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The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken
THE CODEPENDENCY FIXING WHAT WAS ALWAYS BROKEN
Ross Rosenberg, M. Ed., LCPC, CADC
After a seven-year hiatus, internationally acclaimed Human Magnet Syndrome author Ross Rosenberg once again significantly impacts the mental health community with his unparalleled creation of ‘The Codependency Fixing What Was Always Broken.”
“The Codependency Revolution exposes the shadow side of a field that has always been lost, never established credibility, and, without bad intentions, hurt far more people than it has helped. It provides compelling insights on a complex, frequently misunderstood topic while offering a historical explanation for why he is “fixing what has always been broken.”
Forty-three percent longer than its predecessor, it covers every aspect of codependency, thereby solidifying its position as the most comprehensive resource on this widely misunderstood subject. It is as warm, sincere, and enlightening as comprehensive.
Rosenberg’s masterpiece work draws significant inspiration from his personal struggles with codependency and his decades-long dedication to providing specialized codependency therapy.
The book is poised to have a profound, far-reaching influence worldwide. It will offer a lifeline to individuals grappling with codependency and empower and guide mental health practitioners with new insights and approaches. The Codependency Revolution is not just an extraordinary book but, more importantly, a catalyst for change.
Ross Rosenberg, M. Ed., LCPC, CADC
After a seven-year hiatus, internationally acclaimed Human Magnet Syndrome author Ross Rosenberg once again significantly impacts the mental health community with his unparalleled creation of ‘The Codependency Fixing What Was Always Broken.”
“The Codependency Revolution exposes the shadow side of a field that has always been lost, never established credibility, and, without bad intentions, hurt far more people than it has helped. It provides compelling insights on a complex, frequently misunderstood topic while offering a historical explanation for why he is “fixing what has always been broken.”
Forty-three percent longer than its predecessor, it covers every aspect of codependency, thereby solidifying its position as the most comprehensive resource on this widely misunderstood subject. It is as warm, sincere, and enlightening as comprehensive.
Rosenberg’s masterpiece work draws significant inspiration from his personal struggles with codependency and his decades-long dedication to providing specialized codependency therapy.
The book is poised to have a profound, far-reaching influence worldwide. It will offer a lifeline to individuals grappling with codependency and empower and guide mental health practitioners with new insights and approaches. The Codependency Revolution is not just an extraordinary book but, more importantly, a catalyst for change.
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Published May 7, 2024
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Ross Rosenberg
5 books89 followersRoss Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is Self-Love Recovery Institute’s CEO and primary contributor. His internationally recognized expertise includes pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. Ross’s “Codependency Cure™ Treatment Program" provides innovative and results-oriented treatment.
His expert educational and inspirational seminars have earned him international acclaim, including his 23 million YouTube video views and 250K subscribers. In addition to being featured on national TV and radio, his “Human Magnet Syndrome” books have sold over 155K copies in 12 languages.
Ross Rosenberg is Self-Love Recovery Institute's primary trainer and consummate mental health educator. His advanced education, advanced clinical certifications, and more than 35 years of professional work experience enable him to create, produce and provide compelling and life-changing seminars. Ross's seminars simultaneously resonate with the layperson and professional. He also provides expert testimony/witness services.
Ross is also an accomplished international professional trainer and keynote speaker, working in 30 US states (70 cities) and abroad. His seminars are like no other, as they are as entertaining as they are informative. His sense of humor and personal vulnerability disclosures of his own recovery journey adds a sense of integrity to his work. He interacts with the audience from his heart and his mind. He is as much a psychotherapist and professional educator, as he is a fellow traveler on the path of personal, relational, and emotional recovery.
He designs his educational video and audio seminars to have maximum impact on all individuals, regardless of their education level or professional standing. Professional audiences consistently give Ross's seminars high marks, as the information often applies to their job/clinical practice, as well as to their understanding of their own mental health.
Ross’s latest “Codependency Cure™” work, like The Human Magnet Syndrome, breaks new ground in the mental health field. This groundbreaking work reformulates, redefines, and ultimately renames “codependency” to “Self-Love Deficit Disorder™." His original theories and concepts, such as the “Relationship Compatibility Theory,” “The 11 Stage Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program,” “The Observe Don’t Absorb Technique,” and many others, have reshaped what we know about codependency, codependency recovery, narcissism, dysfunctional relationships, and narcissistic abuse.
His expert educational and inspirational seminars have earned him international acclaim, including his 23 million YouTube video views and 250K subscribers. In addition to being featured on national TV and radio, his “Human Magnet Syndrome” books have sold over 155K copies in 12 languages.
