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Gentle: Rest More, Stress Less, and Live the Life You Actually Want
From an expert on simplicity and minimalism, a collection of 30 practices to overcome chronic overwhelm, cultivate self-compassion, and find permission to do less–perfect for readers of Rest is Resistance and Wintering.
Being Gentle is about being grounded in self-compassion and a fierce commitment to less—becoming the Gentle You isn’t about taking the easy road. Organized into three parts—Rest, Less, and Rise—Courtney Carver's Gentle provides simple challenges and practices that will help readers radically and gently shift their pace, headspace, and heart.
Becoming the Gentle You is a practice of real self-care that, over time, will soothe your nervous system and strengthen your relationships.
Gentle is the “don’t do it all” self-help book that promotes less stress and more joy by standing in your light and honoring the person you are.
Being Gentle is about being grounded in self-compassion and a fierce commitment to less—becoming the Gentle You isn’t about taking the easy road. Organized into three parts—Rest, Less, and Rise—Courtney Carver's Gentle provides simple challenges and practices that will help readers radically and gently shift their pace, headspace, and heart.
Becoming the Gentle You is a practice of real self-care that, over time, will soothe your nervous system and strengthen your relationships.
Gentle is the “don’t do it all” self-help book that promotes less stress and more joy by standing in your light and honoring the person you are.
267 pages, Kindle Edition
First published February 18, 2025
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About the author
Courtney Carver
13 books367 followersCourtney Carver writes things. She wrote a book called Soulful Simplicity and the simplicity blog, bemorewithless.com. She shares things that make her laugh and cry on Instagram (@bemorewithless). She doesn't know her Myers Briggs Type but she knows she's an introvert because she needs to be free from humans several times a day (cats and dogs are always welcome). Aside from her seasonal wardrobe, she doesn't count her things.
Carver doesn't have an impressive degree, awards, or a big, fancy home full of stuff. Instead, she selectively surrounds herself with her favorite things and people she loves. She does work she truly cares about, goes on adventures (in the world or in her own backyard) and likes chai lattes with almond milk while reading or writing.
Her new book, Project 333, The Minimalist Fashion Challenge That Proves Less Really is So Much More will help you create a capsule wardrobe and a beautiful life.
Carver doesn't have an impressive degree, awards, or a big, fancy home full of stuff. Instead, she selectively surrounds herself with her favorite things and people she loves. She does work she truly cares about, goes on adventures (in the world or in her own backyard) and likes chai lattes with almond milk while reading or writing.
Her new book, Project 333, The Minimalist Fashion Challenge That Proves Less Really is So Much More will help you create a capsule wardrobe and a beautiful life.
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April 16, 2025
Groundbreaking suggestions including rest more, spend time in nature, declutter, use your phone less, drink less, etc. I don’t know how this warrants a book.
November 25, 2024
If I’m being honest I am not really a self help reader type of girl, but right now things seem off. I dove in and was shocked about how I felt with the idea of being Gentler… I am a late 40’s woman who takes on way to much and gets anxious when it just doesn’t come out the way I wanted or hoped. So now with some new thought processes and new ideas of how to be Gentler on myself and possibly those around me that trigger my Menopausal tendencies to want to cry, I maybe able to tackle the new year of 2025 with some better optimism.
March 9, 2025
When I think of a standard, run-of-the-mill self-help book, Gentle by Courtney Carver is exactly what comes to mind. It’s surface-level and simplistic, with some solid nuggets of insight, but overall, it lacks depth.
That said, I do believe there’s an audience for this book, and based on the reviews, plenty of readers have found value in it. If this was a book that resonated with you—awesome!
What I Liked:
✔️ Short, digestible chapters.
✔️ Clear calls to action, making it easy to apply the concepts.
✔️ Personal examples that added a relatable touch.
What I Disliked:
❌ Some content may not be neurodivergent-friendly.
❌ A bit too surface-level for my taste.
❌ Repetitive in parts.
❌ While I liked the idea of giving readers “permission” to rest and slow down, the actual permission slip felt a little childish.
Overall, Gentle is a light and accessible read, but if you’re looking for deeper, more nuanced self-help, this one might not hit the mark
That said, I do believe there’s an audience for this book, and based on the reviews, plenty of readers have found value in it. If this was a book that resonated with you—awesome!
What I Liked:
✔️ Short, digestible chapters.
✔️ Clear calls to action, making it easy to apply the concepts.
✔️ Personal examples that added a relatable touch.
What I Disliked:
❌ Some content may not be neurodivergent-friendly.
