Switches are fun too (an audio review)
Life as a switch can be challenging. I know several and they speak a lot about ‘hats’. Which ‘hat’ are they wearing that day? There is a different headspace for each role, and it can be delicate. Add polyamory to the mix, and it can create a chaotic mind.
Shaw Montgomery’s character, Bryce, is battling that chaos. In binary BDSM relationships, unless both partners are switches, each partner usually has an assigned and negotiated role. I have seen couples evolve over the years and even reverse these roles, but usually each person, who is being true to himself, chooses and enjoys their role.
Bryce has fought with this dichotomy his entire life. He is a take-charge guy at work, having to stand up to his brothers who are also his business partners. In the BDSM club he attends, he has been observing a couple with growing hunger. The opening scene of the book is the aftercare of the submissive Oliver by his Dominant Troy. Troy has just been using sounds on Oliver. (I’ll leave it up to you whether or not you’re going to investigate sounding if you’re not already familiar with it.) Troy is holding Oliver, who is still flying. Bryce is watching, as unobtrusively as possible, but his longing is plain to Troy, who invites the outsider to join the embrace. Whether in an actual scene or in aftercare, only those explicitly invited to join are allowed to enter that sacred space. Bryce understands the monumental nature of this invitation and he treasures the physical and emotional contact with the two men.
This story is told from each of the three men’s point-of-view, so, as a listener, I was able to see the relationship from the perspective of each member of the triad as they manoeuvre their way through this. Troy and Oliver have known for a long time that they want a third. But until they met Bryce, the structure of that new relationship wasn’t clear. As Oliver points out, you can’t just custom-order a switch or pick one up at the supermarket. That Bryce is a switch works for this trio. But Bryce still has difficulty. Sure, he enjoys topping or co-topping Oliver with Troy. And he loves being one of Troy’s two ‘boys’, bottoming and submitting to the Dominant man, but he finds it difficult to change headspace.
Add his meddling mother and bossy brothers to the mix and it’s almost too much for the private man. At one point, he’s ready to lose it. Also, he’s a respected businessman in a conservative industry. How would it look if he’s dating (and eventually loving) two men?
Sometimes it takes a pair to convince a switch that his true self is welcome. And, speaking of true selves – Carter, Grant’s submissive, is becoming increasingly comfortable in his own skin, including wearing make-up and effeminate clothes. Wyatt and Garrett are preparing to take their relationship to the next level.
This book is the perfect end to the stories of the four brothers who are all gay and all into BDSM. And who all get their happy ending.
Kenneth Obi’s narration of the series has been enjoyable. It can be a challenge to create and maintain nine distinct male voices, but he’s done a commendable job. These are fun, light and entertaining listens.