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Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App
Sex.
Everyone's concerned with whether or not to have it.
But what happens when you can’t?
Avery Murphy has a problem. Ever since she tried losing her virginity to her college boyfriend, she’s been physically unable to have sex. It’s just too painful. When her failed promiscuity gets her kicked out of bible college and ostracized by her religious family, Avery packs up and moves halfway across the state of Florida in search of a new life.
Now five years later, Avery is happy and comfortable in Orlando, with a job she loves and cute townhouse to call home. She spends most of her free time at a gaming shop, where she enjoys tabletop gaming with a wonderful group of friends - including Devin Lancaster, the shop’s snarky owner. But as her 27th birthday approaches, she longs for a partner to share it all with. She turns to online dating, eager to find a match… but who wants to be with a woman who can’t have sex?
Through a series of dating mishaps and awkward romances, Avery goes on a painful yet eye-opening journey to unravel the cause of her condition. And when one night changes everything, Avery realizes her sexual dysfunction may be caused by much bigger health issues… and that love can often be found when - and where - you least expect it.
Everyone's concerned with whether or not to have it.
But what happens when you can’t?
Avery Murphy has a problem. Ever since she tried losing her virginity to her college boyfriend, she’s been physically unable to have sex. It’s just too painful. When her failed promiscuity gets her kicked out of bible college and ostracized by her religious family, Avery packs up and moves halfway across the state of Florida in search of a new life.
Now five years later, Avery is happy and comfortable in Orlando, with a job she loves and cute townhouse to call home. She spends most of her free time at a gaming shop, where she enjoys tabletop gaming with a wonderful group of friends - including Devin Lancaster, the shop’s snarky owner. But as her 27th birthday approaches, she longs for a partner to share it all with. She turns to online dating, eager to find a match… but who wants to be with a woman who can’t have sex?
Through a series of dating mishaps and awkward romances, Avery goes on a painful yet eye-opening journey to unravel the cause of her condition. And when one night changes everything, Avery realizes her sexual dysfunction may be caused by much bigger health issues… and that love can often be found when - and where - you least expect it.
374 pages, Kindle Edition
First published September 13, 2024
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Sydney Wilder
5 books80 followersSydney Wilder has been a writer ever since she was a child, and fell in love with reptiles in her early 20s. Her collection includes four snakes and a bearded dragon, which keep her company in her cozy home office as she writes fantasy novels inspired by them.
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August 28, 2024
YESSSS!!! We love visibility for underrepresentated topics like endometriosis! I'm not diagnosed with anything officially but I could releate to some aspects of the book so much and I think a lot of people can too. This is literally the first time I saw a book tackle this topic as well. And as someone who likes gaming and boardgames I also liked that the primary setting was a game store.
I just found the title not that suitable for the topic and fear that many in the target audience might skip over it, because they think it has some weird 2000s Rom-Com vibes? I don't know how else to explain it, sorry! But I mean I was curious enough to look at the description after reading the title so hopefully it will work with others too!
Thanks to NetGalley and Victory Editing for the advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
I just found the title not that suitable for the topic and fear that many in the target audience might skip over it, because they think it has some weird 2000s Rom-Com vibes? I don't know how else to explain it, sorry! But I mean I was curious enough to look at the description after reading the title so hopefully it will work with others too!
Thanks to NetGalley and Victory Editing for the advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
August 25, 2024
3.5⭐ contains trigger warnings
Judging by the cover this novel looks like any other rom-com but it actually contains serious subject matters. The main issue it tackles is identifying and dealing with having Endometriosis which can be a long journey for getting a diagnosis. There are other serious things mentioned but everything is written in a clear and very straightforward, descriptive manner. While the content of this novel is serious, the tone is sweet and informative and supportive. Not a rom-com at all but still a very readable, appealing story.
Much of the background content is very niche, and will appeal greatly to gamers, especially lovers of RPGs.
The book, with all it's serious topics, has been handled gently and thoroughly, not shying away from the more difficult details. While the writing is good, I think the story needs to be trimmed down to make it tighter. There were far too many examples of how wonderful and thoughtful Devin was even though it was very sweet.
Thank you to Netgalley for the opportunity to read and review this book.
Judging by the cover this novel looks like any other rom-com but it actually contains serious subject matters. The main issue it tackles is identifying and dealing with having Endometriosis which can be a long journey for getting a diagnosis. There are other serious things mentioned but everything is written in a clear and very straightforward, descriptive manner. While the content of this novel is serious, the tone is sweet and informative and supportive. Not a rom-com at all but still a very readable, appealing story.
Much of the background content is very niche, and will appeal greatly to gamers, especially lovers of RPGs.
The book, with all it's serious topics, has been handled gently and thoroughly, not shying away from the more difficult details. While the writing is good, I think the story needs to be trimmed down to make it tighter. There were far too many examples of how wonderful and thoughtful Devin was even though it was very sweet.
Thank you to Netgalley for the opportunity to read and review this book.
July 28, 2024
what a beautiful and authentic depiction and exploration of endometriosis and religious trauma. it was the perfect balance of light-hearted and deeply impactful.
August 14, 2024
(4.5★, rounded up)
✨️all opinions are my own✨️
First of all, thank you to Sydney for reaching out to me personally and offering me an e-arc of her novel. I love that she was actively seeking out accounts run by women with endometriosis and/or PCOS.
"We're human beings, not dolls. We don't break. We're so much more complex than that."
The only acceptable use of the "it won't fit" trope when discussing menstrual disorders and sexual dysfunction.
This book was the first I've read or even heard of containing endometriosis and sexual dysfunction representation. It was a breath of fresh air as someone who has felt like a dysfunctional woman in society due to having endometriosis, something I have zero control over. I really applaud the author for this book, and I appreciate the informative aspect of it. I also liked the inclusion of how different birth controls can affect us physically and mentally in the epilogue.
