I Don't Know What to Say: How to Help and Support Someone Who Is Dying

by Robert Buckman

When people we love are dying, we all too often are unable to help them — or even talk to them — or face our own conflicting feelings about the impending loss. This authoritative and empathetic guide demystifies the dying process and offers practical advice for the friends and families of the terminally ill. In "I Don't Know What to Say..." Dr. Robert Buckman, a distinguished oncologist who was himself once diagnosed as having a fatal illness, confronts these questions:
— What should a patient be told about his or her illness?
— How can the patient's supporters cope with demands that may seem angry and irrational?
— What are the crucial differences between caring for a dying parent, spouse, or child?
— How can you help someone dying from AIDS, cancer, or a dementing illness?

Genres: Nonfiction, Medicine, Psychology

272 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1988

Reviews

[Jesse Richards · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's a really great book even if you're not dealing with someone who is dying, but it really helps me realize some of my flaws as a listener and how I'm not putting people in amazing situations when getting through rough conversations, I really love this book.

[Emma Sager · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was a very helpful book. Some of it seemed obvious to me, but definitely a good guide.

[Julie Beth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Beautifully written by Buckman. His compassionate nature comes through the book easily. Articulate and heartfelt, this book is a treasure to all those who must deal with death. Just happens to be all of us.

[Jeannie · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read so many books on death and dying when I found out my mom was dying of cancer. This one opened my eyes to her feelings and was a great help to me.

[Jacquie · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is one of the most informative books I have read on the subject of death and dying. I highly recommend it!