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To Knot or Not: Honest Advice from Married Women
Donna Margaret Greene's To Knot or Not, a collection of advice letters from 70 young Christian women all over the United States, allows readers to glean honest advice about premarital issues such as dating to marry, what it means to marry God's way, and steps to take to lay the proper foundation for marriage.
208 pages, Paperback
First published November 1, 2007
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April 7, 2026
On the whole this book was not bad, however the title is extremely misleading. I was expecting a book with advice about making the decision on whether or not to marry and who to marry. While some of that was in this book at least half of it was not.
I couldn't figure out why there was a chapter about having children and two-thirds of it was about infertility and miscarriage and fertility treatments instead of having discussions about children.
There was also an entire chapter dedicated to being a military wife. While this is a noble position, why is there a whole chapter about it in a book on whether or not you should get married? Particularly since this was written by Christians and the Bible is clear that's men are not to go into service or into war in their first year of marriage and these letters were from people who were getting married and their husbands going to war in their first year of marriage.
It was beneficial hearing from many different perspectives, however most of the advice was coming from women who had been married less than 5 years. While you learn a lot in 5 years, after being married for over 20 I would have given advice in year five that would have been beneficial but seriously lacking.
There's also a lot of information about the wedding and making decisions which is all helpful, but most of it really has nothing to do with deciding whether or not to get married which led to a lot of confusion as I read to this book.
I can't say I don't recommend this book I'm just confused by the title and I think others might be as well. Okay
I couldn't figure out why there was a chapter about having children and two-thirds of it was about infertility and miscarriage and fertility treatments instead of having discussions about children.
There was also an entire chapter dedicated to being a military wife. While this is a noble position, why is there a whole chapter about it in a book on whether or not you should get married? Particularly since this was written by Christians and the Bible is clear that's men are not to go into service or into war in their first year of marriage and these letters were from people who were getting married and their husbands going to war in their first year of marriage.
It was beneficial hearing from many different perspectives, however most of the advice was coming from women who had been married less than 5 years. While you learn a lot in 5 years, after being married for over 20 I would have given advice in year five that would have been beneficial but seriously lacking.
There's also a lot of information about the wedding and making decisions which is all helpful, but most of it really has nothing to do with deciding whether or not to get married which led to a lot of confusion as I read to this book.
I can't say I don't recommend this book I'm just confused by the title and I think others might be as well. Okay
March 5, 2008
You might be surprised to see this book on my reading list. I'm surprised I read it. I did have good reason to... the author is a good friend of mine, as are several contributors. In any case, I found this sitting on the top of my pile of books one day last week, and just started reading. And now I'm finished... though I'm still not sure what to do with the information since I have no remote intention of marrying soon, much less a prospect to ask me to do so.
The book has loads of good advice, though it may not fit everyone. It did fit my bill... as one seeking to have a meaningful and loyal marriage with a Godly husband one day. The nice thing about Donna's books are that they compile lots of great letters and thus various points of view. The down side is that it can be redundant at times, but I don't mind that, since I guess the major points are likely worth hitting again and again.
Anyway. I'd buy for a friend, so that's a recommendation from me!
The book has loads of good advice, though it may not fit everyone. It did fit my bill... as one seeking to have a meaningful and loyal marriage with a Godly husband one day. The nice thing about Donna's books are that they compile lots of great letters and thus various points of view. The down side is that it can be redundant at times, but I don't mind that, since I guess the major points are likely worth hitting again and again.
Anyway. I'd buy for a friend, so that's a recommendation from me!
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