❌ A bit too surface-level for my taste.
❌ Repetitive in parts.
❌ While I liked the idea of giving readers “permission” to rest and slow down, the actual permission slip felt a little childish.
Overall, Gentle is a light and accessible read, but if you’re looking for deeper, more nuanced self-help, this one might not hit the mark
March 18, 2025
The perfect information I needed in this moment. I appreciated the structure of this book and found either a good reminder or a new piece of advice or information that I could put into use easily. I also loved that there was no blame but it creates a space to give oneself grace and understanding. The author reads the audiobook and her voice is calmly and soothing - an added plus!
October 26, 2025
Nothing groundbreaking, as expected really. Could have been a series of blog posts. Be gentle to yourself, live with less, etcetera. The tone is nice and accepting, and the exercises given could be helpful for beginners trying to simplify their lives.
February 11, 2025
This is the perfect book to pick up when life is overwhelming and you need a gentle hand to help you get yourself to a peaceful place. Gentle takes you through three phases (rest, less, rise) and breaks each one down into steps. Even better, if you don't have the capacity for those steps, there is a teeny tiny step option and an affirmation at the end of each chapter.
I especially liked the rest section, as that's what I struggle with the most. I think this book would best be read by taking it one chapter a week and using that chapter as a motivator or meditation for the week.
Thanks to Netgalley and Balance for the e-ARC!
I especially liked the rest section, as that's what I struggle with the most. I think this book would best be read by taking it one chapter a week and using that chapter as a motivator or meditation for the week.
Thanks to Netgalley and Balance for the e-ARC!
April 16, 2025
I DNF'd it at 50%. I'm glad this author found something that worked for her. But her privilege makes this book unintentionally hilarious. When writing about decluttering, the author "helpfully" shared that she was able to get rid of a whole room full of furnishings, bc she and her spouse "didn't use" that room. I think her intentions are good, but for me, she missed the mark.
March 18, 2025
I recommend this book! Courtney’s approach is very compassionate and encouraging. In a society where we are praised for being busy and productive, we need to hear books like this—her stance is critical for our mental health and well-being.
The book is also well-organized and easy to read. You can read it in a big chunk or take in a short chapter a day. You will benefit whichever way you choose.
The book is also well-organized and easy to read. You can read it in a big chunk or take in a short chapter a day. You will benefit whichever way you choose.
July 28, 2025
just what I needed, just in time
October 9, 2025
I loved this book. Just what I needed to hear - learning to slow down, rest, be gentle and create the life that is ' the unforced rhythm of grace' not the fast, loud, obnoxious one our current world pushes us into
April 16, 2025
Author Courtney Carver guides readers to live a gentler life by learning to be gentle with themselves. Breaking this idea of gentle down into three components: rest, less, and rise, Courtney shares a mix of personal stories along with guided steps and tips for readers, and gives us the permission we don’t give ourselves to prioritize our own well-being. Think more rest, less hustle. If you feel like life is out of control most days and you’ll never get it all done, this is the book you need to read.
P.S.
This book is not religious, but more self-help/personal development.
Thank you, Courtney Carver and Balance, for sending me a finished copy of Gentle!
P.S.
This book is not religious, but more self-help/personal development.
Thank you, Courtney Carver and Balance, for sending me a finished copy of Gentle!
March 12, 2025
This book exceeded all my expectations, inspiring me to explore ways to incorporate its rituals into my own life. It offers a gentle, intentional approach to transforming everyday moments, making the mundane feel meaningful. One of my favorite takeaways was the idea of creating a “little Saturday,” a simple yet powerful way to focus on the present and cultivate a life filled with grace, joy, and self-connection. I truly savored every word, allowing myself the time to absorb its wisdom fully. This book has the potential to be life-changing—its small, actionable steps make transformation feel accessible rather than overwhelming. A must-read for anyone looking to bring more intention into their daily life!
February 25, 2025
I have gotten productivity down to a science. I know how to get things done. What I don’t know how to do is rest, which is why I picked up Courtney Carver’s new self-help and awareness guide, Gentle. They say that you do not know what you do not know, and I did not know how much I needed this book.
Divided into three sections - Rest, Less, and Rise - Courtney takes readers through the process of living a more gentle life. This book is filled with guiding principles and steps you can take to work toward a gentler way of being.
As someone who does tasks from the moment I wake up to the time I go to bed, I appreciated Courtney giving me permission NOT to do one more thing, even when I am perfectly capable of doing ten more things. I internalized Courtney’s wisdom when she shared that whenever she is feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed, the answer is always less. Don’t add more to your life - rather, take some things away.
