“Becoming More” is a beautiful story of the journey from adolescence into adulthood. Bayli Lane has created an ensemble of characters that tell a realistic and compelling coming-of-age story of a young woman, her best friend, her high school sweetheart, and the people they meet along the way, as they leave the safety and security of their families and go off to college as independent young adults.
Lilly is an intelligent, caring young woman. It’s obvious from her very first inner-musings that she’s perceptive and insightful when it comes to people and situations. She’s also a sensitive soul who has clearly been brought up in a loving and nurturing family. It’s probably why she tries so hard to believe the best of everyone, including her friends, even when their behaviors toward her begin to change, and they become lured by the drinking, drugs and partying that often accompany college life.
It is also Lilly’s willingness to explain and justify their hurtful behavior that makes her character a bit frustrating; however, her fear of letting go of the people she’s depended on for so many years is completely understandable. Some of her new college friends accuse Lilly of being naïve. That label really annoys her, and to some extent it annoyed me too. I don’t think she was naïve as much as she was just ingrained in her upbringing to look for the best in everyone, and to forgive mistakes. That tendency sometimes came across as naïve, but I think it also can be attributed to just youth and inexperience, and to a greater extent, also to Lilly’s great ability to love and forgive.
Lilly’s high school sweetheart, Sander, and her long-time best friend Lauren, become distracted by the darker side of the college life, and that greatly frustrates Lilly. However, she struggles with a sense of loyalty to them, despite the fact that she quite observantly acknowledges that her relationship with them is beginning to jeopardize her happiness as well as her new, healthy relationships, including the irresistibly attractive, charismatically sexy, temptingly badass, and engagingly charming Colton Davenport.
“Becoming More” is not a high-energy, heart-pounding, read. It is, however, thoughtful and thought-provoking. I was completely absorbed in the characters, especially Lilly and Colton, and the way they dealt with very real, adult issues in an incredibly mature and responsible way despite their ages. I was utterly impressed with the way Bayli Lane created a story that quite responsibly addresses many of the realistic concerns facing young adults as they go from relying on the guidance and direction of their parents to being wholly responsible for themselves and their decisions. And she did it in such a way that I was able to feel – as did Lilly – compassion (and even some sadness) for the friends Lilly faced possibly having to choose to walking away from. This book is will be my go-to gift for soon-to-be high school graduates preparing to go away to college.
Four thought-provoking stars!