- friends to lovers
- endometriosis representation
- goth cinnamon roll mmc
- mutual trauma bonding
Confessions releases on September 13th!!!
✨️all opinions are my own✨️
First of all, thank you to Sydney for reaching out to me personally and offering me an e-arc of her novel. I love that she was actively seeking out accounts run by women with endometriosis and/or PCOS.
"We're human beings, not dolls. We don't break. We're so much more complex than that."
The only acceptable use of the "it won't fit" trope when discussing menstrual disorders and sexual dysfunction.
This book was the first I've read or even heard of containing endometriosis and sexual dysfunction representation. It was a breath of fresh air as someone who has felt like a dysfunctional woman in society due to having endometriosis, something I have zero control over. I really applaud the author for this book, and I appreciate the informative aspect of it. I also liked the inclusion of how different birth controls can affect us physically and mentally in the epilogue.
- friends to lovers
- endometriosis representation
- goth cinnamon roll mmc
- mutual trauma bonding
Confessions releases on September 13th!!!
March 21, 2025
Loved this book! ❤️
Topics: endometriosis & religious trauma.
Local Author ::yay:: set in Orlando FL.
Nerdy vibes and MMC is *chefs kiss*
Topics: endometriosis & religious trauma.
Local Author ::yay:: set in Orlando FL.
Nerdy vibes and MMC is *chefs kiss*
September 9, 2024
"Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App" took me completely by surprise. I loved this book and I can already feel a re-read coming along.
I loved that we started the book with action right away. It immediately grabbed my attention and hooked me into the story. I also instantly fell in love with Sydney Wilder's voice as an author. Her writing doesn't make the you feel like you're reading, and she has great flow and pacing along with the content.
I loved the Dungeons and Dragons scenes! As someone who personally does not play D&D, I thought Wilder did a great job guiding the reader along. The rules were explained clearly but not overly done. The game play was interesting, captivating, and aided the story.
Avery was immediately relatable. Her internal dialogue was so genuine and realistic that she felt like a real person rather than a fictional character. Even if someone hasn't gone through the same conflicts Avery has, they can still find a way to connect with her. Also, she is hilarious!
The chemistry between Avery and Devin is insane. I was rooting for them in full force throughout. Avery's personal conflict also tied in nicely with their relationship and conflict together. They had such complimentary personalities that it was undeniable that they should be together. Devin is the perfect example of how the little things matter more than big romantic gestures.
I had such a great time reading this book and can not wait to see what Wilder does in the future!
I loved that we started the book with action right away. It immediately grabbed my attention and hooked me into the story. I also instantly fell in love with Sydney Wilder's voice as an author. Her writing doesn't make the you feel like you're reading, and she has great flow and pacing along with the content.
I loved the Dungeons and Dragons scenes! As someone who personally does not play D&D, I thought Wilder did a great job guiding the reader along. The rules were explained clearly but not overly done. The game play was interesting, captivating, and aided the story.
Avery was immediately relatable. Her internal dialogue was so genuine and realistic that she felt like a real person rather than a fictional character. Even if someone hasn't gone through the same conflicts Avery has, they can still find a way to connect with her. Also, she is hilarious!
The chemistry between Avery and Devin is insane. I was rooting for them in full force throughout. Avery's personal conflict also tied in nicely with their relationship and conflict together. They had such complimentary personalities that it was undeniable that they should be together. Devin is the perfect example of how the little things matter more than big romantic gestures.
I had such a great time reading this book and can not wait to see what Wilder does in the future!
January 11, 2025
It was fine. Pros: the chronic illness rep and gamer girl nerdy hobbit rep. Cons: you spend 40% of the book with a dude who is not the male lead. Then when she gets with the love interest it feels incredibly rushed but no no no this has been building for 5 years! Even though you don’t actually feel any of that build up. She’s instantly in love even though she has bothered to learn almost nothing about this man (yes he spills his deepest darkest secret but she doesn’t know he has pets or a degree??). I may have moved past it until you find out she didn’t even know her BEST FRIEND had siblings. I wanted this girl to get out of her own head some more. The base was there but the details were missing to make everyone feel more real. Also I could not read the phrase “my blank blank self” one more time lol
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
August 12, 2024
This was a sweet but important story. So many women suffer in private, it's nice for a book to have a FMC suffer from endometriosis.
This friends to lovers story was different with the gaming aspect added into the mix.
This friends to lovers story was different with the gaming aspect added into the mix.
August 28, 2024
This isn’t the classic rom-com the cover suggests it’ll be - with an important message, Wilder explores some heavy subjects we don’t talk enough about.
Not only were the medical themes interesting and informative, the religious trauma in which Avery experienced was a huge contributing factor to her issues. Wilder was brave to delve into Avery’s parental relationships and with Devin’s own experience, I enjoyed the common ground they found within each other and the relationship that they went on to find.
I found Avery’s character particularly inspiring and hope this book will encourage readers to seek help of their own if they’ve had a similar experience.
ARC via NetGalley
Not only were the medical themes interesting and informative, the religious trauma in which Avery experienced was a huge contributing factor to her issues. Wilder was brave to delve into Avery’s parental relationships and with Devin’s own experience, I enjoyed the common ground they found within each other and the relationship that they went on to find.
I found Avery’s character particularly inspiring and hope this book will encourage readers to seek help of their own if they’ve had a similar experience.
ARC via NetGalley
September 17, 2024
First thought: Love seeing books that address important health issues women face and bringing awareness! For that reason alone you should read this book but if that’s not enough this book has just fun vibes. It’s like a Friday game night with your besties mixed with a side of family drama and supportive friends helping you find your way through the hard stuff.
Avery grew up in a very strict religious household and then went to a private Christian college. She was never taught anything about her sexuality and when she tried to have sex first the first time she realized she couldn’t because it was excruciatingly painful. Getting caught trying to have sex got her kicked out of college, not being able to have sex lost her boyfriend and the shame of it all made her sever ties with her family.
