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Bescherm jezelf tegen narcisme & gaslighting: Klinisch psycholoog dr. Ramani Durvasula adviseert
In ‘Bescherm jezelf tegen narcisme & gaslighting’ laat dr. Ramani Durvasula zien hoe je veelbetekenende signalen van narcisme kunt herkennen, om zo te helen van ongezonde relaties en beter beschermd te zijn tegen toekomstige schade. De eerste stap is om te stoppen met proberen de narcistische persoon te veranderen en jezelf niet langer de schuld te geven. Dr. Durvasula doet al meer dan twintig jaar onderzoek naar narcisme en helpt cliënten die met narcistisch misbruik te maken hebben gehad. Dit inzichtelijke handboek helpt je om gaslighting te weerstaan, realistische grenzen te stellen en je eigenwaarde te herstellen na jarenlang misbruik.
“Een compassievolle wegwijzer en overlevingsgids voor mensen in een narcistische relatie, die hen helpt te begrijpen hoe ze kunnen herstellen en groeien tijdens en na deze uitdagende relatie.” –Jay Shetty, auteur van Denk als een monnik
“Een compassievolle wegwijzer en overlevingsgids voor mensen in een narcistische relatie, die hen helpt te begrijpen hoe ze kunnen herstellen en groeien tijdens en na deze uitdagende relatie.” –Jay Shetty, auteur van Denk als een monnik
356 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 26, 2024
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About the author
Ramani Durvasula
15 books1,181 followersDr. Ramani Durvasula is on a mission to demystify and dismantle the toxic influence of narcissism on all of our lives. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica and Sherman Oaks, CA and Professor of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, where she was named Outstanding Professor in 2012. She is also a Visiting Professor at the University of Johannesburg.
She is the author of the modern relationship survival manual Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist (Post Hill Press) She is also the author of You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life, as well as the author of numerous peer reviewed journal articles, book chapters and conference papers. In September 2019, her overview book on narcissism in our world, our hearts, homes, and workplaces entitled DON'T YOU KNOW WHO I AM? How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement and Incivility will be released.
Dr. Ramani received her B.S. in Psychology from the University of Connecticut, and her MA and Ph.D. degrees in Clinical Psychology from UCLA.
She brings a wealth of expertise in relationships, sexuality, health and wellness. Dr. Ramani was the co-host of Oxygen’s series My Shopping Addiction, and has also been featured on series on Bravo, the Lifetime Movie Network, National Geographic, the History Channel, Discovery Science, and Investigation Discovery as well as in documentary films on health and narcissism. She has been a featured commentator on nearly every major television network, as well as radio, print, and internet media.
Dr. Ramani is also involved in national governance in the field of psychology and has served as the chair of the Committee on Socioeconomic Status at the American Psychological Association and is presently chair of the Advisory Board of the Minority Fellowship Program of the American Psychological Association.
Dr. Ramani recognizes that narcissism and technology have changed the landscape of love and relationships and provides keen insights on how to survive in the new territory of love and commitment.
She is the author of the modern relationship survival manual Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist (Post Hill Press) She is also the author of You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life, as well as the author of numerous peer reviewed journal articles, book chapters and conference papers. In September 2019, her overview book on narcissism in our world, our hearts, homes, and workplaces entitled DON'T YOU KNOW WHO I AM? How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement and Incivility will be released.
Dr. Ramani received her B.S. in Psychology from the University of Connecticut, and her MA and Ph.D. degrees in Clinical Psychology from UCLA.
She brings a wealth of expertise in relationships, sexuality, health and wellness. Dr. Ramani was the co-host of Oxygen’s series My Shopping Addiction, and has also been featured on series on Bravo, the Lifetime Movie Network, National Geographic, the History Channel, Discovery Science, and Investigation Discovery as well as in documentary films on health and narcissism. She has been a featured commentator on nearly every major television network, as well as radio, print, and internet media.
Dr. Ramani is also involved in national governance in the field of psychology and has served as the chair of the Committee on Socioeconomic Status at the American Psychological Association and is presently chair of the Advisory Board of the Minority Fellowship Program of the American Psychological Association.
Dr. Ramani recognizes that narcissism and technology have changed the landscape of love and relationships and provides keen insights on how to survive in the new territory of love and commitment.
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July 27, 2025
8/10 on CAWPILE -> 4.5 stars
I read the Dutch translation, but since this book was originally written in English I will review it in English.
I've been watching Dr. Ramani's YouTube channel for a few years now and it has helped me a lot in understanding narcissistic family dynamics and has been a huge support in my ever ongoing healing journey. (I grew up as the scapegoat of a narcissistic father and an enabling mother.)
This book provides a kind of overview of what Dr. Ramani also talks about on her channel. I really appreciate that this book focuses on the survivors of abusive relationships (in romantic relationships, family, work or friendship), the effects of the abuse and how to heal from it and not on understanding the narcissist.
The book does explain what narcissistic behavior is and the misconceptions about it. It also tells us what draws us to narcissists and which parts of us makes us vulnerable to them. But the biggest part is focused on healing, whether you decide to leave the narcissistic relationship or decide to stay.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has been the victim of emotional abuse or knows someone close to them who has gone through this. Sadly, society encourages narcissistic behavior and education on it isn't widespread. I hope this book finds you when you need it and I hope you'll learn that what happened to you wasn't your fault.
I read the Dutch translation, but since this book was originally written in English I will review it in English.
I've been watching Dr. Ramani's YouTube channel for a few years now and it has helped me a lot in understanding narcissistic family dynamics and has been a huge support in my ever ongoing healing journey. (I grew up as the scapegoat of a narcissistic father and an enabling mother.)
This book provides a kind of overview of what Dr. Ramani also talks about on her channel. I really appreciate that this book focuses on the survivors of abusive relationships (in romantic relationships, family, work or friendship), the effects of the abuse and how to heal from it and not on understanding the narcissist.
The book does explain what narcissistic behavior is and the misconceptions about it. It also tells us what draws us to narcissists and which parts of us makes us vulnerable to them. But the biggest part is focused on healing, whether you decide to leave the narcissistic relationship or decide to stay.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has been the victim of emotional abuse or knows someone close to them who has gone through this. Sadly, society encourages narcissistic behavior and education on it isn't widespread. I hope this book finds you when you need it and I hope you'll learn that what happened to you wasn't your fault.
December 15, 2024
Mij afvragen waarom en wat ik altijd fout heb gedaan, mijzelf de schuld geven, het goed praten en moeite hebben met loslaten. Dit boek heeft mij veel inzichten gegeven en mij geleerd dat het niet aan mij ligt, dat mijn emoties en mening er ook mogen zijn. Het heeft de ware aard van mensen in mijn omgeving beter doen begrijpen. Oprecht een heel goed boek. Dankbaar dat ik deze heb gevonden en heb gelezen. Nu begint mijn heling pas echt.
November 24, 2025
dnf.
Boek is meer gericht op personen die zelf in een narcistische relatie zitten, of daarin hebben gezeten (zowel familiaal als romantisch). Een aantal dingen zijn wel interessant voor een lezer die in het onderwerp geïnteresseerd is, maar zelf geen relatie heeft met een narcist. Het grootste gedeelte van het boek is echter niet relevant.
Boek is meer gericht op personen die zelf in een narcistische relatie zitten, of daarin hebben gezeten (zowel familiaal als romantisch). Een aantal dingen zijn wel interessant voor een lezer die in het onderwerp geïnteresseerd is, maar zelf geen relatie heeft met een narcist. Het grootste gedeelte van het boek is echter niet relevant.
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