an Orthodox Christian who grew up in Evangelicalism, and who has experienced many of the harms Bauman addresses, I really appreciated this book. There are many ideas that can be applied in Orthodox parishes to build safer and more equitable communities.
✔️ Chapters 3-6 detailing the historical experience of women in the church and ancient society, as well as frequently misused biblical texts and theologies. An excellent primer for those new to these topics.
✔️ Chapter 7 on the basics of trauma and abuse, particularly in domestic contexts and the ways domestic abuse is enabled in Christian circles. Written for lay audiences, not practitioners, Bauman excels at unpacking the complex and interwoven strands of domestic partner violence, religious abuse, and theological misogyny for those trying to understand, esp women victims and clergy members.
✔️ In many ways this book serves as a silence-breaker and first line of defense. It's a good introductory resource for clergy and those in ministry, and really anyone who has been negatively affected by hatred of women in evangelical contexts. But...
What could have been stronger:
✔️ Bauman seems to be writing for audiences already fairly convinced that harsh complementarianism, misogyny, and hatred of women are wrong. Sadly I think hatred of women is on the rise and becoming more socially accepted, including in the church. Bauman's book is unlikely to be persuasive to men (and women) who identify with principles of the manosphere and so-called red pill masculinity.
✓ I wish he'd included more sources from the early church/patristic views of women than just St Augustine.
✓ This book does not hold enough space for Christian denominations and traditions who do not ordain women. It equates lack of women clergy with sexism. While this can definitely be the case, there are also other reasons--christological, theological, mariological--some traditions do not ordain women that in some cases affirm women's worth.
March 13, 2025
This is not an easy book to read through as it attempts to dismantle the power structures within churches and Christian institutions that end up silencing women. What you find in this book is a compelling case that documents how and why Christian women have been mistreated and the lasting effects it has had on both female victims and the way that churches and ministries function today. While there is much to think through in terms of the theological arguments that the author presents—some of which may garner divergent opinions among Christians—the real strength of this book is in the practical resources that it offers, along with the first-hand accounts of Christian women who have been hurt, abused, and misused by the churches where they served or ministered. It is truly tragic when the body of Christ becomes an unsafe place for half of His people. Advocating for why systems and beliefs need to change in our own churches in order to better treat women the way that Jesus did, it is evident that the author approaches this topic with conviction and humility.
Although there are tinges of cultural feminism wrapped around concepts of biblical femininity, the book still serves to act as a voice for those who have lost their individual and collective voices within Christian institutions, sheerly due to their status as a woman. Despite readers’ stances on women in leadership, what is most heartbreaking are the accounts where women have pleaded for help and have been accused of bringing abuse upon themselves. Dr. Bauman earnestly implores the church to wake up and see how they are harming women and provides ways in which men can educate themselves. Calling all Christians to a higher standard, Safe Church recounts the need for believers to take care of one another and to watch out for those who are most impacted by sexism and misogyny. Ministry professionals, lay leaders, and concerned Christians will all benefit by taking the time to listen to women’s stories, review survey results depicting horrific statistics, and commit to protecting women from harm in our congregations and ministries.
Review link: https://christianshelves.blogspot.com...
Many thanks to Baker Books and NetGalley for providing a copy of this book for review consideration. All opinions are my own.
Although there are tinges of cultural feminism wrapped around concepts of biblical femininity, the book still serves to act as a voice for those who have lost their individual and collective voices within Christian institutions, sheerly due to their status as a woman. Despite readers’ stances on women in leadership, what is most heartbreaking are the accounts where women have pleaded for help and have been accused of bringing abuse upon themselves. Dr. Bauman earnestly implores the church to wake up and see how they are harming women and provides ways in which men can educate themselves. Calling all Christians to a higher standard, Safe Church recounts the need for believers to take care of one another and to watch out for those who are most impacted by sexism and misogyny. Ministry professionals, lay leaders, and concerned Christians will all benefit by taking the time to listen to women’s stories, review survey results depicting horrific statistics, and commit to protecting women from harm in our congregations and ministries.
Review link: https://christianshelves.blogspot.com...
Many thanks to Baker Books and NetGalley for providing a copy of this book for review consideration. All opinions are my own.
