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The Hole
Throughout the ages, people have searched for that elusive ingredient that will make their lives complete and fill up the "hole within." In their efforts to fill this hole, millions have turned to food, sex, gambling, drugs and alcohol or compulsive spending. Now, in his insightful new book, "The Hole", author Bruce Derman, Ph.D. reveals an innovative perspective to achieving inner peace in this fable about a seemingly successful couple who suddenly discover the presence of a gaping hole in the floor of their home. At first, they ignore and avoid the hole, which symbolizes the emptiness in their lives. Finally, they try to fill the hole, but no matter what they do to "fix" it, it keeps growing larger. When a mysterious stranger appears and offers to help them with their exhaustive efforts to fill the bottomless hole, they begin to see that they must choose between the endless exercise of filling the emptiness, or learn the skills necessary to accept it.
102 pages, Kindle Edition
First published May 4, 2010
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December 26, 2010
Entering the Unknown and Embracing It
If Dr. Bruce Derman offers therapy as well as he writes then he must be booked for months ahead! This book, THE HOLE, is a clever fable and as Derman obviously knows, people relate to fables well. The story has been excerpted many times on this review site and this reviewer will not repeat the fable as written. But the story behind the fable as presented by Derman, as well written and wise though it is, is not the same experience as reading for yourself. The concept of deciding to embrace the unknown rather than continue running from it in fear is in many ways the basis for therapy. Derman develops this concept by using a 'perfect couple' encountering a threatening other and eventually, together, accepting and actually jumping into that unknown mysterious and terrifying other and finding a better relationship and life because of their commitment shines a light on the path each of us must encounter if we are to grow.
In Dr. Derman's introduction, succinct and to the point and brief thought it is, offers some of the warmest supportive and therapeutic advice yet published. If everyone would just simply add this book to their library and offer it as gifts to those about whom we have concern as they face emptiness then this chaotic world would begin to make sense, allowing us all to move on - enlightened. Highly recommended reading!
Grady Harp
If Dr. Bruce Derman offers therapy as well as he writes then he must be booked for months ahead! This book, THE HOLE, is a clever fable and as Derman obviously knows, people relate to fables well. The story has been excerpted many times on this review site and this reviewer will not repeat the fable as written. But the story behind the fable as presented by Derman, as well written and wise though it is, is not the same experience as reading for yourself. The concept of deciding to embrace the unknown rather than continue running from it in fear is in many ways the basis for therapy. Derman develops this concept by using a 'perfect couple' encountering a threatening other and eventually, together, accepting and actually jumping into that unknown mysterious and terrifying other and finding a better relationship and life because of their commitment shines a light on the path each of us must encounter if we are to grow.
In Dr. Derman's introduction, succinct and to the point and brief thought it is, offers some of the warmest supportive and therapeutic advice yet published. If everyone would just simply add this book to their library and offer it as gifts to those about whom we have concern as they face emptiness then this chaotic world would begin to make sense, allowing us all to move on - enlightened. Highly recommended reading!
Grady Harp
September 27, 2016
A good reminder of good values
Mostly about facing fears, and metaphors really make you think about things in life and in relationships, it's a quick read I read it in one day , I recommend it
Mostly about facing fears, and metaphors really make you think about things in life and in relationships, it's a quick read I read it in one day , I recommend it
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