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136 pages, Paperback
First published December 1, 2009
Had one been asked to take a Martian to visit a single place that neatly captures the gamut of themes running through our civilisation – from our faith in technology to our destruction of nature, from our interconnectedness to our romanticising of travel – then it would have to be to the departures and arrivals halls that one would head.
I was reminded of the Roman philosopher Seneca’s treatise On Anger, written for the benefit of the Emperor Nero, and in particular of its thesis that the root cause of anger is hope. We are angry because we are overly optimistic, insufficiently prepared for the frustrations endemic to existence.
Our capacity to derive pleasure from aesthetic or material goods seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional and psychological needs, among them those for understanding, compassion and respect. We cannot enjoy palm trees and azure pools if a relationship to which we are committed has abruptly revealed itself to be suffused with incomprehension and resentment.
At the beginning of human history, as we struggled to light fires and to chisel fallen trees into rudimentary canoes, who could have predicted that long after we had managed to send men to the moon and aeroplanes to Australasia, we would still have such trouble knowing how to tolerate ourselves, forgive our loved ones and apologise for our tantrums?
Like thriller writers, the security staff were paid to imagine life as a little more eventful than it customarily manages to be.
The advantages of wealth can sometimes be hard to see: expensive cars and wines, clothes and meals are nowadays rarely proportionately superior to their cheaper counterparts, due to the sophistication of modern processes of design and mass production.
We may settle on the sort of cheerful but equivocal look commonly worn by people listening out for punchlines to jokes narrated by their bosses.
Although each suitcase was a repository of dense and likely fascinating individuality – this one perhaps containing a lime-coloured bikini and an unread copy of Civilization and Its Discontents, that one a dressing gown stolen from a Chicago hotel and a packet of Roche antidepressants – this was not the place to start thinking about anyone else.
Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few who hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognise by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without. There were men pacing impatiently and blankly who had looked forward to this moment for half a year and could not restrain themselves any further at the sight of a small boy endowed with their own grey-green eyes and their mother’s cheeks, emerging from behind the stainless-steel gate, holding the hand of an airport operative.
As David [a hypothetical British traveler] lifted a suitcase on to the conveyor belt, he came to an unexpected and troubling realisation: that he was bringing himself with him on his holiday. Whatever the qualities of the Dimitra Residence [his Greek destination], they were going to be critically undermined by the fact that he would be in the villa as well. He had booked the trip in the expectation of being able to enjoy his children, his wife, the Mediterranean, some spanakopita and the Attic skies, but it was evident that he would be forced to apprehend all of these through the distorting filter of his own being, with its debilitating levels of fear, anxiety and wayward desire.On the back cover of the old Whole Earth Catalog, there used to be this motto, which expresses it all succinctly: "Wherever you go, there you are." This quote has been variously attributed to Confucius and others, but it seems to be one of de Botton's themes.
Possiamo anche trascorrere la maggior parte della nostra vita professionale a cercare di sembrare dei duri, ma in fondo siamo tutte creature spaventosamente fragili e vulnerabili. Viviamo in mezzo a milioni di persone che per la maggior parte ignoriamo e da cui siamo ignorati, ma alcune avranno sempre in ostaggio la nostra capacità di essere felici; riusciremmo a riconoscerle anche dall’odore e non potremmo farne a meno a costo di morire.(pag.121)
“Un tempo la nozione di viaggio come portatore di decisioni era un elemento essenziale del pellegrinaggio religioso, un’escursione nel mondo intrapresa nel tentativo di promuovere e consolidare un cammino interiore. I teorici cristiani non si lasciavano affatto turbare dai pericoli, dai disagi o dalle spese previste dai pellegrinaggi, perché li consideravano, al pari di altri apparenti svantaggi, meccanismi con cui rendere più vivido l’intento spirituale implicito del viaggio. Passi coperte di neve sulle Alpi, tempeste al largo delle coste italiane, briganti a Malta, guardie ottomane corrotte: queste prove servivano soltanto a non far dimenticare così facilmente quell’avventura. Per quanto i voli frequenti ed economici siano un beneficio, dovremmo maledirli per avere sottilmente minato ogni nostro tentativo di utilizzare il viaggio come strumento per apportare cambiamenti duraturi nelle nostre esistenze.”