March 18, 2025
Coming off the sidelines
I've witnessed pain and suffering of my wife and daughter from people's opinions and actions. We left our church after many "meetings" with leadership. It was obvious that it just wasn't safe for them to stay there. It was tough after so many years there, but was absolutely necessary. Our family and some close friends had many discussions about how it can be better. My wife read this book and I followed suit, it was eye opening to say the least!! I have since purchased copies and mailed them to our former leaders for them to hopefully read and prayerfully seek. The part that really stuck with me was that i ,as a man, can speak up and be a part of the change that his so desperately needed!!
Such a powerful book.... Sad though that it has to be written in the first place !
I've witnessed pain and suffering of my wife and daughter from people's opinions and actions. We left our church after many "meetings" with leadership. It was obvious that it just wasn't safe for them to stay there. It was tough after so many years there, but was absolutely necessary. Our family and some close friends had many discussions about how it can be better. My wife read this book and I followed suit, it was eye opening to say the least!! I have since purchased copies and mailed them to our former leaders for them to hopefully read and prayerfully seek. The part that really stuck with me was that i ,as a man, can speak up and be a part of the change that his so desperately needed!!
Such a powerful book.... Sad though that it has to be written in the first place !
September 28, 2025
A good overview but lite on the "how." Does not address the problem that even egalitarian churches still face significant issues. We are barely scratching the surface of going upstream in a society where leaders, both political and Christian, continue to encourage mysoginist thinking for the next generation.
March 16, 2025
3.5/4 stars. A helpful primer that I'd recommend to many in the church
September 11, 2025
Summary: Identifies the forms of abuse and sexism toward women in the church and practices of churches where women are safe.
Imagine with me a congregation where half or more of the members were treated as second class citizens. And imagine that for many, the poor treatment even exposed them to forms of physical and emotional abuse. It doesn’t sound like an inviting place. Yet sadly, this is no imaginary place. This is the reality for women in many congregations. Andrew J. Bauman knows. He grew up in such a congregation and even led in congregations where this was the case.
And then he began listening. He listened to scripture, observing the transformative ways both Jesus and Paul related to women. He listened to research that documented the trauma women were experiencing. And he listened to numerous women, both in his counseling practice and in a series of in-depth interviews. It transformed him from a man complicit in sexism and abuse of women to an advocate for their equality and safety in the church.
He begins by defining sexism and abuse. Sexism is prejudice or discrimination based on sex. He identifies several different forms of sexism: hostile, benevolent, ambivalent, institutional, interpersonal, and internalized. The latter is especially grievous because it involves women embracing toxic messages about themselves. Then there is abuse, the improper treatment of women. This includes emotional, sexual, financial, physical, and spiritual abuse. The latter form is especially grievous in churches because God, scripture, and spiritual authority is used to control, exploit, and physically or emotionally harm women.
But why make such a big deal of this? Because it IS a big deal. In the survey of over 2800 women Bauman conducted, 82 percent stated sexism played a role in their church. Twenty percent reported being victims of sexual misconduct with another 14.6 percent responding “it’s complicated.” Over 60 percent agreed that their opportunities for ministry had been limited solely on the basis of their gender.
In subsequent chapters, Bauman considers the historic experience of women, the model of Jesus, and the biblical passages used to limit or even exploit women. Then he considers problematic theology. Firstly, there is complementarian theology and its teaching on headship, authority, and submission. He also addresses modesty and purity teaching. While Bauman’s book is not the reference work on these questions, he provides brief, well-stated answers from a biblical egalitarian perspective.
Then he moves on to the experience of trauma and abuse. He draws on his in-depth interviews with women and shows the failures of churches, who often retraumatize victims rather than create a safe space for healing. He advocates for the importance of women and people of color in leadership to ensure that women’s voices and people of color are heard.
One of the most powerful chapters in the book addresses men. He argues that men, not women, need to do the work. They need to honor, not devour women. Men need to stop denying their failures. Also, they need to quit being bystanders and speak up against sexism. most of all, they must listen to women and take their stories seriously. He also takes on the harmful and pervasive impact of pornography. Men need to say these things to men and I appreciated Bauman’s forthrightness.