Ross Rosenberg is Self-Love Recovery Institute's primary trainer and consummate mental health educator. His advanced education, advanced clinical certifications, and more than 35 years of professional work experience enable him to create, produce and provide compelling and life-changing seminars. Ross's seminars simultaneously resonate with the layperson and professional. He also provides expert testimony/witness services.
Ross is also an accomplished international professional trainer and keynote speaker, working in 30 US states (70 cities) and abroad. His seminars are like no other, as they are as entertaining as they are informative. His sense of humor and personal vulnerability disclosures of his own recovery journey adds a sense of integrity to his work. He interacts with the audience from his heart and his mind. He is as much a psychotherapist and professional educator, as he is a fellow traveler on the path of personal, relational, and emotional recovery.
He designs his educational video and audio seminars to have maximum impact on all individuals, regardless of their education level or professional standing. Professional audiences consistently give Ross's seminars high marks, as the information often applies to their job/clinical practice, as well as to their understanding of their own mental health.
Ross’s latest “Codependency Cure™” work, like The Human Magnet Syndrome, breaks new ground in the mental health field. This groundbreaking work reformulates, redefines, and ultimately renames “codependency” to “Self-Love Deficit Disorder™." His original theories and concepts, such as the “Relationship Compatibility Theory,” “The 11 Stage Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program,” “The Observe Don’t Absorb Technique,” and many others, have reshaped what we know about codependency, codependency recovery, narcissism, dysfunctional relationships, and narcissistic abuse.
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June 29, 2024
My question to the valuable author Mr. Ross Rosenberg is, “Why do you repackage, i.e., putting wine of old information of HMS in a new bottle?. Why don’t you switch to “treatment of codependency or your conceived label Human Magnet Syndrome”? “
The book is good, but readers who got your 2014 version and then 2018 find hardly anything new. Honestly, you are being slightly dishonest as you don’t want to share the treatment in book form as you are selling treatment videos and online programs. I bought those, but you should share them in the form of a book with your readers. Anyway, this book is a well-written treatise on codependency, as it rightly claims. However, this mistakenly did not give due place to Melody Beattie's "Codependent No More," which she deserved. If I say Melody Beattie's "Codependent No More " has changed my life, it would be an understatement. Also, Mr. Ross has failed to mention another original and seminal work of Pia Melody, "Facing Codependence," in this book chapter on the history of Codependency.
This 3rd edition of original book "Human Magnet Syndrom" has a special feature that it provides very appropriate labels for defining, and diagnosis as well as prognosis of codependency e.g. broken picker, intimacy starved, dalliance, hairline crack, mountain of core shame, hyper-ventilating, repetitive apologies, relapse autopsy, drop-dead sexy, half-people, muted anger, homeostasis, wanderlust, relentless neediness, emotionally stunted, ego-emboldening appendage, mini-judge, terribly insecure, dead beat, overly accommodating, pathological patience, virtuous patience, shame-fortified shadows, socially lubricating and disinhibiting, catch-all phrase, frozen relic, inviting community, a groundswell of hope, implanted problems, coerced isolators,re-formulate and re-tool, debilitating shame, intellectually gifted, well-meaning, insatiable curious mind, comorbidity, gaslit loyalty, pathologically accommodating, bone aching loneliness, the heritage of diagnostic ambiguity, fly in the ointment, toxic empathy, delusion, paper-thin attempt, shrugged, anorexia, amnesia , ear to ear smile, sorry reflexes, throwing under the bus, personalization, the squeaky wheel, martyr's self-esteem or a pseudo self-esteem, global wake-up call, insatiable craving for an itch that could never be scratched enough, double bind (which occurs when conflicting information is provided to the victim) , deconstruction, evolutionary prewired needs, the entrapment dynamics, Triangulation and parental alienation, complete do-over, veneer-thing happiness, body candy, react like dear in headlights, reverse symbiosis, vacant look, selfless compulsive caretaker (who habitually attempts to control others into loving him) ,vpervasive self-loathing, self-loving identity, human doing instead of human being, bone aching pain of worthlessness and mptiness, Vitamin L(love), dark and dank, relationship odyssey,wordsmith, self-conviction of a crime never committed, etc.
As Qasim's first law of emotional Intelligence says, " What can be labeled and articulated can be managed, healed, and recovered." Thus, these labels provide a lot of room for healing for the patient and counselors.
