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You're Not a Failure: My Teen Doesn't Like Me Either
Stay connected through the tween and teen years, feel less alone, and tackle today's toughest parenting issues
Do you feel like you are the only one struggling while raising your teenager? Academic stress, mental health, tech usage, competitive athletics, self-esteem issues, adolescent apathy, disrespectful behavior—it's tough to be a teen these days, and just as tough to parent one. If you're in the thick of it with your adolescent—or if you're getting a jumpstart on this difficult time—this book can help you untangle the complex challenges and improve your relationship with your kids. In You're Not a My Teen Doesn't Like Me Either, beloved parenting blogger Whitney Fleming empowers parents to shift their mindsets and approach their relationship with their teens with renewed optimism and understanding.
There's no perfect guidebook for parenting tweens and teens because there is no one-size-fits-all approach that actually works when it comes to raising kids. Each parent-child dynamic is different, and each adolescent has a unique personality and challenges all their own. But mostly, raising adolescents means parents will learn about themselves—the good, the bad, and the ugly. With this book, you can flip the narrative about raising teenagers by taking control of your emotions and responses to create a loving, supportive relationship. This book will help
Unpack and work through the complicated emotions, issues or traumas you may bring into the relationship with your big kids Stop trying to be a “good” parent—instead, become the parent your kid needs Let go of fear and anxiety to help your kids take risks and build resilience Manage and rethink your approach to social media, smartphones, and other unprecedented parenting challenges Learn how to break free from the common pitfalls that prevent many parents from helping their children thrive Challenge yourself and your family values, and redefine what it means to be there for your child in every way Overwhelmed parents of teens and tweens will find validation, encouragement, practical advice, and relatable humor in You're Not a Failure. Discover that you're not alone in your struggles, and find a way forward, for you and your child.
Do you feel like you are the only one struggling while raising your teenager? Academic stress, mental health, tech usage, competitive athletics, self-esteem issues, adolescent apathy, disrespectful behavior—it's tough to be a teen these days, and just as tough to parent one. If you're in the thick of it with your adolescent—or if you're getting a jumpstart on this difficult time—this book can help you untangle the complex challenges and improve your relationship with your kids. In You're Not a My Teen Doesn't Like Me Either, beloved parenting blogger Whitney Fleming empowers parents to shift their mindsets and approach their relationship with their teens with renewed optimism and understanding.
There's no perfect guidebook for parenting tweens and teens because there is no one-size-fits-all approach that actually works when it comes to raising kids. Each parent-child dynamic is different, and each adolescent has a unique personality and challenges all their own. But mostly, raising adolescents means parents will learn about themselves—the good, the bad, and the ugly. With this book, you can flip the narrative about raising teenagers by taking control of your emotions and responses to create a loving, supportive relationship. This book will help
Unpack and work through the complicated emotions, issues or traumas you may bring into the relationship with your big kids Stop trying to be a “good” parent—instead, become the parent your kid needs Let go of fear and anxiety to help your kids take risks and build resilience Manage and rethink your approach to social media, smartphones, and other unprecedented parenting challenges Learn how to break free from the common pitfalls that prevent many parents from helping their children thrive Challenge yourself and your family values, and redefine what it means to be there for your child in every way Overwhelmed parents of teens and tweens will find validation, encouragement, practical advice, and relatable humor in You're Not a Failure. Discover that you're not alone in your struggles, and find a way forward, for you and your child.
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224 pages, Paperback
Published October 15, 2024
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November 23, 2024
I only wish I had this book sooner! So well-written and honest. I loved the idea of working on yourself to address how YOU were raised before attempting to parent teenagers.
A few good quotes:
“It’s not enough to be rely good at something anymore, and average is irrelevant… The goalposts for success keep getting pushed further and further back, so far that I can’t even see what success looks like anymore for kids.”
“…as parents we must recognize that achievement can become like an addiction for many people, and some teens can feel that if they aren’t achieving, performing, or succeeding, then they are unlovable It can leave these young people trying to figure out who they are in this world feeling empty, depressed, anxious, and perpetually unsatisfied.”
“Volatile behavior is often caused by a storm that is brewing inside. You can be her soft place to land or another rock she needs to climb.”
A few good quotes:
“It’s not enough to be rely good at something anymore, and average is irrelevant… The goalposts for success keep getting pushed further and further back, so far that I can’t even see what success looks like anymore for kids.”
“…as parents we must recognize that achievement can become like an addiction for many people, and some teens can feel that if they aren’t achieving, performing, or succeeding, then they are unlovable It can leave these young people trying to figure out who they are in this world feeling empty, depressed, anxious, and perpetually unsatisfied.”
“Volatile behavior is often caused by a storm that is brewing inside. You can be her soft place to land or another rock she needs to climb.”
October 18, 2024
I highly recommend this book! I’m a certified parent coach and former high school teacher (and mom who’s raised and launched 3) and find that so much of the conflict or drama we have in the house w a preteen/teen/young adult is because we don’t know to change our parenting and mindset as their brains and developmental stages are changing. As a mom, I read so many books when they were 0-5 (the “What to expect” book series anyone?!😉) but then stopped and thought, ah well, you keep parenting the way you parent, right? Luckily I had thus realization that that’s like me thinking my kid could stay in a second grade classroom w the teacher doing the same thing and my kid (and the class experience) would be fine. Oh my 🙈 I am so glad this book is out and I’m so excited for parents to get their hands on it!!
October 21, 2024
While my parenting journey took different paths and my experiences were very different from the author's, I found myself nodding and smiling throughout the book, starting with the early chapters. Fleming talks candidly about how difficult it is to be a parent today and how technology has completely changed the game – things are very different from when our parents were our age. She talks about how our past influences our thoughts and actions and how difficult it is to let our kids go and to watch them fail.
While this book is a parenting book, it is also a self-help book; the author shares things she learned about herself and ways she worked to change herself to be a better parent. (How many of us said early on in our parenting journey that we would do things differently than our parents did? Honestly, that’s hard to do.) She addresses outside pressures as well: from school, coaches, and even other parents. Our kids are constantly bombarded with messages that they are not good enough unless they do x y and z, and as parents, we sometimes internalize those thoughts as well.
Each chapter ends with a list of actionable advice, such as how to help you manage your own feelings, how to determine what your teen really needs, and what you can do to make your relationships stronger. Reading this book is like sitting down with a good friend, one who is willing to share not only their highlight reel, but also to talk about when things are difficult. These years are hard, but honest books like this one help make it a bit easier.
While this book is a parenting book, it is also a self-help book; the author shares things she learned about herself and ways she worked to change herself to be a better parent. (How many of us said early on in our parenting journey that we would do things differently than our parents did? Honestly, that’s hard to do.) She addresses outside pressures as well: from school, coaches, and even other parents. Our kids are constantly bombarded with messages that they are not good enough unless they do x y and z, and as parents, we sometimes internalize those thoughts as well.
Each chapter ends with a list of actionable advice, such as how to help you manage your own feelings, how to determine what your teen really needs, and what you can do to make your relationships stronger. Reading this book is like sitting down with a good friend, one who is willing to share not only their highlight reel, but also to talk about when things are difficult. These years are hard, but honest books like this one help make it a bit easier.
November 1, 2024
Whitney Fleming has been a guiding light in all things parenting for years, and now her book You're Not a Failure, My Teen Doesn't LIke Me Either is like all that guiding light shining squarely on our path, giving us what we need to see our way forward. If you are in the parenting teen trenches, this book full of stories and strategies is just what you need to see your way through all the hard things. She has been there and will guide you through!
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