Finally, Bauman concludes with a vision of church as a place for the healing of all and spells out the practices of safe churches: abuse prevention training, criminal background check, training in policies and reporting procedures, open dialogue sessions, and leadership diversity.
Some may ask if this is one more instance of “mansplaining.” Instead, Bauman spent a lot of time shutting up and listening to women. He then uses his voice, especially with other men, to join in what women have been ably saying.
Sexism and abuse are one of the reasons women are leaving the church. They also are reasons why God is withholding his blessing. You cannot harm part of the body without harming the whole. Thwarting the gifts of half the church hamstrings the whole. It is time and past time for church leaders to listen to men like Bauman.
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Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a complimentary copy of this book for review from the publisher through LibraryThing’s Early Reviewers Program.
Imagine with me a congregation where half or more of the members were treated as second class citizens. And imagine that for many, the poor treatment even exposed them to forms of physical and emotional abuse. It doesn’t sound like an inviting place. Yet sadly, this is no imaginary place. This is the reality for women in many congregations. Andrew J. Bauman knows. He grew up in such a congregation and even led in congregations where this was the case.
And then he began listening. He listened to scripture, observing the transformative ways both Jesus and Paul related to women. He listened to research that documented the trauma women were experiencing. And he listened to numerous women, both in his counseling practice and in a series of in-depth interviews. It transformed him from a man complicit in sexism and abuse of women to an advocate for their equality and safety in the church.
He begins by defining sexism and abuse. Sexism is prejudice or discrimination based on sex. He identifies several different forms of sexism: hostile, benevolent, ambivalent, institutional, interpersonal, and internalized. The latter is especially grievous because it involves women embracing toxic messages about themselves. Then there is abuse, the improper treatment of women. This includes emotional, sexual, financial, physical, and spiritual abuse. The latter form is especially grievous in churches because God, scripture, and spiritual authority is used to control, exploit, and physically or emotionally harm women.
But why make such a big deal of this? Because it IS a big deal. In the survey of over 2800 women Bauman conducted, 82 percent stated sexism played a role in their church. Twenty percent reported being victims of sexual misconduct with another 14.6 percent responding “it’s complicated.” Over 60 percent agreed that their opportunities for ministry had been limited solely on the basis of their gender.
In subsequent chapters, Bauman considers the historic experience of women, the model of Jesus, and the biblical passages used to limit or even exploit women. Then he considers problematic theology. Firstly, there is complementarian theology and its teaching on headship, authority, and submission. He also addresses modesty and purity teaching. While Bauman’s book is not the reference work on these questions, he provides brief, well-stated answers from a biblical egalitarian perspective.
Then he moves on to the experience of trauma and abuse. He draws on his in-depth interviews with women and shows the failures of churches, who often retraumatize victims rather than create a safe space for healing. He advocates for the importance of women and people of color in leadership to ensure that women’s voices and people of color are heard.
One of the most powerful chapters in the book addresses men. He argues that men, not women, need to do the work. They need to honor, not devour women. Men need to stop denying their failures. Also, they need to quit being bystanders and speak up against sexism. most of all, they must listen to women and take their stories seriously. He also takes on the harmful and pervasive impact of pornography. Men need to say these things to men and I appreciated Bauman’s forthrightness.
Finally, Bauman concludes with a vision of church as a place for the healing of all and spells out the practices of safe churches: abuse prevention training, criminal background check, training in policies and reporting procedures, open dialogue sessions, and leadership diversity.
Some may ask if this is one more instance of “mansplaining.” Instead, Bauman spent a lot of time shutting up and listening to women. He then uses his voice, especially with other men, to join in what women have been ably saying.
Sexism and abuse are one of the reasons women are leaving the church. They also are reasons why God is withholding his blessing. You cannot harm part of the body without harming the whole. Thwarting the gifts of half the church hamstrings the whole. It is time and past time for church leaders to listen to men like Bauman.
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Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a complimentary copy of this book for review from the publisher through LibraryThing’s Early Reviewers Program.
July 26, 2025
Former pastor and licensed therapist Dr. Andrew J. Bauman conducted research about women's experiences in the church, and this book unpacks his findings and explores topics related to sexism and abuse. Bauman outlines the problem, explains why it is important to listen to women's stories and take their experiences seriously, and reflects on the women's subjugation throughout history, and how Jesus treated women in contrast.
