Paperback. Pub Date :2014-01-30 272 English At the age of nine. Hope Daniels walked into Stoke Newington Police Station with her little brothers and asked to be taken into care Home life was Both of Hopes parents were alcoholics and her mum was a prostitute. The year was 1983. As London emerged into a new era of wealth and opportunity. the Daniels children lived in desperate poverty. neglected and barely nourished. Hounded by vigilante neighbours and vulnerable to the drunken behaviour of her parents friends. Hope had to draw on her inner strength Hackney Child is Hopes gripping story of physical and emotional survival -. and the lifeline given to her by the support of professionals working in the care system Despite all the challenges she faced.. Hope never lost compassion for her parents. particularly her alcoholic father. Her experiences mak...
Angry. Disheartened. Appalled. Mildly disturbed. Sorrowful. In fact, just think of pretty much any negative adjective and that will describe how I felt on finishing this autobiography. Not because it's a bad book -- quite the opposite, it completely gripped me and I finished it in one sitting.
This summer I will be joining Frontline, a government sponsored programme which trains graduates with zero prior experience to become qualified children and families social workers. At a meet up evening with my soon-to-be-classmates/colleagues (eeEK!) I attended last week, we were all given a free copy of this book as an eye opener (read: head first dunking into cold water) into the social work profession. And, as became abundantly clear as I was reading, as examples of bad practice which should never, ever be allowed to happen.
This is the true story of a little girl named Hope Daniels, and her struggle to grow up safe and whole within the poverty, neglect, and malpractice of 1980s Hackney and its child services. It is a battle cry to the brutalities faced by Britain's poorest individuals, and a call to arms against the failures of a welfare system which allows the most vulnerable of these individuals -- their children -- to fall through the cracks. It's a whistle-blow against the injustices which allow children's potential to be wasted through bureaucratic laziness in the care system, for children to be allowed, even expected, to fall into a wicked cycle of poverty, low self esteem, and low attainment.
(Disclaimer: obviously I'm massively generalising about the backgrounds and achievements of care leavers here, but the statistics are still depressing and unjust A F.)
THERE'S A REASON I NORMALLY STICK TO READING FANTASY OK!!!! *sweats*
It's a bit difficult to talk about a 'story' and 'characters' when actually they are all real people and real events. Hackney Child is ghost written by Morag Livingstone with Hope Daniels (the pseudonym of Jenny Molloy) and her sentences are a bit scrappy and simplistic, which makes for a jolting and not exactly lyrical read, with a slightly too-sudden ending. However, the story is so powerful that the book gets away with its sub-par style. Literature is not the goal here. Getting Hope's story out is the goal, and the book does that admirably.
It's unbelievable that Hope's parents are able to get away for so long with leaving a mere £5 of their weekly benefits on the shelf for their three children to feed themselves for the next several days, and blow the rest on insane nights of drinking. That their malnourished children children are forbidden from turning the home heater on whilst their parents sit in the warm pub for days on end. That the children sit in their own pee, because their parents don't even go to the effort of rinsing their toddlers' clothes in the sink. That the children's' bellies regularly ache at the weekends, and they long for Monday when their free school dinner will be the first square meal they've eaten since Thursday or Friday. The fact that these kids flew under the radar for nine years -- that they aren't alone in having these experiences -- and that this still happens in the UK today --- is just unacceptable.
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And tHEN. And THEn when they finally escape into the relative warmth and security, the system screws them over so much it just makes you want to SCREAM. Hope specifically requests on multiple occasions that she wants to be fostered, and she even has an advert put in the national paper. And then applicants phone in looking to foster Hope, but what, someone doesn't bother to phone them back? And the couple foster a different girl instead. And then the foster worker goes on maternity leave, and the temp - what- can't be bothered to sort out the paperwork? And the file is closed. And so - oh so easily, through oh so little acts of incompetence and laziness -- another chance of happiness for the life of an incredible, precious child is thrown down the drain.
BUT that's not all -- because you see, Hope is one of the lucky ones. Even though she is arbitrarily moved away from a home where she is happy (HAVE NONE OF THESE STUPID PRATS HEARD OF A THING CALLED 'STABILITY'???!!!) even though she is locked in solitary confinement at the age of 13 and not even told why (aaaaaaAAAARRRGH I AM LITERALLY GOING TO KILL EVERYONE) she, unlike many many of her fellow children in care, does not have to suffer through physical or sexual abuse.
I have no idea whether this problem is ubiquitous, whether it still happens to children in care today. But needless to say, this makes me feel impotently furious, and physically ill, and it should make you feel furious and ill too.