Now 5 years later she’s living near Orlando with her best friend and works from home as an editor. In her free-time she is a gamer. Avery loves it all and there is a local game shop which has became her safe haven the last few years. Once a week she goes and does a role playing game with friends.
Avery has been trying to date online but hasn’t had success in 1. Finding guys that like what she likes 2. Ok with the fact she can’t have sex . It’s a lot for her to handle as she was taught not to talk about her female parts so she has never investigated the root cause to what’s wrong with her. But this year will be different. Avery will learn to push through a lot of barriers and grow as a women.
Don’t forget the best part the game shop owner has been crushing on her hardcore. So when Avery finally calls it quits with the online dating maybe it will finally be Devin’s turn to try and win her heart.
Literally Themes you’ll find:
* Game Shop Owner x Gamer
* 9yr Age Gap
* He Falls First
* Found Family
* Slow Burn
* D&D Gaming Vibes
* Women’s Health Rep
* Single POV
* Mild Spice 🌶️
🎮🧩🎲🎮🧩🎲🎮🧩🎲🎮🧩🎲🎮🧩🎲🎮
https://www.instagram.com/p/DACW9bLSF...
Avery grew up in a very strict religious household and then went to a private Christian college. She was never taught anything about her sexuality and when she tried to have sex first the first time she realized she couldn’t because it was excruciatingly painful. Getting caught trying to have sex got her kicked out of college, not being able to have sex lost her boyfriend and the shame of it all made her sever ties with her family.
Now 5 years later she’s living near Orlando with her best friend and works from home as an editor. In her free-time she is a gamer. Avery loves it all and there is a local game shop which has became her safe haven the last few years. Once a week she goes and does a role playing game with friends.
Avery has been trying to date online but hasn’t had success in 1. Finding guys that like what she likes 2. Ok with the fact she can’t have sex . It’s a lot for her to handle as she was taught not to talk about her female parts so she has never investigated the root cause to what’s wrong with her. But this year will be different. Avery will learn to push through a lot of barriers and grow as a women.
Don’t forget the best part the game shop owner has been crushing on her hardcore. So when Avery finally calls it quits with the online dating maybe it will finally be Devin’s turn to try and win her heart.
Literally Themes you’ll find:
* Game Shop Owner x Gamer
* 9yr Age Gap
* He Falls First
* Found Family
* Slow Burn
* D&D Gaming Vibes
* Women’s Health Rep
* Single POV
* Mild Spice 🌶️
🎮🧩🎲🎮🧩🎲🎮🧩🎲🎮🧩🎲🎮🧩🎲🎮
https://www.instagram.com/p/DACW9bLSF...
August 16, 2024
I was initially interested in this book as it deals with religious trauma. I thought the author did a great job of capturing the aftermath of leaving toxic religious organisations and the ongoing difficulty with family members still within that world.
Whilst I don't have endometriosis, several friends do. From what I know, it felt like an authentic depiction of endometriosis.
I am not the key audience for this novel as I have no interest in gaming, but I like the idea of a loving community like that.
Overall, I thought this was a lovely little book for anyone experiencing religious trauma or endometriosis.
I'm giving it 4 stars even though I'm not the target audience as it was well written and covers some topics that should be spoken of more.
Thank you Netgalley for an advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
Whilst I don't have endometriosis, several friends do. From what I know, it felt like an authentic depiction of endometriosis.
I am not the key audience for this novel as I have no interest in gaming, but I like the idea of a loving community like that.
Overall, I thought this was a lovely little book for anyone experiencing religious trauma or endometriosis.
I'm giving it 4 stars even though I'm not the target audience as it was well written and covers some topics that should be spoken of more.
Thank you Netgalley for an advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
August 18, 2024
Overall this was a cute little romance which was low-angst and focused on found family. I was happy to see endometriosis covered extensively in this novel - it's one factor that interested me in the first place, and the toxic religious upbringing which contributed to Avery's sexual dysfunction was also pretty fascinating. Devin, the MMC, is delightful - always kind and supportive despite his own challenging back story, and the care and love they have for eachother has developed over years as friends so it's lovely to see that turn into something romantic.
However, there were a few points which I struggled with which may, or may not, be relevant to other readers. Firstly, there's a LOT of gaming - it's mostly in-person table-top (rather than computer games) but still, if you're not into the 'world' this gets a bit tedious and isn't necessary to move the story along. Second, while we see occasional glimpses of Devin, Avery is dating other people at the beginning of the book and it's only around 30% that's she's single and we start to really see them together. Finally, I spent quite a bit of time getting frustrated with ex-boyfriends and Avery thinking the only option for physical intimacy was penetrative sex (though this naivety was explained away by her religious upbringing). It was only when the older, more worldly Devin came along that she found out about any of the things that can be done alone or with a partner that don't involve penetration. As she was almost 27 by this time and away from her religious parents for five years it didn't really ring true.
So, a mixed bag for me. I enjoyed the sweetness, the concept and the representation but it felt quite simplistic.
However, there were a few points which I struggled with which may, or may not, be relevant to other readers. Firstly, there's a LOT of gaming - it's mostly in-person table-top (rather than computer games) but still, if you're not into the 'world' this gets a bit tedious and isn't necessary to move the story along. Second, while we see occasional glimpses of Devin, Avery is dating other people at the beginning of the book and it's only around 30% that's she's single and we start to really see them together. Finally, I spent quite a bit of time getting frustrated with ex-boyfriends and Avery thinking the only option for physical intimacy was penetrative sex (though this naivety was explained away by her religious upbringing). It was only when the older, more worldly Devin came along that she found out about any of the things that can be done alone or with a partner that don't involve penetration. As she was almost 27 by this time and away from her religious parents for five years it didn't really ring true.
So, a mixed bag for me. I enjoyed the sweetness, the concept and the representation but it felt quite simplistic.