After that, Bauman addresses some Scripture passages that churches often misuse in ways that hurt and sideline women, and he addresses common teachings that enable abuse in church environments and marriages. He then shares more stories from women who participated in his research survey and interviews, and shares some reflections for other men who recognize how they've been part of the problem and want to help. At the end, he shares some practical tips for how churches can cultivate safer communities, but this chapter is very brief and basic, covering obvious things like running background checks on volunteers.
This is more of a "why" book, and it's not much of a "how to" book. In addition to this, the "why" mainly preaches to the choir. The author doesn't make much of an effort to persuade anyone who is on the fence, or who has different beliefs and convictions. This book would be stronger, for example, if the author had relied more on Scripture to support his points, instead of using so many politically correct social arguments for things. Also, Bauman regularly paints people with a broad brush, as if everyone with complementarian beliefs is characterized by the worst, most negative problems he's encountered in his research. His sweeping generalizations and occasionally harsh tone are likely to alienate readers who share his sincere concern for women, but who do not share all of his same convictions.
This is a well-researched, thoughtful book that addresses a variety of issues affecting women in the church. Bauman shows sincere concern for these problems, and reflects on ways that churches can better support women in everyday life, and in the midst of marriage struggles and other personal crises. However, because of this book's tone and limited use of Scripture to defend debatable points, this is best for people who already share the whole package of the author's ideology and convictions.
I received a free copy from the publisher, and am voluntarily leaving an honest review.
After that, Bauman addresses some Scripture passages that churches often misuse in ways that hurt and sideline women, and he addresses common teachings that enable abuse in church environments and marriages. He then shares more stories from women who participated in his research survey and interviews, and shares some reflections for other men who recognize how they've been part of the problem and want to help. At the end, he shares some practical tips for how churches can cultivate safer communities, but this chapter is very brief and basic, covering obvious things like running background checks on volunteers.
This is more of a "why" book, and it's not much of a "how to" book. In addition to this, the "why" mainly preaches to the choir. The author doesn't make much of an effort to persuade anyone who is on the fence, or who has different beliefs and convictions. This book would be stronger, for example, if the author had relied more on Scripture to support his points, instead of using so many politically correct social arguments for things. Also, Bauman regularly paints people with a broad brush, as if everyone with complementarian beliefs is characterized by the worst, most negative problems he's encountered in his research. His sweeping generalizations and occasionally harsh tone are likely to alienate readers who share his sincere concern for women, but who do not share all of his same convictions.
This is a well-researched, thoughtful book that addresses a variety of issues affecting women in the church. Bauman shows sincere concern for these problems, and reflects on ways that churches can better support women in everyday life, and in the midst of marriage struggles and other personal crises. However, because of this book's tone and limited use of Scripture to defend debatable points, this is best for people who already share the whole package of the author's ideology and convictions.
I received a free copy from the publisher, and am voluntarily leaving an honest review.
January 29, 2025
I found the most value in chapters 7-11. The first 6 chapters are very much written to his base audience, which isn't bad, but I don't see them changing the minds of those that are opposed. This is a book for those that are already on the path of change, those that already see the problems in much of the church in its views and treatment of women, abuse, sexism, and male hierarchy.
I would have liked to have seen more content in chapter 11 on "Steps toward Creating a Safe Church," as directed toward men, particularly men in leadership, though I thought the section for women was helpful for me as a man to think about. For a book focused on this topic, there wasn't much in the way of creating a safe church, practices, policies, etc. Most of the "Steps..." geared toward men are things churches should be doing (abuse prevention training, background checks, policies and reporting procedures).
The book focused on stories, and events that were experienced by many women, unpacking those experiences and the harm caused by wrong approaches, philosophies, and theologies of (sometimes well meaning) church leaders, pastors, families, and friends.
A good read for those wanting to better understand the experiences of women in much of modern evangelicalism, and be prompted to continue working through views of internalized wrong theology, philosophy, and personal value.
Again, a good book, but written to those that are already on the journey. I would not have found it to be a convincing book to start this journey 12 years ago.