These are just some of the insights you can find in this inspiring guide to living a gentler life.
Divided into three sections - Rest, Less, and Rise - Courtney takes readers through the process of living a more gentle life. This book is filled with guiding principles and steps you can take to work toward a gentler way of being.
As someone who does tasks from the moment I wake up to the time I go to bed, I appreciated Courtney giving me permission NOT to do one more thing, even when I am perfectly capable of doing ten more things. I internalized Courtney’s wisdom when she shared that whenever she is feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed, the answer is always less. Don’t add more to your life - rather, take some things away.
These are just some of the insights you can find in this inspiring guide to living a gentler life.
May 27, 2025
I went into Gentle by Courtner Carver with high hopes. While I did find some of her advice practical, nothing was new or unique to other, similar books. Unfortunately, much of the advice she shares, as well as the real life examples she uses to highlight that advice felt riddled with privilege and judgment.
May 9, 2025
4 stars
First off, a big thank you to Goodreads for this win—Gentle was the first book I’ve ever won in a giveaway, which made the experience even more special!
I would absolutely recommend this book, especially for anyone who finds themselves overwhelmed by the pressure to do more, be more, and push harder. While it wasn’t earth-shattering or radically new in terms of content—hence the 4 stars instead of 5—it was full of thoughtful reminders and compassionate guidance that felt truly doable.
What I appreciated most was the structure: the book is broken into three phases—Rest, Less, and Rise—with each one offering small, manageable steps. Even better, if you’re feeling especially drained, each chapter includes a “teeny tiny step” option and a gentle affirmation. It felt like the author really understood what it’s like to be running on empty.
The Rest section stood out to me in particular, as that’s the area I personally struggle with the most. I found myself taking this book slowly—reading a little each day, almost like a meditation—and I think it’s best consumed that way. One chapter a week could easily serve as a mindful prompt or intention.
What sets Gentle apart is its tone. There’s no pressure, no guilt, and no unrealistic expectations. It’s simply an invitation to treat yourself with more care. I came away with several new ideas and many gentle nudges to make my life feel a little more easeful—and that, to me, is a win.
First off, a big thank you to Goodreads for this win—Gentle was the first book I’ve ever won in a giveaway, which made the experience even more special!
I would absolutely recommend this book, especially for anyone who finds themselves overwhelmed by the pressure to do more, be more, and push harder. While it wasn’t earth-shattering or radically new in terms of content—hence the 4 stars instead of 5—it was full of thoughtful reminders and compassionate guidance that felt truly doable.
What I appreciated most was the structure: the book is broken into three phases—Rest, Less, and Rise—with each one offering small, manageable steps. Even better, if you’re feeling especially drained, each chapter includes a “teeny tiny step” option and a gentle affirmation. It felt like the author really understood what it’s like to be running on empty.
The Rest section stood out to me in particular, as that’s the area I personally struggle with the most. I found myself taking this book slowly—reading a little each day, almost like a meditation—and I think it’s best consumed that way. One chapter a week could easily serve as a mindful prompt or intention.
What sets Gentle apart is its tone. There’s no pressure, no guilt, and no unrealistic expectations. It’s simply an invitation to treat yourself with more care. I came away with several new ideas and many gentle nudges to make my life feel a little more easeful—and that, to me, is a win.
April 3, 2025
4.5/5
"Gentle: Rest More, Stress Less, and Live the Life You Actually Want" by Courtney Carver is an insightful meditation and concrete steps that one can take to live a more gentle life. Carver breaks the book up into three main sections: Rest, Less, and Rise and each section has specific chapters focusing on different concrete steps that one can take to accomplish a more gentle life. My favorite part about this book is how straightforward it is. Though Carver does bring in examples from her life, this is not a memoir but a book focused on sharing concrete steps and action items. Each chapter ends not only with specific steps and guidelines that Carver recommends but even a more gentle single step for anyone who is feeling overwhelmed but wants to start making a change in their life. I also appreciate that Carver addresses that being gentle with oneself does not mean forgoing advocacy work and working for systemic change. She also confronts the fact that marginalized groups often have more asked of them and are given even less time to rest. I think this is the perfect first step for anyone who is looking to make their life gentler. The audiobook is great but I would love to own a physical copy so that I can work through Carver's steps and apply them to my life.
