This is the incredible memoir of Dr. Fei Fei Li, and current Stanford CS chair in Human Centered Artificial Intelligence, onetime head of Google's AI group. Far from being just a rote recitation of her manifold achievements and accomplishments, her memoir is worth reading because it shows the nonlinear route and difficulties of the immigrant experience; because it is an earnest and joyous celebration of the passions of research and the pursuit of knowledge and ideas; and because it showcases the best of America when it lives up, as Dr. Fei Fei Li notes, to its chosen ideals.
Dr. Li is honest about the hardships of being a first-generation immigrant and shows the reader the motivations and dedication of her immigrant parents. A lot of her success is to be credited to the singular fortitude and visionary determination of her mother. Her parents lived an erstwhile comfortable middle-class life in China, but they wanted a life of no inhibitions on the dreams of their daughter. With her father being a gentle soul with childlike wonder at nature and American garage sale treasures alike, and her mother being a strong believer in individualist thinking that had no patience for beliefs that women's intellectual growth or potential can be restricted, both her parents felt at odds with the culture of conformity, status-chasing, and hierarchy-bowing that was prevalent in their community. Her mother wanted Fei Fei Li to read a breadth of books, beyond what was recommended for cultural cohesiveness in their curriculum. Both of her parents showed threads of subversion that ultimately propelled them to America, wherein they endured long hours, menial work, and the brink of poverty for one singular goal: so that Fei Fei could pursue her dream of science, no matter the material sacrifice for her parents.
In a series of touching scenes, Fei Fei consulted her mother about the inflection points of her life. She could desert her academic career and pursue the lucrative careers chasing after her in finance, or consulting firms, or banking, as a leading Ivy League graduate in a numerical field. Her mother, afflicted at that point with life threatening diseases such as rheumatic disease or congestive heart failure, toiling in darning clothes as part of her dry-clean and mending business, would ask her: "But is this what you want?" When Fei Fei replies that her dream is in science, but she would like to give her parents the creature comforts and outward success that every immigrant imagines, her mother would interrupt: If this is her dream, to be in science or in academia, then why are they discussing alternatives? Her mother's love was a fierce one that had no ceiling.
Another noteworthy aspect of Dr. Li's memoir is her passion for research and the pursuit of knowledge that radiates off the page and communicates itself so well with the reader. This passion carried her through the hard parts of her youth, when she had to work young in Chinese restaurants in proclamably seedy areas at night under the table, entrenched in anxieties about finances and the despairing destinies of similar immigrants beside her, who seemed unable to escape the lifestyle of scraping by. She would read the biographies of her scientific heroes, Einstein chief among them, and continue to dream. Her accounts of the research life, of long days where she is in the flow of questions and solutions about her field of computer vision and artificial intelligence, are stimulating ones to read that expose what's truly involved in the life of shcolarship.
Lastly, this memoir is a wonderful read because it shows how America could be when it is at its best: openhearted, kind and providing immigrants and citizens the right to the pursuit of happiness, enabling them to soar as far as their dreams. Dr. Li received a full ride scholarship to Princeton through generous financial aid that changed the course and stakes of her life. Her mother's life was extended when doctors operated on her for free, when paying the operation would have bankrupted the family. Dr. Li encountered a mentor in high school, her math teacher, who provided a lifeline for her intellectual interests and solace during an isolating time. This math teacher's family later became her second family, who even went so far as to lend her parents $80000 even though public school teachers earn little in the US. They cobbled these funds together so that Dr. Li's parents could escape the hopeless grind and start their own dry-clean business. This kind of generosity, of recognition of others in the diverse community, is an ideal strength of the US that obviously has huge paybacks as its population's gifts are enriched and encouraged, towards fruitful, meaningful lives and contributions.
For this reason and others, this is an unforgettable memoir from Dr. Fei Fei Li.