I would have liked to have seen more content in chapter 11 on "Steps toward Creating a Safe Church," as directed toward men, particularly men in leadership, though I thought the section for women was helpful for me as a man to think about. For a book focused on this topic, there wasn't much in the way of creating a safe church, practices, policies, etc. Most of the "Steps..." geared toward men are things churches should be doing (abuse prevention training, background checks, policies and reporting procedures).
The book focused on stories, and events that were experienced by many women, unpacking those experiences and the harm caused by wrong approaches, philosophies, and theologies of (sometimes well meaning) church leaders, pastors, families, and friends.
A good read for those wanting to better understand the experiences of women in much of modern evangelicalism, and be prompted to continue working through views of internalized wrong theology, philosophy, and personal value.
Again, a good book, but written to those that are already on the journey. I would not have found it to be a convincing book to start this journey 12 years ago.
September 10, 2025
Safe Church: How to Guard Against Sexism and Abuse in Christian Communities by Dr. Andrew J. Bauman is a bold and necessary wake-up call to the Church. It confronts how sexism, abuse, and toxic theology have been allowed to thrive in Christian spaces—often under the guise of biblical truth.
What the Book Addresses
- Sexism in theology and leadership: Bauman critiques how women have been excluded from spiritual authority and decision-making, especially in evangelical circles.
- Abuse within church structures: He exposes how churches have mishandled sexual misconduct, often protecting abusers and silencing victims.
- Misuse of complementarianism: Bauman shares his own journey of once holding complementarian views and how he came to see their damaging effects.
- Call for reform: The book urges churches to implement boundary training, safe-church policies, and to elevate women’s voices in leadership.
Why It Matters
- Bauman uses interviews with Christian women to show how abuse isn’t just happening in the church—it’s often perpetuated by the church.
- He writes from a place of repentance and responsibility, using his platform as a male leader to challenge the status quo and advocate for change.
The book is both pastoral and prophetic. Its strength lies in reaching audiences who might resist hearing this message from women directly.
Get this book it will open your eyes!
What the Book Addresses
- Sexism in theology and leadership: Bauman critiques how women have been excluded from spiritual authority and decision-making, especially in evangelical circles.
- Abuse within church structures: He exposes how churches have mishandled sexual misconduct, often protecting abusers and silencing victims.
- Misuse of complementarianism: Bauman shares his own journey of once holding complementarian views and how he came to see their damaging effects.
- Call for reform: The book urges churches to implement boundary training, safe-church policies, and to elevate women’s voices in leadership.
Why It Matters
- Bauman uses interviews with Christian women to show how abuse isn’t just happening in the church—it’s often perpetuated by the church.
- He writes from a place of repentance and responsibility, using his platform as a male leader to challenge the status quo and advocate for change.
The book is both pastoral and prophetic. Its strength lies in reaching audiences who might resist hearing this message from women directly.
Get this book it will open your eyes!
February 27, 2025
I picked up this book because I'm a pastor's wife who is about to start ministry school. I was born and raised in the Assemblies of God denomination, which strongly supports women in all levels of ministry. Because of this, I have not experienced the situations that the women in this book faced. For that, I am incredibly grateful.
But evidently, my story is not common. Although I firmly believe the church should be a safe place for women, it oftentimes is not. I was shocked to read stories of abuse against women within the church and abuse of women being tolerated by church leaders. Bauman even shares his own journey from dishonoring women to treating them as equals made in God's image. I appreciate his transparency because I'm sure most men won't admit if/when they are the problem in this area.
One thing I would have liked to see is a breakdown of the church backgrounds of the women in the study. Some women, like me, are part of churches that support women in ministry. I would have liked to hear their perspectives, too. I would have also liked to see a wider variation in the women chosen for the study.
Although this intended audience is men, this book will help anyone navigate the challenges that females face in the Christian church. Whether you have church hurt or are in ministry, this book is worth the read!
But evidently, my story is not common. Although I firmly believe the church should be a safe place for women, it oftentimes is not. I was shocked to read stories of abuse against women within the church and abuse of women being tolerated by church leaders. Bauman even shares his own journey from dishonoring women to treating them as equals made in God's image. I appreciate his transparency because I'm sure most men won't admit if/when they are the problem in this area.
One thing I would have liked to see is a breakdown of the church backgrounds of the women in the study. Some women, like me, are part of churches that support women in ministry. I would have liked to hear their perspectives, too. I would have also liked to see a wider variation in the women chosen for the study.
