More reading while I have the flu. I've done a western, a humor book, a book on Christianity, and now this one. I'd probably classify it as "heartwarming," but it's much better than most of the heartwarming fluff.
I picked this up to read, as our middle child is approaching the 18th summer, and we have one already in college. I was a little wary of reading it, though, because I was afraid it would either be a tear-jerker, or would make me think of a thousand little things I'd forgotten to teach them. (I don't know that my kids can make omelettes, either, but they can cook at least a little and they can do eggs. I just don't know that we've ever thought of them doing omelettes.)
I don't think this book fell into either of those two traps, being a tear-jerker, or a book of should-have-dones.
Much of it was funny, and I enjoyed the humor in it quite a bit. I tried to read some of the little funny bits to my husband, but he didn't get it, either because I didn't give him enough context, or because it truly is more of a woman's book. If I ever read it again, it would be for the humor.
I am rating it as a 4 - thoroughly enjoyed it, would recommend it, but not a 5 because I doubt I'd read it again. But you never know.
I didn't expect Ava to be in charge of the ...
It's the second book I've read recently with parents coming to terms about the wedding of a child. The other book was Charles Dicken's "Our Mutual Friend." Although the writing styles are vastly different, Gutteridge and Cox's Larry and Beth parenting characters did have quite a lot in common with the Dickens' characters. Maybe I shouldn't say which Dickens' characters in that book and give away who marries whom. Beth is a better, more loving mom than the Dickens' mom character, though. Both sets of parents worried over their children's financial ruin in the match, and both sets of adult children hid things from their parents.
These characters in "Just 18 Summers" were all wild in one way or another. I loved Tippy and Butch's scheme to go see a counselor together, loved some of Ava's sassy little comebacks, and some of what the counselor said was very good.
Yeah, I think Marvin probably should've told his future in-laws more of the story up front, but I can see why he'd be intimidated to do that.
Also, I didn't like that Beth felt like she had to put on a perfect front for her scrapbooking group - [what is the purpose of having women friends if you can't vent to them a little?] - but I also think that having the Helen character in the scrapbooking group would've made that hard, since Helen was so openly critical of everyone.
I think I would've handled her differently, though. I tend to react to that sort of attitude by just openly grinning and loving my messy life and the people in it, even the imperfect, worrisome moments. Perfection in the form of lawn maintenance or clothing or high society does not appeal to me. It feels constricting, like a waste of time conforming to someone else's standard. It's just a different set of goals than mine. I would have even felt sorry for her - a little. Yeah, maybe Beth and Larry should've thought a little further ahead about what they wanted to instill in their kids, rather than just going along with the flow of society. But, Helen went too far, in wanting to think only with her head and not her heart. They are at opposite, extreme ends of the spectrum on that, and the best place to be is probably somewhere in the middle.
So many little things were not wrapped up, and good conversations could've happened. Butch could've had some conversations with Ava over some of what she'd said, to reach an understanding. Nathan and Larry could have talked over their expectations for the summer. I know that Nathan may not have wanted to do those things anymore, but I can picture them laughing over them together, as good memories, once his dad was older. Beth could have even talked with Helen about having different parenting goals and methods, but that might've been a dangerous conversation to have, perhaps not worth the bitter criticism to follow, particularly as Beth didn't seem to understand her own goals or be able to articulate them very well. Plus, Beth seemed understandably insecure about her parenting style at the moment because of her daughter's decisions. I could also imagine just shrugging that conversation off, letting it slide, thinking that God Himself will teach Helen, if she ever needs to know, or being willing to talk later if it ever became a serious issue between the families.
Maybe Larry could've let the kids pick some of the fun activities for the summer, or had them each pick something. We used to do that, have each child pick an activity for our family day. And Beth didn't have to stay out of their fun just because 1) She didn't know how to construct a kite or 2) Because she was a woman. I wasn't sure if that was part of it. Apparently, none of the rest of them knew how to do it, either, and that didn't inhibit their fun. But I realize that she was still focused on mourning her daughter's choice of spouse and probably didn't feel up to it emotionally. But then again, it could've made a better summer for her to bond with the kids who were present and willing, rather than just pine after the one who wasn't.
I also thought it was unrealistic ... SPOILER ... how much money was raised so quickly, and maybe a few other little odds and ends, too.