November 5, 2024
This is not a romance, so I went into it with the wrong expectations. It's the story of a woman with vaginismus and endometriosis discovering her diagnoses and dealing with them, while also dating. A religious upbringing hovers in the background. I'm sure this could be a helpful book for some people, but it's not something I needed.
The writing is too heavy on mundane details, and not deep enough on the emotional issues. It felt a bit repetitive too. I'm wondering if perhaps a memoir would be better than a novel about these themes?
The writing is too heavy on mundane details, and not deep enough on the emotional issues. It felt a bit repetitive too. I'm wondering if perhaps a memoir would be better than a novel about these themes?
August 31, 2024
This book by new to me author Syndey Wilder is a bit different than I typically see in romance and I really enjoyed it. It’s more than ‘just’ a romance, exploring other themes like health, sexuality, and religious upbringings.
The romance in this is a sweet, straightforward, friends-to-lovers story. Avery and Devin are so kind and supportive of each other, despite Avery’s surface ‘annoyance’ of Devin initially.
Avery’s story deals heavily with her chronic health condition, being raised to think sex is shameful, and that she’s lived quite a sheltered life. While there are definitely happy moments and fun moments, this book very much delves into the tough side of dealing with these things and it’s all very much in the forefront of Avery’s thoughts and life.
Devin has been through struggles as well and amongst their shared hobbies and traits, they bond through their struggles and understanding.
I really appreciated the underlying aspect of “sex isn’t just one way”, especially with chronic health conditions. Sometimes it means sex is different than the mainstream, sometimes it’s the same. It means patience and understanding and exploration and knowing things don’t have to be ‘as expected’. In this book, it’s not as ‘extreme’ in difference as it might be for people with some other conditions or disabilities but the underlying principle is there and it’s lovely to see in a romance novel.
I don’t play tabletop RPGs much (more video game RPGs) but am very familiar with them. There is detailed gaming action throughout, which may be ‘too much’ for those who aren’t into it, but for me it was fun to read. I enjoyed that this book had people that are similar to me and my friends. It was refreshing and kind of comforting.
For sexual scenes, I would say this book has spice (open door) but isn’t “spicy” per se. More of a connected/romantic angle than sensual/steamy.
Overall this was a very real-life romance read with a warmth in true love and understanding and I found it very touching and thoughtful. If you love the line: “It was a horrible, messy, beautiful, perfect moment, one I would remember for the rest of my life.” then this type of book may be for you :)
I think many of us can connect with just wanting to be accepted as we are and this book very much gives that happy heart feel. Definite recommend.
4/5 ⭐️
I have received an advance copy of this book and have left my honest review.
The romance in this is a sweet, straightforward, friends-to-lovers story. Avery and Devin are so kind and supportive of each other, despite Avery’s surface ‘annoyance’ of Devin initially.
Avery’s story deals heavily with her chronic health condition, being raised to think sex is shameful, and that she’s lived quite a sheltered life. While there are definitely happy moments and fun moments, this book very much delves into the tough side of dealing with these things and it’s all very much in the forefront of Avery’s thoughts and life.
Devin has been through struggles as well and amongst their shared hobbies and traits, they bond through their struggles and understanding.
I really appreciated the underlying aspect of “sex isn’t just one way”, especially with chronic health conditions. Sometimes it means sex is different than the mainstream, sometimes it’s the same. It means patience and understanding and exploration and knowing things don’t have to be ‘as expected’. In this book, it’s not as ‘extreme’ in difference as it might be for people with some other conditions or disabilities but the underlying principle is there and it’s lovely to see in a romance novel.
I don’t play tabletop RPGs much (more video game RPGs) but am very familiar with them. There is detailed gaming action throughout, which may be ‘too much’ for those who aren’t into it, but for me it was fun to read. I enjoyed that this book had people that are similar to me and my friends. It was refreshing and kind of comforting.
For sexual scenes, I would say this book has spice (open door) but isn’t “spicy” per se. More of a connected/romantic angle than sensual/steamy.
Overall this was a very real-life romance read with a warmth in true love and understanding and I found it very touching and thoughtful. If you love the line: “It was a horrible, messy, beautiful, perfect moment, one I would remember for the rest of my life.” then this type of book may be for you :)
I think many of us can connect with just wanting to be accepted as we are and this book very much gives that happy heart feel. Definite recommend.
4/5 ⭐️
I have received an advance copy of this book and have left my honest review.
September 19, 2024
“I had never been on a date with someone who made me feel so free. So much like myself. Someone who took my worries and insecurities away with a single adoring smile.”
Avery Murphy has been trying to lose her virginity since college, but she is physically unable to as it causes her intense pain. Despite this, her attempts to appease her boyfriend gets her kicked out of her religious college and puts a wedge between her and her family. The story picks up five years after Avery has moved to Orlando where she spends most of her time with her friends playing tabletop games at a local gaming shop run by the snarky owner, Devin Lancaster. She still has had no luck with her sex life and meeting men on dating apps is made all the more exhausting when she finds herself stressing about these men discovering her painful secret.
I cannot express enough how important the messages in this book are. Too often, women are made to feel like they are pathetic or weak because their period cramps have incapacitated them. We’re told that we just have to deal with it, that it’s normal, that no one wants to hear about our suffering. So when there are actual medical problems, they are often swept under the rug, either by doctors who don’t listen or by ourselves because society dictates that we’re being dramatic.
I feel like this sort of thinking plagues a lot of us for many reasons and we often find ourselves hiding the parts that we think are broken because who could possibly ever love us if they knew the whole truth? It makes us willing to accept red flags and allow people to push our boundaries just like Avery. Whether you have endometriosis, mental health issues, or you simply struggle with self-image or worth, I think this book will resonate with you.
Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App is about listening to your body when it tells you something isn’t right. It’s about not settling for less than you deserve. It’s about asking for what you want and need without feeling ashamed or afraid of what the people around you might think.