Although this intended audience is men, this book will help anyone navigate the challenges that females face in the Christian church. Whether you have church hurt or are in ministry, this book is worth the read!
February 27, 2025
This was a fantastic read for someone who has personally experienced the pain of an unsafe church. Bauman addresses the systemic issues that fuel sexism in the church and provides insight for righting these historical wrongs. He does not claim to be the expert on these issues, but rather elevates the stories of women and those who have been marginalized in the evangelical community.
The book covers Biblical texts, the role of trauma, and Jesus’ relationship with women. Each chapter is carefully crafted and presented with the purpose of advocating and educating. Bauman includes a special charge to Christian men, calling them to use their privilege and leadership opportunities in the church to lift up women’s voices and call out harmful practices.
Overall, this book was educational, refreshing, and convicting. While policies are important, this book speaks to the importance of changing the atmosphere of the church in the way it treats women. This can only be done by confronting mistakes of the past and present and actively seeking to address these issues.
I would recommend this book to anyone in any church. It would be especially helpful for those who are either seeking to identify a safe church community or looking to improve the way that their church handles cases of abuse.
January 21, 2025
Dr. Andrew Bauman gives voice to the voiceless victims of abuse and sexism within the Christian church for generations. Every story recounted in the pages of Safe Church is important to see and truly hear. This book is a MUST read for EVERY church leader. Dr. Bauman displays the love and justice of Jesus as he dives into scriptures that have been twisted and misinterpreted. These manmade and evil inspired theologies have created power over dynamics in our churches that create breeding grounds for abuse and the silencing of victims. He is calling all of us to the more narrow path - to stand up and say enough is enough. He is calling us to create environments where safety thrives for our most vulnerable. As a Christian Mental Health Counselor I have worked with numerous victims of abuse whose pain was either made worse, minimized, and many times started within church communities. PLEASE get a copy, read it slowly, begin healing for your own story, weep with those who weep, repent if needed, and ask how you can stand up against evil. May we use Dr. Bauman’s research in the pages of Safe Church and the stories of these very brave women as a catalyst to embrace the work of the resurrection and see health and restoration of wholeness offered to all members of the body of Christ.
January 21, 2025
Dr. Andrew Bauman’s Safe Church book will help anyone who wants their church or home or business to be a healthy environment for all people. Dr. Bauman identifies the problem that institutions create for themselves - women feel alone, underrepresented and fundamentally unsafe in church experiences.
He defines the terms essential to understanding the issues - sexism, abuse, and spiritual abuse. The influence of Greek and Roman culture and patriarchy on Christianity is explained, and contrasted with examples of Jesus’ interactions with women. Dr. Bauman details problematic theologies and teachings and how to understand trauma and abuse. He gives suggestions on how to equip church leaders, while explaining subthemes related to sexism and abuse: exploitation, grooming and retraumatizing the victim. Dr. Bauman explains that systemic leadership failure has caused additional trauma to women and gives several suggestions for healing, including concrete ways to change a church. I highly recommend this book to anyone, leader or congregant, who would like to be a part of the solution to the problem of sexism and abuse in the church.
He defines the terms essential to understanding the issues - sexism, abuse, and spiritual abuse. The influence of Greek and Roman culture and patriarchy on Christianity is explained, and contrasted with examples of Jesus’ interactions with women. Dr. Bauman details problematic theologies and teachings and how to understand trauma and abuse. He gives suggestions on how to equip church leaders, while explaining subthemes related to sexism and abuse: exploitation, grooming and retraumatizing the victim. Dr. Bauman explains that systemic leadership failure has caused additional trauma to women and gives several suggestions for healing, including concrete ways to change a church. I highly recommend this book to anyone, leader or congregant, who would like to be a part of the solution to the problem of sexism and abuse in the church.
January 22, 2025
Safe Church is one of the most important books to read this year. I am about three-quarters of the way through, and the personal stories have been the most impactful. Dr. Bauman's personal connection to this issue is deeply moving. His wife's and mother's experiences are heartbreaking, and his own journey to becoming a safe man is inspiring. I have tremendous respect for the fact that this book does not minimize non-physical forms of abuse. The author clearly defines terms like sexism and spiritual abuse and expresses empathy for everyone.
