The Monogamy Challenge: Creating and Keeping Intimacy

by Peter Kane

"The Monogamy Challenge" goes beyond helping partners resolve attractions to it also helps to create and sustain vital and passionate monogamous relationships. The authors 30+ years as a counselor and workshop facilitator have created a groundbreaking, deep and practical book, helping readers resolve the many issues that make intimacy and monogamy difficult. Since our whole life is about our relationship with ourselves and others, this book is also about creating success, intimacy and connection in every area of our life.


A fascinating look at monogamy and the dynamics of erotic energy.
-Judith Orloff MD author, Emotional Freedom.

This work deals in a remarkably clear and non-judgmental way with the many challenges of monogamy. It is loaded with information and practical ideas based on the author's long background as a counselor and deep knowledge of breath work and psychology. A serious contribution to the evolution of what it means to move towards partnering relationships.
-Hal Stone, PhD, author, A New Kind of Relationship

Peter Kane is a pioneer in relationship theory and counseling. He has been counseling individuals and couples, and leading seminars on personal growth and relationships around the world since 1979.

Peter’s passion is creating personal emotional freedom and commitment in relationships, family, and community. Through his work, he teaches others to be emotionally present and connected. Peter’s relationship with his two boys has been an invaluable source of joy and inspiration. “They have helped me heal, be present, and learn to smell the roses. They have taught me how to play and be as a child again.”

When not traveling and teaching workshops, Peter resides and practices near Seattle, in Redmond, WA.

331 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 20, 2010

Reviews

[Beth Haynes · Rating 4 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book very much. It's more about relationships than about monogamy - though it certainly is helpful in that regard as well. I have been monogamous for over 40 years, and the last few years have be3en some of the best. I am curious about what could help me continue to take this relationship to an even deeper and more glorious level. I was not disappointed.

The author looks at relationship through a mind/body/spirit lens. He does not denigrate polyamory, and almost all of what he discusses could be applied to non-monogamous relationships. He expounds upon our sexual nature as existing far beyond the sex act. He explores the challenges of different temperaments, needs, and psychologies -and how to leverage them into mutually fulfilling interactions. He makes a strong case that it by learning to embraces our differences that we become whole as individuals. I did lots of highlighting and plan to read this again to help his ideas sink further in.

[Sheryl · Rating 5 out of 5]

A deeply thought out, clear and unbiased understanding and explanation of relationship issues, their numerous causes, and a variety of possible solutions that has the power to transform relationships into loving, conscious and lasting partnerships