The Deep-Rooted Marriage Companion Guide: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight

by Dan B. Allender, Steve Call

What if you could experience a marriage that is not just good, but truly life-giving? Therapists Dan Allender and Steve Call show how deeper intimacy can bring more healing and delight.

Every relationship has its highs and lows, but we often don't know what to do with our "lows," or how we ended up there. What is creating friction, exacerbating our pain, and standing in the way of intimacy?

More often than not, it is the stories of our past drifting into the present. But if we are willing to look at them closely, we will be able to write a new story for the future.

With more than seventy years of therapeutic experience combined, Dan Allender and Steve Call demonstrate how God is inviting you and your partner to a wild faith journey with the hope of transformation. With personal stories, key psychological insights, and practical advice, this accompanying workbook to The Deep-Rooted Marriage will help

Address past trauma, giving you greater courage and compassion to engage your present strugglesDisrupt cycles of conflict based on shame, judgment, and resentmentCreate safety when feeling threatened and offer attunement, empathy, and honor toward differencesAdopt humility, honesty, kindness, curiosity, defiance against what divides, and intention to blessLearn practices that cultivate emotional intimacy, generating new goodness between you and beyond you 

This workbook experience will guide you into a deeper application of The Deep-Rooted Marriage principles and includes a video component.

Marriage is not about merely getting along or resolving conflict through compromise. It reveals who you are and invites you to who you can become. Marriage offers a space for you to experience what you are made for—honor and delight. And it is the ground from which redemption is meant to grow, where, together, you can reflect God’s image more and experience a taste of heaven.

159 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 21, 2025

About the author

Dan B. Allender, Ph.D, is a fly fisherman who also serves as president and professor of counseling at Mars Hill Graduate School near Seattle, Washington. He is a therapist in private practice, and a frequent speaker and seminar leader. Dan received his M.Div. from Westminster Theological Seminary and his Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from Michigan State University. He is the author of To Be Told: Know Your Story / Shape Your Future, How Children Raise Parents, and The Healing Path, as well as The Wounded Heart, Bold Love, and Intimate Allies. He and his wife, Rebecca, are the parents of three children.

Reviews

[Julianna Steen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I thought the companion book would be pretty much the same as the trade book but with lines to fill in some of the questions they asked. Oh boy, was I wrong—this could easily be a stand-alone book that can (& will) transform your view of yourself, your relationships, and your origin story.