Every time a new story of abuse in the church is reported, I find myself becoming more heartbroken and disillusioned. However, Safe Church is renewing my hope that we can make lasting, positive changes. Jesus did not avoid women or treat them as second-class citizens. He engaged them, sat with them, and included them. There are systemic issues in the church that need to be addressed, and Safe Church offers real solutions. If we all work together with love and empathy for one another, we can begin to make the church the safe place I once believed it to be.
Every time a new story of abuse in the church is reported, I find myself becoming more heartbroken and disillusioned. However, Safe Church is renewing my hope that we can make lasting, positive changes. Jesus did not avoid women or treat them as second-class citizens. He engaged them, sat with them, and included them. There are systemic issues in the church that need to be addressed, and Safe Church offers real solutions. If we all work together with love and empathy for one another, we can begin to make the church the safe place I once believed it to be.
December 21, 2025
The premise of this book is so very, very needed and has been since the beginning. Literally, since The Beginning - since The Fall was hung solely around the neck of a woman, since her Image-bearing creation was demoted to subservient property, since her testimony has been relegated to fantasy and her femininity has been synonymous with frailty.
So why 4 stars and not 5? The author, sweet angel, tries his best to make all the right points but without any of the right words. Like he’s heard of a dumpster fire but never had to put one out.
He hints at the real problems and circles real solutions, but if he’s hoping these subtle hints will impact radical change… it’s probable that even brothers of a like-minded feminist patriarchy will walk away with nothing more than the pride of enlightenment. The author stops just short of actually saying what needs to be said.
I’d like to see a follow up to this book…one with very specific examples and possible solutions - maybe a companion guide or a pastoral Bible study in which church leaders put the premise of the book into practical action.
So why 4 stars and not 5? The author, sweet angel, tries his best to make all the right points but without any of the right words. Like he’s heard of a dumpster fire but never had to put one out.
He hints at the real problems and circles real solutions, but if he’s hoping these subtle hints will impact radical change… it’s probable that even brothers of a like-minded feminist patriarchy will walk away with nothing more than the pride of enlightenment. The author stops just short of actually saying what needs to be said.
I’d like to see a follow up to this book…one with very specific examples and possible solutions - maybe a companion guide or a pastoral Bible study in which church leaders put the premise of the book into practical action.
February 27, 2025
You would think when you hear the word "church" it would mean a safe place for all. Don't be fooled. The church can have its own set of problems, as one will find out in this book.
The author does a really good job explaining the problem some churches have with sexism and abuse in the church. The introduction of the book sets the tone of what to expect to read.
Although I have not seen directly what is described in Safe Church, I know it goes on in the church (denomination) I belong to. Especially woman holding high positions, ministers, pastors, high management positions, etc... I do know of a "few" women ministers, but in general it is frowned upon, and it shouldn't be.
Until it was brought up in this book, I didn't realize how little women are represented in the Bible.
This is a good book to read on what to look for and to address any sexism and abuse in your church.
The author does a really good job explaining the problem some churches have with sexism and abuse in the church. The introduction of the book sets the tone of what to expect to read.
Although I have not seen directly what is described in Safe Church, I know it goes on in the church (denomination) I belong to. Especially woman holding high positions, ministers, pastors, high management positions, etc... I do know of a "few" women ministers, but in general it is frowned upon, and it shouldn't be.
Until it was brought up in this book, I didn't realize how little women are represented in the Bible.
This is a good book to read on what to look for and to address any sexism and abuse in your church.
January 23, 2025
This book is long overdue and at the same time, ahead of its time. It's long overdue because the church has been complicit in sexism, misogyny, neglect and downright abuse of women for as long as I can remember--and long before I was born, which Dr. Bauman has laid out so thoroughly. I personally encountered it growing up in the church from third grade on, especially in my teen years. I encountered it as a young woman, a mother, a pastor's wife, a missionary, and a church member serving in the church. I have been a Christian for 61 years, since I was 8 years old. I'm grateful to be reading this long-overdue book, and I am shouting out a huge thank you to Dr. Bauman for writing it.
At the same time, I will be astonished if Dr. Bauman is hailed as the hero he is for writing this book.
