Let me start by saying that I have read For Butter or Worse at least three hundred times. (Likely more, but it's hard to keep track.) I also wrote For Butter or Worse. So I'm a bit biased, I suppose!
Here's what I can tell you about why this book is so special to me. This is my debut romance novel, and I genuinely feel that romance books have helped me at various points of my life. The romance community and genre are so incredible. I feel very much in debt to some of my favorite authors for pulling me out of some severe anxiety and bouts of depression through their writing—Helen Hoang, Talia Hibbert, Abby Jimenez, Rosie Danan, Lyssa Kay Adams, Mia Sosa, Alexis Hall, Alisha Rai, Kate Stayman-London, Alexis Daria, Tessa Bailey, Christina Lauren... the list goes on.
The initial idea came from watching The Great British Baking Show. I love how cozy I feel every time I'm watching an episode, but was also horrified/fascinated by the fact that women kept leaving... Mary Berry, Mel, Sue, Sandi. And then there's just a lot of coverage of how he treats female bakers. Which got me researching women in food, and I found a study that showed only 7% of kitchens in America are run by women. Further digging revealed countless stories from female chefs who'd experienced rampant sexism in their careers, many of whom left the food world altogether as a result.
I knew then that I wanted to write a book about a female chef. And I was interested in exploring the idea that Nina, my lead, would speak her mind, give critical feedback and, in general, wouldn't be the stereotypical nurturing type we often see on TV (ie Mary Berry, even though I absolutely adore her). I wanted her to skew more Paul than Mary, and see how people would treat her, and if she'd be allowed to exist in that world.
And her co-host, Leo, was going to play the nurturer (on the show, at least). But I also wanted to talk about mental health in a very real way. I've been dealing with anxiety since... middle school? Maybe even earlier? And had my first panic attack in my twenties. I wanted Leo to be someone who went on a journey from ignoring his mental health to having to face it head on, which has been my experience as well.
On top of the above, enemies to lovers is my favorite trope (hello, fellow E2L fans!). And this dynamic between two rival co-hosts felt perfectly suited to some fake dating as well. I pre-heated the oven to 350, combined all of the things into a bowl, topped the dish with dashes of witty banter, sex, and longing looks, then baked it for roughly two years before I took it out and discovered I'd finally finished the book.
I hope you enjoy your helping of For Butter or Worse. And I love the opportunity to connect with fellow romance fans, so please do reach out and tell me what you think! xo