"Gentle: Rest More, Stress Less, and Live the Life You Actually Want" by Courtney Carver is an insightful meditation and concrete steps that one can take to live a more gentle life. Carver breaks the book up into three main sections: Rest, Less, and Rise and each section has specific chapters focusing on different concrete steps that one can take to accomplish a more gentle life. My favorite part about this book is how straightforward it is. Though Carver does bring in examples from her life, this is not a memoir but a book focused on sharing concrete steps and action items. Each chapter ends not only with specific steps and guidelines that Carver recommends but even a more gentle single step for anyone who is feeling overwhelmed but wants to start making a change in their life. I also appreciate that Carver addresses that being gentle with oneself does not mean forgoing advocacy work and working for systemic change. She also confronts the fact that marginalized groups often have more asked of them and are given even less time to rest. I think this is the perfect first step for anyone who is looking to make their life gentler. The audiobook is great but I would love to own a physical copy so that I can work through Carver's steps and apply them to my life.
April 20, 2025
I listened to the audiobook, and was able to apply some ideas right away. I had been feeling stressed about not doing enough with the current political situation and this book actually helped me integrate regular activities around that into my schedule. So it's not about not engaging, like the tagline might give the impression, but it helped me look at how I was spending my time so I can have the energy to live the life I actually want. I found the phone habit change or removing all the apps and having to search for them to definitely be giving me back time in my life.
I just got a gift certificate to a bookstore so even though I listened to this for free (on Spotify - so more like included with monthly fee) I am considering buying it because I think it would be a helpful reminder / reference book.
I just got a gift certificate to a bookstore so even though I listened to this for free (on Spotify - so more like included with monthly fee) I am considering buying it because I think it would be a helpful reminder / reference book.
April 13, 2025
Wine if the very first “influencers” I started following 15+ years ago - project 333 who is a realistic minimalist.
This book was chocked full of wisdom and “tiny steps” to create new habits and simplify your life in a gentle way. A couple of takeaways that will stick with me; “Do no harm. Take no shit” the concept of microjoys and the a reminder of forest bathing and the positive benefits of nature.
This book was chocked full of wisdom and “tiny steps” to create new habits and simplify your life in a gentle way. A couple of takeaways that will stick with me; “Do no harm. Take no shit” the concept of microjoys and the a reminder of forest bathing and the positive benefits of nature.
March 2, 2025
I work hard at living Gently so I feel like that nothing was super like new to me, but it was written in a way I didn't hate (which I often do for "self help") and was easy to read and a good reminder of ways to slow down.
June 8, 2025
The perfect book with information I needed in the phase of life I am in. The author narrates the book and her voice is so soothing and calming. I plan on incorporating suggestions from this book in my life.
February 25, 2025
This book was the right timing for me. It's not meant to be read quickly but instead Courtney Carver offers gentle practices and ideas of rest between chapters and sections. I love her actionable tips and permission slips at the end of each chapter. This book is a great reminder to slow down in life.
*I received this ARC from Netgalley in exchange for my honest review*
*I received this ARC from Netgalley in exchange for my honest review*
October 23, 2025
Just what I needed to read at this point in my life. Helped to me declutter and start to say yes to myself and no to all of the extras!
January 26, 2025
I've been on a self-help reading spree lately, and "Gentle" by Courtney Carver is a true standout. This book is a revelation – the kind everyone needs, even if they don't realize it.
I'm the type who constantly juggles to-do lists and struggles to switch off after work. My mind races with "what ifs" and how I can be more productive. "Gentle" is a much-needed antidote to this relentless cycle. It's a powerful reminder to prioritize self-compassion and break free from the pressure to constantly do more.
It's crucial to remember that stress is a significant health concern. The American Institute of Stress reports that 120,000 people die each year as a direct result of work-related stress. Furthermore, chronic stress can contribute to the development of numerous health issues, including heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and mental health disorders. This book is a reminder that we need to prioritize our well-being and cultivate a gentler approach to life.
The book is structured around three seasons: Rest, Less, and Rise, each guiding you toward a gentler way of living. What I particularly appreciate are the "Tiny Steps" included at the end of each chapter. These actionable suggestions provide a practical framework for implementing the book's wisdom, even if it's just one small change at a time. And the "Permission Slips" are pure genius! It is a gentle nudge and reassurance, making embracing these new, kinder habits easier.
Carver emphasizes that being gentle with yourself is a practice, and it's crucial to start small, grow slowly, and take one gentle step at a time. In today's society, "rushing and busyness can feel like an addiction," as the author points out.
