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Reconnected: How 7 Screen-Free Weeks with Monks and Amish Farmers Helped Me Recover the Lost Art of Being Human

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In the summer of 2022, podcaster and author Carlos Whittaker spent seven weeks entirely screen free, splitting his time between a monastery, an Amish farm, and home with his family. Blending the inspiring story of this experiment with practical guidance, Whittaker reveals how you can reset your relationship with screens and step into a life of real connection.

Not many people have the opportunity to spend weeks entirely devoid of phone and computer screens, but Whittaker's radical, screen-free experiment yields hope and wisdom to everyone who has felt the loneliness, low-key despair, and paradoxical disconnectedness that accompanies the always-on, always-plugged-in nature of modern life.

Readers who take this journey with Whittaker will

learn how to cut through the divisive, polarizing effects of social media and build real community, even with people who are very different from them;rediscover the joy of noticing and savoring the beauty of the world beyond their phone screens;remember how experiencing boredom, solitude, and even getting lost (all but eradicated by smartphones) can bring opportunities for new discoveries about themselves and the world around them; andreset their relationship with screens and social media forever. 

Blending wisdom from the past, practices of intentionality and community, and Whittaker's engaging communication style that has led to the explosive growth of his social media presence over the past few years, this book is a compelling story, a guide for resetting your life in a tech-saturated world, and an invitation into the connection and community that feels so elusive today.

240 pages, Paperback

Published September 10, 2024

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About the author

Carlos Whittaker

11 books336 followers
Carlos Whittaker is a best-selling author and expert storyteller to all kinds of audiences– from parents to corporate America to the non-profit sector. No matter who you are, his message is for you.

Carlos uses his vast and varied personal life experience to captivate and engage audiences in ways that few else can.

In his books, How to Human, Enter Wild, Moment Maker, and Kill the Spider, Carlos reminds us that when we are connected to God and good to ourselves, we can be even better for others. Humans do not exist in a vacuum, so when we address every facet of our lives, we create a greater capacity for relationships, ministry, work, creativity, and patience.

Carlos excels at encouraging people to to show up for their neighbor, regardless of who they are and what they believe. Join Carlos and countless others in the pursuit of being human together.

He and his wife Heather live in Nashville, Tennessee, with their three amazing children, where you can find them working on the family farm, planning trips around the world, and preparing to be empty-nesters.

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Profile Image for Joanna.
43 reviews4 followers
September 23, 2024
I would leave a review but that goes against what Carlos suggested for restaurants and coffee shops. So I’ll just say “read this book, start it. See how it lands for you. Don’t trust your book choices to me or a bunch of strangers. You might hate this book. You might love it. But you’ll never know unless you give it a shot.”
Profile Image for Amanda.
196 reviews23 followers
June 10, 2024
Wise, conversational, and laugh-out-loud funny, Reconnected is a must read for anyone with a smart phone. Carlos Whitaker spent seven weeks with no screens to see how it would impact his brain and his ability to human. He documented the whole experience and has distilled his most sage learnings into an approachable, non-judgmental book that will keep you entertained even as you’re gleaning lessons on being connected in a disconnected world.

The experiment begins with a brain scan to get a documented “before.” Carlos owns that he spends “7ish” hours a day on his phone, and he wanted to see how (and if) his brain would respond to seven weeks without his phone (or any screen). He spends the first two weeks in near silence in a monastery, the next two weeks with an Amish family in Ohio, and the final three weeks at home. Then he returns to have a follow up brain scan to see if there are measurable differences to match the internal changes he had undergone.

This book is phenomenal, and it’s also probably not what you’re thinking. I dare you to add it to your library. Thank you to Carlos for sharing with us the benefit of your experience as you took on this experiment- also? Thanks to Heather for her heady support and encouragement when you felt you might be better off coming home in the first 24hrs. Loved this book. It’s so needed.

I’d like to thank Thomas Nelson and NetGalley for the eARC in exchange for my honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
828 reviews15 followers
June 15, 2024
I received an advanced copy of this book, all opinions are my own.