The D&D references and the writing itself were wonderful, keeping me hooked from start to finish, and the love story between Avery and Devin is one of the sweetest I’ve ever read. Enemies to lovers will always have my heart in fantasy, but this is the kind of love and support we all deserve. Please never settle for someone who doesn’t let you be your amazing self and please, I’m begging you, read this book!
Thank you so much to Sydney for the ARC!
Avery Murphy has been trying to lose her virginity since college, but she is physically unable to as it causes her intense pain. Despite this, her attempts to appease her boyfriend gets her kicked out of her religious college and puts a wedge between her and her family. The story picks up five years after Avery has moved to Orlando where she spends most of her time with her friends playing tabletop games at a local gaming shop run by the snarky owner, Devin Lancaster. She still has had no luck with her sex life and meeting men on dating apps is made all the more exhausting when she finds herself stressing about these men discovering her painful secret.
I cannot express enough how important the messages in this book are. Too often, women are made to feel like they are pathetic or weak because their period cramps have incapacitated them. We’re told that we just have to deal with it, that it’s normal, that no one wants to hear about our suffering. So when there are actual medical problems, they are often swept under the rug, either by doctors who don’t listen or by ourselves because society dictates that we’re being dramatic.
I feel like this sort of thinking plagues a lot of us for many reasons and we often find ourselves hiding the parts that we think are broken because who could possibly ever love us if they knew the whole truth? It makes us willing to accept red flags and allow people to push our boundaries just like Avery. Whether you have endometriosis, mental health issues, or you simply struggle with self-image or worth, I think this book will resonate with you.
Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App is about listening to your body when it tells you something isn’t right. It’s about not settling for less than you deserve. It’s about asking for what you want and need without feeling ashamed or afraid of what the people around you might think.
The D&D references and the writing itself were wonderful, keeping me hooked from start to finish, and the love story between Avery and Devin is one of the sweetest I’ve ever read. Enemies to lovers will always have my heart in fantasy, but this is the kind of love and support we all deserve. Please never settle for someone who doesn’t let you be your amazing self and please, I’m begging you, read this book!
Thank you so much to Sydney for the ARC!
October 2, 2024
3.5⭐️
After getting kicked out of her religious college for trying to have sex, Avery Murphy makes a move to Orlando, Florida to start a new life. Dealing with pain and religious guilt, she can’t physically have sex. A big gamer, she becomes close with her local game shop and finds friendship and even new love. Devin Lancaster, owner of the game shop, provides a safe space and comfort for Avery as she navigates dating, horrible periods and painful sex. Finding out she actually has an undiagnosed medical issues, she has to work through her physical and mental challenges to open herself up to someone she never realized would change her life in the best way possible.
This book has very important topics being discussed that typically aren’t brought up and tough to talk about. For that alone, this book is great. For those that are dealing with endometriosis or religious guilt or trauma, this book is a great representation.
I truly enjoyed the progression from friendship to lovers between Avery and Devin. He was so patient and understanding with her, it warmed my heart that she had someone who stood by her through it all.
I struggled a bit with the writing itself. At times, the writing felt slow and worded weirdly. Other times, it was easy and quick. Sometimes it felt like there was a lot of telling instead of showing, especially in the beginning. I felt that the writing definitely got better as the book progressed, but there were quite a bit of editing mistakes that took me out of the story at times.
Overall, it was a quick read that was great representation on many levels! There were a lot of hard topics you don’t typically read about in romance books and it was great to see the work in dealing with them. At times, the writing didn’t feel fully flushed out, with weird dialogue or descriptions. After everything, it was a heartwarming read!
Thank you to NetGalley and Victory Editing NetGalley Co-op for providing me with an ARC in exchange for my honest review!
After getting kicked out of her religious college for trying to have sex, Avery Murphy makes a move to Orlando, Florida to start a new life. Dealing with pain and religious guilt, she can’t physically have sex. A big gamer, she becomes close with her local game shop and finds friendship and even new love. Devin Lancaster, owner of the game shop, provides a safe space and comfort for Avery as she navigates dating, horrible periods and painful sex. Finding out she actually has an undiagnosed medical issues, she has to work through her physical and mental challenges to open herself up to someone she never realized would change her life in the best way possible.
This book has very important topics being discussed that typically aren’t brought up and tough to talk about. For that alone, this book is great. For those that are dealing with endometriosis or religious guilt or trauma, this book is a great representation.
I truly enjoyed the progression from friendship to lovers between Avery and Devin. He was so patient and understanding with her, it warmed my heart that she had someone who stood by her through it all.
I struggled a bit with the writing itself. At times, the writing felt slow and worded weirdly. Other times, it was easy and quick. Sometimes it felt like there was a lot of telling instead of showing, especially in the beginning. I felt that the writing definitely got better as the book progressed, but there were quite a bit of editing mistakes that took me out of the story at times.
Overall, it was a quick read that was great representation on many levels! There were a lot of hard topics you don’t typically read about in romance books and it was great to see the work in dealing with them. At times, the writing didn’t feel fully flushed out, with weird dialogue or descriptions. After everything, it was a heartwarming read!
Thank you to NetGalley and Victory Editing NetGalley Co-op for providing me with an ARC in exchange for my honest review!
August 12, 2024
Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App by Sydney Wilder is hands down one of my favorite contemporary romances I have ever read! I could not put this down and read it in two days flat! What a breath of fresh air on what a positive relationship looks like with a couple in their late 20s-30s.
Avery came from a religious family, and when things go sideways in college, she moves to Orlando to start on her own path. She finds community in a local nerd game shop owned by Devin. While Avery struggles on the dating scene due to undiagnosed endometriosis, Devin watches over her in ways she doesn't expect. I loved their relationship all the way through. Unlike many other romance books, these two can actually talk to each other and care about each other deeply, friends to lovers style. There are so many witty and sweet moments between them that made my heart melt! Plus, there is no third-act breakup!
