"Find something you love and throw yourself into it, and then, when something changes - and something always changes - go ahead and find it again."
It was after finishing this book that I discovered Fernandez has published numerous other books I came to know and love over the years, particularly 'The Neuroscience of Self-Love'. The advice held within this book is no different. Backed up by scientific research and personally relatable anecdotes, Fernandez lays out the floorplan on ways we limit ourselves in our everyday lives and how we can overcome struggles that seem insurmountable when we make the choice to face them.
Each module you progress through comes with its own daily task that asks you to take stock of a specific area of your life and reflect on it through guided questions based off what was covered in the module. The tasks themselves were straightforward but personally challenging to confront. Sometimes, it meant thinking about things you chose to lock away in your mental attic because you were afraid to deal with the feelings that accompanied its resurgence.
I loved this one and would highly recommend everyone pick up Alexis' other works. I have never tuned into her podcast, but I have read all of her books (unknowingly!). Reading through this reminded me a lot of Brene Brown's, 'Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead' another book I thoroughly enjoyed. It's a great complimentary read to this one.
My absolute favourite portion of this book was Module 3: Relationships. This quote was my favourite,
"You should feel grateful for your close relationships, but you souldn't feel 'lucky' in the sense that it's a fluke that you have this in your life. You either deserve it, or you don't. If you are a good partner, a good friend, and a good employee, you deserve that respect back. Own it. Understand you earned it.'