"Gentle" has profoundly impacted my life. I've actively applied the practices Courtney shares in her book, it has been a game-changer. The book has a calming effect on my anxiety and truly puts me at ease. I can't recommend it highly enough. This book has been a lifeline for me. In a world that constantly pushes us to do more, 'Gentle' offers a much-needed counterpoint. The practices I've implemented have already made a noticeable difference in my stress levels, and I'm confident they'll continue to support my long-term well-being.
If you're feeling overwhelmed by stress, this book is a must-read. It's a gentle yet powerful guide to reclaiming your well-being and living a more fulfilling life.
A huge thank you to NetGalley and Grand Central Publishing for providing me with an advanced reader copy of 'Gentle' by Courtney Carver. I've already recommended it to everyone in my social circle!
I'm the type who constantly juggles to-do lists and struggles to switch off after work. My mind races with "what ifs" and how I can be more productive. "Gentle" is a much-needed antidote to this relentless cycle. It's a powerful reminder to prioritize self-compassion and break free from the pressure to constantly do more.
It's crucial to remember that stress is a significant health concern. The American Institute of Stress reports that 120,000 people die each year as a direct result of work-related stress. Furthermore, chronic stress can contribute to the development of numerous health issues, including heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and mental health disorders. This book is a reminder that we need to prioritize our well-being and cultivate a gentler approach to life.
The book is structured around three seasons: Rest, Less, and Rise, each guiding you toward a gentler way of living. What I particularly appreciate are the "Tiny Steps" included at the end of each chapter. These actionable suggestions provide a practical framework for implementing the book's wisdom, even if it's just one small change at a time. And the "Permission Slips" are pure genius! It is a gentle nudge and reassurance, making embracing these new, kinder habits easier.
Carver emphasizes that being gentle with yourself is a practice, and it's crucial to start small, grow slowly, and take one gentle step at a time. In today's society, "rushing and busyness can feel like an addiction," as the author points out.
"Gentle" has profoundly impacted my life. I've actively applied the practices Courtney shares in her book, it has been a game-changer. The book has a calming effect on my anxiety and truly puts me at ease. I can't recommend it highly enough. This book has been a lifeline for me. In a world that constantly pushes us to do more, 'Gentle' offers a much-needed counterpoint. The practices I've implemented have already made a noticeable difference in my stress levels, and I'm confident they'll continue to support my long-term well-being.
If you're feeling overwhelmed by stress, this book is a must-read. It's a gentle yet powerful guide to reclaiming your well-being and living a more fulfilling life.
A huge thank you to NetGalley and Grand Central Publishing for providing me with an advanced reader copy of 'Gentle' by Courtney Carver. I've already recommended it to everyone in my social circle!
September 2, 2025
A good reminder to slow down, prioritize yourself and make changes.
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May 18, 2025Why in the world would this author alienate her readers so early in her book? The topic of being gentle had such potential but was tarnished beyond belief with radical virtue signaling and extreme leftist wokeism.
On page 8, under the subhead of "When You Must Rest More", a list of people were included that need more rest than everyone else. The list was long, including "Trans" with a capital "T". The author then goes on to say, "For the sake of clarity, throughout the book, when I use the term "woman," I am using it as a catch-all for anyone who understands themselves to be a woman or was socialized as a woman."
Males cannot magically change themselves into being a female or a woman. Female is a fact, not a feeling, not a stereotype, not something you can opt into due to a belief about oneself, confusion, dissociation from their natural body or rejecting a masculine role or responsibility. Apparently the author wants to include any and everyone into the category of woman. This type of thinking is offensive to many women and completely unnecessary to start off her book about the topic of living a life of less stress.
But the author could not stop there and went on to mention that rest is a movement towards our true nature. "We are stripped down to who we really were before the terror of capitalism and white supremacy." Seriously? I cannot believe that the author had to inject "terror of capitalism" and "white supremacy" into a book about resting more. What a put-off! I'm an independent voter and fairly liberal, but this sort of talk is really over the top. Then she could not stop and went on to discuss ableism and said, "Not only might you have less energy because of the body you are in but, also, your energy is likely to be sapped as a result of being a part of a marginalized community." Before even getting to page ten, the author's belief in woke ideology drips off the page.
What a disappointment that such a positive potential topic of "gentle" was destroyed before page 10. With that foundation set at the beginning, I declined to read further. The author must live in a very small world that excludes most of the rest of the population. Her scope is limited in viewpoint diversity and she is out of touch with anything outside of a narrow and confined view of only seeing through the lens of the far left. If she cannot even relate or reach as far as the middle, then her echo chamber must have fortified walls. No thank you.