And that is the reason I say it is ahead of its time--because so few men have so openly raised their voices alongside the voices of women who have been calling out the sexism and abuse in the church.
I applaud Dr. Bauman's thorough and scholarly exegesis of biblical texts that have been misinterpreted and misused by the church. His research is well-documented, and the stories that some of his survey participants shared are chilling ... yet so terribly authentic. Best of all, this book is not just an exposé of wrong-doing, but it is also an invitation to healing with clear guidelines and practical steps that can and must be taken for the church to become safe for ALL of God's beloved children.
At the same time, I will be astonished if Dr. Bauman is hailed as the hero he is for writing this book.
And that is the reason I say it is ahead of its time--because so few men have so openly raised their voices alongside the voices of women who have been calling out the sexism and abuse in the church.
I applaud Dr. Bauman's thorough and scholarly exegesis of biblical texts that have been misinterpreted and misused by the church. His research is well-documented, and the stories that some of his survey participants shared are chilling ... yet so terribly authentic. Best of all, this book is not just an exposé of wrong-doing, but it is also an invitation to healing with clear guidelines and practical steps that can and must be taken for the church to become safe for ALL of God's beloved children.
February 18, 2025
While the topics covered are often considered taboo to speak openly about in most Christian circles, the book is so well written for a wide audience. I appreciated that many complex concepts were mentioned with links to current research and relevant resources cited instead of the personal preferences and cherry picked scriptures most Christian authors tend to give. Over and over he touched on so many topics that most don't dare to say out loud and followed up each time with facts, lived experiences from other perspectives, self-reflection and accountability that has been sorely lacking until recently. Giving actionable steps and links to solid resources really take the reader from just knowing better to doing better. This is definitely something you want to read without putting down and share afterwards.
January 24, 2025
This is a necessary read for anyone grappling with the pain caused by toxic church systems. As a woman who recently left the church and is deconstructing because of the very issues Bauman addresses, this book feels like both a reckoning and a balm. Bauman doesn’t shy away from exposing the harm caused by unchecked power, sexism, and abuse cloaked in spiritual language. Yet, he also offers hope for what the church could be—a place of safety, justice, and healing. For those of us who’ve walked away, it’s a bittersweet reminder that change is possible, but only if leaders are willing to face the truth with courage and humility. A critical read for anyone who still believes the church can do better. I honestly don't know if I hold as much hope, but I'm willing to be wrong.
June 6, 2025
As a young girl growing up in the evangelical church, my Sundays were fraught with complementarian teaching. “Don’t cause your brother in Christ to stumble” or “modest is hottest” were assignments given to children requiring them to be responsible for the sexual integrity of grown men. Andrew’s book breaks the oppressive trance of these teachings. He speaks truth to power and provides evidence regarding the harms women have suffered. It has been my prayer that this teaching would spread through the church like wildfire, that women would be honored as co-heirs in Christ and have representation in leadership as Jesus intended. This work is hard, but it is beautiful and I’m so grateful for his commitment to it, because it really does matter.
December 24, 2025
Andrew Bauman is uniquely qualified to write this book. His back story, academic emphasis, professional expertise, and clinical research create an unmatched Venn diagram of credentials. It’s safe to say, he wrote this book primarily to men in church leadership; but he also speaks to victims of unsafe churches and to women who align with power instead of victims. Bauman thoroughly connects how sexism leads to objectification on its way to abuse of women and children. As an author of a book about church trauma, I will be recommending this book with one caveat: the chapter confronting complementation theology is inadequate. I will suggest to interested parties that they read Nijay Gupta’s Tell Her Story instead of that section of this otherwise solid book.
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January 25, 2025The heart cry of every woman hurt by the church and the those who inhabit it, echos in the pages of Andrew Bauman's, Safe Church. Bauman does a fanstastic job of tenderly exploring the all to common issues of abuse and exploitation that women have been exposed to in so many of our current church systems. With safety and dignity, he dives into true narratives that survivors want the church community to hear and understand. Safe Church is a call for those in power to see God's design for females. Practical tips and common sense advice make Safe Church a necessary find on every church bookshelf. This book gives hope to those of us who have wondered if a church will ever be safe for us again.
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