Making Divorce Work: 8 Essential Keys to Resolving Conflict and Rebuilding Your Life

by Diana Mercer, Katie Jane Wennechuk

Eight essential keys to resolving conflict and rebuilding your life.
This unique and empowering guide gives divorcing couples the skills to manage their divorce successfully, handle the legal and emotional issues harmoniously, and redefine and preserve the positive elements of their relationship. Informed by eight mediation concepts developed and used by the authors in their practice, the process outlined in this book will allow divorcing couples to deal rationally with the issues rather than allowing fear, anger, and grief to dictate their actions.
"Making Divorce Work" leads couples to experience divorce as a celebration of the end of a relationship that served them well and provides the tools to deal with virtually every aspect of divorce-from money and custody to grieving and pain-to be proud of the way they handled their divorce and to start their new lives from a better place.
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Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help

274 pages, Kindle Edition

First published December 7, 2010

Reviews

[NCHS Library]

From Follett: This unique and empowering guide gives divorcing couples the skills to manage their divorce successfully, handle the legal and emotional issues harmoniously, and redefine and preserve the positive elements of their relationship. Informed by eight mediation concepts developed and used by the authors in their practice, the process outlined in this book will allow divorcing couples to deal rationally with the issues rather than allowing fear, anger, and grief to dictate their actions.

Making Divorce Work leads couples to experience divorce as a celebration of the end of a relationship that served them well and provides the tools to deal with virtually every aspect of divorce-from money and custody to grieving and pain-to be proud of the way they handled their divorce and to start their new lives from a better place.

[Gayle Vegter · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really good comprehensive guide to getting what you need (vs all you want!) in a settlement (I especially like the "make the pie bigger" vs "get a bigger piece of the pie" analogy). The keys to conflict resolution and tips for deescalation are really insightful and useful for any relationship.

[Celia Juliano · Rating 4 out of 5]

I didn't "really like this book" but I'm giving it four stars because I think it's only my own stress that caused me to struggle through this book. It's a clear and mature overview of how to get through a divorce peacefully, with as little emotional damage as possible. I'd recommend reading it when you first think of divorce, rather than waiting until you're in the process or at the end, though it still has useful advice, no matter where you are in a divorce. A lot of the techniques are based in the same theories and practices I've read elsewhere, so as with most "self-help" books, there's not much new here, but it's presented well and with exercises and anecdotes that seem generally helpful.

[Sam · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good book, but a peaceable book. Not for contentious endings. All about resolving, peaceably finding solutions, 8 peace practices (oon-violetent communication), grieving the ending and forgiveness, acceptance and new beginnings. I may reread this in the future when I'm at the place this would be more helpful and timely for me. I've been in survival mode, and this is a great book for those who are centered and ready to start their new beginning.