In 2022, Carlos Whittaker spent 7 weeks being completely screen free - no phone, no computer, no t.v, no screens. He spent two weeks at a monastery, two weeks working on an Amish farm, and three weeks at home with his family. As part of this experience, he also worked with a doctor to get before & after scans of his brain to see if the screen-free time had any impact.

This book will hit most people right in the gut. Doing the math on how much time is spent with electronics is eye-opening, and the real first point of the book to stop and do some self-reflection on how we currently prioritize and use our own time. Through Carlos's experiment and experience, he reflected on several aspects of life that society has been missing out on. I paused mid-way through the book to reflect and make immediate adjustments to my electronic notifications. I also have a list of some key words that are great topics to focus on and remember, especially as I am tempted to grab my phone and spend some time looking at electronics.

This book makes you think! I can't wait to get a hard copy and highlight and take notes, reassess any progress I've made at that point, and continue to reflect on the role that screens play in my life.
26 reviews2 followers
November 25, 2024
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While this book has some very good points on getting away from your phone and technology, it seemed pretty surface level most of the time. The time at the monastery and with the Amish were very interesting - would love to have it expanded even more.

I do believe the book should be renamed: How 7 Screen-Free Weeks With Monks and Amish Farmers Helped Me Recover My Trust in God.

It was a lot of prayer and trust in God. It’s not mentioned at all in the title or summary —
330 reviews1 follower
November 21, 2024
I adore Carlos Whitaker and the premise of this book is brilliant. I just wanted more. I wanted a deeper in depth look at day to day life rather than a gloss over of schedule. I wanted to feel the experience and not just hear the take aways after. It was good, but I wanted a deeper and more intimate look at everything.
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731 reviews102 followers
October 4, 2024
I really enjoyed this experiment and felt challenged to unplug and be more present. It’s hard when you live internationally because so much of your community is abroad and you connect over your phone, but I think there are great things to take away from this journey.

I appreciate Carlos’ writing voice and candor. It was great to see this through his eyes. Only piece I would say that could have made it better would be to have maybe waited a bit to publish so he could have reflected on what it was like to return home. I think that practical application and change would have been fruitful to see.

Other than that, I loved it and encourage anyone who is feeling like their phone has too much power in their life to give it a read or listen!
Profile Image for Stephanie Kuhn.
150 reviews5 followers
June 24, 2025
I hesitated reviewing this book for months because I feel spicy about it. I read this because I really like carlos. but guys. he went phoneless for 7 weeks so that he could write a book and make a doc and create content about it and gain more followers on instagram. eye roll. thinking 7 weeks is enough to write a life changing book for the masses is goofy. you’re barely detoxed after 7 weeks. new habits have only been a couple weeks in the making. i respect that he wanted to share about his experience, but this still felt like reaching for clicks to me. I will once again recommend digital minimalism by cal newport as a much better resource if you actually want to feel inspired and equipped to change your screen habits.
Profile Image for Maggie Carr.
1,364 reviews43 followers
April 25, 2025
What a fantastic read. Part storytelling, with science and inspiration to reevaluate the ways we've supplemented everyday tasks with needless screen time. A few things Carlos touched on is that we aren't content with the quiet anymore, we can't maintain eye-contact, we don't know how to get lost, and we've lost our ability to wonder- simply because we can have answers immediately with a quick Google search.
Profile Image for Leasha Megehee.
35 reviews2 followers
September 21, 2024
Quick and easy read. No guilt or shame for using phones/screen time … just thought provoking ideas of moving through life how God designed us. Slower pace, on purpose… taking time to wonder, to savor and enjoy people& God’s creation that are right in front of you in each moment.
Profile Image for Katie.
220 reviews5 followers
June 19, 2024
I have been following Carlos for quite some time as we have a mutual friend in common, so while I was aware that he was taking 7 weeks "away" from social media, he didn't give any hints as to what those weeks entailed. As soon as he announced his book and the details of those 7 weeks I knew that I was all in. Two weeks spent with monks in California, two weeks spent with the Amish in Ohio, and the last three weeks spent back at home in his normal day to day, all without a single screen. No phone, no laptop, no desktop, no television. While I'd like to think this is a dream, (a call back to the nostalgia of my childhood as a millennial where playing outside was the thing to do) I'm not sure I'd be able to handle all that comes with powering down. When I say I devoured this story, I mean it. I started it mid-afternoon, fell asleep with it in my hands, woke up at 4am with the hunger to read more, and finished in the early hours of the morning. This book makes me hope for a better rhythm for myself. It makes me hope that all of the readers find a better rhythm and maybe a stronger sense of self and community. Funnily enough Carlos calls his followers the "Instafamilia" and references those followers as "Hope Dealers" and man did he dole out the hope in this story. I want to read this book over and over, soaking up the importance of the words and the experiences. Please, please, please pre-order this book. Read this book, Live (some parts) of this book.

