The book “Those Who Stayed” offers an insightful exploration of identity, conflict and resilience of the micro-minority Sikh community in Kashmir (a region that has historically been at the epicentre of geopolitical turmoil). For me, this is one of those rare books where my words may not do justice to the raw depth of its narrative, and I knew from the first paragraph itself that this is far beyond a typical 5 star read.
The chapters are chronologically precise, beginning with a personal and tragic murder of Supinder Kour, a Sikh school teacher, followed by other killings in 2021, setting the tone for the exploration of how violence seeps into the lives of Kashmir’s residents. Further, the key historical events such as the Partition of India and the subsequent tribal invasion of Kashmir in 1947 (the forgotten battles of Ichahama and Attina), that altered the region’s socio-political landscape and the lives of the Sikhs serve as the foundational backdrop.
Through personal narratives, the author weaves in horrifying historical events like the Indo-Pak wars, the 1990s militancy and massacres like Mehjoor Nagar and Chattisinghpora, emphasising their impact on local communities, particularly the Sikhs who often found themselves caught between sectarian violence and militant insurgency. Despite these challenges, the Sikh community is depicted as resilient, but their sense of identity and security is constantly under threat, posing critical questions about their future.
Kashmir’s strategic importance to both India and Pakistan has often overshadowed the lived experiences of its inhabitants, and the author’s work is a corrective to this imbalance. By focusing on the voices of Sikhs who have been marginalised, he sheds light on the intersectionality of religion, politics, and identity in one of the world’s most heavily militarised region.
It took a while for me to consolidate all my thoughts and absorb the narratives. The exploration of psychological and emotional toll, particularly on the Sikh community in Kashmir was insightful and changed my understanding of conflict-torn areas. I realised that such regions are not just defined by physical violence and loss incurred, but by the long term trauma that lingers in the lives of the survivors. I could sense the vulnerability throughout the book, the scars they carry and a constant fear they live with - Should we stay in Kashmir or leave? Are we safe? Can we flourish here?
What I particularly appreciate is how the author explores not just the events but focuses on its aftermath as well, illuminating the quiet, unspoken suffering of those left behind. Through interviews and stories of the survivors, he does not just record history, but humanises it by giving a voice to the survivors, the people who stayed behind with a believe that Kashmir will return to its normalcy. He ensures that the voices of those who stayed are heard, understood and remembered as for these individuals, leaving Kashmir is not an option, it is their home, and leaving would mean severing a connection to their ancestral roots, culture and identity.
The author’s reflections on controversial laws like Armed Forces Special Powers Act (AFSPA) and the abrogation of Article 370 and Article 35(a) provide a critical lens on the balance between state security and human rights. This further raises important questions about the nature of citizenship and the role of ethnic minorities in conflict zones, particularly in a region where the state is both protector and oppressor.
The complex Sikh-Muslim relationship is another significant theme. The author presents the relationship as one of both strain and cohabitation, emphasising shared cultural values alongside moments of suspicion. A key example is this contribution of Sikhs during the 2014 Kashmir floods, showcasing their interdependence.
Overall, this book goes beyond simplistic binaries of conflict and cooperation, offering a more complex view of how communities navigate life in a region fraught with violence and political uncertainty.
It is a must-read for anyone interested in understanding Kashmir through the voices of those who stayed.