Now, on to less depressing things. *mops brow with relief*
Ultimately, this is a story about courage, survival, love and.... well.... hope. There's a big fat reason Hope was chosen as the author's pseudonym. Hope makes an impressive protagonist, considering that she's only nine and runs her own entire life, for real. We get to see her strive to achieve, stumble, fall, make it through some incredibly dark times, suffer with drug and alcohol addiction, and ultimately reach a form of absolution with the birth of her own daughter, who she's been able to provide with a normal, loving childhood. Now how's that for a true life, inspiring happy ending?
Finally, it wasn't just Hope who tugged at my heartstrings. It was her parents, too. It's clear that Hope feels an overwhelming love for her father, and despite her mum's despicable treatment of her, she is still full of a child's longing for a mother's warm embrace. I wasn't remotely surprised when it is revealed that her parents, in their turn, had suffered horrific and abusive neglect. It would be really easy, as a reader, to judge her mother for her behaviour towards her children. But when you see how Hope's Grandparents treated their daughter -- putting her in and out of care, and forcing her to go through the trauma of giving up a child at the age of only 17 -- her actions become much more understandable, although not justifiable.
I wouldn't have decided to become a social worker if I didn't know that there are thousands of children across the UK who's home lives are nothing short of tragic, so I wasn't shocked by the sheer deprivation and neglect Hope and her siblings suffered through in their childhood. That didn't stop me from being moved and concerned by her plight, as well as incredibly impressed by the courage and fortitude that she shows throughout.
If I can bring even a modicum of stability or support to a family who needs it, and make even a tiny splot of difference to the life of a child like Hope, then it will definitely have been worth it.
Hope says something incredibly powerful at the end of the book. If all children in care were given the stability, support, and high expectations received by kids in 'normal' families .... who knows all the incredible things they would be able to achieve...?
Read this at the start of my journey as a Social Worker and re-reading nearly 3 years later. This book reminds me why I went into social work. It's a reminder that care-experienced young people are some of the most resilient, tenacious individuals. It breaks my heart that Hope experienced "bad" social work practice and made multiple references to feeling ill-informed about decisions of her own life. I hope that the children I work with will speak of my practice positively and I will only ever work to make a positive change. Hope, I wish you all the best and I thank you for helping me to learn about your journey and reigniting my passion.
reading this while training to be a social worker was quite intense, a reminder of the real lives we are touching and changing and the responsibility of this - everyone should read this
Harrowing but insightful look into Hope’s experiences growing up in Hackney and then later in care. Looking forward to reading ‘this isn’t love’ next (thanks Jenna!)
First Hope, I want to give you a big hug and congratulations for surviving your traumatic childhood. I wish you all the best for the future. If I'm honest I simply cannot get my head around, how a Mother would to this to her children. I cried many tears while reading your story.I'm sure you have opened many people's eyes Good luck and happiness to you and your family x
Hackney Child is unfortunately the harsh reality of many people’s lives. What we read in this book is a story of adversity, disadvantage, family and systematic abuse and neglect. However, the most important message we read is of resilience, survival, strength and never giving up. Readers get to almost feel the challenges of Hope and her siblings, but we also absorb her determination and drive, despite being thrown into a system with institutionalised failings that are still problematic today. I will use this book in my day job as an example to people in recovery from trauma that their story is important.
I was interested in this book after spending a lot of time in Hackney I know it quite well, the book gripped me from the start. Can't say I enjoyed the story as her upbringing was horrendous and heartbreaking I had tears in my eyes at one point, it takes a lot to make me cry! Every spoilt child should read this book to make them appreciate what they have.
As others have said, this book is a hard-hitting memoir of what it was like to grow up in the British care system during the tail end of the last century.
From the off, the honest narrative describes the journey between abuse, manipulation and the neglect of care by authorities and the obvious mental/physical effects put on to young child victims.
Quite harrowing a read? Yes, of course but yet the hope of the narrator strangely seems to pervade every page showing she is prepared to fight for herself and her young family. From the start, the narrator battles to go forward in life but has a clear sense of right and wrong along with a working knowledge of the failings that the UK care system puts upon her. To every extent, this gives here even more intelligence and clues to help her beat the system.
The true heartbreak of the book stems from the fact that, despite all their failings, Hope the narrator still has some compassion for her parents and understands their difficulty in breaking the impossibility of poverty/abuse cycle.
As an insight into pockets of UK culture this book is very insightful as well as inspirational. It would be totally naïve to assume that poverty, abuse and social care issues lessen as society progresses and develops.
To anyone who has a social conscience as well as a professional interest in social affairs, this book is an invaluable read.
As a positive, Hope Daniels (more recently operating as Jenny Molloy and not under the Daniels pseudonym) advises and campaigns extensively for the promotion of better social care. This book is only the tip of the iceberg of how to understand the real world whilst hoping for a better one.
