It is important to note that most of the themes explored in this book deal with sensitive subject matters. My review, therefore, touches on these topics as well. Many people might find the book's subject matters & those detailed in my review overwhelming. I suggest you steer clear of both if this is the case. Please note that from this point forward I will be writing about matters that contain reflections on self-harm, suicidal ideations, attempted suicide, grief, physical abuse, parental abuse, rape, bigotry, xenophobia, substance abuse, & others.
The scene opens with an untruth; the narrator’s cause is made clear yet the tone shifts with delayed wit & muddy watered honesty lending shade to a darkness clear as sunshine. Such is the way of the author. By this time, you will have seen my name associated with two previous reviews depicting issues & adoration with Austin as a creative & writer. I would not begrudge your curiosity & harsh judgment upon seeing it for a third time. When I saw that Austin had written another novel, I was apprehensive to lend my enthusiasm to the crowd; we had not grown beloved of each other as I found redundancy in her quirks yet, here we stand again, familiar strangers in the literary world.
I find Austin’s work curious. At once, the books she writes offer readers from an array of levels, & who hold certain preferences, the opportunities to explore something different without requiring them to expound effort into understanding her stories. The characters she crafts are fraternal twins, each one nearly identical to the other except when it comes to the minute details that add background to the otherwise redundant plot lines. Yet, I wonder if this is intentional.
Certain authors pleasure their talents by toying with the utter strangeness of the unknown character. The story they pen wedges into the psyche in the wee hours of neutrality. Austin seems intent on offering readers the opposite experience; I cannot fault her for this.
In creating a world where each character is all the more disadvantaged due to their misbehaviour, Austin allows readers the opportunity to adopt the role of the harsh critic. Indeed, my role here is mute as the cymbals have chimed sonorously & what I will write may seem altogether repetitive though, as a promise for the book, & out of profoundly personal necessity, I write this anyway.
In essence, this is a story about a pair of sisters in their early twenties who confront the seething effects of their toxic family dynamic. The story opens with Sigrid who is attempting to write her suicide note & soon divulges into the dual inky goo of Margit, who goes over Sigrid’s original entry in a bid to make it more palatable for their parents.
The flow of this story is quite the opposite of seamless. Rather than peruse a story that sees the characters become transparent versions of themselves while they shed their human fallacies; Austin’s narrator—the tormented & bemused Sigrid—tries desperately to shadow herself from the truth & in turn, hopes that her last punctuation mark will prevent readers from seeing any honesty in her words.
When I started reading this book, I was hopeful. The feeling is a result of enjoying the clear & pointed flow of Austin’s work without necessarily appreciating the overtly chronically online personality that makes up her main characters. Certainly, this is a subjective opinion & the reason why I find myself so conflicted with my feelings. At surface value, Sigrid & Margit are a pair worth reading about & a sister duo who resemble many a family dynamic. Yet, their overt need to subdue the truth via meme-formatted humour leaves this story squarely on the sidelines as soon-to-be Classics take their place.
Is it wrong to appreciate a book that will not stand the test of time? While making my way through the first section of this story I wondered how many readers would be able to appreciate the deep-rooted need that both sisters had to masquerade as something else; leaving them sheltered from the emotional & physical horror that prospered around them.
While recent years have proved to be the Millennial playground, shedding light on better ways of communicating, smoother formats for connecting with others, & overall experiences that highlight the human ability to function in empathy; the generational divide remains stark & not all who claim torment have been traumatized.
The wiggling worm of truth slithers in the bind of the tale at hand. Sigrid has been left to feel utterly worthless at the young age at which we find her in her letters. The early twenties in the life & times of most people are not a time when a person has their life, all figured out. In fact, most people are just beginning to experience what it means to live in the real world & their twenties are the decade during which their rose-coloured glasses are shelved, seldom to be worn again. Amid these crowds of joyous over-eager onlookers, one finds people like Sigrid & Margit.
Categorically, the sisters are trying their best to live in a world that has been made clear to them; a world that they know too well to be surprised to see during a Christmas dinner; a world in which their deranged, angry parents have lived & prospered. It is not surprising that they should wonder how on earth they are meant to find their place among others who do not seem to see the pain inflicted on them by their caretakers—their parents—& in which others are burdened by simple household Commandments.
