This book has changed my prayer life. Raybon writes with shocking honesty about her own foibles, but the hope she generates for a powerful prayer life is the result. She deserves credit not only for a well-crafted story, but also for a message that is too important to miss.
Raybon's previous book, My First White Friend, provides insight into her journey to forgiveness for racial injustices. This book is such an ironic follow-up that you almost have to wonder if God wasn't having just a little bit of fun with Raybon, teaching her to let go in the most audacious ways. She not only has to let go and forgive white people; now she has to love and forgive even when her daughter chooses to leave her Christian faith to become Muslim. Even worse, her daughter meets and decides to marry (what could be worse?) a white guy--also Muslim. Oh, the irony that his Muslim name is Aesa--Jesus, in Arabic.
Well, what can you do but shake your head and chuckle? And you have to wonder if God in his heaven isn't chuckling too, only because he knows that his daughter Patricia will indeed let go, trust, love--and learn to even laugh at herself in the process. And He knows that his grace is sufficient for, well, even for this.
For anyone who has felt that their world was spiraling out of control, this book is a great reminder that--surprise, surprise--we were never in control in the first place. The good--no, the stupendously good news is that our good and loving God IS in control. And we can rest in that.
We can rest in the first lesson that Raybon learned through her husband's sudden and serious illness: No matter what our challenge, no matter how big our fears, how big our doubts, how big our problems--God is bigger. That truth was the foundational start of her new life of prayer.
Her ensuing lessons on prayer are equally profound because she helps us to see what it means to pray "according to the will of the Father." It is in the act of understanding, surrendering, and, yes, even partnering with God's will that we can come to God in prayer with astounding confidence. Jesus said, "If you ask for anything in my name, it will be done." When you pray according to God's will, you can confidently tell the mountain to move. Raybon learned, though, that prayer isn't so much about what we get as about who we become. Our daily living--especially how we love--is intimately linked to our prayer posture.
The challenge to me, and probably to others, is to listen long enough to hear and learn God's will, through prayer, through scripture, and through loving others. Raybon's book provides a great instruction guide on how to listen and apply, in practical and sometimes surprising ways, all that God speaks to us in prayer. The book will challenge you, move you, and make you laugh out loud at times.
For the record, my favorite line comes where she has refused to listen to the news anymore (after 9/11) and chosen instead to go for a walk each day with an easy listening station in her earphones, singing her heart out to the sounds of Englebert Humperdinck and Vicki Carr. "Holy Ghost music? Had to be. When a black woman listens to Vicki Carr and Englebert Humperdinck, the only way to explain it is the Holy Ghost."
Read this book. You'll laugh at such honesty, but you'll walk away with profound prayer lessons to last a lifetime.