On page 8, under the subhead of "When You Must Rest More", a list of people were included that need more rest than everyone else. The list was long, including "Trans" with a capital "T". The author then goes on to say, "For the sake of clarity, throughout the book, when I use the term "woman," I am using it as a catch-all for anyone who understands themselves to be a woman or was socialized as a woman."
Males cannot magically change themselves into being a female or a woman. Female is a fact, not a feeling, not a stereotype, not something you can opt into due to a belief about oneself, confusion, dissociation from their natural body or rejecting a masculine role or responsibility. Apparently the author wants to include any and everyone into the category of woman. This type of thinking is offensive to many women and completely unnecessary to start off her book about the topic of living a life of less stress.
But the author could not stop there and went on to mention that rest is a movement towards our true nature. "We are stripped down to who we really were before the terror of capitalism and white supremacy." Seriously? I cannot believe that the author had to inject "terror of capitalism" and "white supremacy" into a book about resting more. What a put-off! I'm an independent voter and fairly liberal, but this sort of talk is really over the top. Then she could not stop and went on to discuss ableism and said, "Not only might you have less energy because of the body you are in but, also, your energy is likely to be sapped as a result of being a part of a marginalized community." Before even getting to page ten, the author's belief in woke ideology drips off the page.
What a disappointment that such a positive potential topic of "gentle" was destroyed before page 10. With that foundation set at the beginning, I declined to read further. The author must live in a very small world that excludes most of the rest of the population. Her scope is limited in viewpoint diversity and she is out of touch with anything outside of a narrow and confined view of only seeing through the lens of the far left. If she cannot even relate or reach as far as the middle, then her echo chamber must have fortified walls. No thank you.
May 4, 2025
Thanks to NetGalley for providing me with an electronic/digital Advanced Reader Copy (ARC).
I admire what Courtney Carver is doing. She's telling her story while also providing tips or a road map on how to jump off the "do more all the time, girl boss, hustle culture" treadmill. This is nothing new. She's merely using more current language and addressing different technologies. In the 1960 and 70s, it was "turn on, tune in, drop out." Those old enough probably remember hearing about people who wanted out of the "rat race," which seems to go back to the 1930s. Carver is trying to reach a younger audience, most likely millennials and maybe some young Gen X.
For those who have never considered "what's my purpose," other than to get that degree, get that job, make more money, live an enviable lifestyle, etc., this book may be helpful.
If someone has achieved a lot of material success but is feeling empty, this is the book for you.
Also, while her message is not new to me, some of her tips were things I needed to be reminded of.
This book is broken into three parts: Rest First, Less, and Rise. Each part has multiple sections.
Some of the language and tools she references are reference in other books, such as "count your spoons." Plus, there are some Brene Brown vibes (permission slips) in the book.
I did like that each subsection has "The Tiny Steps" and "One Gentle Step." You can also skip around as needed, which I appreciate.
I appreciate that in the Notes section, she includes many of her sources/references. They are not the most credible sources, but it's nice to know where she's getting her information.
At first, I felt like this was more of the same, but as I read through the book, I realized that I liked it more than her first book. I plan to buy this once I can buy it on sale. Sadly, NetGalley removes books at some point, so I won't have a copy of it to keep.
This is the kind of book that millennials will find illuminating.
May 4, 2025 Update:
I really appreciate the short chapters, and what's found at the end of each chapter: Tiny Steps, One Gentle Step, Permission Slip.
I admire what Courtney Carver is doing. She's telling her story while also providing tips or a road map on how to jump off the "do more all the time, girl boss, hustle culture" treadmill. This is nothing new. She's merely using more current language and addressing different technologies. In the 1960 and 70s, it was "turn on, tune in, drop out." Those old enough probably remember hearing about people who wanted out of the "rat race," which seems to go back to the 1930s. Carver is trying to reach a younger audience, most likely millennials and maybe some young Gen X.
For those who have never considered "what's my purpose," other than to get that degree, get that job, make more money, live an enviable lifestyle, etc., this book may be helpful.
If someone has achieved a lot of material success but is feeling empty, this is the book for you.
Also, while her message is not new to me, some of her tips were things I needed to be reminded of.
This book is broken into three parts: Rest First, Less, and Rise. Each part has multiple sections.
Some of the language and tools she references are reference in other books, such as "count your spoons." Plus, there are some Brene Brown vibes (permission slips) in the book.
I did like that each subsection has "The Tiny Steps" and "One Gentle Step." You can also skip around as needed, which I appreciate.
I appreciate that in the Notes section, she includes many of her sources/references. They are not the most credible sources, but it's nice to know where she's getting her information.