I look forward to checking out the @HackneyChild twitter page for more details on how UK social problems are being reported and solved. The insight most definitely needs to be shared.
TW: child neglect, alcohol and drug abuse, sex work, children's homes, social work, foster care, references of child sexual abuse but nothing explicit
God this was a really difficult read and I can't even imagine the strength that Hope had as a child of 9 years old to take her younger brothers and demand a better life for them all. Hope is only 9 years old when she decides that enough is enough and that she has to be the one to seek change for her family. What follows is a horrendous tale about how Hope is let down and abandoned again and again; just as she gets settled she has the world pulled from under her feet. What comes across so clearly in this book is Hope's desire to just know why - why is she being moved, why have her workers changed and left her, why can she not be fostered. You can really feel the pain and frustration coming out throughout this book and I cannot blame Hope.
Social work has come a long way since when Hope was a child there are so many things evident throughout this book that still are not perfect. Hope and her brothers were let down systematically by every professional they were in contact with before Hope, the child, took action herself. Police officers knew they were left home alone and so did social workers. And after they're taken into care there is still a real lack of stability and consistency for Hope. She's a young girl who has had to fight her whole life for herself and her brothers and was just utterly failed by those who should have helped her. Yet Hope continues to fight on; not just for herself but for other children in care so that they don't have the same experiences she had.
It takes a very strong 9 year old to find the bravery & courage to walk into the police station to request to go into care with her brothers & it just opens ones eyes to the poverty there was/still is in the world but where were her parents? Definitely defines how drunk & abusive their behaviour was to not even notice Hope had left with her 2 brothers but I'm also angered that she ended up split from her brother's & even when she was crying to be fostered the Social Care continued to brush her aside.. a courageous woman emerged after struggling with addiction too & managed to brake the chain of addiction for her own children.. Stand Strong!
This was an eye opener into the reality of life as a child in the care system. The story was engaging and so obviously based on true events because of the detail . I visualized almost all of what happened. I take my hat off and thank the protagonist for telling and sharing her story and I hope it will inspire.others who find themselves in the care system . I'm sure it will. Well written great book. Thank you
Absolutely harrowing story that has REALLY touched my heart. As a social worker new in her career I just find it SO SO shocking how Hopes wishes and feelings were consistently ignored throughout her time in care. It makes me so sad 😭 💔 every social worker NEEDS to read this book! And to Hope... You have changed your life around and have broken the cycle for your own children and grandchildren. That, is priceless.
An sad read which should be read by all working with children within the care system/ social workers. It is interesting to read from a child perspective however is it a tragic experience which saddens me that some of her experiences regularly continue within the system (not clearly explaining what's happening and unpicking why young people act in such a manner). I hope she continues to advocate for change and perhaps support social workers to make changes by them listening/ reading her story.
Hope recently spoke at our Annual conference, she spoke with such passion and conviction and is truly inspirational, so much so that I wanted to read a bit more about her life growing up and how she has managed to break the cycle. It is a harrowing read and we can all learn a lot from reading this book, but we need to put it into practice, safeguarding is everyone’s business, how can families like Hopes still be having this kind of experience in our so called enlightened society.
When you have been brought up with a good, secure and loving background, you cannot imagine some of the horrendous situations that some children have to go through growing up. The author was so brave to do what she had to do for her younger siblings safety, to say she was not much older herself. Brilliant read.
A real life account of a young girl that grew up in the care system during the 80s due to having parents that weren’t capable of looking after her & her brothers.
A good example of how the cycle of the care system can continue through generations of families until one individual decides things can be different.
An extraordinary book, telling the life of Hope in Hackney in the 70's and 80's. A child who's home life led her to take herself and younger brothers to a police station to ask to go into care. The retelling is frank and a collection of Hope's memories. I found the book moving and hard to put down. I would have loved a summary at the end of what happened to her family members and herself.
Very good journey through this very hard awful time
This was well written and took you on hopes journey of being in a horrific childhood but seeing it from all sides of addiction. I thought it was very sad but heart warming how she changed her life.
Amazing story of how this girl fought her way out of the vicious cycle of addiction and poverty. Her desperate longing for the feeling of belonging in a family was heart wrenching especially as so many of us take it for granted
It’s incredible that poor Hope survived all that her childhood flung at her. Everything that a childhood should not be. Horrendously and repeatedly let down by her parents and the social care network over the course of many years. A pretty harrowing but also engrossing read.
Having lived in Hackney for 20 years and worked with children with a similar background to Hope I was interested in this book and I found it, though hard to read at times, quite uplifting that someone can come through such an awful beginning to life.