I loved the chronic illness representation, especially when it's not discussed a lot. For some reason, when something comes up in most romance books that impact women, it isn't written in a way I like. However, this is so well done being straightforward, open, and realistic, I loved it! Everyone experiences illness differently, and knowing that many aspects of this book is pulled from the authors life means this own-voice story feels authentic all the way through.
I highly recommend this book! Even if you never read romance books! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Five stars, hands down (can I give six stars)?!
Avery came from a religious family, and when things go sideways in college, she moves to Orlando to start on her own path. She finds community in a local nerd game shop owned by Devin. While Avery struggles on the dating scene due to undiagnosed endometriosis, Devin watches over her in ways she doesn't expect. I loved their relationship all the way through. Unlike many other romance books, these two can actually talk to each other and care about each other deeply, friends to lovers style. There are so many witty and sweet moments between them that made my heart melt! Plus, there is no third-act breakup!
I loved the chronic illness representation, especially when it's not discussed a lot. For some reason, when something comes up in most romance books that impact women, it isn't written in a way I like. However, this is so well done being straightforward, open, and realistic, I loved it! Everyone experiences illness differently, and knowing that many aspects of this book is pulled from the authors life means this own-voice story feels authentic all the way through.
I highly recommend this book! Even if you never read romance books! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Five stars, hands down (can I give six stars)?!
September 14, 2024
Incredible, powerful story!
What an incredible book!
I honestly didn't know what to expect when I first chose to read this, but it looked fun, so I figured, why not?
What I didn't expect was to be taken on an emotional roller-coaster ride, all while loving the chronic illness rep!
The story follows Avery... unable to take things past kissing, having a terrible ex-boyfriend, and 5 years later, having to navigate the murky world of online dating.
Unfortunately, Avery meets several undesirablea as she takes us on her journey, but will she meet 'the one'
Amongst the hilarity of dating, Sydney has chosen to represent endometriosis (based on her own experiences), which is a long-term chronic illness, and it is just beautifully done.
It isn't forced... it's just there and a natural part to the character development or rather recovery is the best word here, actually?
The entire story is beautifully written, and I enjoyed meeting Avery, Devin, and the other characters, and I really, really hope that Sydney turns this into a series!
Highly recommend this gorgeous book!
What an incredible book!
I honestly didn't know what to expect when I first chose to read this, but it looked fun, so I figured, why not?
What I didn't expect was to be taken on an emotional roller-coaster ride, all while loving the chronic illness rep!
The story follows Avery... unable to take things past kissing, having a terrible ex-boyfriend, and 5 years later, having to navigate the murky world of online dating.
Unfortunately, Avery meets several undesirablea as she takes us on her journey, but will she meet 'the one'
Amongst the hilarity of dating, Sydney has chosen to represent endometriosis (based on her own experiences), which is a long-term chronic illness, and it is just beautifully done.
It isn't forced... it's just there and a natural part to the character development or rather recovery is the best word here, actually?
The entire story is beautifully written, and I enjoyed meeting Avery, Devin, and the other characters, and I really, really hope that Sydney turns this into a series!
Highly recommend this gorgeous book!
November 14, 2025
I enjoyed this book so much! If you’re into nerd culture, you—like me—will find Avie and Dev’s story so cute, fun, and relatable.
I also really loved how the author kept a lot of things “gray” in the sense that no person or issue was 100% villainized. Avie struggled with exes not being compassionate or patient with her sexual dysfunction, but she still tried to understand their perspective. Doctors had obviously failed to catch her endometriosis for years, but she still found medical professionals she could put her trust in and didn’t lump all doctors into the same category. Her strict, religious upbringing—and especially her strict, religious father—introduced a lot of trauma into her early years, but she didn’t choose to condemn all religion and spirituality, she just found the approach to life that worked for her and brought her joy.
Overall, this was a great read with characters who were so easy to root for!
I also really loved how the author kept a lot of things “gray” in the sense that no person or issue was 100% villainized. Avie struggled with exes not being compassionate or patient with her sexual dysfunction, but she still tried to understand their perspective. Doctors had obviously failed to catch her endometriosis for years, but she still found medical professionals she could put her trust in and didn’t lump all doctors into the same category. Her strict, religious upbringing—and especially her strict, religious father—introduced a lot of trauma into her early years, but she didn’t choose to condemn all religion and spirituality, she just found the approach to life that worked for her and brought her joy.
Overall, this was a great read with characters who were so easy to root for!
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
August 5, 2024
I was so excited for this ARC, and I was NOT disappointed!!! Not only is this book fun and heartfelt, it also touches on such important topics that are not often talked about. Sydney writes about and handles them in a gentle but realistic way. Avery and Devin are such strong characters, with rich backstories and unique ways of dealing with the things that have happened in their lives.
I found myself cheering Avery on - especially when she played DnD! It was so fun to experience everything alongside her; the excitement, the determination, the joy and sorrow. I felt like I was right there.
And when the couple got together? Amazing. Their relationship is incredible and reading this book was as well. Such a nice read, had a good pace, and the ending was very satisfying. I could say so much more, but I’ll leave it at this:
Thank you to Sydney for writing this book!
I found myself cheering Avery on - especially when she played DnD! It was so fun to experience everything alongside her; the excitement, the determination, the joy and sorrow. I felt like I was right there.
And when the couple got together? Amazing. Their relationship is incredible and reading this book was as well. Such a nice read, had a good pace, and the ending was very satisfying. I could say so much more, but I’ll leave it at this:
Thank you to Sydney for writing this book!
September 12, 2024
“Avie, we’re human beings, not dolls. We don’t break. We’re so much more complex than that.”
My rating: 4 ⭐️
At first this book started off slow for me but once I got more into the story I really enjoyed it. I felt it was so much more than just a romance novel-
It’s also a story that brings awareness to: Endometriosis.
