The Concise Manual of Marriage

by محمد صالح العثيمين, Mislyn Nelson (Editor), Dawud Adib (Translator)

A short yet concise manual on the legal rulings of marriage authored by one of the beacons of light in his time, Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Saalih al-'Uthaymeen, with comments from some of the Scholars of Islaam, past and present.

The Definition of Marriage: After providing the linguistic meaning of marriage, Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Saalih al-'Uthaymeen stated that the technical, religious meaning and purpose of marriage is: "The conclusion of a contract of marriage between a man and a women, with each of the two desiring to enjoy and take pleasure in one another, to establish a righteous family, and to create a safe and sound society.

From the Wisdom of Marriage:

1) Preservation and protection of both mates. The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said: “O party of young men! Whoever among you has the ability to get married, then let him marry for surely it will be a means of lowering the gaze and protecting the private parts.”
2) Protection of the society from evil and the disintegration of [good] character, for without marriage, vices or despicable acts would spread amongst men and women.
3) The fulfillment of pleasure of one mate with the other, concerning what is mandated for him of rights and sexual intercourse. Since the man is responsible for the woman, he takes care of the maintenance of food, drink, housing and clothing with what is beneficial. The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said: “Upon you is their provisions and clothing from what is beneficial.” And the woman is also responsible for establishing for the man, that which is required of her in the home of supervision and correction. The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said: “The woman is a shepherd in her home and she will be questioned concerning her flock.”
4) Perfection of relations between families and tribes. For how many times do we see two distant families that do not know each other?"


The new edition includes a second appendix containing advice for the newlyweds.

Genres: Islam, Nonfiction

123 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2012

About the author

محمد بن صالح العثيمين الوهيبي التميمي، أبو عبدالله. عالم فقيه ومفسر، إمام وخطيب وأستاذ جامعي، عضو في هيئة كبار العلماء ومدرس للعلوم الشرعية وداعية سعودي، من مواليد عنيزة في منطقة القصيم.

Reviews

[hiba ☕︎ · Rating 4 out of 5]

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Whenever a woman possesses pleasant outward features, sweet speech, and is a coolness to the eye when gazed upon, the ears incline towards her expressions, the heart will open to her, the chest will expand for her, the soul will find solace in her and the meaning of the verse will be fulfilled in her, where the Most High said: "And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy."

I enjoyed reading this, it was short and straight to the point, alhamdulillah. I was hoping that this would talk more about characteristics of a good wife/husband, tips on how to deal with conflict, raising children etc, but it was more focused on the Islamic legal rulings of marriage (like the maher) and divorce. The last appendix, which was titled "A Gentle Reminder for the Newlyweds" was probably the most beneficial part of this book for me, but I cannot discredit all the Islamic rulings I learned about divorce, as well. SubhanAllah, I did find the Twenty Pieces of Advice to My Sister Before Her Marriage more beautiful and practical and beneficial. I would advise every sister to start from there. May Allah ﷻ bless us with righteous spouses, ameen.

[Nomore · Rating 4 out of 5]

great books on marriage it will break down on the prerequisites on marriage

[Umar Abdur-Rahman · Rating 5 out of 5]

this book is very good it give you all the prerequisites of a islamic marriage.

[Lida · Rating 5 out of 5]

very insightful

[aish · Rating 5 out of 5]

👍🏻 .