If readers pause, they will be given more of an opportunity to truly appreciate what I have written. Sigrid boasts about a happy life because who wouldn’t be happy with a nuclear family & all the opportunities in the world of Middle-Class Canada? The breaks between recollections—which the reader will later note have been penned by Margit—speak more clearly of what Sigrid is trying to stifle. The quirky jokes & misplaced squawks become blurred in the periphery of the bleary-eyed sadness looking at the reader through Sigrid’s handwritten notes when the reader takes the time to look up.
Though I will not be among the crowd of toe-sucking admirers once this book’s pages heat with the print, I readily admit the value & importance of the plot. Whereas it seems that the snow-covered fields reveal a tundra; suicidal ideations are not as common as one may choose to believe. It is imperative that readers learn to appreciate the catastrophically morbid experience that Sigrid is grappling with as she introduces herself to the reader. As she pretends that her life isn’t all bad, rather as she claims that her memories silhouette a beautiful flowery life; Grey Gardens sprinkle their paws around her being, burying her alive.
What is a reader meant to deduce from this book? I have experience in this field, we shall leave it at that. Suffice it to say that I would not wish this reality on anyone—no one at all. The people I know who experience this reality, no matter the spectrum of experiences that contributed to a malady invisible to them save when they look in the mirror, would not wish this on anyone either.
With Austin’s care, Sigrid’s pain flows over the words she masquerades as truth. Perhaps a reader who is experienced or one who has lived enough years on earth to muster empathy & patience will see the characters for who they truly are; sickeningly terrified children in adult bodies.
I highlight a shared sentiment in the paragraph above because it is easy to forget that people who experience suicidal ideations & those who advance on attempted suicide are not living the same experiences as others. It remains nearly impossible to truly transfer the weight of emotions & experiences to another person; some among us feel it easier to simply stop trying & leave this realm altogether. We are lesser as a whole in their absence.
While Sigrid writes in sloppy penmanship & hopes to correct the tract of a life where she feels she is the failure her parents made her out to be, her sister, Margit, suffers a pain all too familiar to me. What I hope readers will appreciate about this book is the woven relationship that exists as a consequence of being alive. It pained me to close the book as I read it; I wanted so badly to whisper kindness & promises that the world was not, in its entirety, identical to the sister’s domestic upbringing. The reader is in the impossible position of watching someone drown in water set warmly by their very own parents.
Behind the scenes of this letter is the truth. Early on readers will note the shift from Sigrid to Margit as revisions to the original content happen directly under their noses. The childhood that the characters experienced is wrought with fear, violence, substance abuse, bigotry, ignorance, & isolation.
Though I will not ravish the somewhat tedious humour that is used as a crutch by the characters, its inclusion in this story felt authentic & true. It is no secret that humour is used, quite actively by many, as a coping mechanism. To watch the slow-moving story of sadness divert from what is tormenting the narrator in an attempt to appease the faceless reader, allowed this story to become more than what it was.
Readers have the opportunity to take their time consuming & digesting this book. The appearance of antagonists in sheep’s clothing & apprehensively mystical allies, sees the plot welcome the page-turning fingers of strangers into the world of small-town Canada, a place that could be anywhere familiar to anyone.
The downward spiral of Sigrid’s best friend following years of societal disregard & a suffocating experience at the hands of a blasphemous man; the ignorant haven of extended family; & the passing of love; Sigrid’s life will be all too familiar to many readers & for this reason, they may find some semblance of comfort in her goose-chase down memory lane.
Ultimately, this is not a bad book. It is not one I would have had recommended to me but, I am glad to have read it. I’m certain to run into Austin again as we covet the space where words meet in rash-staining-haste. Her ideas of a literary world where her convenient internet personality may flourish on the page draw me to her work in a way that cannot be replicated as it feels quaintly & devilishly authentic to her quiet moments.
The stylistic choice of this story will not make it a daring Classic among Titans but, it will allow the reader in mind to materialize between the shelves, seeking the one book that will allow them the privacy & pleasure of a laugh amid sorrow.
For those who may find the subject matter altogether derogatory & unsavoury, I wish for you the malevolence of God’s full attention. Perhaps, He will be more forgiving as we march through a world of His own creation where neighbours, strangers, friends, & family, render the shape of the globe concave with nightmares, each more ghoulish than the next.
There is no laughing matter to be had in the onyx of a mind plagued by one’s inner voice; may the whispers of a rose sooth softness into the crevices where despair can be left to rot, for those who ponder the possibility of an end of their road.
Thank you to Edelweiss+, Atria Books, & Emily Austin for the free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review!