The author has applied a few original theories by other esteemed psychiatrists, such as Prof Murray Brown's Family System Theory. Prof. Dr. Bowen emphasized the interconnected feedback loop between individual and family mental health. He noted that when a person or people within the system experienced a challenging shift in their emotional state, everyone in the family felt uncomfortable and insecure. Therefore, they were motivated to get the family back into the emotional sync. The inverse of family changes' impact on individuals was the other side of the theory. Ross has applied it in a significant way and enunciated that dysfunctional families don't like getting better in order to maintain this equilibrium. They resist change, including the changes they thought they always wanted. I further extend this to the bureaucracy, the cliques, the pressure groups, and even the organizations of government, as well as nation-states themselves, who don't like to get better. Another nugget offered by Ross is the way the device of projection is employed by pathological narcissists. The malignant Narc reverses blame and thus protects himself or herself by burying or dissociating memories and beliefs about being inherently unlovable, depraved, and despicable. Because the unconscious mechanisms of the brain determine if such toxic realizations bubbled up to the surface, the person could not survive psychologically, and sustained consciousness and awareness are highly unlikely. Here I add this is the reason pathological narc don't like complainants of their behaviours because the complainants bring feckless into the conscious of the Narc which the narc cannot afford. The author has made a few watershed observations. Two more that Mr. Ross is sharing are quote-unquote:
In his famous Novel The Best Awful, Carrie Fisher says, "Resentment is like drinking poison and then waiting for the other person to die."
Naomi Judd says "You only get to be a victim once. After that, you are a volunteer".
Accordingly, I am upgrading this book rating to 4 stars after the second read.
The book is good, but readers who got your 2014 version and then 2018 find hardly anything new. Honestly, you are being slightly dishonest as you don’t want to share the treatment in book form as you are selling treatment videos and online programs. I bought those, but you should share them in the form of a book with your readers. Anyway, this book is a well-written treatise on codependency, as it rightly claims. However, this mistakenly did not give due place to Melody Beattie's "Codependent No More," which she deserved. If I say Melody Beattie's "Codependent No More " has changed my life, it would be an understatement. Also, Mr. Ross has failed to mention another original and seminal work of Pia Melody, "Facing Codependence," in this book chapter on the history of Codependency.
This 3rd edition of original book "Human Magnet Syndrom" has a special feature that it provides very appropriate labels for defining, and diagnosis as well as prognosis of codependency e.g. broken picker, intimacy starved, dalliance, hairline crack, mountain of core shame, hyper-ventilating, repetitive apologies, relapse autopsy, drop-dead sexy, half-people, muted anger, homeostasis, wanderlust, relentless neediness, emotionally stunted, ego-emboldening appendage, mini-judge, terribly insecure, dead beat, overly accommodating, pathological patience, virtuous patience, shame-fortified shadows, socially lubricating and disinhibiting, catch-all phrase, frozen relic, inviting community, a groundswell of hope, implanted problems, coerced isolators,re-formulate and re-tool, debilitating shame, intellectually gifted, well-meaning, insatiable curious mind, comorbidity, gaslit loyalty, pathologically accommodating, bone aching loneliness, the heritage of diagnostic ambiguity, fly in the ointment, toxic empathy, delusion, paper-thin attempt, shrugged, anorexia, amnesia , ear to ear smile, sorry reflexes, throwing under the bus, personalization, the squeaky wheel, martyr's self-esteem or a pseudo self-esteem, global wake-up call, insatiable craving for an itch that could never be scratched enough, double bind (which occurs when conflicting information is provided to the victim) , deconstruction, evolutionary prewired needs, the entrapment dynamics, Triangulation and parental alienation, complete do-over, veneer-thing happiness, body candy, react like dear in headlights, reverse symbiosis, vacant look, selfless compulsive caretaker (who habitually attempts to control others into loving him) ,vpervasive self-loathing, self-loving identity, human doing instead of human being, bone aching pain of worthlessness and mptiness, Vitamin L(love), dark and dank, relationship odyssey,wordsmith, self-conviction of a crime never committed, etc.
As Qasim's first law of emotional Intelligence says, " What can be labeled and articulated can be managed, healed, and recovered." Thus, these labels provide a lot of room for healing for the patient and counselors.
