Teaching Your Children Healthy Sexuality (Pure Foundations): A Biblical Approach to Preparing Them for Life

by Jim Burns

It's not just the birds and the bees anymore. You may have been eleven once, but you were never their age. Thanks to the Internet, graphic images in the media, and their "knowitall" friends, kids today grow up earlier than ever. They have questions, and as a parent, your responsibility is to clear up the mixed messages and lead them to a healthy, valuecentered view of sexuality. Sure, conversations with your kids about sex and their changing bodies can be uncomfortable but they don't have to be. Jim Burns gives expert advice on how and when to talk with your children, and he provides answers to the most difficult questions your kids and teens might ask, like: How far is too far? If you do "everything but sex," are you still a virgin? Is selfstimulation wrong? I think I'm addicted to porn. What can I do to get help? Is a boy/girl sleepover okay if there's a chaperone? The world's culture may have cheapened sex, but God's view of sexuality is wonderfully made. Talking with your kids at a young age will help them make more godly decisions along the way, but they'll need conversation with you at every age. This is your opportunity to establish in them a lasting sexual integrity that will extend throughout their lives.

Genres: Parenting, Christian, Nonfiction

162 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2008

About the author

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Jim Burns, Ph.D., President of HomeWord is the host of the HomeWord with Jim Burns daily half-hour, daily one-minute, and weekly half-hour radio programs. His passion is communicating to adults and young people practical truths to help them live out their Christian lives.

Jim is the author of many resources including his latest books The Purity Code: God’s Plan for Sex and Your Body, Teaching Your Children Healthy Sexuality and Accept Nothing Less: God’s Best for Your Body, Mind and Heart. In recent years, he has also written Confident Parenting and Creating an Intimate Marriage which are available in audio CDs, books, and small group curriculum kits; The 10 Building Blocks for a Happy Family; Devotions on the Run; and Parenting Teenagers for Positive Results kit. Since 1985, HomeWord has been assisting parents and churches worldwide through radio, resources, seminars, and the web at www.homeword.com. Jim writes monthly columns for Ignite Your Faith magazine and Simply Youth Ministry newsletter and website.

Reviews

[Marie · Rating 3 out of 5]

A little outdated (copyright 2008), but still very informative. Great age-appropriate conversation starters and hints. I think there is something lacking in the "purity promise" department. By that I mean, I believe the emphasis or its effectiveness should be more on the relationship or on-going discussion of parent, mentor or spiritual leader and the youth than on the making of the promise itself. Anyone can say "I promise," but who actually follows through? Still, standards in purity and God-honoring sexuality are VERY important discussions to have!

[Joel Jackson · Rating 4 out of 5]

Burns presents a clear and concise guide for parents who wish to encourage their children to approach their sexuality as God designed. Every parent should read this book and consider how to share the truths within with their children.

[Angela · Rating 3 out of 5]

Simple book addressing some methods of discussing sexuality with your children. There was a strong push for a “purity contract” and that doesn’t resonate with me. But we haven’t been contract parents. I think there was some good advice in there and it gave me confidence to be straight with my daughter who has just started dating, but nothing overly groundbreaking as we have been very open with discussing sexuality since the kids were little. It could be very shocking for families who have been hesitant to discuss these topics.

[Kelsey S · Rating 3 out of 5]

While it wasn’t bad, I can’t call it excellent. I felt that it gave a big picture view of the topic at hand, without diving into actual specifics of how you would talk with your child. It’s quite out of date now, and many of the posed questions were answered with non-answers and too many words.

[Carson Knauff · Rating 3 out of 5]

I prefer a book that has stood the test of time as opposed to something new and trendy. Yet with a book like this, even being less than 20 years since release, the more recent the better. It is extremely outdated at points but the overall message is great when sifted out of the rest of the book.

[Sara · Rating 4 out of 5]

great tips

[Drew · Rating 4 out of 5]

Essential tool for parents.