Teaching Intimacy 101: How to Teach Your Children about Sex & Intimacy in Marriage

by Laura M. Brotherson (Contributor)

Now you can take on the challenge of teaching your children about sex and intimacy in marriage with confidence and conviction! The birds and the bees no longer need intimidate you. Most parents know they should talk to their children about sex, but don't know what to say, or where to begin. Teaching Intimacy 101 , taken from the book And They Were Not Ashamed--Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment , shines a light on the subject, making it easier for parents to have a positive and meaningful dialogue about sex and intimacy with their children. With this 2 CD audio book, author and intimacy educator Laura M. Brotherson helps parents overcome their fear and discomfort, prepare themselves and their children for these sacred conversations, and learn what, when, why, and how to teach their children about the intricacies of intimacy, and better prepare them for a mutually fulfilling, lasting relationship in marriage. It's time to create a whole new generation of young people who go into marriage better prepared for the intimate marital relationship! 2 CDs
Approx. time 140 minutes

Audio CD

First published December 1, 2006

About the author

Marriage and intimacy expert, Laura M. Brotherson, MS, MFT, CFLE is the founder of StrengtheningMarriage.com and author of the bestselling book on sexual intimacy and marital ONEness entitled, And They Were Not Ashamed — Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment. Laura is also the host of “The Marital Intimacy Show” and creator of YouTube “Marriage Messages.”

Laura shares her passion for building strong marriages and families as an author, Marriage and Family Therapist, sex therapist, show host, blogger and podcaster. She writes for multiple online magazines, publishes an electronic newsletter entitled “Straight Talk about Strengthening Marriage,” and a marriage blog, and speaks in various venues from couples’ cruises and conferences to television and radio shows.

Laura (StrengtheningMarriage.com) is your trusted resource for education, products and services to strengthen marriages… intimately! Laura sees herself filling the need for a “family-values Dr. Ruth.”

Laura and her husband are the parents of three children, and have been married over 20 years. You can learn more by visiting StrengtheningMarriage.com.

Reviews

[Jenny · Rating 4 out of 5]

I should have listened to this years ago.
Here are the things that stood out.
*The root cause of most sexual misconduct is not having your emotional needs met. Teenagers who don't feel loved or don't have their emotional needs met are significantly more likely to engage in premarital sex. Additionally, when children feel that their needs aren't being met, they seek to fill them in ways that will hurt their parents. They rebel.
*Touch deprivation. Children need positive touch. when they don't receive enough, they seek for it elsewhere. IN our society, sexual fulfillment and touch have become so intertwined that when a teenager doesn't receive enough positive touch, they seek for it through sexual encounters. Telling a touch deprived teenager not to have sex is like telling a hungry child not to eat their favorite cookie sitting right in front of them. Until we change the underlying condition it may be nearly impossible to change or stop the immoral behavior.
*Children may develop unhealthy habits if given too much free time or are unsupervised and bored.
*Children/teens need to have a healthy understanding of why they should wait. They need to understand their divine nature and why they should save sex for marriage. When you have light and truth and a healthy understanding of the role of sex in marriage, it is easier and more likely for them to make good choices. Focus on the positive reasons why they should wait, not the negative consequences if they don't.
*The first step in teaching children about intimacy is to have a positive relationship with them. Can your child trust you to remain calm? To answer questions clearly, accurately, and calmly? Build trust. Second step: Then give them positive, loving touch. Third step: Positive flooding...be specific. "I love when you.." "I love how you..." "I love you!" Children need as much personal and positive encouragement as you can while making eye contact. Step 4: Spend one on one time.
step 5: Hold personal parent interviews.
*"With proper teaching, reverence can replace recklessness among our youth."
*Help children see sex as a beautiful gift from God to strengthen and unite a couple. Focus less on the negative effects that come from immorality. Help them see that sex outside of marriage is wrong but sex inside of marriage is wonderfully right.
*Many youth are woefully unprepared for marriage.
*Shift focus from premarital don'ts to marital dos.