With that being said: ⚠️ Please make sure to check the trigger warnings since it does discuss more sensitive subjects.⚠️
I loved that the book was mainly set in a game store and that the Main Characters were gamers- it was unique and quirky.
The MMC- Devin, was a sweetheart with such a big heart. ❤️
I also really liked the FMC- Avery, I felt like she grew a lot as a character by the end of the book & I couldn’t stop rooting for her.
This book took place in Florida- my home state 🩷 So it was hard not to have a soft spot for it!
Thank you to the Author for the chance to read this as an ARC 🫶
My rating: 4 ⭐️
At first this book started off slow for me but once I got more into the story I really enjoyed it. I felt it was so much more than just a romance novel-
It’s also a story that brings awareness to: Endometriosis.
With that being said: ⚠️ Please make sure to check the trigger warnings since it does discuss more sensitive subjects.⚠️
I loved that the book was mainly set in a game store and that the Main Characters were gamers- it was unique and quirky.
The MMC- Devin, was a sweetheart with such a big heart. ❤️
I also really liked the FMC- Avery, I felt like she grew a lot as a character by the end of the book & I couldn’t stop rooting for her.
This book took place in Florida- my home state 🩷 So it was hard not to have a soft spot for it!
Thank you to the Author for the chance to read this as an ARC 🫶
December 4, 2024
I have complicated feelings about this book. I loved the gaming content, that felt so authentic. I related to Avery’s religious trauma sooo much. However I think this needed a better edit. I would have cut all that stuff out with Tristan. The author focused on that too much that when the relationship with Devin starts they jump into a relationship and it felt too rushed. I also felt like this was more a women’s fiction book of self discovery less a capital R romance.
March 10, 2025
I liked that there were issues dealt with in this book that are not normally talked about in media or represented well at all. However, I just found the book kind of… dull??
The characters were fine but nothing remarkable. The plot was there, but not too enthralling. And the writing was ok from a technical standpoint, but barely had any real voice in it.
Will give a 3/5, but probably won’t read from this author again.
The characters were fine but nothing remarkable. The plot was there, but not too enthralling. And the writing was ok from a technical standpoint, but barely had any real voice in it.
Will give a 3/5, but probably won’t read from this author again.
November 20, 2024
The exploration of endometriosis and religious trauma was beautiful and allows people to feel seen. It’s normal to feel and have these road blocks that avery had. It is refreshing to read a book who looks like me and has the same issues. Would love to see more representation like this in other books.
April 4, 2025
This was so freaking cute I was giggling and kicking my feet! Having a main character with a religious background and sexual dysfunction meant so much to me; as an exvangelical who experienced vaginismus, I deeply related to so many thoughts Avery had as she hoped for an all-encompassing love. And the love she found is heartwarming and adorable, I loved their relationship! I didn't fully connect with the nerdy setting (I'm nerdy but not in a gaming way), and I wished I'd had a little more of their earlier relationship to give extra context, but all in all I'm obsessed.
October 30, 2024
Loved the visibility of endometriosis. It's such an important topic and sadly not talked about enough. I also loved that male lead is more on the alternative side. Never had a book where the man was alternative.
Although I don't really see the connection of the name to the book. Yes she was a virgin, yes she was on a dating app but she never confessed anything on there.
Although I don't really see the connection of the name to the book. Yes she was a virgin, yes she was on a dating app but she never confessed anything on there.
March 20, 2025
You'll love it if you've got a thing for 30 year old alternative guys with snake piercings and love table top role playing games. HOWEVER, I don't, so I felt like I was reading a teens' wattpad sex fantasy about the guy they like. Good that it's there if it floats your boat, I guess?
Feel so conflicted about this book. On one hand, it was a real eye opener to read about sexual dysfunction and problems with endometriosis, especially in a romance book. But on the other hand, I feel like MMC lacked complexity. Yes, he had a back story, but it was mentioned like twice? He seemed quite 2 dimensional, and his only personality trait was being obsessed with the FMC.
The challenges the couple faced seemed to resolve really quickly and followed a super predictable path. I like a predictable feel-good book that's relaxing to read, but the story felt underdeveloped. Like flashing through months of a relationship in a couple of pages? I would've loved to have read about FMC's emotional breakdown when trying birth control and the problems it caused them both- but no, you get 1 paragraph if that.
Nice idea, not the best execution
Feel so conflicted about this book. On one hand, it was a real eye opener to read about sexual dysfunction and problems with endometriosis, especially in a romance book. But on the other hand, I feel like MMC lacked complexity. Yes, he had a back story, but it was mentioned like twice? He seemed quite 2 dimensional, and his only personality trait was being obsessed with the FMC.
The challenges the couple faced seemed to resolve really quickly and followed a super predictable path. I like a predictable feel-good book that's relaxing to read, but the story felt underdeveloped. Like flashing through months of a relationship in a couple of pages? I would've loved to have read about FMC's emotional breakdown when trying birth control and the problems it caused them both- but no, you get 1 paragraph if that.
Nice idea, not the best execution
June 10, 2024
I had the pleasure of being a beta reader for Ms. Sydney. I have to say that this book came to me at the best possible time and was a source of comfort through my health journey similar to our FMC.
We meet our FMC Avery who comes from a very religious background with a strained relationship with her parents. She was expelled from college when she and her boyfriend at the time got caught attempting to have sex. Before getting caught, their attempts weren't going well because it was excruciatingly painful for her. Following her expulsion, Avery is out on her own, has a good job, and has found friendships at her local tabletop game shop. Though things are going well she's longing for a relationship and turns to online dating. Sadly those attempts ended with not-so-great dates, and her sexual disfunction isn't met with much compassion or understanding.
The story follows Avery as she navigates her health issues, her relationship with her parents, and finding love where she didn't think she would. I devoured this sweet and geeky romance. I'm such a sucker for a cinnamon roll MMC and adored the game shop setting. D&D and card game fans will love all the references. So if you want a quick and sweet romance with an endometriosis rep, tabletop gaming, and cinnamon roll of a man with tattoos and piercings, this one is for you.