An honorable mention that made me LOL "Stop it, cat." I read this story 3 times and cackled my way through each time.
Profile Image for Kate Mckillinit.
86 reviews1 follower
May 18, 2025
In the spirit of not making choices based on reviews, here is my non-review of this book (hint: I enjoyed it and learnt a lot)
Profile Image for Paige Connell.
920 reviews24 followers
October 1, 2024
Carlos Whittaker is the real deal, and this book is a game changer! Maybe you've read his How to Human about the importance of seeing other people or followed him on social media @loswhit and become part of the Instafamilia, but let me tell you--this book is going to change lives. And change isn't always comfortable... Using anecdotal and scientific data from 7 completely screen-free weeks living in a monastery, an Amish farm, and back at home, Carlos proposes getting back to our old way of life before our phones became our masters, before we forgot how to savor the world in front of us, before we felt disconnected from others around us and from our own lives. It's a simple thought, a radical action, and a revolutionary result.

We weren't even through the introduction before Carlos was wrecking my world: "What did humans do before we were so hyperconnected and distracted?... How much louder was God's voice when the volume of life was turned down low enough to hear him?" Friends, that snippet is worth the price of the book alone. But as he goes through two weeks at a monastery (spent largely in silence, largely in prayer, largely in observant reflection), he describes the drastic shift in his mentality--learning lessons about moving slower (at "God speed"), noticing more, abiding in solitude, releasing control, beholding the awe of our Creator, ceding control, and savoring the moments. So many of these lessons get garbled when we add the noise and distraction of devices into the mix. "You have spent the last 15 years holding the world in your hand and have stopped beholding Me in the world." Wow. The ideas about being present and setting boundaries are ones I have been reflecting on for days and will absolutely begin to implement into my life and my family's life.

Carlos' time with an Amish family taught him, and us, about the importance of living in true community with others--something we've stopped doing since we turn to our phones for interaction and engagement more often than not. Before the Amish adopt a concept or even a new technology, they debate on how it will improve their community. His biggest takeaway is mealtimes: these last 45 minutes to 4 hours every day and are an all-hands-on-deck affair. Cooking, cleaning, talking, visiting, it's all meant to be enjoyed together. The average American family meal lasts 12 minutes.

By doing brain scans before and after his screen-free time, Carlos was able to see the actual effects of this change in lifestyle. It's amazing to consider what could happen if we all decided to focus on being a little more intentional, a little more relational, a little more present in our own lives. There are literally only benefits that could come from it. I will be thinking about this book for months to come and working to implement ideas from it, and I encourage everyone to read it and nudge themselves into this more connected direction.
Profile Image for Hannah Gies.
97 reviews2 followers
February 16, 2025
I didn't want this book to end. Listening to (I listened to the audiobook, which was read by the author) Carlos share his experiences living among Monks and then with an Amish family was so enjoyable and inspiring. His practical advice for breaking free from some of the holds our phones and modern technology have on us felt like a breath of fresh air. Of course, our screens aren't going anywhere, but we can do ourselves a lot of good by remembering how to live without them from time to time. I would recommend this book to anyone!
Profile Image for Ashley Zwiers.
27 reviews1 follower
January 11, 2025
Ooo I think this is my new favorite book. I haven’t read a book this fast in a really long time! This book was really insightful on the impact that technology has had on us and connecting with people, but also had me cackling throughout the book. I hope I do things differently because of what I’ve learned reading this! 10/10 recommend!! You can even borrow my copy!
Profile Image for Suzanne Cefola.
146 reviews1 follower
February 24, 2025
I loved loved this book. I love that the author shares his own experience, but also shares a specific theme and lesson that he learned about his time disconnecting. I also appreciate how he gives you personal tips on how to apply it to your own life. Some of the themes that he talks about in this book are the following: Being OK with solitude, savoring the moment, Focusing on being instead of doing, giving up control, noticing, beholding…and many more. I also found out that he funded a Kickstarter to actually produce a movie about this. Very excited to see this, as well.
Profile Image for Anna Qualls.
95 reviews3 followers
September 24, 2025
“Sometimes it seems like God is silent today, but maybe it’s just that the volume of life has been so loud lately.”

