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270 pages, Paperback
First published September 5, 2017
Close physical proximity
Profuse amounts of eye contact
Physical touch (handshakes, fist bumps, hugs)
Lots of short, energetic exhanges (no long speeches)
High levels of mixing
Few interruptions
Lots of questions
Intensive, active listening
Humor, laughter
Small, attentive courtesies
Overcommunicate your Listening (and avoid interruptions)
Spotlight your Fallibility Early On - Especially if you are a leader
Embrace the Messenger
Preview future connection -- connecting the dots between where we are now and where we plan to be
Overdo Thank-Yous - that includes "thanks for letting me coach you" - as a way of affirming the relationship and "igniting cooperative behavior."
Be Painstaking in the Hiring Process
Eliminate Bad Apples
Create Safe, Collision-Rich Spaces
Make Sure Everyone Has a Voice
Pick up the trash - make sure leaders are helping with tasks that are "menial" - rolling up their sleeves goes a long way to creating that safety
Capitalize on Threshold Moments
Avoid Giving Sandwich Feedback - handle negative and positive feedback as two different processes
Embrace Fun - "it's the most fundamental sign of safety and connection."