Rating: ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Spice level: 🌶️🌶️
We meet our FMC Avery who comes from a very religious background with a strained relationship with her parents. She was expelled from college when she and her boyfriend at the time got caught attempting to have sex. Before getting caught, their attempts weren't going well because it was excruciatingly painful for her. Following her expulsion, Avery is out on her own, has a good job, and has found friendships at her local tabletop game shop. Though things are going well she's longing for a relationship and turns to online dating. Sadly those attempts ended with not-so-great dates, and her sexual disfunction isn't met with much compassion or understanding.
The story follows Avery as she navigates her health issues, her relationship with her parents, and finding love where she didn't think she would. I devoured this sweet and geeky romance. I'm such a sucker for a cinnamon roll MMC and adored the game shop setting. D&D and card game fans will love all the references. So if you want a quick and sweet romance with an endometriosis rep, tabletop gaming, and cinnamon roll of a man with tattoos and piercings, this one is for you.
Rating: ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Spice level: 🌶️🌶️
September 28, 2024
The blurb and tropes for Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App drew me in immediately. As a complete nerd who met my partner gaming, this seemed like exactly my kind of story! Plus I'm always saying how we need more representation in romance novels, and I think the use of endometriosis here is a wonderful way to raise awareness for this very real and very frustrating medical condition.
I liked Devin a lot. He's got the whole "looks like he could kill you, is a cinnamon roll" vibe down and seems really genuine, not just with Avery but with everyone he interacts with. A total sweetheart. The FMC unfortunately missed the mark for me. I thought I would connect with Avery given that we have so much in common, but I found her frustrating. She came across as self-absorbed and needy--like a moody teenager, overly dramatic and not emotionally mature enough for a relationship. She does try to turn things around midway, but I didn't understand the attraction and it took me a while to get into the book because of that. Her narration is also a lot of telling--"he told me this and this, then we did this"--and reminders--"because of my staunch upbringing and sexual dysfunction, I didn't know that"--which took me out of the immersion a few times.
The build-up of going from friends to a relationship was pretty satisfying, as they get together later in the book (around 50%). Then we get to see the early dating stages, all the awkwardness and sweet romance and hardships that come with it, which is lovely. Through it all they remain friends first, a refreshing change from some romance that's all passion and sex from the get-go. Devin is patient and supportive, slowly introducing Avery to new experiences and helping her open up. I found the gaming scenes fun, but they did go pretty in depth, so I can see how that might bog down the average romance reader.
Confessions was overall a cute, romantic story and I would recommend it to those looking for a geeky contemporary romance. Thank you to the author for the ARC copy :) All opinions are my own.
I liked Devin a lot. He's got the whole "looks like he could kill you, is a cinnamon roll" vibe down and seems really genuine, not just with Avery but with everyone he interacts with. A total sweetheart. The FMC unfortunately missed the mark for me. I thought I would connect with Avery given that we have so much in common, but I found her frustrating. She came across as self-absorbed and needy--like a moody teenager, overly dramatic and not emotionally mature enough for a relationship. She does try to turn things around midway, but I didn't understand the attraction and it took me a while to get into the book because of that. Her narration is also a lot of telling--"he told me this and this, then we did this"--and reminders--"because of my staunch upbringing and sexual dysfunction, I didn't know that"--which took me out of the immersion a few times.
The build-up of going from friends to a relationship was pretty satisfying, as they get together later in the book (around 50%). Then we get to see the early dating stages, all the awkwardness and sweet romance and hardships that come with it, which is lovely. Through it all they remain friends first, a refreshing change from some romance that's all passion and sex from the get-go. Devin is patient and supportive, slowly introducing Avery to new experiences and helping her open up. I found the gaming scenes fun, but they did go pretty in depth, so I can see how that might bog down the average romance reader.
Confessions was overall a cute, romantic story and I would recommend it to those looking for a geeky contemporary romance. Thank you to the author for the ARC copy :) All opinions are my own.
August 26, 2024
I received this book as an ARC and this is my honest review.
Starting this book I was mildly concerned that I would have issues understanding parts of it… the three core things I knew it was about are three areas I knew little about: 1) religious trauma, 2) endometriosis and 3) tabletop gaming. Would I have trouble empathizing with the FMC? Turns out, no! Though there were a few acronyms I needed to get clarified (from the gaming side) it was fun to learn about the games through the eyes of FMC, Avery.
The first third of the book Avery is dating, and it’s your typical cringe online dating atmosphere, and I’m not sure if this was intentional, but the pace was slower, I think, to help get you into the book and into the head/perspective of the FMC and to understand a lot of the above pieces.
After the midpoint I had trouble putting it down! I wanted to know where her endo journey would go and what her life was going to look like!
Knowing nothing about the trifecta going in to reading this book, I have a new appreciation for both endometriosis and tabletop games! So I hope the author can give herself a pat on the back for a good teaching job well done!
Starting this book I was mildly concerned that I would have issues understanding parts of it… the three core things I knew it was about are three areas I knew little about: 1) religious trauma, 2) endometriosis and 3) tabletop gaming. Would I have trouble empathizing with the FMC? Turns out, no! Though there were a few acronyms I needed to get clarified (from the gaming side) it was fun to learn about the games through the eyes of FMC, Avery.
The first third of the book Avery is dating, and it’s your typical cringe online dating atmosphere, and I’m not sure if this was intentional, but the pace was slower, I think, to help get you into the book and into the head/perspective of the FMC and to understand a lot of the above pieces.
After the midpoint I had trouble putting it down! I wanted to know where her endo journey would go and what her life was going to look like!
Knowing nothing about the trifecta going in to reading this book, I have a new appreciation for both endometriosis and tabletop games! So I hope the author can give herself a pat on the back for a good teaching job well done!
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