Love a book that makes me stop, reflect and make better decisions for the Lord. I aspire to live every day at a 3 mile an hour pace.
Profile Image for Emily Short.
434 reviews1 follower
February 6, 2025
4.5 ⭐️ - I really liked all the reminders of going back to simpler times and just living in the moment. I enjoyed listening to this and recommend it!
Profile Image for Krista.
957 reviews32 followers
June 18, 2025
Very humorous and interesting! I recommend this book.
The authors experience living with monks and then in an Amish community and how that changed him challenged me in a few areas in my own life!
Profile Image for Patty Lauren.
141 reviews10 followers
January 14, 2025
I’ve read several books about the dangers of screens and how bad they are for our brains - and relationships. I loved Carlos’ approach - it wasn’t another book about stats and facts (although there is some of that.) It was funny, honest, but above all I loved how it reminded me how good God is and how He provides everything we need. I needed the reminder that it’s okay to not know every answer. It’s okay to wonder. To behold. Highly recommend and a fast read!
Profile Image for Emily Loomis Cole.
396 reviews3 followers
April 12, 2025
Carlos Whittaker is a fantastic human with truly great humor and insights about humanity. As a writer, his style is not my favorite, but I wonder if following him on IG would change that, because often reading the text in the author’s voice changes everything (I acknowledge this could be solved by a thing called an AUDIOBOOK but sorry, I love me a paper book). I admit the first half of this book (with the monks) was wildly boring and I was skimming like crazy. The second half with the Amish was FASCINATING and I would read another book double the length about that experience.
Profile Image for Holly.
9 reviews
February 5, 2025
I’m always impressed with people who appear to be detached from their phone… it seems rare nowadays to encounter people who don’t have their phone somewhere on their person (or a phone-adjacent device strapped to their wrist) at all times.

I know I’m guilty of this too - my daily average screen time notification humbles me every time it pops up to inform me how much time I spend on this screen. But I’ve always been curious about what it’d be like to put away my phone and not have anything to do with it for an extended amount of time… how would I feel? What would happen?

This book is the tale of an interesting experiment that the author conducts - going 7 weeks phone-free. While it seems impossible to comprehend, he actually does it, and the life lessons he experiences and writes about are extremely thought-provoking. I will be considering many ideas he discusses for a long time to come, I am certain.

In the very end, he asks us to think about if our current way of life is actually fulfilling, or if there is an alternate way that would perhaps nourish us more… and I think if we’re honest with ourselves, we’d have to admit that though we are more easily connected than ever thanks to technology, we are less *connected* to each other.