The author has applied a few original theories by other esteemed psychiatrists, such as Prof Murray Brown's Family System Theory. Prof. Dr. Bowen emphasized the interconnected feedback loop between individual and family mental health. He noted that when a person or people within the system experienced a challenging shift in their emotional state, everyone in the family felt uncomfortable and insecure. Therefore, they were motivated to get the family back into the emotional sync. The inverse of family changes' impact on individuals was the other side of the theory. Ross has applied it in a significant way and enunciated that dysfunctional families don't like getting better in order to maintain this equilibrium. They resist change, including the changes they thought they always wanted. I further extend this to the bureaucracy, the cliques, the pressure groups, and even the organizations of government, as well as nation-states themselves, who don't like to get better. Another nugget offered by Ross is the way the device of projection is employed by pathological narcissists. The malignant Narc reverses blame and thus protects himself or herself by burying or dissociating memories and beliefs about being inherently unlovable, depraved, and despicable. Because the unconscious mechanisms of the brain determine if such toxic realizations bubbled up to the surface, the person could not survive psychologically, and sustained consciousness and awareness are highly unlikely. Here I add this is the reason pathological narc don't like complainants of their behaviours because the complainants bring feckless into the conscious of the Narc which the narc cannot afford. The author has made a few watershed observations. Two more that Mr. Ross is sharing are quote-unquote:
In his famous Novel The Best Awful, Carrie Fisher says, "Resentment is like drinking poison and then waiting for the other person to die."
Naomi Judd says "You only get to be a victim once. After that, you are a volunteer".
Accordingly, I am upgrading this book rating to 4 stars after the second read.
August 29, 2024
As a psychiatrist specializing in women’s mental health and the intricate traumas associated with womanhood, *"The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Has Always Been Broken"* by Ross Rosenberg offers a critical and refreshing perspective on a topic that has often been misunderstood and, at times, mishandled within the mental health field. Rosenberg’s approach to reframing codependency as "Self-Love Deficit Disorder" (SLDD) is particularly resonant in the context of women's mental health, where issues of self-worth, identity, and relational dynamics are deeply intertwined with societal expectations and gendered trauma.
Rosenberg's book meticulously dissects the history of codependency and challenges the conventional frameworks that have traditionally pathologized individuals—often women—without addressing the underlying causes of their struggles. This is especially important for women who have been conditioned to prioritize others' needs over their own, often leading to self-neglect and the perpetuation of unhealthy relational patterns.
The author’s critique of outdated therapeutic approaches and his introduction of a new paradigm that emphasizes the necessity of self-love and empowerment is invaluable. For women who have experienced trauma, particularly in the context of abusive or toxic relationships, Rosenberg’s insights provide not only a deeper understanding of their experiences but also a practical guide towards recovery and self-empowerment.
Furthermore, his focus on the intersection of codependency with narcissistic abuse and gaslighting is crucial, as these dynamics are common in the experiences of many women who have suffered in abusive relationships. The book's case examples and vignettes serve as powerful tools for both professionals and those personally affected by these issues, illustrating the real-world application of his theories.
Overall, *"The Codependency Revolution"* is a significant contribution to the mental health literature, offering a new lens through which to view and treat codependency. It is a must-read for mental health professionals, particularly those working with women who have been affected by the complex interplay of trauma, identity, and relational dynamics. Rosenberg’s work is not only a guide for healing but also a call to transform the way we understand and address these deeply rooted psychological patterns.
Rosenberg's book meticulously dissects the history of codependency and challenges the conventional frameworks that have traditionally pathologized individuals—often women—without addressing the underlying causes of their struggles. This is especially important for women who have been conditioned to prioritize others' needs over their own, often leading to self-neglect and the perpetuation of unhealthy relational patterns.
The author’s critique of outdated therapeutic approaches and his introduction of a new paradigm that emphasizes the necessity of self-love and empowerment is invaluable. For women who have experienced trauma, particularly in the context of abusive or toxic relationships, Rosenberg’s insights provide not only a deeper understanding of their experiences but also a practical guide towards recovery and self-empowerment.
Furthermore, his focus on the intersection of codependency with narcissistic abuse and gaslighting is crucial, as these dynamics are common in the experiences of many women who have suffered in abusive relationships. The book's case examples and vignettes serve as powerful tools for both professionals and those personally affected by these issues, illustrating the real-world application of his theories.
Overall, *"The Codependency Revolution"* is a significant contribution to the mental health literature, offering a new lens through which to view and treat codependency. It is a must-read for mental health professionals, particularly those working with women who have been affected by the complex interplay of trauma, identity, and relational dynamics. Rosenberg’s work is not only a guide for healing but also a call to transform the way we understand and address these deeply rooted psychological patterns.
August 28, 2024
This is a wonderful book and very helpful. It really opened my eyes to the reasons for my self-love deficiency. Thank you, Ross!
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