At first, I felt like this was more of the same, but as I read through the book, I realized that I liked it more than her first book. I plan to buy this once I can buy it on sale. Sadly, NetGalley removes books at some point, so I won't have a copy of it to keep.
This is the kind of book that millennials will find illuminating.
May 4, 2025 Update:
I really appreciate the short chapters, and what's found at the end of each chapter: Tiny Steps, One Gentle Step, Permission Slip.
December 21, 2025
Gentle is a calm, reassuring book that invites you to slow down, soften your approach to life, and let go of the pressure to constantly optimize yourself. This book is organized around three simple ideas: Rest, Less, and Rise. Each one builds on the last, creating a framework for a gentle life:
Rest is the foundation. When we are rested, we show up more fully—we are more present, happier, clearer, and more creative. One of the most freeing messages is that rest is not something you have to earn. You do not need to finish your to-do list, prove your productivity, or justify slowing down.
Less focuses on simplifying both physical and mental clutter. Fewer possessions, commitments, and obligations lead to fewer decisions, and fewer decisions mean less exhaustion. You do not have to be bothered by everything. You cannot control other people, but you can decide what deserves your attention and energy. Letting go of what does not matter is presented as an act of self-respect, not indifference.
Rise is about moving forward—but gently. Growth does not require speed. The author cautions against rushing, overexcitement, and the urge to get things done as quickly as possible. Instead, she encourages readers to live the life they actually want, not the one shaped by expectations, comparison, or constant urgency. This section feels less like a motivational push and more like a quiet permission slip to choose alignment over momentum.
Overall, Gentle is not a book about fixing yourself. It is a book about easing up. It speaks especially well to readers who feel emotionally worn down, overstimulated, or stuck in cycles of busyness that no longer feel meaningful. If you are looking for a compassionate, feelings-centered approach to rest and simplicity, Gentle offers a steady hand and a softer way forward.
Rest is the foundation. When we are rested, we show up more fully—we are more present, happier, clearer, and more creative. One of the most freeing messages is that rest is not something you have to earn. You do not need to finish your to-do list, prove your productivity, or justify slowing down.
Less focuses on simplifying both physical and mental clutter. Fewer possessions, commitments, and obligations lead to fewer decisions, and fewer decisions mean less exhaustion. You do not have to be bothered by everything. You cannot control other people, but you can decide what deserves your attention and energy. Letting go of what does not matter is presented as an act of self-respect, not indifference.
Rise is about moving forward—but gently. Growth does not require speed. The author cautions against rushing, overexcitement, and the urge to get things done as quickly as possible. Instead, she encourages readers to live the life they actually want, not the one shaped by expectations, comparison, or constant urgency. This section feels less like a motivational push and more like a quiet permission slip to choose alignment over momentum.
Overall, Gentle is not a book about fixing yourself. It is a book about easing up. It speaks especially well to readers who feel emotionally worn down, overstimulated, or stuck in cycles of busyness that no longer feel meaningful. If you are looking for a compassionate, feelings-centered approach to rest and simplicity, Gentle offers a steady hand and a softer way forward.
April 16, 2025
The book overall is a great read and has a lot of very useful information and inspiration. Like the author says, if the ideas and suggestions don't work exactly for you, adjust them to fit your needs. The one distraction that popped up every now and then (which the author does acknowledge,) is that it's written from a degree of privilege that so many people don't possess. Much of this is truly not attainable for people i.e. working 3 jobs just to get by, caring for multiple children/family members, or dealing with disability/chronic illness for decades. Like when she said (maybe hypothetically) "Can you do with 1 set of towels?" Any spoonie would be like "heck no!!" And speaking of spoonies, as one, I could not relate to the Spoons chapter. I get it. But spoonies do not "give away" their spoons. Our spoons are robbed from us. We don't lose spoons from overworking all day and doing too many things, we lose them from taking a shower and making dinner in the same day. I kind of wish she adjusted the Spoon Theory to make it a better fit for everyone, and leave the Spoons for the Spoonies.
Nonetheless, I've been following her for a long time and I really like her, and I liked the book too, but it kind of felt geared toward a different SES, and slightly less attainable for someone with multiple barriers. I.e. Especially in this country, I don't think many adults will ever have the luxury of taking a month off work to travel and hike. So I guess, appreciate her experiences and what she learned from them, and adjust them to your own situation. I'd still recommend the book regardless. Tons of useful ideas. 5 stars - I'm not docking any just because her experience isn't my experience.
