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I Love You But You Always Put Me Last: How to Childproof Your Marriage
Happy Marriage or Happy Children?
You don't have to choose. You can have both!
If your marriage is suffering because you're too busy with the kids, you're not alone. Many modern couples fall into the same trap. By sacrificing their relationships with their partners to focus on their children, they believe they're being perfect parents. But in fact, they're doing their children more harm than good and they're ruining their marriages in the process. The outcome is demanding, insecure children with unrealistic expectations of the world and resentful, alienated spouses who feel taken for granted. The good news is that it doesn't need to be this way. You can have it all: a thriving marriage, an enriching family life, and independent, well-adjusted children.
Renowned marriage therapist and author Andrew G. Marshall shows you how to revive and nurture your marriage while raising an emotionally healthy family. For over 30 years, he has been helping couples save their relationships by refocusing their priorities and putting their partners first. You'll learn why putting your children second prepares them better for adulthood, and why being a 'good enough' parent is better than being perfect. Marshall's strategies may seem unconventional but they are rooted in decades of marriage counseling experience.
Packed with tips, advice, and compelling examples, this witty and insightful guide equips you with the tools you need to turn your marriage around. You'll learn how to: Ask for the support you need Overcome differences in parenting styles and find acceptable compromises Share household responsibilities effectivelyDefine what your children truly need from youWork together as a team Rekindle your passion for each other and keep it aliveAvoid the pitfalls of raising 'red carpet kids' and give your children a strong foundation for adulthood
If parenthood has taken center stage and pushed your marriage to the background, this book will help you restore the balance. Let Andrew G. Marshall show you how to reclaim your relationship while raising emotionally healthy children.
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You don't have to choose. You can have both!
If your marriage is suffering because you're too busy with the kids, you're not alone. Many modern couples fall into the same trap. By sacrificing their relationships with their partners to focus on their children, they believe they're being perfect parents. But in fact, they're doing their children more harm than good and they're ruining their marriages in the process. The outcome is demanding, insecure children with unrealistic expectations of the world and resentful, alienated spouses who feel taken for granted. The good news is that it doesn't need to be this way. You can have it all: a thriving marriage, an enriching family life, and independent, well-adjusted children.
Renowned marriage therapist and author Andrew G. Marshall shows you how to revive and nurture your marriage while raising an emotionally healthy family. For over 30 years, he has been helping couples save their relationships by refocusing their priorities and putting their partners first. You'll learn why putting your children second prepares them better for adulthood, and why being a 'good enough' parent is better than being perfect. Marshall's strategies may seem unconventional but they are rooted in decades of marriage counseling experience.
Packed with tips, advice, and compelling examples, this witty and insightful guide equips you with the tools you need to turn your marriage around. You'll learn how to: Ask for the support you need Overcome differences in parenting styles and find acceptable compromises Share household responsibilities effectivelyDefine what your children truly need from youWork together as a team Rekindle your passion for each other and keep it aliveAvoid the pitfalls of raising 'red carpet kids' and give your children a strong foundation for adulthood
If parenthood has taken center stage and pushed your marriage to the background, this book will help you restore the balance. Let Andrew G. Marshall show you how to reclaim your relationship while raising emotionally healthy children.
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- GenresNonfiction
320 pages, Paperback
First published October 1, 2013
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About the author
Andrew G. Marshall
35 books65 followersAndrew has been a marital therapist for almost thirty years. He trained with RELATE the UK's leading couple counselling charity. He now has a private practice in London and Sussex (England), gives workshops on relationship and inspirational talks. His books have been translated into twenty languages (including French, German, Spanish, Japanese, Chinese and Italian). He also writes for UK newspapers Daily Mail and Mail on Sunday.
Andrew is also the host of the podcast "The Meaningful Life with Andrew G Marshall" where each week I interview therapists, academics and people with a story to tell about making better relationships, deeper connections understanding yourself and what makes life meaningful.
Andrew is also the host of the podcast "The Meaningful Life with Andrew G Marshall" where each week I interview therapists, academics and people with a story to tell about making better relationships, deeper connections understanding yourself and what makes life meaningful.
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April 7, 2014
Going through a phase of non fiction books, and gave stumbled on some really helpful ones. This one tackles what I think is a fairly common problem - the impact that kids can have to a couple's relationship. While we don't want to give them back, it is so easy for actual relationships with our partner to take second place (or third, behind work, or fourth, after friendships, time to self - you get the picture). Practical and useful advice - including actually meaningful questions to discuss with your partner - and actions that you can put it place, it takes things a step further than most advice books of similar ilk.
January 21, 2014
Simple and Honest!
This is a well written book on a much needed topic. As wives we often put our husbands behind our children and both suffer. This was a challenging book to read because – I am often guilty of making this mistake. The advice is solid and solutions are offered with a realistic, gentle hand. At times the examples are funny and some will bring a tear to your eye because it is as if Mr. Marshall was peaking in the family room. The results promised are great – happy husbands and well balanced kids. I took my time in reading the book so I could really ponder on the advice given – so take your time – your family is worth the investment. Enjoy! NetGalley and HCI Books provided an advanced review copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
This is a well written book on a much needed topic. As wives we often put our husbands behind our children and both suffer. This was a challenging book to read because – I am often guilty of making this mistake. The advice is solid and solutions are offered with a realistic, gentle hand. At times the examples are funny and some will bring a tear to your eye because it is as if Mr. Marshall was peaking in the family room. The results promised are great – happy husbands and well balanced kids. I took my time in reading the book so I could really ponder on the advice given – so take your time – your family is worth the investment. Enjoy! NetGalley and HCI Books provided an advanced review copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
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