This book made me think about that.
Profile Image for Tanya Guelich.
6 reviews
November 29, 2024
Agree with some of the other reviews that this felt very surface level; would love to have heard more about the Amish community and the Monks, which I thought would be the bulk of the story line. I never write reviews but I was so excited to read this book and at every chapter became more uninterested in what he had to say. Sad to say I was disappointed; maybe if you have an addiction with social media and no self-control regarding the relationship with your phone this book might be for you.
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79 reviews1 follower
June 18, 2024
I squealed with delight when NetGalley and the publisher approved me to read an advance copy in exchange for my honest review and THIS. BOOK. DID. NOT. DISAPPOINT!!! Seriously. Carlos Whittaker has such a way with words. I love all of his books, but this is a favorite. This is one of those “buy a copy for yourself and all of your friends and talk about it until said friends are so annoyed with you for talking about it that they give in and read it themselves and then they can’t stop talking about it” books. I digress. I’ve read a lot of books about taking a digital sabbath of sorts, or the importance of limiting technology, all along those lines. But this book is REVOLUTIONARY! I’m just an average work from home / stay at home toddler mom and am floored by how much this book impacted me. The way Whittaker tells his story, invites the reader in, and then applies it to the readers’s life is incredible. Not only will you want to have better boundaries with your phone after reading this book, you’ll want to be more intentional in so many ways. Pick up a copy and you won’t be sorry you did!
52 reviews2 followers
June 25, 2024
I've followed Carlos Whittaker on Instagram for many years, and this book is like sitting on his couch listening to him tell the stories of the time he spent screen free. I went into this book thinking that Carlos was going to advocate for us readers to try going screen free (I should have known better!), but instead he gives some recommendations on how to cut back on screen time which is perfect for our current times. This is a book I need to skim each year to be reminded of the actions to take to cut back on screen time.

The bulk of the book was about Carlos' time at the monastery followed by his time at the Amish farm. He briefly wrote about his 3 weeks at home screen free as he wrapped up the book. I wish he would have spent more time talking about his time screen free at home because that's something we all can relate to. It's easy to cut back on screen time when you are on "vacation" or outside your normal routine, but it's much more difficult during your day-to-day life with ingrained habits.

Thank you Nelson Books | Thomas Nelson for providing this book for review consideration via NetGalley. All opinions are my own.
Profile Image for Adam Legg.
24 reviews28 followers
October 26, 2024
I needed this book. Yes, I enjoyed reading it. Yes, I loved the concept. But, I really really needed this book. It was like looking in a mirror and seeing things you know you need to change. But, not in a harsh way. I feel called up to a better way of life, not called out.
Profile Image for Courtney Halak.
122 reviews
November 18, 2024
This book made me delete tik tok and start going on “tech-free walks”, no music, no audiobook, no podcast, no phone.

I really loved this book. Even though it did get fairly religious towards the middle, I think the whole concept was just so brilliant and very much a wake up call. There’s so so much good that’s come out of our new age technology and smartphones, but we’ve simultaneously been losing the art of being human! We’re not noticing as much anymore, we’re impatient and we don’t like getting lost, we can’t stand being bored and we think solitude is a bad thing. We get offended at people’s opinions, we can’t grasp the concept of having different perspectives and we don’t touch the earth as much anymore!!

I think everyone with an iPhone should read this book. It’s very short and easy to read (written like Carlos is talking directly to you) and even if you can’t relate to it all, I can absolutely guarantee there will be something that sticks with you.
Profile Image for Sophie Allers.
119 reviews8 followers
December 26, 2024
While this book wasn’t necessarily super well written, it was very impactful.

I found the rating style to be sort of blog, like, which makes sense with the authors background. I like the structure of the book, that gave insights while also telling the story. I thought that his takeaways on using technology, and also limiting technology were really helpful and inspiring.

I think this is a great easy read for people who want to limit their technology use, or especially reconsider how technology is used in their lives.
Profile Image for Laura Wales.
51 reviews
April 13, 2025
So the ironic thing is that Carlos would actually say don't read the ratings and reviews for this book. Trust your gut. :)

That being said, I like how this book took a different spin on the screen-free discussion. It's not just about eliminating or reducing screens. It's about WHY you do it, with the focus on connection.

This was a quick and enjoyable read with some practical tips sprinkled throughout.
Profile Image for Amanda.
8 reviews1 follower
April 30, 2025
This book was wonderful and is impacting how I handle screen time in my day to day. I am going to have to get a copy or two for our home because I want to reread this book and take notes, but also want to share with my friends. Carlos was so vulnerable about the effects phones had on his life. Our household has definitely been convicted.
Profile Image for Michele Smith.
72 reviews
May 14, 2025
This was thought provoking, convicting and interesting. I encourage anyone to read it! I have been feeling a lot of this just with my desire for people and my family to live a slower lifestyle. This book has some great big take aways.
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