Nonetheless, I've been following her for a long time and I really like her, and I liked the book too, but it kind of felt geared toward a different SES, and slightly less attainable for someone with multiple barriers. I.e. Especially in this country, I don't think many adults will ever have the luxury of taking a month off work to travel and hike. So I guess, appreciate her experiences and what she learned from them, and adjust them to your own situation. I'd still recommend the book regardless. Tons of useful ideas. 5 stars - I'm not docking any just because her experience isn't my experience.
March 9, 2025
Gentle: Rest More, Stress Less, and Live the Life You Actually Want is a beautiful, thoughtful exploration of how we can embrace a slower, more mindful lifestyle. In a world that often feels rushed and overwhelming, Carver’s book offers a much-needed antidote—teaching us that rest is not a luxury, but a necessity for a fulfilling life.
The author’s approach is grounded in the idea that we need to prioritize our well-being in order to live the life we truly want. She provides practical advice, such as simplifying our surroundings, setting boundaries, and practicing mindfulness, all of which contribute to reducing stress and fostering a sense of calm and joy.
What I loved about this book is how accessible and relatable it is. Carver's writing is warm and encouraging, making it easy to feel inspired to take small, actionable steps toward creating a more peaceful life. The book is full of personal stories and reflections, which help make her message even more powerful and authentic.
The structure of the book is easy to follow, and each chapter offers tips that can be implemented immediately. Carver doesn't overwhelm the reader with complicated techniques but instead gently guides us toward making changes that are in line with our values and needs.
Overall, Gentle is a wonderful resource for anyone looking to reclaim their peace and find more balance in their busy lives. It's not just a book about self-care—it's a guide to living with intention and embracing the beauty of simplicity. I highly recommend it to anyone feeling burnt out or seeking to slow down.
The author’s approach is grounded in the idea that we need to prioritize our well-being in order to live the life we truly want. She provides practical advice, such as simplifying our surroundings, setting boundaries, and practicing mindfulness, all of which contribute to reducing stress and fostering a sense of calm and joy.
What I loved about this book is how accessible and relatable it is. Carver's writing is warm and encouraging, making it easy to feel inspired to take small, actionable steps toward creating a more peaceful life. The book is full of personal stories and reflections, which help make her message even more powerful and authentic.
The structure of the book is easy to follow, and each chapter offers tips that can be implemented immediately. Carver doesn't overwhelm the reader with complicated techniques but instead gently guides us toward making changes that are in line with our values and needs.
Overall, Gentle is a wonderful resource for anyone looking to reclaim their peace and find more balance in their busy lives. It's not just a book about self-care—it's a guide to living with intention and embracing the beauty of simplicity. I highly recommend it to anyone feeling burnt out or seeking to slow down.
March 3, 2025
I've followed Courtney Carver for a number of years now, and many of her ideas about living more simply, especially when you're dealing with a chronic illness, really resonate with me, so when I heard she had a new book coming out it was an immediate preorder for me.
I appreciated the lifestyle approach laid out in Gentle, broken down into three cyclical periods of life--Rest, Less, and Rise. I've spent a lot of time cultivating a gentler approach to my life, making sure that I focus on small pleasures and on rest, and reading this book reinforced for me how much progress I've made. But of course there are always more things to learn, and Carver breaks each phase down into tiny bite-sized steps, many of which I found helpful.
There is a fair amount of political virtue signaling especially in the first section, and it was especially off-putting in a book like this. She could easily have made her points without taking a specific stand politically, and the book would have been stronger for it. Given how polarized our political climate is, I'm looking for a break from the noise, especially in a book about living gently. Fortunately this was heaviest in the first section, with much less after that.
Overall, Gentle is well organized and easy to read, with lots and lots of tips and insight into ways to live more gently and to give yourself as well as others more grace. 3.5 stars
I appreciated the lifestyle approach laid out in Gentle, broken down into three cyclical periods of life--Rest, Less, and Rise. I've spent a lot of time cultivating a gentler approach to my life, making sure that I focus on small pleasures and on rest, and reading this book reinforced for me how much progress I've made. But of course there are always more things to learn, and Carver breaks each phase down into tiny bite-sized steps, many of which I found helpful.
There is a fair amount of political virtue signaling especially in the first section, and it was especially off-putting in a book like this. She could easily have made her points without taking a specific stand politically, and the book would have been stronger for it. Given how polarized our political climate is, I'm looking for a break from the noise, especially in a book about living gently. Fortunately this was heaviest in the first section, with much less after that.
Overall, Gentle is well organized and easy to read, with lots and lots of tips and insight into ways to live more gently and to give yourself as well as others more grace. 3.5 stars
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