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232 pages, Hardcover
First published April 24, 2014
By the age of ten most people–and I mean more than nine out of ten—have locked away a significant proportion of their love from themselves and others.I sometimes get annoyed with the “you’ve got to love yourself before you can love others” train of thought; I guess it’s because I heard it in recovery a lot, and people addicted to alcohol and other drugs, food, sex, etc., are some of the most supremely self-centered people in the world, so I believe most of them (us) need to learn to love ourselves by loving others, not after we have learned to love ourselves.
This love never disappears, though; love can never be destroyed or diminished. It is there locked away inside you and you have the choice to release it. You can choose to allow yourself to feel it. Doing so will help you to stop destroying yourself and others. It will make your life happier and more fulfilled. 19-20
When people love themselves, I see the love force radiating from them, and affecting everyone around them, in turn making them more loving and happier. Loving yourself more changes everything. When you learn to allow more of your love out, you will be less judgmental of your own perceived imperfections, and so become happier and more fulfilled. (179)That may not have been the very best quote to demonstrate my point: Byrne always emphasizes that when we love ourselves, that love radiates out and has a positive effect on others; it's not something we do solely for our own benefit.