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Not Your Mother's Playground: A realistic guide to honest, happy, and healthy open relationships
With the innocent days of key parties and free love behind us, Not Your Mother's Playground is a how-to guide for navigating today's very different world of modern-day non-monogamy. From swinging to polyamory, it walks readers through the many ups and downs they may encounter along their journey. Samantha injects the honest story of her own open marriage throughout to provide readers with insight, humour, and refreshing personal experience. Whether you are new to non-monogamy or an experienced veteran, Not Your Mother's Playground is sure to challenge your mind and validate your heart.
Author's Bio:
Samantha Fraser is a life coach, poly advocate, consultant, author and producer. She loves discussing taboo subjects openly, with wit and a side of personal experience. She has spoken at various conferences about non-monogamy, and has been featured on CBC DocZone, Toronto Life, SexMatters, InnerSPACE, The Grid, National Post, and more. Samantha is the founder of Playground sexuality conference in Toronto.
What People Are Saying:
"Not Your Mother's Playground is exactly the kind of brain-sex that makes a sex and relationship geek like me squeal with delight. For those interested in avoiding the common mistakes of non-monogamy, honing their relationship skills to ninja-like levels, and building sustainable sex-positive community, Samantha Fraser shares the skills, the questions, and the concepts that make multiple relationships thrive, which are -surprise!- the SAME skills needed to make one relationship work well! Enjoy Samantha's tattooed, nerdy and heartfelt story while you learn some of the best ins and outs (and ins again) of navigating 21st Century open relationships."
- Reid Mihalko, Sex and Relationships Expert, www.ReidAboutSex.com
"More than either just a memoir or how-to guide, Not Your Mother's Playground provides both a personal and community based look at non-monogamy in its many forms. From Fraser's recounting of her own forays into polyamory to thoughts, suggestions and a few "don't do this" tips, there is a little of every facet of non-monogamy packed into this easy read. Whether you devour it in one sitting, or mark the pages for discussion with your partner(s), this book is sure to interest and amuse."
- Shanna Katz, M.Ed, Board Certified Sexologist.
Author of Oral Sex That'll Blow Her Mind and She and Her: Lesbian Sex Positions
“Samantha is that person you want to sit and have an open and honest conversation with. You know she’ll listen, understand and offer the non-judgmental ear needed to help navigate complex relationships. In a world filled with so many 'manuals' and 'self-help guides', that are often too daunting to even open, Samantha's casual, friendly and self-deprecating approach is a breath of fresh air.”
- Sonya JF Barnett. The Keyhole Sessions
“This book is both thoughtful and thought provoking; a rare combination. It's the type of writing that can only come from an authentic place. More than a guide, it's a source of inspiration for everyday people looking to explore alternative ways of connecting with one another and themselves in today's fast-paced modern world."
- Katrina McKay, Sex Educator and Founder & CEO, Ohhh Canada
“By using her own exploration as a springboard, Samantha Fraser gives an honest yet objective account of the real meat of alternative relationships. Accessible and humorous, and chock full of real life info that gives the reader a virtual handbook for how to navigate the ins and outs of all styles of open relationships.”
- Spycey Spyce, Erotic Edutainer
"It's refreshing to be immersed in a world where monogamous guilt is eradicated.
Author's Bio:
Samantha Fraser is a life coach, poly advocate, consultant, author and producer. She loves discussing taboo subjects openly, with wit and a side of personal experience. She has spoken at various conferences about non-monogamy, and has been featured on CBC DocZone, Toronto Life, SexMatters, InnerSPACE, The Grid, National Post, and more. Samantha is the founder of Playground sexuality conference in Toronto.
What People Are Saying:
"Not Your Mother's Playground is exactly the kind of brain-sex that makes a sex and relationship geek like me squeal with delight. For those interested in avoiding the common mistakes of non-monogamy, honing their relationship skills to ninja-like levels, and building sustainable sex-positive community, Samantha Fraser shares the skills, the questions, and the concepts that make multiple relationships thrive, which are -surprise!- the SAME skills needed to make one relationship work well! Enjoy Samantha's tattooed, nerdy and heartfelt story while you learn some of the best ins and outs (and ins again) of navigating 21st Century open relationships."
- Reid Mihalko, Sex and Relationships Expert, www.ReidAboutSex.com
"More than either just a memoir or how-to guide, Not Your Mother's Playground provides both a personal and community based look at non-monogamy in its many forms. From Fraser's recounting of her own forays into polyamory to thoughts, suggestions and a few "don't do this" tips, there is a little of every facet of non-monogamy packed into this easy read. Whether you devour it in one sitting, or mark the pages for discussion with your partner(s), this book is sure to interest and amuse."
- Shanna Katz, M.Ed, Board Certified Sexologist.
Author of Oral Sex That'll Blow Her Mind and She and Her: Lesbian Sex Positions
“Samantha is that person you want to sit and have an open and honest conversation with. You know she’ll listen, understand and offer the non-judgmental ear needed to help navigate complex relationships. In a world filled with so many 'manuals' and 'self-help guides', that are often too daunting to even open, Samantha's casual, friendly and self-deprecating approach is a breath of fresh air.”
- Sonya JF Barnett. The Keyhole Sessions
“This book is both thoughtful and thought provoking; a rare combination. It's the type of writing that can only come from an authentic place. More than a guide, it's a source of inspiration for everyday people looking to explore alternative ways of connecting with one another and themselves in today's fast-paced modern world."
- Katrina McKay, Sex Educator and Founder & CEO, Ohhh Canada
“By using her own exploration as a springboard, Samantha Fraser gives an honest yet objective account of the real meat of alternative relationships. Accessible and humorous, and chock full of real life info that gives the reader a virtual handbook for how to navigate the ins and outs of all styles of open relationships.”
- Spycey Spyce, Erotic Edutainer
"It's refreshing to be immersed in a world where monogamous guilt is eradicated.
- GenresPolyamoryNonfiction
200 pages, Kindle Edition
First published May 1, 2013
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June 30, 2013
I helped kickstart this book as I really liked the author's blog and was really excited when it arrived in my mailbox! The book was a really nice, quick read with some great advice and anecdotes. Not preachy, not too new-agey and not too "rules" oriented, it gives a realistic picture of the trials and tribulations of non-monogamous relationships. I felt that the content wasn't really all that different from the blog, but it's definitely more polished, organized and laid out in a very accessible, easy to read format in the book! One of my favourite parts was the questions Sam lays out as "things to consider"...and there are a lot of tough ones! (You can really tell that the advice comes from the heart and from her own experience!) And also the chapter on jealousy and compersion...just fantastic!
Check out the blog first - if you like Sam's sense of humour and storytelling style you will really enjoy the book!
Check out the blog first - if you like Sam's sense of humour and storytelling style you will really enjoy the book!
July 1, 2014
The timing of this release was perfect. Practical, helpful insights from someone who's been there.
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